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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.


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Here is my Recommended Columnist of the Decade for the 2020s:
Laura!




--Jack

advice

At what age do boys usually reach their final height?

They reach their final height when they are done with puberty which is around 18 and 21.

--Jack
(15/m)

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does exercise make people taller?

No- you'll grow how you're naturally supposed to grow. Exercise can make you more athletic, but not taller.

--Jack
(15/m)

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did anyone else think that POTC 3 sucked? why is everyone against me? it really did. no plot!!!

I personally haven't seen it, but if its what you believe in, then you can't help it. If you think it "sucked", then you did. You can't change what people thought of it. Just know what you thought of it, and stand by it.

--Jack
(15/m)

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I'm 13 and my sister is 9. She's the queen. My parents love her and never yell at her. If we get in a fight and my sister scratches me, I get in trouble for it. Every single day is dedicated to my sister. Today my mom and sister left me to go to the zoo. They left without saying bye and said they would be home at 6. Tomorrow my sister, my mom, and my friend are going to some baby arcade place and they'll be gone all day. My dad works so obviously that leaves no one to take me where I want to go. My friends think I'm ditching them because I always have to cancel plans since my mom drives my sister around everywhere since I don't have a ride, so my friends are mad and I'm losing them. So far every day since summer started my sister has had a friend over or she's gone somewhere, and I haven't done anything or seen a friend. My mom hates me and I thought that the older one gets to do more since they are older, but in this case my little sister is having a freakin blast this summer while I sit home crying with no ride. I live a little far away from my friends so they can't always pick me up. Me and my friends planned to go to the beach Wednesday but the rule is we all have to get a ride there so people don't feel left out. And of course the calendar says that my sister, her friend, and my mom are spending the day at the park. That means I have no ride and my friends can't give me one. I told my mom that what's she's doing is hurting me emotionally and I feel like I'm not special and I'm losing friends because of her ways, and she says my little 9 year old sister is more mature than me so that's why she gets all the fun. Summers wasting away and my friends aren't bothering with me anymore since every single plan I've made with them has been canceled or postponed because my mom can't give me a ride because she's too busy making my sister feel like a queen. I can't go through the whole summer like this. I've never thought of killing myself, but today after I wanted to go to the mall with my friend and found out my mom and sister had already left for the zoo and my friend's parents were at work so I was supposed to give her a ride, pretty much gave me a thought about killing myself. I let down my friend and myself AGAIN because I get their hopes up when we make plans and then I find out we can't even go. Help? I hate my sister!!!

I know you've already addressed your mother about this, but it seems like all you can do is confront her once more. Tell her that it makes you upset that she thinks your little sister, who is 9, is more mature than you. First of all, 9 year olds aren't mature. And second of all, you deserve to be treated better than that. If she again thinks that you aren't as mature, you'll have to prove to her that you are way more mature than a 9 year old, which I'm sure you already are. Do extra chores around the house. Chores that aren't yours. Do your little sister's chores. Show your mom that you deserve a little time with friends. And as for your "friends", if they were true friends, they would understand your situation and not hold it against you.

--Jack
(15/m)

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My friends are always hanging out with their other friends. They are all having a sleepover but since I wasn't online when they planned it, I don't get to go. I'm always online at the wrong time so I never get to be in their plans. It's pissing me off. Help? I really wanna hang out with people this summer but like people are either busy, or they already made plans.

If they are doing this to you, find some new people to hang out with. I'm not sure they care too much about you if they make plans, and don't even think to invite you, just because you weren't online.
They are pretty immature. So, like I said.. find some better friends that will care about you.

--Jack
(15/m)

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what are some really cute flirting tips to make a guy really want you!?!

Laugh [loud]. Find any excuse to touch him [but not inappropriately]. Tell him how "cute" or "adorable" you think he is. He might seem embarrassed if you say that, but he will really like it =]. Laugh [loud]. Ask him how he is [guys like talking about themselves, but also sometimes like listening to girls]. Smile [guys are suckers for a nice smile]. Oh.. and laugh [loud].

--Jack
(15/m)

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ok here it goes.
I have this friend.
A guy friend, who I went out with
on and off for about a year maybe?
but anyways..
I dumped him for this other guy
and it totally didn't work out.
So then he went out with a girl,
and it also didn't work out.
Now I really like him again,
and I don't know what he thinks of me.
I've told him how I feel,
but he just shys away.
And I've hinted to him that I want another chance,
but he dosen't really respond?
So how should I let him know I'm really ready to commit to him this time.
How can I let him know that I'm not gonig to dump him for someone else again.
Because I tried to just let him go,
But I've had these feelings for hi msince last May.
any suggestions?

If you've told him, and he shys you away. If you've hinted and he didn't respond, I would tell him just once more time. You could write a letter, email, or whatever. If he's not responding, you have to move on. I know you're thinking that "he's my everything and I can't just let him go". Well I know for a fact that you will meet another guy who you'll think is 10 times better. Trust me, don't stress about one guy. Most are pigs anyway. I'm a guy, and even I know that.
Good Luck!

--Jack
(15/m)

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I need some music that is/has:
1. Not fast but not slow.
2. has a deep meaning/feeling.
3. Something like Joss Stone
or
4. Joss Stone Music

Thanksss

I'm not sure if this is what you're looking for- but "Makes Me Wonder" by Maroon 5.

--Jack
(15/m)

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How do i put a picture for a captionn on myspace?
please.tell me.i have been wonderin how to do this for,FOREVER

Upload it on tinypic.com and then take the code and put it where you would put a caption.
The code should look like this:


--Jack
(15/m)

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i have a verizon cell phone, pretty simple. i'm not sure what model it is exactly, but it's an lg. i want to get the pictures onto my computer, but it didn't come with a cord. how can i get them onto my computer without having to download/sign up for anything? also, would it cost money? thankss

You have to send a pix message to your email. It will cost 25 or 50 cents. I'm not sure.. I forget how much Verizon costs with that. If you need more help, say so in feedback and then I will edit.

--Jack
(15/m)

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how do i put a small picture on my myspace like in my hero section?

www.tinypic.com

They give a link once you upload it, and you can put it in your heroes or whatever section.

--Jack
(15/m)

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this friday im supposed to go see a movie with a friend that i like and she likes me but wants to get to knwo me better and hang out more. well she told her little cousin she would take her and her crush to go see a movie and she invited me to come along. im 15/m by the way. well on myspace she had posted a bulletin called kiss or pass and you had to message the person postign saying if you would kiss them or pass and i said kiss and she responded to the one i posted saying she would kiss me. im thinking about waiting till after the movie is over and when im saying bye hug her then kiss her, should i? give me your opinion and any advice that you think is appropriate.

I think it would be a nice gesture. Okay, dude, that sounds lame.. but seriously, you should. But if she pulls away, that will be another question on Saturday.
=]

--Jack
(15/m)

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ok, here's my situation. my family is pretty well-off, and i have everything i could ever ask for. my boyfriend's family is about the same, but they're a family of four and we're a family of five, so money goes through us faster than them (my little sister is ten years younger, at seven. you know how that goes).

even though i know we have money, i always feel awful and spoiled asking for it. even if it's just a ten or twenty for a night out. especially right now, since we're going on vacation in a few weeks and we're remodeling most of our house. i always just have a feeling of guilt. since it's summer and i have even more free time to hangout with the boyfriend and my girls, i need more money and therefore, have to ask for it. i was going to get a job, but i play soccer during summer into fall and it just wouldn't work. although, that is still an option if need be.

is there anything i do to either prevent my guilt, or should i just get a job and ask for minimum hours, or what? any help is appreciated.

The job would be a nice idea. It would teach you responsibility [not that you're not already responsible] and it would help prepare you for the "real life" after 18.
And yes, you would probably have to ask for minimal hours, and you'd have to make sure that the place you get a job would allow you to be flexible.

--Jack
(15/m)

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There is this guy that I know from work. Well in the last 8 months I've noticed he always stares at me, he smiles when I walk into the room, he has rubbed my shoulder when he's alone with me,he stares at me intently when I talk to him, he gets really shy around me when other people are around us, and one time he asked me if I was on my own. From what I'm mentioned here, does it sound like he's interested in me as more than just a friend?

Put very simply: yes.

But to expand a little, if any guy acts like this, it means they probably like you as more than a friend. Give him a chance, that is, if you like him like that, and he may be the right guy for you.

--Jack
(15/m)

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ok... a while back, when Panic! at the Disco came on MTV, my friend Ashley started listening to some of their songs. She was really excited to show me, and I liked their songs. A lot. She realized this and claimed that I was "stealing songs from her". She says she knows that she doesn't own the band, but she just thinks it annoying. So when Panic! at the Disco died down a bit, I tried to find some songs of "my own". One was an old song from Fall Out Boy's Take This To Your Grave, which was pretty much unheard of to my friends. My friends liked that song and I didn't mind, but they acted sort of like they found it first and started listening to the rest of the album, but if I liked any of those songs, they'd get mad. Jessica told me that Ashley even told her (Jessica) not to let me borrow TTTYG when she bought it (but she let me anyway)... Now I have found more songs, most of which Ashley now "loves". I also found a new band, This Providence. I liked it because it was a band which wasn't very that well known, all to my own. I now know how Ashley felt. But I didn't act the way she did when she liked those songs that I found. We still like to show people our favorite new songs, but we expect people to be impressed, really, not to take the song. I showed her one song from them and all of a sudden she loooved that song. She told people that she only liked 2 songs from them, but then she later called me and requested a burnt cd of them. I didn't really say anything, but I felt all... territorial. Like "They're Miine!" I hope at least SOME people know what I'm talking about and how I feel, but I don't know what to say to Ashley.

Honestly, any "friend" who gets mad because you "stole songs from her" is probably not a person worth being friends with. She's obviously very immature. Its MUSIC, for crying out loud! It shouldn't be that big of a deal. Ashley is a person that you probably shouldn't be friends with anymore. If she's that territorial about music, just think how territorial she'll be over other and more important things.
My advice: tell her how she made you feel and give her a chance to apologize for her immaturity, and if she doesn't, don't feel obligated to hang out with her much more.

--Jack
(15/m)

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is this a healthy diet ?
i heard it takes 5 days to lose 10 pounds
and 10 days to lose 20 pounds
is this true ?

I have no idea what this diet is, nor have I ever heard of it. But any diet promising to help you lose 10 pounds in 5 days is either lying, or EXTREMELY unhealthy. The most doctors recommend you lose in even one week is 2-3 pounds, so therefore losing 20 in just over a week is VERY dumb. Please don't follow this diet, or any others like it.

--Jack
(15/m)

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hi friends, well i am in a country which has been rapidly developing over the years. people here are more ambitious nad have become more materialistic, change has been drastic. but here i am who is not ready to change. i don't hate money and good life but i am not very much mad about it, thanks to my family upbringing. i sometimes feel odd man out in this world, my views and obnjectives different from the crowd, how do i embrace this globalized world's changes. some one who has seen his country rapidly transforming should be able to give me proper advice. thank you

I am the same way. I am totally not about materialism and that stuff. I also feel like the "odd man out", but hey, this is the way we are. Don't feel like you need to adapt to the changing world. Be yourself. Get as far in your life as YOU want to, not what society wants. As long as you lead the life you want, that's all that should matter. Good luck!

--Jack
(15/m)


**EDIT**
My email address is in my column. You can chat on my forum, if you would like.. the link is in my column as well.

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what turns you on, but here's the curveball: without the girl getting naked.

like, what's sexy for girl to do without even trying.

Not even kidding, but smarts turn me on, not sexually, but just overall. If you're trying to attract someone, [not sure, since you're not too specific], I know this is so cliche, but be yourself. If they are the kind of guy worth dating or even thinking about having a relationship with, then he will be attracted solely by you and your great self.

If I didn't answer this how you want, please don't rate me low, tell me in the feedback, and I will edit my answer.

--Jack
(15/m)

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my favorite question of all time:

How much wood would a woodchuck chuck if a woodchuck could chuck wood?

If a woodchuck could chuck wood, a wood chuck would chuck all the wood a woodchuck could.

--Jack
(15/m)

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Why aren't you married yet?

Sorry- I'm not old enough.

--Jack
(15/m)

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