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help :(
so i was with this kid for a year. then he went to college and we broke up shortly after, basically because he wanted to be single but he said it was cause i deserved better. we tlked for a little while after we broke up but eventually i told him it was too much and i just needed to stop talking to him for a little while so that i could get over him and be ok on my own. he asked to get back together the other night but said that if we get back together i have to deal with the fact that when he goes out and parties girls are gonna dance on him and grind on him and its just the way it has to be. so i said no and said i dont deserve that and didnt go back to him. so its been a few days and im a complete wreck. its now been two months sense we broke up and i cant get over him. i dont know what to do. no matter what i do, i cant get over him, i cut him out of my life, and i still cried myself to sleep about it every night, and i still missed him everyday. i dont know what to do. i want to get over him, and i want to stop loving him, everyone says it just takes time but its been two months.. i just want it to stop hurting.... help me please.. :(
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Hey there,
I agree with the last answer, healing takes time I know you probably feel like its been forever already and each day feels like a year but you have to stay positive and try even HARDER to get over him.
everyone who has a break up goes through the stage where they think im ok im fine im over him and you genuinely believe you are until he comes walking back into your life like that and stirss up those feelings you thought you had long buired trust me been there done that.you were dead right to say no to him you dont deserve that and if he really cared for you he wouldnt allow girls to grind up on him and crap.
what you need to do is just keep yourself busy and distracted whenever he enters your mind avoid it call a friend go shopping call a friend anything. keep going dont let him keep you down and make you cry like that every night start to live your life again enjoy it and have fun. dont let yoursel be stuck in this rush i promise you you WILL stop hurting everyones different it takes some longer then others.
surround yourself with your friends and you will make it out of this :)
I hope I helped ever need to talk or vent and my inbox is always open
much <3
Jess
16/f
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Healing is time, It doesn't happen overnight. Despite how long we have been with someone everyone heals at there own pace and we all grieve in our own ways. Two months has passed it's good you've cut contact but now it's time to move on to the next healing process which is focusing on yourself. Spend time with friends and family and keeping yourself occupied. You have a life to live, There will be many more guys that will come along but right now you need to relax and breathe. Try not to think about it, As hard as that is to do it will only cause you more stress.
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