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Do I need Friends?
13/f
Every time I get a friend, they betray me somehow. Like talking about me behind my back. They seem okay at first. A good friend, the nthey end up turning on me and joining up with my enemies. I beginning to think I'm never gonna make a perfect friend. I mean, one friend is getting drunk all the time, one forgets aobut me, one hits me in the head, and the others all the same. I mean, my question is what should I do? Give up on friends, which may happen either way, or find better friends? I mean, my friends can be nice to me, but... I just need help on friendship! And the definition so I know for sure what friendship is! :( PLEASE HELP ME!!!!
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I think everyone needs friends for comfort,realibility,and overall company.
All girls talk behind others backs but your true friends shouldnt.Dont give up keep looking and trying because you will find someone who wont betray you.
A lot of my old friends would talk about me behind my back and expect me to take it and i did for the longest time.After awhile I thought forget it i deserve better and went on a "friend hunt".
I joined more school clubs and went to more social places like the mall.
eventually I found some friends who love me for me.
we fight sometimes but always make up right after.
You may have to wait but a best friend is just one step away=]
don't give up.
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Yeah, you need friends. Everyone does. Friends are important at all ages, but they're most important as a teenager. Friends are a key to survival.
But my opinion: If your friends are treating you bad & doing bad things, then you need to question yourself, & your standards. Maybe raise the bar on the type of person your friends should be. You obviously want honest, caring & understanding friends. From the looks of it, you don't want friends who drink, are abusive & forget about you. Yet, who does?
Anyways, look in different places. Join a club or a sport. There are always ways to get friends that way. Clubs/sports are easy to make friends simply because you're doing something you like & finding people who love it too. Another thing you could do is observe people first. Watch how they act, what they say, how they are. If that doesn't help, talk to them. Don't become automatic friends with them, maybe keep them as an acquaintance. If you do that, you experience how they really are before forming a friendship & that can help your decision on whether to be friends with them or not.
Although, even if you do that, please expect your friends to turn on you, backstab you, lie to you & run their mouths. That will happen to you continuously throughout life by the people you least expect it to come from. Don't let that scare you from being friendly or whatever, because it shouldn't. Just be careful who you choose as friends & you should be alright.
But all in all, the definition of friendship varies from person to person. For me, a friend is someone who shares secrets, helps with me my problems, has fun with me, & that I can just be comfortable with. I also look at a friend as a person who hangs out with me a lot, not when it's at a good time for them. Overall though, friendship is two or more people sharing a healthy relationship & having fun together. =)
I hope you find what you're looking for in people.
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