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Hi- you answered my question the other day. I was upset about my friend who is married who I got into a fight over msn the other day. I just wanted to ask you one more question if that was okay with you- since you gave such good advice. Well you told me that I handled things very well- and that the ball was in my court.
I'm not going to email or phone him anymore. But what if a month has gone by and I still have not heard from him? Since he is screening his calls and not replying to his email; do you think I should write him a letter? I would also like to add that he and I have gotten into tiffs before and it usually takes him a couple of days to calm down before he's nice to me again.
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Well, I know that I said the ball was in your court and it is, but at the same time it is in his too. What I mean by that is: you took action so you still have control, but you kind of have to wait on his response--or lack there of. After a month if he does not communicate weith you in some form, I think that's his way of saying he's really done. If that is the case, then I am sorry, but maybe it is for the best because then you know he's not as loyal of a friend as you had thought. If it makes you feel better, go ahead and write a letter saying everything you would want to say to him --but do not send it to him. This way you get closure (at least subconsciencously) but don't make him feel as if you are nagging at him. If this behavoir is something he does often, then he may contact you. So you never know. And if you MUST, after a month, email him. :)
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