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Tried a big talk on equality
Hi, me and my girlfriend have been going out for almost a year now and im 19 shes 18, she is kind of overpossesive of me and loves to have her way. Unfortunatly I have slowly been unable to swollow the fact that I let her win most of the fights and let her have her way whenever she gets angry. We fought about this and she says that she does want to control me but I said that it shouldnt be like that and that we should be able to compromise on situations which can tick her off. Now she seems questioning about me. Did I do the right thing? what should i do now?
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Well there's always two sides to every story, but from what you have written me here it seems as if you are a vry level headed guy. That's a really good thing in this case. I think it's important that you do recognize that you feel she is over possesive toward you. That's not healthy. A relationship--especially at this age should be a healthy balance of communication, friendship, and most of all..understanding, for each other, and your wants. I think you were right in addressing the issue with your girlfriend. It's not healthy for her to want to control you and only accept that. Her desire to control you probably makes her feel more secure..like she won't lose you though. A lot of girls can feel that way. I think you should try (again) to calmly and maturally discuss how you are feeling to her. Maybe if you express that ypu care about her and being with her and the relationship in general she will eel more secure. Tell her that by her backing off and giving you some of your freedoms back there will be less fighting and you will be more willing to start to get thingfs back to the way they were. Giver her some times to accept this and possibly change. If not, you may continue to be at a crossroads. Either way, remember you are still young and life is about learning and growing and experiencing. :)
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