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Alright im a guy (16)
Homecoming dance is in two weeks, but this year the girls are suposed to ask the guys.. Soooo this girl who i like a lot hadn't asked me yet, so i said yes to a good friend of mine who didnt have a date. Then the next night on the phone the girl who I really liked asked me, and i had to say no because i didnt want to ditch my friend. What can i do???

Well, since you are just going with a friend to homecoming, I'm sure she wouldn't mind that you danced with that girl you like. When you're talking to the girl you like just be like "Well, I promised my friend I would go with her, but we're just friends, we don't like each other like that, but do if you would like we could dance to some of the songs.." and then when you're talking to your friend, just be like "Since we're just going as friends, the girl I liked asked me to homecoming, but I turned her down because I'm going with you, but I just want to make sure if it's okay if I dance with her a couple of times.." Just say something like that, I hope that works out! If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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Hey I just found out that my new boyfriend was cheating on me with another gurl, Im crushed!
But last night after I broke up with him He called me alomst 6 times before I answered it.
well he said he wanted to met me on the cornor of my road well I went but he didn't show until 12:12am, Then he wanted to make out I didn't and I left Did I do the right thing?

Hey! Yea, you did the right thing! He just thinks you'll do anything and he'll just take you for granted. And I hate guys like that, they think they can just use you and you'll be there whenever they want you to be. He cheated on you and that was wrong. You can definatly do better than that and you know you can because you didn't make out with him even though you were crushed when you two broke up. I'm so sorry he did that to you, guys are such jerks! But, you can do better, just get yourself out there and find a better guy that will treat you right hun! I hope this helps and if you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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hey! well it's like this. i been wit my man for a month and 1 day now n we aint seen each other that much over that time but we bout to soon. and he thinks i done more than i have. i told him i hooked up wit ex men but i haven't i mean i've had boyfriend's b4 but i aint seen em a lot or been wit em long enough to get to that point. so i never really been kissed i guess u can say. he tells me all the time he wants to n i keep stallin. i really duno how to kiss. i guess i jus need pointers b4 i can be real comfortable doin it. i kno ppl say it comes naturally but idk what that means. i'm 15 n i neva done it thas sad. can u try n gimme tips n shit on how? cuz i really wanna wit him n i'm tired of stallin n lyin sayin i aint ready... thanks if u can help!

Hey! Aww, well kissing really does come naturally! But, you pretty much follow his lead. I didn't tell the guy that I made out with for the first time, that he was my first one, he thought I had made out tons of times haha! But, just follow his lead. Like if he goes slow, you go slow, if he goes fast, you go fast, he sticks his tongue in your mouth, do the samething. Just follow his lead and you'll be fine! I promise! I hope this helps and if you need anymore help, just post a message in my inbox! Remember practice makes perfect! =P

xoxo Kourtney

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i been smokin since june jus w/e i culd get n now i gotta pack of newport menthol's n shit n i get all lightheaded n dizzy but i never did b4. why's it happenin n how can i get rid of it? cuz it happened so bad one time i hadda lay down on the sidewalk. it only happened wit these never wit 100s or marlboro reds or kools or anythin jus menthol. soo u kno whatz wrong wit me?

I just asked my friend and he said: They just started inhalling, tell them to smoke marlboro 27's its ok it will stop and that it happended to him when he started. Hope this helps!

xoxo Kourtney

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Okay, Im so upset! My boyfriend broke up wit me like sept 5th or somethin like that and he hasnt talked to me about it..He was so immature he did it online. hes almost 18 and im freakin 15 years old! Ive called n left messages tellin him I need him to explain to me so its not left all open n shit n me wonderin bout everything. He doesnt wanna call or anything. My friends have even tried n talked to him. They have gotten thrugh him and told me everything n shit but its juss not suppose to be like this. He liked me A LOT n i liked him. I fell for him hard and I think he was my first love. Maybe I juss liked him ALOT but I dunno I never had these feelings for someone so bAD before. I dunno what to do. I have been in a depressed mood ever since and I cant move on and everyone says I should. someone please gimmie some advice on everything..I juss dont know what to do anymore..he broke muh heart

Aww babe, I know exactly how you feel!! I went through the same thing! He did it over the internet and he wouldn't tell me why and he wouldn't return my phone calls and he would only talk to my friends. It was horrible. So, I know exactly how you feel. And I promise, everything will be fine, I know it may not seem like it right now or in a couple of days, but I promise if you try your best to move on and not think of the past, you'll be fine. And you have your friends to help you through this hard time. And if you need to talk about it, I'm here also, because I went through the samething. But, the wrong thing I did, was I waited around for him for along time and he would always say "oh yea we're gunna hook back up" And we would never hook back up and finally we got in a fight and he said he didn't want me so I finally sadly moved on after so long of waiting for him. And I found such a great guy. My friends hooked me up with him. And, I'm not saying to just go out and hook up with a guy to get things off your mind. But, try to go out and have fun and keep things off your mind that way, and maybe while you're out having fun you'll meet another great guy. But, just don't be picky when it comes to the guys, when you see a great guy, go for it. And just give that guy some time to grow up and straighten out and stuff, don't let him think you're waiting around for him because he'll take advantage of that. He'll soon realize what a great girl he is missing out on. I hope this helps and good luck hun with everything. Everything will be fine! Just stay positive! If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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*I rate*!ok... the like 2nd week of school my friend in 7th (im in 8th) tells me that this guy told her that he likes me (hes in 9th) and he told her my first and last name and said he really wanted to go out with me but he wouldnt tell her his name... now of course after she tells me this im curious so she looks in my yearbook and says i think its him... and im like omg! cuz he is really hott and nice cuz i had p.e. and swimming the same time as him and i had a huge crush on him and i kinda still do... and i want to go out with him really bad! wut should i do?
(sry so long) i rate! haha
~Beccah~

Next time your friend goes to talk to him, tell her you want to go with, so you can see what he looks like and then you two can meet up. And if its the same guy that you're thinking of, or you think this guy is hot or whatever, then flirt with him, give him signals you like him. Or you can give him alittle letter that says "I think you're hot, call me!" And give him your number. Or if you don't go with her, tell her to try to convince him to ask what his last name is, or she can ask one of his friends what his last name is. OR! Tell her to ask to look at his school ID because it always says his first and last name. Just tell her be like "Hey, let me see your school ID really quick, I haven't seen this year's school ID, so IDK what it looks like.." Just tell her to make up so excuse like that. Well I hope this helps and good luck hun! Tell me how everything goes. If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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Well, I'm 13. I just got my boyfriend
only about 5 days ago. And we just met each
other about 3 weeks ago. We really like each
other. Already, we went to a Football game
and people were chanting us to kiss...and
we did 4 times. I think we're rushing, but
I don't want to hurt anything between us. Though
I know he'll probably be fine with it if I tell him how I feel...I just can't get the guts to. What should I do?

-Mystie

Does he have AIM? If he does, try telling him on there or you can just write a letter to him and explaining everything. Nothing bad should happen, like he shouldn't get mad at you because you already said he'll be fine with how you feel. And he should be fine, he should respect how you feel about it all. But, just be like "I know we just met 3 weeks ago, and we've been going out for 5 days, and I'm really happy with it all! But, when we went to the football game, people were chanting us to kiss and I just feel like we're rushing things with each other and I just don't want to hurt anything between us, maybe we should take things slower with each other.." Just say something like that and how you feel about it all. I hope this helps and good luck hun. If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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Hey i need some help.. i think im prude..like scared to kiss a boy like i feel embarresed like i dont do it right or something i mean i have pecked boys but never freched or madeout and alot of ppl call me prude and idk wut to do cuz even my bf calls me prude and i like him alot nd wanna kiss him but i jus cant :-/

X.oX.o --> aShLeY

Hey Ashley! Well, if you're not ready to makeout with a boy yet, then don't. When you feel more comfortable with him, then kiss him. Don't get pressured into something you don't want to do. And your boyfriend shouldn't be making fun of you, he should respect you and stuff. But, when you feel the time is right, then go for it hun! But, when you are ready, don't be scared to kiss him, kissing comes naturally. It really does. You just basically follow his lead. I hope this helps and good luck hun! If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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One of my good friends is dating this guy, Erik, that I liked for 2 years, but she never new it. And so they been dating for 7 months, and Ive been a bit down latly. He just recently broken up with her, And he said he did it cause he wanted to go out with me cause he heard I liked him. But I don't wanna hurt my friend, beacause she's really down, and crying and all. I feel really bad, but on the other hand I really wanna go out with him. What should I do?

~Amberlynn

Well, since you've liked him for 2 years! Thats crazy! then don't just ignore him! I think you should talk to your friend and stuff. Wait til she is kind of over him, like the whole crying and being down and stuff. Because friends are more important than guys. But, just try talking to her just be like "I know you've been down lately, and so have I.. I just want to tell you that I've liked him for 2 years, I just never said anything to him or you. And now that you two are broken up, I want to go out with him, but I don't want to do anything before talking to you and stuff..." And just go from there and just talk to her about it all and stuff. Hope this helps and good luck hun! If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

P.S. I love your name!

xoxo Kourtney

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i like this guy and him and his girlfriend just broke up today.. if i ask him out, is taht bad? because me and his ex are like friends but not really

Well, you two aren't like "best friends" or anything, so she shouldn't get too mad at you for trying to hook up with her ex boyfriend. But, give him some time to get over the break up and everything. Like a couple of days or a week. And then tell him how you feel about him. I mean be there for him and stuff, be his friend and then tell him how you feel. Just be like "I hope I'm not rushing things or anything, but I want to tell you something, I've began to develop feelings for you, I started to awhile ago, but you and your girlfriend had just broken up, so I was trying to give you some time, but I just wanted to tell you and I want to know if you like me too.." Just say something like that. I hope this helps and good luck hun! If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox!

xoxo Kourtney

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Hey guys! I was just wondering, do any of you guys know any good doll marker sites? Thanks. Now, onto my question. I really like this guy a lot, but I'm kindda shy... how do I tell him I'm interesting in him?

Hey! For the icon website go here:

http://www.aimdolls.com/

And then on the side it has other links and that leads you to where you can make dolls or whatever. Hope that helps!

And for your question, try getting his AIM screen name and talking to him through there or you can always just write him a note. Which ever one you feel more comfortable with. But, when you talk to him, just be like "I don't know how you feel, but I'm interested in you and I just want to know how you feel about me.." Just say something like that. Or, you can always try flirting with him and seeing how he reacts. Just giggle and smile when you talk to him and stuff and see what he does. Hope this helps and if you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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Okay i have a big problem. I have a boyfriend thats older than me. and taller. Hes 16 and im 15. He goes to a different school than what i do. Im at his house all the time to see him. He barely talks to me. How do i get him to talk to me more? Like im always shy around him and i get weird feelings in my stomach when im near him. What does that mean? Please help me. I'll rate good.

Signed Boy Trouble

You should try talking to him and seeing whats up. I mean you guys see each other all the time because you said you go to his house all the time. So, when you see him just talk to him, just be like "I don't know if it's because I'm shy or something, but it seems like you barely ever talk to me, do you still like me or are you just shy like me too?" Just say something like that and just talk to him about it. You can talk on the phone about it, on AIM, or in person, which ever one you would feel more comfortable with. And that feeling you get when you see him, it's probably because you like him so much and you just get so happy everytime you see him! Just try not to be so shy around him, just open up, he's your boyfriend! Get to know one another more! =D lol. Hope this helps and if you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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there is this guy named michael and he is my friend but then he asked me out and i said yes so i told my best friendand she said i like that guy break up wit him or i wont be ur friend not more so what do i do?

Well, you didn't know your best friend liked him. So, try talking to your best friend and just being like "I don't want our relationship to get ruined over a boy, but you never told me you liked him and I do like him and thats why I said yes when he asked me out, if you would of just told me that you liked him, I wouldn't of said yes, so it's kind of hard to just break up with him. I mean, don't stop talking to me because I'm going out with him, I'm sorry.." Just say something like that and go from there and just talk to her about it and everything. Hope this helps and good luck hun! If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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im the biggest nerd in the school and i need help. people make fun of me at school, i have like no friends.I go home and i wanna kill myself.I sit alone at lunch and averyone laughs at me, help.

Aww, sweetie, just try not to be so hard on yourself. And you don't want to die! You have too much to live for. Don't let those immature kids who make fun of you, get to you, they know it gets to you, so that's why they make fun of you even more. They're just very immature and sooner or later they'll by pass that stage. But, you need to act like you don't care when they make fun of you because when they see you don't care, they should stop and soon pick on someone else. That's how they do it, I've seen it happen. And I hate when kids pick on other kids. But, just try to talk to the nicer people, the people you know that won't make fun of you. Just be friendly and outgoing. Just try holding a conversation with some of them. Like at lunch, just go up to them and smile and be like "Hey, is anyone sitting here? Do you mind if I sit here?" Just say something like that. I hope this helps and just try to be positive hun and smile. If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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Hey, I'm the girl that likes the younger guy. (I'm 17, he's 15). Just wanted to know, your advice helped a lot. It helped more then anyone that gave me the advice. I know I would be more happier and comfortable with Jason (The 15 year old). He doesn't act his age, he's very mature and hangs out with his brother and his friends. So, last night I told him that I did really like him and such. He was really happy and he said he never thought that a 17 year old would ever like it. But, how do I tell the guy I'm dating I don't want to be with him anymore? He's a great guy and everything, but I really like Jason a hell of a lot more. So, how do I tell him. Oh, another thing. I know age is just a number and I should be happy that this guy really likes me. How do I tell my friends that I serously do like this guy? Because, when I do tell them they laugh and are like your joking, I can see it in your eyes. But, I'm not! How do I tell them I honestly like this guy? Thanks for the help. Your soooo good at giving advice. Next time I have a problem, I'm coming to you.

Hey Sweetie!! Aww, I knew you were going to fall for that 15 year old! Thats why I gave you more advice on him! lol =) Just had that feeling haha. Alright, how to tell the guy you are dating, you don't want to be with him anymore, just be nice about it and be like "I understand we're dating and all, but I just don't have those feelings anymore for you like I did before and I think it would just be better if we were friends, I'm sorry though.." Just say something like that, short, nice, and right to the point. I mean, he can't get too hurt, since you guys are just dating, you know what I mean? And for your friends, just be like "You guys just laugh at me and say I don't like him (the 15 year old), but I really do and I don't know what you guys want me to say in order for you guys to believe me, but I'm really happy with him and I wish you guys would just accept that.." Say something like that and be all serious about it and stuff and look them straight in the eyes and they should understand and believe you and be happy for you! I hope this helps and if you need anything else just post a message in my inbox. I would be glad to help you out! You better tell me how everything goes! Good luck hun! I'm here for you whenever! =D

xoxo Kourtney

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I always seem to have problems, but this ones kidda bigger then the rest. I really like this guy, he's a total sweetheart, caring and such. He's 15 and I'm 17. Well, today he told me that he liked me alot. I'm kidda dating someone right now though and I told him that. He started freaking out because he really wants to be with me. He thinks I don't give a shit about him, when I really do, I adore him. I just don't know what to do. Another problem, is the age difference. I told him it really didn't matter, but really, it does. I mean, my friends wouldn't be too fond of it. I don't know what to do, any help?

Yea, this is a tough situation to be in. But, you're going to have to do pro's and con's for each guy and see who you would be more happier and comfortable, etc. with. I mean, which one do you think you can see spending more time with and having that relationship last longer and which one will make you more happier? And let him know you do care about him just be like "I know I'm dating someone right now, but it doesn't mean I DON'T care about you, because I really do, I adore you, and if you don't believe me then I don't know what you want me to say in order for you to believe me because I'm telling you the truth!" And this whole age thing, its only 2 years apart, it's not bad at all. Age is just a number, I mean my parents are 3 years apart. Don't worry about what other people think, they should be happy that you are happy with whoever you end up with! But, I hope this helps and if you still need help on all of this, just post a message in my inbox. I hope everything works out for you, good luck hun!

xoxo Kourtney

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I like someone older and n one aproves that I like him should I still like Him?

Don't stop liking someone because people don't want you to or they don't approve of it or anything. I mean you can't control who you like, your heart does. You can't really stop it. And the whole age thing, it doesn't really matter, its just a number, you can't help who you like or who you fall in love with, it basically controls you! But, I mean if you're 15 and he/she is 30, then there's kind of a problem lol. But, don't listen to people, if you like him/her, then like him/her! Don't stop because someone wants you to! Hope this helps and if you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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anyone have idea`s when there stressed.. or shitty mood and feel blahh how to cheer up.
any thing im out of ideas..

Being stressful really sucks! I hate it so much. But, when that does happen to me, I usually stay in my room and listen to music for hours and hours, I love music. And I'll clean my room and reorganize it, do stuff like that to keep things off my mind. Or I go running or swimming or I workout or I go to the mall with friends to get things off my mind too. I do anything that will keep me occupied and keep things off my mind pretty much. And sometimes if you're stressful, it helps to talk to someone and get it all off your chest. Just do something you enjoy, like sometimes writing things down and expressing your feelings help too if you don't want to talk to people about it. Hope this helps and if you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox. I hope things get better for you so you don't stress anymore!

xoxo Kourtney

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i've been getting that lovely white stuff -gr- discharge .. for like a little over a year. Should i expect my period.. if so in what sort of time frame

Well, it really depends. You might get your period soon. But, if you're really active/athletic, then sometimes you don't get your period til later, I was a runner, so I didn't start until before 8th grade! lol. But, if you want, you can go and ask your mom when you think you'll start, sometimes you start about the same age as your mom or your sister start. Or, if you around someone who is on there period, you start sooner. Hope this helps!

xoxo Kourtney

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My ex-boyfriend, and I really need 2 talk, and discuss our break up. But I dont know if I should or not cause we broke up on a bad key. And even if i did talk 2 him i wouldnt know what 2 say. Please help, and i'm 13.
*Sign*
Confused

If you really want to know about the whole break up thing, then go for it. Talk to him. I've been in this situation before, our break up was horrible but I really wanted to know why he broke up with me. But, just sit him down, or call him, or talk to him through AIM and just be like "We really need to talk and I just want to know the truth and basically the truth on it and I'm hoping you'll tell me. But, I know our break up was bad and it's in the past or whatever, but I really want to know why you broke up with me and stuff..." Just say something like that, I don't if thats what you wanted to talk to him about, so if it is then say something like that, if it isn't and you still need help on what to say to him, then I'll try to help you out, so just leave a message in my inbox if you still need help. Good luck hun!

xoxo Kourtney

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