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sexually assualted
im a female and 18 years of age
i lived with my mom from the time i was born until i was 13. then i went to live with my adopted dad because was a physically and emotionally abusive person. well, when i was 17 (i am 18 right now) i went to visit her and her husband, which is my step dad, because i thought maybe she had changed. what happened was she abused me again, and cut me with a knife. also, she let my step dad try to rape me while she helped. even though all this happened, i still have feelings for her and i feel bad getting her in trouble. is that wrong? should i go through with the court and press charges?? some good, honest advice would be really helpful.
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Its not wrong for you to feel that way. It's your mother for goodnes sakes. She gave birth to you. You do have a duty to go to the police. What if they do this to girls on regular basis that you don't know of. They hurt you. You can still love your mom with out her being there. As much you may love her she needs help. Your helping yourself also.
Lillian
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I have that same Mom. Yes, it is okay to love her.
Then know that she may not be a good person, let alone a good mom. And yes, press charges. Do you want this to happen to another child? Do you want her husband to abuse her? Or vice versa. It may be the wake up call that they need.
Or maybe not. My mom was released last year and hasn't changed. It is always worth a try.
Next, take comfort with your adoptive Dad and limit your interactive with your mom to e-mail. I don't visit my mom and I don't talk to her. I can't control her and my life is a lot better now.
Next, YOU need help. I didn't realize that until I started dating. Dating completely scared me. I talked with counslers at school (if you're going to school, it's free!) and I've learned how to handle everything.
Yes, you may get her in trouble. But, it's better now and have something worse later.
Too mad you can't choose your 'rents, eh?
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She's your mom, sweetheart, of course you still love her. Even after everything she's done it's okay to love her, but you need to press charges. What she did was wrong and she needs to know that her actions have consequences. You didn't deserve what she did to you, and your mother needs help. So yes, it may be hard, but you need to go through with this. You may feel like you're betraying her, but it's for the best.
::Jasmine::
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You should indeed go through with court & press charges. Not only did your mother physically abuse you, but she also tried to sexually abuse you with the help of someone else. I believe that's gang rape & any type of sexual/physical abuse is illegal.
Although she's your mother, you owe nothing to her. She may have made you, but it doesn't give her the right do to the things that she did & it doesn't mean you to have address her as your mother. You don't have to give a damn about anyone who does these things to you.
So yes, you should indeed press charges against her. If you don't, she'll continue to do this to you & other people unless you speak up. Don't feel bad for getting her into trouble. Look at what she's done to you.
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I know whats happening in this situation. My mom was adopted by my grandmother who had died just last month. She abused her, and you know what, she still has a shred of hope that her mom wouldve changed. Still today, my mom loves her. Because this is the women who gave her birth. If it wasnt for that abusive, horrible woman, my mom wouldnt be alive. I think you should press charges. For what she did to you. You should love her, but dont exccept what she did to you and dont allow it to happen anymore. Tell me what happens.
-Eryn
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It is very wrong what she did to you and I think you should press charges! I'm not saying that you shouldn't stop loving her ,but for her and your sake you should press charges! Maybe it will change her umm.. attitude towards you and she'll be better!
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Hun, I know she's your mom and you love her, but come on. She really needs help and if you tell on her, hopefully she'll get some help. She deserves to suffer because she made you suffer. If she's helping your step dad rape you then hmmm, don't you think she just doesn't care about you?! I know it may be hard to believe but she has no right to abuse you. Call 911 right now and get proof that she hurt you and show the bruises. She could have killed you with the knife!!! I mean seriously, she obviously has some problems (no offence.) Bottom line- if she was my mom I don't know HOW I could love her, but if you still care about her, you still need to help. Maybe they will get her help but she'll definitely face time in jail. Just please tell! You really don't deserve this. You do the crime, you pay the time...
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ok thats wrong very very wrong for a mother to do sorry to tell u the truth but yes i would press charges i hope i helped and im very sorry if i didnt
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