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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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14/f/freshman in august.

so far, this is what my schedule will look like;

algebra 2
geometry
english 9 AA
world history
biology pre-AP
spanish 9
freshman girl's choir

i think i'm getting in over my head, with two math classes and two honors classes. also, i'm in cheerleading that has practice 3-5:30 daily after school, and i'm in volleyball, which practices 6-8 every monday, wednesday, and thursday.

do you think i should drop one or both of the honors classes? [english and biology] i'm deffinately staying in algebra 2 and geometry, because i love math and i can deal with those.

personal experiences would be great.
thanks in advance. (:

Keep your classes just the way they are. Taking honors classes is good for you simply because it can help you to graduate early & get into better colleges. So does doubling up on subjects like Math, English, Global & Science. For Math, you'll need a scientific calculatro UNLESS your teacher tells you otherwise.

Doing all the things you're doing now is good for college & can even get you a scholarship if you really work hard. Don't drop it because it'll help you in the longrun. I've never done an honors class, but I'm doing AP Psychology next year which I was recommended for. I can guarantee that it'll look good, so keep it. Besides, challenge yourself & see what you can do.

Good luck!

so i have a phsyco boyfriend..when he gets mad i mean HE GETS MAD! he screams at me when i didnt even do anything and i end up feeling so bad i just dont know what to do with myself..i mean those words HURT..this is weird but does anybody have any stories like thiss or anything? any ways to feel better about myself? =[

I had a psycho boyfriend once. He was suicidal though and if I said anything about breaking up with him or that I was upset about something, he'd jump quick to do something stupid always blaming himself. While he was the cause of most of my depression & cutting, he always blamed himself even if it wasn't his fault.

My advice? Get out of the relationship. Your boyfriend should never intentionally make you feel bad over nothing. If he has a reason, it still doesn't give him the right. Dump him because if he's verbally abusive right now, that could change into physical abuse & the longer you stay, the harder it is to get out.

I want to get mine done during the fall or winter so it can heal by next summer but I heard that it's bad to get one when you're young because you're still growing and it gets saggy. I'm 15 years old and I know a lot of people who get them at 10-12 but a lot of people advised me to wait or else it will get saggy, gross, and ugly and your body will outgrow it. Is that true? If it is, what age should I be when I get it done?

The first girl who answered had invalid advice.

My friend has her bellybutton pierced & the piercer told her that the piercing would heal in 6 months, and if she wanted, she could change the ring in 3. It's good to wait because sagging can occur, but if you really want it done, then get it done.

Don't let the appearance of how it'll look later in life affect you. You're not going to have this piercing when you're 80, so why does it matter? Do what you want. =)

13/f

I like to see death on movies and shows. It's so cooL! I just love seeing people killing people on TV. Sure, maybe a few times in real life, but not all the times. My prolbem is, I'm obbsessed with it and I'm freaked taht I might become a seral killer. I don't really want to be one. I want to be a writer. Is that why I liek action adn blood and gore? Because I'm a writer? Please help ASAP!!!!

Different people have different interests. Just because blood/death interest you doesn't mean you're a freak or that you'll become a serial killer. Gore is no big deal to like as a girl. I can't handle some scary movies, but I love them anyways & watch them whether I like them or not.

Seeing these things helps you to write though simply because you'll know what you're talking about seeing/watching these things. So, no you're not weird & you won't become a serial killer. You're normal!

okay well i need 3 CHEAP [we're talking $10-20 bucks here, 20 being the most] pairs of jeans for school. don't say walmart or target, & i already checked at tj maxx & marshalls. where is a good store i can get jeans from? i'm 13/f and a size 0 juniors or 14 kids if that helps. thankss :]

I'm not sure if they have DEB where you live, but if they do, check there. I was there today with one of my girlfriends doing school shopping & we found jeans for 5 dollars that were actually good quality.

If you don't have a shop like that near you, try their website & possibly order online! [www.debshops.com]

If you don't like the things they have there, try Rainbow, Rave, Rue 21, 579, Steve & Barry's OR Macy's. You can find good jeans at Hollister too. Not for the prices you're looking for, but I'm sure if you check the clearance rack, you'll find something fairly decent looking & priced.

well see ive been with my boyfriend 4 almost 8 months. I love him 2 death. I hope he loves me i mean he tells me he does but i dont like him goin to the mall or anywhere without me. im afraid that he might find someone else.
idk im jealous i guess. will someone please help/
WHAT DO I DO???

First off, please stop placing numbers in replacement of words that you don't wish to spell out. It's a lot easier to spell out the word than it is to abbreviate it or replace it with something else. Trust me. It looks a lot better.

Now to the advice: If you & your boyfriend have been together for 8 months, then why are you jealous? Obviously he loves you if he's stuck around this long. If he didn't love you, he would've broke off the relationship after a few weeks rather than stick around. You need to trust your boyfriend. I'm sure he would trust you, so you need to do the same. You owe him that much, right?

Just let him go to the mall by himself with his guys & if nothing bad happens, then you know you can trust him [you should anyways] & your relationship can return to normal. You don't have jealous issues, you have trust issues. There is quite the difference, sweetheart.

Sorry if it`s in the wrong category!
Last night I had one of the weirdest dreams I`ve had in a long time. First, me & one of my guy friends who I used to like, but he never liked me, kissed for a few minutes. THEN, I don`t know what happened to the other guy, but all the sudden my best friend`s boyfriend (who I don`t think I like) & I were holding hands & kissing for a long time. After that, (once again, I have no clue where he went, but he was gone) I was talking to my best friend (the one whose boyfriend kissed me) & telling her that I loved him (her boyfriend) & we kissed. When I was telling her that, I had apparently forgotten they were going out, & I suddenly remembered & started apologizing, but she ignored me & looked really angry & then I finally woke up. Okay, does that mean that deep down I somehow like the guy who I thought I stopped liking? & what does the thing with my best friend getting angry at me & her boyfriend kissing me mean?

In all honesty, it was just a dream & more than likely doesn't mean anything.

im a female and 18 years of age

i lived with my mom from the time i was born until i was 13. then i went to live with my adopted dad because was a physically and emotionally abusive person. well, when i was 17 (i am 18 right now) i went to visit her and her husband, which is my step dad, because i thought maybe she had changed. what happened was she abused me again, and cut me with a knife. also, she let my step dad try to rape me while she helped. even though all this happened, i still have feelings for her and i feel bad getting her in trouble. is that wrong? should i go through with the court and press charges?? some good, honest advice would be really helpful.

You should indeed go through with court & press charges. Not only did your mother physically abuse you, but she also tried to sexually abuse you with the help of someone else. I believe that's gang rape & any type of sexual/physical abuse is illegal.

Although she's your mother, you owe nothing to her. She may have made you, but it doesn't give her the right do to the things that she did & it doesn't mean you to have address her as your mother. You don't have to give a damn about anyone who does these things to you.

So yes, you should indeed press charges against her. If you don't, she'll continue to do this to you & other people unless you speak up. Don't feel bad for getting her into trouble. Look at what she's done to you.

well, im a 17 year old female and very mature for my age. i dont hangout with much people my age or from my school. i started hooking up with this guy, he just turned 24. we both like eachother and it sucks, because we already discussed we cant date because im just 17. since 18 is the legal age he says he wishes i was 18 but would prfer 20. it just really sucks cuz i like him alot now. and we talked about what we would do if we find other people or start hooking up with someone else, and he told me he`d probably not say anything, just stop talking to me. and yeah that sucks, but the worst part is , is that i`d be really hurt if that actually happened. what should i do and what can i say to him? i never get like this, never end up like guys, especially like this, i am not a clingy person

I personally think that age shouldn't bother you. Yeah, the both of you could get into trouble if you were to tell someone, BUT if you were to keep it silent, things could go well.

If that doesn't seem like an option, when do you turn 18? If you turn 18 soon, hold off until your birthday & then start going out then. If your birthday is far from now, stay friends & then approach each other when you turn 18.

I know it may be hard since you both have feelings for each other, but this could work out. And so you don't think I have my head in my ass like you might with the person below, I'm 16.

ok more so my thing is.. last period i had was on June15th.. and then i didn't get one til July 30th.. but just before that i took a pregnancy test came up Negative.. but 2 days before (my period finally started) the condom broke and attack of the spermies.. so i was wondering could i still get pregnant even though my period came up 2 days later after that? or does this mean an Automatically Negative?

Lmfaosfh. I saw the "attack of the spermies" & couldn't contain myself.

Now to serious business. Yeah, you could be pregnant. Since the condom broke, & the guy came, the chances of you getting pregnant are there. You may need to take a pregnancy test soon in order to be positive before you scare yourself half to death.

I really need help on taming my short temper and jealousy streak. I have extremely bad road rage and I tend to blow up and freak out on people very easily over stupid things. I also want to be "the dominant female" so I get jealous when a pretty girl is around and I feel the need to be better than her.

Is there anything that can help me besides medication? I'm desperate.

I have an explosive anger too, and I get mad VERY easily. I don't have to be the dominant female, but I do get frustrated easily & end up wanting the girl to go away. I too, have road rage. I dislike driving because of it, and driving should be something fun especially because I'm 16, and I'm just learning.

I've tried a lot of things to control my anger, such as Anger Management in 8th grade. That didn't work for me, but it may work for you. Try it. In it, they give you techniques to control your anger.

If it doesn't work, try doing something positive & fun when you're mad. If you can feel yourself getting mad, or you know that you're going to, listen to music or take a nap. Maybe exercise or watch tv. Write if you have to. Do something that makes you happy. It's perfectly healthy to scream though, so don't hold back.

If those things don't work, try a stress ball. I'm using those now, and they seem to work pretty well. However, I get pissed whenever they get hard to squeeze. Just try something new from what it is you've been doing. Having a bad anger can make you tend to shy away from people & you won't be a people person. It's also a bad thing to have when looking for a job; especially one that deals with customers. Good luck finding something that works for you!

I was wondering if anyone could tell me what URL you need to use to put a picture as a caption. By the way i'm going to be using Photobucket. So yeah. That would be great if someone could tell me which URL to use from Photobucket.

Use this code:

[img src="URL OF PICTURE HERE"]

Change the brackets into the carrot looking things & you should be set. However, you shouldn't use photobucket for your caption images. The URLS are too long, so it's best that you use www.tinypic.com for your URLS. Good luck though. =)

I never ask this type of question, but I honestly cannot find what song this was anywhere.
So it starts with a kindof technoy rock beat, kind of like (do do do) then the words sung by a male voice, "If you take away the pain,"
Anybody know this song? =/

You could try searching this:

http://www.musicmademe.com/search.php?opt=full&svalue=If+you+take+away+the+pain

If that doesn't work;

13/f

Every time I get a friend, they betray me somehow. Like talking about me behind my back. They seem okay at first. A good friend, the nthey end up turning on me and joining up with my enemies. I beginning to think I'm never gonna make a perfect friend. I mean, one friend is getting drunk all the time, one forgets aobut me, one hits me in the head, and the others all the same. I mean, my question is what should I do? Give up on friends, which may happen either way, or find better friends? I mean, my friends can be nice to me, but... I just need help on friendship! And the definition so I know for sure what friendship is! :( PLEASE HELP ME!!!!

Yeah, you need friends. Everyone does. Friends are important at all ages, but they're most important as a teenager. Friends are a key to survival.

But my opinion: If your friends are treating you bad & doing bad things, then you need to question yourself, & your standards. Maybe raise the bar on the type of person your friends should be. You obviously want honest, caring & understanding friends. From the looks of it, you don't want friends who drink, are abusive & forget about you. Yet, who does?

Anyways, look in different places. Join a club or a sport. There are always ways to get friends that way. Clubs/sports are easy to make friends simply because you're doing something you like & finding people who love it too. Another thing you could do is observe people first. Watch how they act, what they say, how they are. If that doesn't help, talk to them. Don't become automatic friends with them, maybe keep them as an acquaintance. If you do that, you experience how they really are before forming a friendship & that can help your decision on whether to be friends with them or not.

Although, even if you do that, please expect your friends to turn on you, backstab you, lie to you & run their mouths. That will happen to you continuously throughout life by the people you least expect it to come from. Don't let that scare you from being friendly or whatever, because it shouldn't. Just be careful who you choose as friends & you should be alright.

But all in all, the definition of friendship varies from person to person. For me, a friend is someone who shares secrets, helps with me my problems, has fun with me, & that I can just be comfortable with. I also look at a friend as a person who hangs out with me a lot, not when it's at a good time for them. Overall though, friendship is two or more people sharing a healthy relationship & having fun together. =)

I hope you find what you're looking for in people.

first off, i just want to say i think your awesome!.

i was reading your xanga and it said you had sex 4 times. is tht true? im just wondering.

and where are some places you can get condoms not from over the counter?

Haha, thank you.

I'm glad you find me interesting, but I haven't had it 4 times total. Just 4 times within the last week. Don't worry though, I'm not a slut!

Anyways, you can get condoms at Planned Parenthood. You can go with your boyfriend or by yourself & you can get them there. It's better than buying them at the store.

If you're uncomfortable doing that, [Not sure if you're a guy or a girl], you can send your boyfriend in to get them. It doesn't really matter who gets them for you, just as long as it makes you comfortable.

If you & your boyfriend are both uncomfortable with buying condoms or going to Planned Parenthood to get them, ask a friend to do it for you. However, it's best you do it yourself because if you're too scared to do it now, you never well.

Stay protected & have fun!

ok...So I'm getting ready to turn 18...August 14th to be exact and I still don't know what I'm going to do for my birthday...My parents wont let me have like a party but I want to do something big. I just don't know what to do...a lot of my friends keep asking and I just don't have anything to tell them...they're all...when is it? where is it? what are we doing? and I just don't have any answers! Please help..I could use some major party ideas

I just had my sixteenth birthday, and although I'm not turning 18, that's a pretty big step in my life. I can finally get okay jobs & drive!

Turning 18 is a huge birthday since you'll be graduating soon [if you haven't already] & it'll be a good year.

Like the person said below, you could go to a local club. You won't be able to drink [obviously], but it's still fun to dance. Some clubs offer 18+ people, so you'll still be able to get in. Make sure you check the places though. If some of your friends are already 18, ask them if they know places that do that.

Dinner could be fun too. Go somewhere nice like Olive Garden, Applebee's or Friday's. Those are three generally nice places that people can agree on. If that doesn't seem like something you'd wanna do, and you're looking for a another approach, try go-karting.

It may seem "kiddish," but it's fun & everyone likes to go-kart. If that isn't an option you're looking for, try taking some of your girls to a spa for a day. If there are no spas near you, go & get your nails done & get yourself pampered.

If that doesn't work out, maybe ask for some money so you can have a little shopping spree for school or whatever. I'm not really good on major party ideas, but I hope I helped anyways.

Good luck & happy early birthday!

Why do moderators sometimes change the rating you give to someone? I remember this one time, I got rated lowly, and they changed it higher. I mean, yeah I was happy. However isn't it kinda their opinion. I mean if someone wants to rate someone low, because they didn't like what they said, then shouldn't they beable to? I mean, if the advice that someone was given wasn't good, and the person did not find it helpful, then, shouldnt they be able to rate it lower? Shouldn't the person who asked the question, get to choose?

I mean I understand, if the person who asked the question rated everyone a one, because it wasn't what they wanted to hear, then yeah, I understand. But, what if, the person took a point off for misspell something incorrectly and didn't use proper english. What if they were rude? And took a point or whatever off?

The moderators shouldn't beable to make anything higher or lower. Inless, the person seriously deserves it. The moderators should also ask the person why they rated so low, or something like that. Before changing the rating without asking.

Am I missing something? Is there some other reason why they should beable to change it?

If the advice you gave was valid & helpful, yet the person rated low anyways, then your rating may be changed simply because you don't deserve a one. Not only that, but ratings can either make or break you. They don't really matter, but they do count against you in some cases.

Say you're a level one. You have to have a certain rating maintained in order to keep that position. If someone rates you a one [whether the reason is valid or not], it can bring your rating down & you could lose your position.

Some moderators change the rating because they want to help, and others do it because someone may have filed an abuse report about an unfair rating. So whether you deserve the low rating or not, changing it shouldn't be a big deal to you.

They don't just change it for anything, so be happy about it. There are no complaints from me when someone files an abuse report about an unfair rating I got. In fact, I recommend that it happens. Like YG said, ALWAYS file an abuse report immeadiately after a 1.

I NEED ADVICE!

Usaly when i Masterpate im fine. but sometimes i Masterpate and i feel ok then, about 3 - 5 minutes later, my penis starts to sting and it feels like i need to the toilet over and over again even when i don't need it. ive tryed to stop it but, i just can't understand why this happens.

Do you know what can cause this?

It could be what you're using for lube. Are you using any at all, or are you using soap? That could be what's happening.

Uhm, but please spell properly.

Usually*
Masturbate*
Use the bathroom*
Tried*
Embarassing*

how do you give head..weird question but i really don't know!

Nobody on the site is permitted to answer this question with detail & technique, so your best bet would be to search it. Asking questions like this & having us answer in detail can get us into trouble. I'll help you out:

when will i ever be happy?? nothings right and everything's a mess. and I really don't know what to do. i'm only 14 but this stuff still hurts. I feel like guys don't like me because i am me. i guess. I don't wanna be alone forever. someone please help. before i do the unthinkable.

...

You're 14. Live your life & stop worrying about whether you'll be alone forever or not.

Forever is a long way away.

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