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i have been going out with my boyfriend for nearly 10 months. we have dry sex and thats pretty much as far as we have gone. hes lately been talking to me about if im ready to have sex. he bought the condoms and everything. but im kinda nervous. i have my period and everything, but i dont know. he said if im not ready its okay hes not in a big rush but i kind of want to. PLEASE HELP ME! (link)
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This question is asked quite often by other girls your age. Ultimately the final decision will be between you and your partner, but I will give you some pointers and information that will hopefully allow you to make the right choice--what's best for you. Sex is a big deal. A lot of people take it casually. I know it seems like you have been with your boyfriend for a long time and y'all love each other, but chances are, he isn't going to be your only boyfriend. Trust me, I was with someone for 4 years--and it didn't work out. I didn't mean to say that to scare you--just to make you aware. With that said, if you do choose to have sex, know that it can and mostly likely will alter the whole direction of your relationship. You are going to feel even more attached to him. He probably will want to have it more regularly, even if he says he doesn't he will. Also, you need to be aware of the risk of STDs, pregnancy, etc. Condoms aren't 100% effective. Also, even if he says he won't tell, keep in mind that it could get out, and your reputation could be at stake. High school can be brutal, so just know that. Another thing, are you ready for the physical, emotional pains and worries? It's a big move, but if you feel 150% ready, with NO doubts..then you should know what to do. :)
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I've been looking for Las Vegas ariplane tickets and hotels but I honestly don't know where to search online. I want to find one that comes all together. I don't know if you might understand what I'm trying to say but I just need help finding an airplane ticket and a hotel for Las Vegas. Can anyone help me out? Thank you. (link)
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So basically what you are asking for is an all-inclusive type of package. There are many sites for that online. Try: Orbitz, Travelosity, Expedia, etc. Also, you may want to visit a local travel agency. They have great offers and packages sometimes. :)
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How can you build your character up and have more confidence? (link)
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This is a great question. It's something that a lot of people your age (16) struggle with. A lot of people are afraid to come out and say that. I know personally, I have felt the same. So here's my advice: You have to believe in yourself. I know that's hard a lot of the time. But find something you're good at. FInd your passion. Take pride in what you are good at. Make a list of all the things you think you have to offer someone, and yourself. Everyday, you could put a sticky-note of a positive thing about yourself and place it on your bathroom mirror. This will help remind you of just how great you are. Take up a new hobby. Sourround yourself with new people. This is the summer, so it is the perfect time. Also, try taking A LOT of pictures of yourself. Don't just use the same smile or pose. Make silly faces. Dress up in wacky outfits. This will help you to become more comfortable with yourself. That's the key. When you have pride, comfort, and confidence, and love yourself, everyone will see it. That will also in turn help to boost it. I am not saying this is going to happen over night, but eventually it will. So key points: Switch up your make-up, change your hair, get a HOT outfit. But most importantly, BE YOU. :)
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ok, so ive recently asked a question about getting more pericings (thanks to everyone who helped me!) and ive decided i will get one cartilage piercing.
but what ear is better for a single cartilage? (this ear will also have 2 earlobe peircings, and the other will have 3 earlobe pericings w/o the cartilage) (link)
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I would suggest getting the left ear pierced for the cartlidge. Most people do it on that side. Keep in mind for AT LEAST a week or 2 you will not be able to sleep on that side due to sensitivity. Also, go to an actual peircing place to get it done as apposed to somewhere like Claire's, Icing, etc. At those places, they use a gun like they do on the lobes. It is not as sanitary. It can also leave a knot or bump on the back of your ear. If you go to an actual piecing studio they will use a needle. It's a lot safer. Good luck. :)
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okay. this morning. i woke up and went to the bathroom because i had to pee. lol, and when i wiped there was blood on the toliet paper. it was on the toliet paper not in the toliet, and it wasnt alot. and im sure it was blood. idk if ive started my period yet. please help. (link)
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Chances are, you did start you period. It doesn't have to specifically drop in the toilet too. Your first time can be a very light flow. Just place a pad in your undies ( and I would suggest also a pantiliner on top of that) so that if the pantiliner gets dirty you can just lift that off and replace with a new one. It could last anywhere from 3-5 days. Sometimes more, sometimes less in some cases. Your 2nd or 3rd day can be heavier. Do NOT use a tampon for your first time though because they you will not be able to get an accurate idea of your flow's tendencies and it could cause more cramping than usual. Your period should come again next month around the same time, but if it does not--don't be alarmed. Periods can take up to 2-3 years to regulate. If you gt cramping, take something like Tylenol, Advil..anything you choose. Talk to your mom if you have any other questions because she's been through the same thing.
Also, if for some reason you don't have any more blood it could be two things: 1. you either have an extremely light flow or 2. you hymen has been ripped/popped. This could have been caused by sex, heavy excersize, riding a bike, horseback riding..etc.
But it's probably just your period. Just means you are a natural, maturing young woman. :)
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ok, how much should i charge for cars or trucks? (link)
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Well, I think this could vary from car to car/truck to truck. Depending on the size and the specific you can be doing. But you want to establish a flat (basic) rate for just a regular wash and rinse. Maybe 7 bucks? Whatever you think your labor is worth. You could make it like 5 and then charge a few dollars extra for vacuuming, a wax, anything like that. Don't forget people might tip you if you do a good job. :)
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lately i find my vigina really itchy andd stuff, thought that the hair there was just poking me or somthing. But i saw lik..yellowish/white discharge on my pad.. dunno if tat's normal.. is it some kind of a bad infection? what should i do?? if soo.. how am i suppose to tell my mom about this?? is there a way to stop it? (link)
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It's normal for maturing girls to have a frequent discharge. It shouldn't have an overpowing odor or suspicious color or texture to it. The itching could either be: if you have recently shaved your pubic hair when it gorw in it itches against your panties. You may also have a yeast infections or vaginal infection. This may also have you experiencing burning when you pee. There is a line of over the counter medicines for different women infections by the AZO brand--it's available at your local drug or grocery stores. If I were you, I'd let my mom know, she would def. understand because she's a girl too. She may suggest you to see a doctor and they'll just prescribe you something. It's nothing too alarming. With proper action, it'll clear up. :)
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I was suppossed to get my period around the end of last week and the beging of this week but i havnt gotten it......whats wrong??
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Well, at your age (13) chances are you period has not been given the chance to formulate a consistent cycle. If you haven't had sex or anything, you shouldn't be worried about stuff like a pregnancy. Your period make tup up to 3-4 years to really become consistent. Just be patient. Maybe carry a pad, tamp, or panty liner with you just in case! :)
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Im from Malaysia and 13,male....There's this girl i met 5 months ago..by a first look,i was totally in love with her..Sadly,I do not know what she think about me..My friends keep telling me to express my feelings to her..But im shy,one of my friends have her email address..I tried asking him for her email..I even begged him.I know that I'm a little crazy about her but im shy to talk to her in person and want to start by messaging her or something..By the way,I'm only 13 while she's 14..I do not know what to do as i know my parents would be very very angry if they find out about this and I know that I'm abit young..But I really always think about her and sometimes shed a little bit of tears just thinking about her..What should I do?? (link)
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Well, first of all, not to discourage you, but I don't think "in love" is the correct term to describe the feelings you have for this girl. At your age, and hers, you can't really be in love. I'm not saying it's totally not possible, it's just not likely because you can't fully comprehend all the emotions, thoughts, and feelings that go along with it at that time. I do think that you probably have feelings for her like a crush and feel infatuated with her. I don't really see anything wrong with the two of you talking over email or instant messenger. I think that is a good way for you to break the ice, especially if you are shy at first. As far as you telling her how you feel, I think she will probably get the heads up that you are interested if you email her because you reslly haven't talk to her all that recently. I wouldn't tell her that youy feel as if you are in love though. But compliment her. Chances are, she'll get the hint. And as far as your parents, as long as you are upfront nad honest with them I don't see why they would be angry you are talking to a girl. :)
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Hi, me and my girlfriend have been going out for almost a year now and im 19 shes 18, she is kind of overpossesive of me and loves to have her way. Unfortunatly I have slowly been unable to swollow the fact that I let her win most of the fights and let her have her way whenever she gets angry. We fought about this and she says that she does want to control me but I said that it shouldnt be like that and that we should be able to compromise on situations which can tick her off. Now she seems questioning about me. Did I do the right thing? what should i do now? (link)
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Well there's always two sides to every story, but from what you have written me here it seems as if you are a vry level headed guy. That's a really good thing in this case. I think it's important that you do recognize that you feel she is over possesive toward you. That's not healthy. A relationship--especially at this age should be a healthy balance of communication, friendship, and most of all..understanding, for each other, and your wants. I think you were right in addressing the issue with your girlfriend. It's not healthy for her to want to control you and only accept that. Her desire to control you probably makes her feel more secure..like she won't lose you though. A lot of girls can feel that way. I think you should try (again) to calmly and maturally discuss how you are feeling to her. Maybe if you express that ypu care about her and being with her and the relationship in general she will eel more secure. Tell her that by her backing off and giving you some of your freedoms back there will be less fighting and you will be more willing to start to get thingfs back to the way they were. Giver her some times to accept this and possibly change. If not, you may continue to be at a crossroads. Either way, remember you are still young and life is about learning and growing and experiencing. :)
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Hi- you answered my question the other day. I was upset about my friend who is married who I got into a fight over msn the other day. I just wanted to ask you one more question if that was okay with you- since you gave such good advice. Well you told me that I handled things very well- and that the ball was in my court.
I'm not going to email or phone him anymore. But what if a month has gone by and I still have not heard from him? Since he is screening his calls and not replying to his email; do you think I should write him a letter? I would also like to add that he and I have gotten into tiffs before and it usually takes him a couple of days to calm down before he's nice to me again. (link)
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Well, I know that I said the ball was in your court and it is, but at the same time it is in his too. What I mean by that is: you took action so you still have control, but you kind of have to wait on his response--or lack there of. After a month if he does not communicate weith you in some form, I think that's his way of saying he's really done. If that is the case, then I am sorry, but maybe it is for the best because then you know he's not as loyal of a friend as you had thought. If it makes you feel better, go ahead and write a letter saying everything you would want to say to him --but do not send it to him. This way you get closure (at least subconsciencously) but don't make him feel as if you are nagging at him. If this behavoir is something he does often, then he may contact you. So you never know. And if you MUST, after a month, email him. :)
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I've been friends with a married man for about 3 years and we have never crossed the line. I knew him and his wife before they moved last year. I thought of him as one of my closest friends- he was someone I could always talk to. Well yesterday we got into a big fight on MSN messenger. I told him that I missed him (because I harldy get to see him since he moved) and then he made a comment "I'm a married man". Then I said "I know- just friends". I was upset and told him I didnt think we should talk anymore. He wanted to know why. I told him that his comment " I'm a married man" made it sound like I wanted an affair with him. I assured him I was not like that. I said I would never cheat with a married man because it happend with my mom and dad. I also said I hoped we could still be friends. Well I thought he would have respected me for saying that but instead he coldly responded with "good bye". He gave me no explanation either. I thought this man was my friend- surely a true friend would understand. Now he has completely shut me out. He won't answer my phone calls and I sent two emails saying that he was the best friend I ever had and I hoped we could still be friends. He is not responding. This man has been an important friend in my life for the last 3 years- this just doesnt make sense. Why do think he's being this way? Do you think he really did want an affair with me and now is miffed that he knows he won't be getting any? (link)
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Well, I think any time you involve yourself in a more in-depth relationship with someone that is married, you are kind of always walking on eggshells--or at least be weary. Married individuals that develop close relationships or bonds iwth another (single) person of the opposite sex can possibly encourter a heap of emotions and thoughts regarding that person. I'm not that guy so it's hard to sya what went through his head. For all you know, his wife would have been sitting there the night he said to you "I am a married man" and that was his way of making sure he didn't piss off his wife. As far as your actions, I think you handled yourself very well. I think you have done your job and it's kind of like the ball is in your court. If you have already tried contacting him via email and phone--I wouldn't do any more if he's not being responsive to you. I know it may be tough, but this may be his way of distancing himself--and for all you know it could be just temporary. I know you are probably hurt but if you continue to contact him he will feel like there's more to it than a friendship you are in search of and it could also cause problems for his wife. Being a friend, you wouldn't want to cause a rift in the relationship I am sure. Just wait it out. He may come around..or he may not. In the mean time, go have some fun and get your mind off the drama. :)
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hey..i have this boyfriend and he's really cute but i don't really have feelings for him anymore. i mean he's very sweet but like he's moving too fast and it's making me like turned off. and now he's making me feel like he should be my brother. idk what to do anymore! please someone help me!
i'll give 5 for trying..thanx! (link)
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If you feel like the two of you are not on the same page about stuff with your relationship, chances are, you aren't communicating properly. You need to talk to him. Don't bicker, but rather, discuss. Especially if you feel he is moving too fast for you physically you need to speak up. He doesn't know he's doing something wrong unless you tell him. If after discussing things you're feelings still aren't there, you should break up with him because it's not nice to lead someone on. But do it nicely and try to remain friends if you think it's worth it. :)
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In PE, we're swimming. I was wearing a two piece bathing suit for the first time, and it was a bit embarassing. All the girls were staring at me and moving their eyes up and down my body. And I'm not just imagining it, either. What is this? Is this a bad thing? (link)
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All girls check out other girls because they in a way compares themselves to that girl. And of course, all guys check out girls because, well frankly, that's just in their nature. You just have to get accostomed to it. If you have the body for a two peice then go for it! :)
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ok im thriteen years old right and this girl at school i think likes me but i cant tell.like this one time she's in my frist preiod class she truned around and smiled at me and i did not know if she was laughing at my best friend(he's fuuny plus he's fat and ugly). then the next day one of her friends told me that she liked me but i dont know if she's lying or not. what should i do?
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Well from what you wrote I can't tell if you are a guy or girl, sorry, but I'll respond anyways. Okay well, at your age people's feelings for others change quite often and some people are pretty flaky so you have to be careful of that. At this age, friends of a person often go up to others and tell them that he/she likes them. It's very common. I don't really think this whole situation is anything for you to worry about, but if you can't tell right off the bat if a person is being real with you, then you should always usually have your gaurd up. What you should do is just continue being you and be nice to her. If she chooses to be rude, that's her problem. Then you can decide whether you want to be around her or not. The year is almost over so you won't have to see her a lot if that is the case, but if she is nice and sincere about liking you then y'all can hang out this summer! :)
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im going out w/ this guy and i think im rede to have sex but i dont no how to reali do it any advice or suggestions i rate all 5s (link)
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Well first of all, sex is a BIG deal. You may not think so, but it is. And while you think you may be ready.. I don't think that at 14 you are fully able to comprehend everything that goes a long with sex. For example, are you aware of STDs, have you and your partner been tested?, pregnancy, your parents finding out, schoolmates finding out, the pains and sores..etc. There are so many things. Sex drastically changes a relationship, but physically and emotionally. It can tear a relationship a part. Ultimately, the decision to have sex is soley you and your partners but you both need to realize the after effects. I think that you and your boyfriend should really sit down and discuss if you really want to alter your relationship in this way. Upon doing so, you should discuss protection. Your last worry should be how to do it exactly, because when you love someone and care about them it's not just having sex, it's making love and it is suppose to be beautiful. Please think about that. Whatever you decided, please be safe. You only get one first time. And 14-year olds relationships generally don't last a life time. :)
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Me and my friend need something to do.. I"m not sure how much money she has, and I'm low today, so I need something cheap. Any ideas? Please respond quick, I gotta call her soon.
5's for good advice! (link)
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There are tons of things you could do. For instance you could:
-Walk in the park
-Dress up an take goofy pictures
-Play board games
-Cook
-Redecorate something
-Make something
-Feed ducks at a pond
-Take pictures on a play ground
-Make up a new game
Hope this helped!
:)
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is it normal to feel like you don't belong in your family cauze thatz how i feel but is it normal (link)
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Well, to an extent, yes it is. Everyone feels like that at some point in time. Noone is perfect--and neither are families. You have to learn to take things with a grain of salt--so to speak. With that said, you shouldn't feel like that ALL the time though. I mean, it would be okay if you were just going through this as a spurt. But if this is more long term, I think you need to really ask yourself what/how you feel like out or like you don't belong. I would also highly suggest talking to you family about how you are feeling. Don't yet or attack or accuse them. Just calmly express why you feel alienated or like an outcast. Chances are there are going to understand and feel badly. I am sure everything will get better. Best of luck. :)
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Okay so my boyfriend and I want to go farther and we are thinking about anal sex. I know it's going to hurt and all but all of the people I've talked to said it only hurts for a little bit. Can someone help me that has had it before and tell me like if it really hurts and if its something I should definitely not do? (link)
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Although the safest and best way to keep unneeded drama and situations out of a relationship is to not have sex, going further is okay just so long as both parties involved are fully ready and willing. You first need to be aware of all the risks involved. No, chances are you can't get pregnant from it, although there is a possibility if his "stuff" reaches near your vagina. So make sure you are careful and aware of that. It is going to be painful because there are so many nerve endings back there. You also run the risk of STDs and even possible bleeding and internal damage. If I were you and I HAD to have anal sex, I would first talk with my boyfriend about why y'all are choosing to further the relationship in that manner. There are so many other ways to grow in a relationship. Also, I would make sure to have him wear a condom. Whatever you do decide, know it's going to hurt, the severity varies from person to person. :)
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Okay so I want a song on my myspace that isn't on myspace.
It's called Saints And Sailors by Dashboard Confessional. And I have a link but how do I get it to play on my myspace? (link)
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Having just a link to a website will not actually play the song for you. You need to have the specific code for it. Like if it's a video or song there's generally a code. There are tons and tons of sights that aid in MySpace song and video. Check there because I know they offer one, because that's one of my favortie songs. Just search in Google something like: MySpace songs or MySpace music videos. :)
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