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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.


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--Jack

advice

what happens if you break the rules about oujia board.
- dont ask about god.
- dont ask when your going to die.
- dont ask where gold is burried.
- dont ask if it's good or bad.

i asked 3 of those 4.. whats gonna happen?

Nothing. They are fake. Seriously.. there's nothing to worry about. Superstitions are things people made up because they were bored.

--Jack
(15/m)

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Ok so latley ever scince my friend has gotten a computer in her room shes been on it non stop. Shes talking to people she dosent know. Like theres this online chat room and shes on it EVERY night for hours and hours. She even has a boyfrind on there, its really sad and im starting to be scared for her. And latley me and my other friend have been feeling the negitive effects of it by getting blown off. She claims shes too busy becuase of her going to the pool but we know the real reason why. And everytime we would bring it up to her about her not hanging out with us or how much shes on the computer she gets all defensive and gets all pissed at us. does anyone have any advice on this becuase its been a whole almost 2 weeks of summer vacation and she still has yet to hung out with us. anyone have any advice that could help us out becuase we miss her and i just have a feeling something bad is about to happen soon and i dont know what to do..

thankss a lot:]♥

I guess all you can do is talk to her. Both of you. Maybe she doesn't know that she's become obsessive with her computer.
Let her know the dangers of chat rooms and having over-the-internet boyfriends.
Let her know your concern for her actions, and I'm sure that she will realize she is blowing off her friends to talk online with people she doesn't even know- and that its wrong.

--Jack
(15/m)

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ok so i woke up this morning with four small dots on my arm and they were red and kind of itchy... and now i hav one on each leg that r kind of bigger but not much. last night i had to sleep on the couch and i could here like flies or bugs or whatever. and noone i came in contact with had chicken pox. i think i got a shot for it and iv never had it. but they kind of look like mosquito bites. I DONT KNOW.
can someone help me out PLEASEE??!

My guess is that you have mosquito bites. If you got the vaccination for chicken pox, chances are you won't get them.

But, I'm not a doctor, so if you're really worried, ask your mom or go to your doctor.

--Jack
(15/m)

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ok i have a nasssty whitehead on my nose...ew.
how can i get rid of it. im up for like creams or home remedies..any reccomendations.
thanks

I know this will sound odd, but lemon juice works excellently. Its cheap, and works really fast. What you do is apply a dab on your whitehead [or any other infected area, for that matter] right before you go to bed, with a Q-tip, and leave it on. Don't wash it off or touch it, or the oils on your fingers will ruin the effect.

--Jack
(15/m)

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ok,i really need to build up my confidence,personality,and stuff like that. i feel like i want to change,for me,to feel better about myself. i want to be able to yell and scream and have fun,not care. what i need help is, how can i do all this***? how can i break down my wall i've had up for so long?

Find humor in every situation. Don't let people get you down [don't let their words get to you]. Find something you really love to do, and do it. Then find people who love to do it as well, and try being friends with them. Read a book. Laugh. Tell yourself one thing you like about yourself every day. Eat foods that make you happy [but not too sugary]. Laugh. Go to a park or something in your town and run around screaming, "They're coming for me!" [just don't say "help"]. Just do things you enjoy and find people who enjoy you and you enjoy them.

--Jack
(15/m)

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ok so my boyfriend and i have been together for a year on thursday (next week) and this is what we're going to do, but i wanted to know if it seems weird or anything...

we were gonna go out to dinner at our fave restaurant (don pablos) and go see a movie and get each gifts and stuff... but instead, we both just got back from a cruise, so time is dwindling down to go shopping, so we decided to do this: there's this place like 20 minutes from my house called 'the promenade shops at saucon valley' they have lots of stores, a red robins and some other smaller places to eat, and a movie theater. it's like an outdoor mall and is really cool. we were gonna go there and go to red robins, and catch a movie. but before eating and the movie, we were gonna go shopping for each other but together... like pick stuff out for each other, but together. for a few reasons, one cause we'll both be there so we'll be sure we like it, two cause it's alot easier, and its just more convienant. now is that weird or strange? i think it's okay but i just want some opinions =) THANKS ♥

by the way we're both 16 and he has his liscense but no car... but he can probably get one to use for the date lol

I don't see what's weird about it. I think if you two are both fine with it, that's all that matters.
Happy one year!

--Jack
(15/m)

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Ok so my boyfriend is in lots of sports and when ever the team wins his coaches take them out to Hooters. which i kinda have a problem with that cause i dont want my bf looking at other girls like that. and i no that its what guys do but it hurts me ive tried talking to him about it but he still keeps going anyways. What should i do?

Don't let it worry you. He's not going to dump you for some girl he thought was hot at Hooters. Trust me, if he was that shallow- you would know. Trust him. He obviously still likes you if he's going out with you.

--Jack
(15/m)

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13/f

I didn't know what category this would go in, but... My birthday is on JUne 24th. I wanted to have a get together with my friends, just 6. My mom says no. She wants to go out for my birthday with her, my dad, and sister. I hate family birthday parties because first, they embarress me worse than watching Tellatubies with a five year old in front of 6 million people! Second, my dad always yells at me and hurts me on my birthday's. I've only had 2 birthday parties my entire life! And now I'm turning 13, but my family says parties are for babies! Can somebody help me?! I want to convince my mom that I want just 6 friends over and stay the night! I really want a good 13th birthday party! (Yes, I know. Your thinking, I thought you're only supposed to be 13 to be on this site. Hey! Technaiclly, i am 13!)

No, you're not 13. Due to liability issues, you cannot be on this site until you are 13. You are 12, not 13. Even if you were turning 13 tomorrow, which would be on Saturday, you're still 12.

http://www.advicenators.com/faq.php?f=84

--Jack
(Technically 16/m)

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okay there are these 2 girls.. not necessarily popular or unpopular. one of them i used to think was okay then she turned really fake and i just really disliked her. the other one she always was like pissed at me. and we were in the same cooking group.. this was before i knew problems would arise.. btw its a cooking group for my 7th grade home ec class. one of the other girls in my group is like on everyone's side but sticks to side of the girl who's always pissed at me. the other one is my friend but shes also kinda on everyones side. anyways in my yearbook i colored on the fake girl's picture in green, and wrote 'fake ogre' next to it. then i drew horns and ugly glasses and a mustache. i did the same to the 'pissed off' girl except i didnt color her in green cuz i didnt feel like it. then today that girl (not the pissed one, the other one who i colored on) asked to sign my yearbook. i didnt want her to, but im like... ok.. i should have said i had like no room left which would be true, but i guess i didnt. so she checked through the yearbook cause some girl told her what i put in the book and she wanted to see. then in home ec she said all these little side comments about it and was like "did you make ___ an ogre too?" she was talking about the girl who was kinda on everyone's side (not my friend, the other one) then i said no. really i dont care if im her friend or not. im really a nice person.. alot of my friends are shocked i did that to their pics but what can i say i was really mad at them and saying sorry wouldnt change the pictures nor would it actually be a sincere apology. i also dont care if they do something bad to my picture.. cause i dont need to be friends with them. by the way tomorrow is the last day of school.. um what do you think of what i did? was it totally crazy or can you like.. relate, and what do i do if they get all up in my face about it? cause yeah i dont care.. but i wanna know if what im doing is right, and what the proper response should be to this.

Honestly, coloring on someone's picture in your yearbook is sort of childish. I do think it was kind of "crazy" as you say. What you did isn't right- and you sort of over-reacted to your "friends'" actions. You could have just told them how they upset you, rather than drawing on their pictures. If you don't want them as friends, that's fine, but you'll have to live with those drawings when you look back at your yearbook in 20 years.

You asked for an opinion, so there you go.

--Jack
(15/m)

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what exactly does that mean ?

The foreskin of a guy's penis is cut off.

--Jack
(15/m)

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if your boyfriend calls you at least once a day but then he doesnt does he not like you anymore

No- he may be busy with something or forgot to. Its really no big deal. Nothing to worry about.

--Jack
(15/m)

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I really like these 2 guys and they like me but I can't decide which one to go out with:

A: Athletic, popular, preppy, my neighbor, REALLY funny, nice, his mom is friends with my mom, and really cute.

B: respectful, nice, anti-prep, into hunting, trucks, and violence, gets into a LOT of fights, "tough guy", and also really cute.

I know it's my choice but I want some input from others. Please try not to put just boy a or boy b. Give me your thoughts on them.

It is your choice... really.
But, why would you go out with someone who's always in trouble, gets in fights, etc. when you can go out with someone who is funny and nice.

So, guy A.

There you go

--Jack
(15/m)

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i'm on the computer all the time on like myspace and facebook, once i do what i need to do i get bored do you know of any good sites that will keep me ocpupied i'm 14

games.aol.com
advicenators.com
disneychannel.com
nick.com

do you need anymore ideas?

--Jack
(15/m)

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if you're in high school, how can you find out your GPA? our school doesnt tell us apparently. thanks.

A= 4.0
A-=3.7

B+=3.3
B=3.0
B-=2.7

C+=2.3
C=2.0
C-=1.7

D+=1.3
D=1.0
D-=0.7

E/F=0.0

You take all of your grades, add them up, and divide by the number of classes you have. That gives you your GPA.

--Jack
(15/m)

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My ex from like 5th grade, well, he's been popping in my head everyday for like the past week, and I even had a dream about him last night. I miss him so much. I haven't even seen him in 3 years, but I just want to talk to him, so, so, badly. And see how he's doing (he moved a few years ago).

-His email changes now and then, and the one I have right now is no longer in use, so I don't know it.

-I don't know the address to the house he moved to.

-I don't know his screen name or whatever his email is now.

-I don't know his phone number or his cell (or if he even has one)

I want to talk to him so badly. All I know is the area he lives in. I want to talk to him! Please don't tell me it's not going to happen. There has GOT to be a way I can get his email!! There HAS to be. Does anyone know?!

The only way you'll be able to find him is if you use a website to find people.

They don't always work... and most cost money.

Here's a free one, though- http://people.yahoo.com/

--Jack
(15/m)

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i like to hump anything aorund the house to make me cum. i need to stop. what to do?

Watch TV, hang out with friends, read a book, play a game, go outside, eat something, sing, run around the house screaming "They're coming for me!".

Just do anything that will distract you.

--Jack
(15/m)

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Hey, my bf just broke up with me and i was wondering since you were a guy do you want sex all the time? I told him i didnt want to do that and then 2 mins later he dumped me. My friends sed he wanted sex thats it. I mean i dont kno how to keep a bf for a long time because i dont want to do that stuff right now. So do you kno how i can keep someoen for awhile? is there anythin i can do? Should i just have sex with a guy so then he will stay with me is that wat i have to do?
if you can help me respond but if no THANKs anyways

To answer your question, no, I don't want sex all the time. But I'm one of those people who doesn't want to throw away his life by having a child at 15. I know that its probably hard to find a guy like myself that doesn't just want sex from a relationship. What you need to do to find one is just ask. There's bound to be someone you know that you like, that likes you, that doesn't want sex.
Don't feel like you need to do something you don't want to do just to keep a boyfriend.
No- don't have sex with a guy just to have him as a boyfriend.

--Jack
(15/m)

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ok well how do you really know when your ready for sex? this is a dumb question i know but my bf has been trying to have sex with me for awhile now and i wnat to but im afraid. Is there a right age to have sex? wats a good age? im 15 and hes 16. i feel really bad for telling him no all the time he gets mad at me all the time for backing out. Im also scared that if i do it with him then he might want it all the time. DO you know anyone that wnats sex all the time like the same as wat im going through? DO you think thats true i mean i dont kno if your a virgin or not but if your not do you want sex all the time? im sorry this is soo long but i didnt want to ask everyone i just wanted to ask one person.

In my opinion, you're ready for sex when you're married to someone you want to spend your life with. Not when you think someone's hot or when your boyfriend wants you to. But, this is your life, and you've got to make the decision on your own. However, if you are EVER feeling uneasy about it, don't even hesitate to say "no" to your boyfriend. Don't let him make you do anything you don't want to do. If he gets mad at you for saying no, he's a jerk , and I'm sad to say, he might just be going out with you to get sex. I'm not sure about that, because you didn't give any info about how long you've been dating, etc.
If you were to start having sex with him, that would probably tell him that its okay to have sex with you, so he, being a normal hormonal teenager, will probably want it all the time-which you might not want.

Remember- don't do anything you don't want to do.

--Jack
(15/m)

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seems to copy me alot but i dont know if she realizes shes doing it. I WOULD NEVER SAY ANYTHING TO HER shes my best freind. but i really hate it. what should i do?

If its really a problem, just let her know. Don't be rude about it, though. She might not even know, as you said, so she might thank you for telling her.
If you two are as good of friends as you say you are, you should be able to tell her.

Best of luck
--Jack
(15/m)

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break the news to my boyfriend that i might be moving?

thanks

There isn't an easy way to do this. The best way is to just be completely honest, and tell him. Just sit him down and let him know. Its not your fault that you're moving, so you can't help it. And lying to him would only be detrimental to your relationship.
If you both want to, you could try a long-distance relationship, and I'm sure you'll be visiting where you live at least a few times, so you could always see him, or he could come see you (that is unless you're moving many states away).
Best of luck!

--Jack
(15/m)

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