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Is hooking up with your best guy friend a good idea?
Well, I am a girl and I am 17 years old. I have know this guy for 6 years now and he has been there for me through everything. I literally can not live without him. I always call him my guardian angel. The other day i met one of his friends an we ended up making out. It was just a casual high school type of thing. Im young i like to have fun thats why i dont date to much. After i dropped off the guy my best friend grabbed me an kisses me. To me honest it was kinda like kissing my brother. Anyway we tried it again saturday an oh my god it was the best night of my life. Like iv never felt so strong for a guy. I just cant decide to follow through with this crazy connection, be causal friends who fool around, or go back to normal as fast as possible. We bolth dont have serious relationships ever! thats why im afraid we could both easily mess this up. But when someones your soul mate you just know
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Ok. Let me explain how this will play out.
This guy is in love with you/likes you/whatever. Hes into you. This means the friendship has a limited life span. He's literally been waiting (probably years) for the opportunity, and took it hoping you would feel exactly as you felt. Trust me, this is how us guys work.
If you try to stay friends, it will disintegrate the second he finds a girl he thinks he can actually date and like as much as you. Normal is gone, its never coming back. The ONLY (and this is important) reason you are such good friends is because he wants more than that. Guys do not become "guardian angels" for girls unless we spend a fair amount of time imagining them naked or we're gay. Period, there are no exceptions.
You like him. You felt a connection. Pursue it, because in the end you quite literally have nothing to lose.
::Edited Sidenote::
Sex needs to wait at least a couple of months if you're both inclined to fuck like rabbits the next time you see each other. You're friends, you need to get used to dating and take it slow. By all means, jump in head first, but once you're in, take your time getting to the deep end.
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we all go through the decision of .. should we follow through with the feelings you have for a best friend? could it ruin the relationship if you two dated and ended up breaking up? maybe. could it be the best relationship you've ever had? most likely :) should you rush into things? definately not. i think you should pursue him, but don't rush into things. they always say that the best relationships is with the boy who is your best friend. why not take a chance? you don't want to keep wondering "what if" if you don't see what could happen between you two. if you like him more than a best friend, go for it. are you in love with your friendship or are you IN love with HIM? think about this before you make any moves. personally, i think it'd be a great relationship because your already comfortable around him and well the kiss .. says it all! go for it, no regrets! anymore questions, inbox! ♥
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take it slow... you shouldnt be in a rush to jump into a relationship. my nest friend and i are sexually attracted to each other and i feel the same way about him as you do. but now hes married with kids and im so excited for him. when people get married its more then sex its about being friend and sometimes your best male friend will make the best forever partner.... just take it slow and see where it takes you. enjoy the ride but you also need to wonder if its worth the risk of losing him. i mean if you say lets just be friends then that will change the relationship and if you say lets be together it will change. its a follow your head and heart not hormones decision
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i didn't read this, haha. "IS HOOKING UP WITH YOUR BEST GUY FRIEND A GOOD IDEA?" it's never a good idea. end of story, one of you will get hurt & unless your friendship is GREAT, you'll stop talking.
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Well, It seems like you really care about him. My advice would be if you really love him...Go for it. Personally the one thing im not too sure of is what will happen if things don't work out between you two.It all depends on the person and if they would feel awkward talking to you after a relationship. You could always talk to him and be like "If we give this a shot can we be friends still if it doesn't work out" Thats really all you can do.
Hope I helped<3
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