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sick of being dragged down. need to take a stand.
19 female. i fell for a younger guy. he will soon be 18. whatever, the age difference doesn't bother me AT ALL.
but my problem is that .. he doesn't treat me very well :( i mean he doesnt physically abuse me or ANYTHING like that but he emotionally drains me. he's basically a player and has a way with words urrrgh sucky for me. we are close friends and i think thats just what i want to remain. i think it would be the best for me.. i'd rather be a good friend than just another girl. i didn't even tell him i liked him but i know it shows everytime i see him. i should be upset with him for what he put me through and acting like he "cared" about me more than a friend but he's just one of those guys you cant get mad at no matter what. i want that to change. i hate being SO nice. i'm sick of being stomped all over and beaten down because i'm like that. i always give in. everytime we see each other i fall for him all over again and i give him all the attention.. which is what he loves. he flirts with me tooo .. and its cute but i can't take it anymore. i guess i have a hard time though because i have a flirty personality.. bad. its how i am. i don't know the difference between acting like a good friend or having a crush on someone. how can i just act like a good friend around him without seeming standoff-ish and like i'm ignoring him. i know if he starts flirting with me i will do it back because i also love the attention but i wish i wouldn't. ugh i have a problem. how can i fix this.
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I just got out of a relationship like that, only I was the guy. Alot of men think that women like that "jerks". I recently thought that also, but the only thing that being a jerk will get you is your girlfriend making out with two guys in one night. I think that you need to let him know that you don't like the way that he treats you. If my girlfriend would've told me that, then I would have changed but lack of communication doesn't help. Depending on his reaction you will know whether he likes you enough to change his attitude or if you are just another girl.
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Hey there,
okay i think you have literally just described my relationship with this guy dean.
if anyone can relate exactly to how you feel trust me its me.
right so how to fix this,its the worst way but its the best way. simply distance.
thats what i did,i distanced myself from the guy for a while until i was able to see him as just a friend no feelings or anything attached,im not gonna lie it was soo hard at times hed come into my head and id find myself thinking of like the nice times and when he wasnt being a jerk,then hed text me or soemthing to make it worse but the trick is will power determination and time dont let yourself think of him. distract yourself and before you know it youl be over him and litteraly you will just see him as "that guy your friend"and youl have no desire to flirt back with him.
what happend with me is the guy dean didnt like the fact that i wasnt eating out of the palm of his hand anymore,he used to have something over me but it was like the roles and switched and he wouldnt stop chasing after me it felt great it really did.
so theres your answer you dont have to be bitchy and cut off all ties or anything just say you need a little space and use that to get over your feelings for him.
I know this doesnt seem like the best advice but trust me it really does work I hope i was of some help :) and good luck..if you ever need to talk or have anymore questions or just wanna rant about him to me my inbox is always open lol
Much <3
Jess 16/F
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Hi,
If he doesn't treat you well, the first thing you have to do is tell him that he doesn't treat you well. He probly does not even realize that he makes you feel this way, and if he does; more reason to tell him that you don't appreciate it! I know what you mean by 'I don't want to be another girl', and you shouldn't have to be. It kind of sucks that he is So nice, but it just comes naturally to some people. You have to let him know that he can't be playing every girl that he wants and if he does want to be with you he has to be 100% honest and not goof around. You don't deserve a guy whos like that. Try as hard as you can to not give into him, and say that to yourself constantly when he is around. Be serious and firm around him as well or he won't ever take you seriously, this is key <3
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