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Q: Hi Jenipher here and well see my friends are hardly speaking to each other bc of who knows what and they pull me side to side and like one wants to come home with me , then if the other one finds out she torments the life out of the other one and I always get stuck in their fights even when I don't know whats its about,.... What should I do??? Sorry so long
PLZ HELP ME

Yell out that you absolutely dont want to be apart of it what so ever!!-trix

Q: okay, my two BEST FRIENDS are made at me becasue i went and hung out with one of my friends and not them. now they are mad at me...what should i do?please help fast!!

-so confused-

Well tell them you have to keep in touch with your other friends and need to be keeping in touch with your friends-trix

Q: my friend always lies to me and im so sick of it! what should i do?

Confront her-trix

Q: My best friends ex likes me. He has asked me to have phone sex with him and he has told me and loves me and wishes I was his girl. I have told him a thousand times that we can only stay friends since he is my best friends ex and i do not like him at all. He is a perverted just like every other guy but much worse. All he talks about is girld having sex with him. He even has sadi that he'd rape me! I was really scared and he was serious. I don't know what to do and I can't tell my friend. I've told her we've talked and she was happy but I didn't tell her what he said. I need advice ASAP!! HELP PLEASE!!!

Signed,
Fed Up

I would tell your mom and my advice would to be to avoid him... like right away-trix

Q: i've been friends with this girl since 6th grade. she used to live across the road from me, but then she moved away. Not far, only about 30 minutes. We used to talk on AIM but then we ran out of things to talk about. I mean, we don't have the same group of friends and we don't know who each of us is talking about. Now, I don't talk to her at all and I feel horrible. What am I supposed to do?? I want to be friends with her again but it's like we're complete strangers.

Well thats ok.. that would be a normal feeling to feel when you wind up like this-trix

Q: my friend cuts herself just for the heck of it. she doesnt know why either. i know it sounds crazy but she does it anyways. i've tried to talk to her about it and she promise she'd stop but i see cut marks on her all the time recently and much more than usual. what should i do? should i tell somebody....please help!
signed....scared for my friend

bring her to the consolar or get help now!!-trix

Q: Okay I'm going to get to the point my friend said I've changed and I asked how and he said you don't care about anything anymore and I had no idea what he meant by this so I asked what he was talking about, because this is who I am. And he said well if this is who you are then I don't want to talk to you, and I said fine bye and hung up the phone.

I just I'm so mad, because me and him used to be really good friends. Should I be mad...or just let it be...I'm so lost.

I would let it be but try to be more caring.. may he thinks you are drifting apart and that really bothers him-trix

Q: i have a cousin who keeps bossing me around. she kicks me down the stairs and embrass me in front of friends.I really need some advice on what to do.

Stand up to her and ask your friends to help you out-trix

Q: my friend is really nice and like she lets ppl walk all over her! i mean be mean!! god!! she is just waayy too nice!!

Tell her that people are taking her for advantage and you dont like that because people are walking all over her-trix

Q: Im 14 female..okay my bff steph n i are....soooo close we go on vacas together n my mom is like her second mom since her family life isnt so good..she is like my sister..we have been through hell n back together n i know i can tell her anything!! shes such a great friend! but...well lately we have been drifting..we r kinda going seperate ways i think..im into school..im going to summer school to get a highschool credit n she wont go..she missed 49 days from school last year n yeah..so im into school n shes not..plus our moms are 2 TOTALLY diff. ppl...well it sux bc i kinda do feel like we r drifting n part is bc of this guy..he is my ex b/f(which by tha way im ova completley bc of his nasty additude!!!)..i have knwon him fer 3 1/2 years n she has been "close" with him for 1 1/2 or so..well he is a big time PLAYA!!! n her and i both know it..but him n her have some special realtionship...n right now they r REALLLLLY close..but i know he is guna end up hurting her..n sumtimes she will bring it up like how much of an ass he is being to her n shell just laugh n say "o-well ill learn sum day!" but i knwo she is guna come running baq to me hurt AGAIN fer tha 6th time..n it just gets irratating..i wanna talk to her but i dont think she'll listen..im not sure what to do....?!?!?!?!? plz help thannnnnx! much luv!

Send her a email cuz you know she will read it or write/type out a letter and hand it to her and tell her how much the friendship means to you and how you feel that you are losing her and you dont want her hurt again exspeacially by him. stay there while she reads it-trix

Q: my best friend really likes this guy, and she never told me that she liked him, so i had no idea! And now she like hates me because, i started liking him. She thinks that i started liking him just to piss her off, and that's not true! How am i supposed to convince her that i had no idea she liked him?

You cant help you like your heart chooses not you! But she needs to know that and i am sure she would crush on anybody she wanted if she wanted to but you cant choose therefore that out to her. But tell her if you had the chance to go out w/him you wouldnt because the relationship between u and her is important and that isnt worth throwing away over a guy that will probably only last a few months or so-trix

Q: ok...my best friend is mad at me because i tried talking her into going back to my church because she has done some bad stuff lately. I apologized and told her i like her for who she is but she wont talk to me...now what do i do?

Just let her walk it off.. it's probably a pass by give it a week or something around there-trix

Q: Hey i have a problem 2 of my best friends in the world r in a fight w/ each otha and they get mad at me if i go to 1 person's house and not theirs and they alwayz ask me who i like beta and if i say i like u both the same they will ge mad at me and i don't kno wut to do plz help thanx

Well your only doing the right thing and let them know you cant choose between best friends thats like choosing between the same exact puppy thats soo cute.. its impossible-trix

Q: I've had this one friend "Helen" since 5th grade. I just met "Sarah" this year, and we became really good friends. For some reason , Helen is being such a mean you-know-what to Sarah. She's called her a h** and said she did something with another kid, which is SOOOOOOO not true. Helen doesn't even know Sarah, and she's talking about her. What am I supposed to do?? I don't want to get caught in the middle of this argument.

Tell her that you dont like it when people talk behind peoples back and you dont like to her people talk about your friends exspeacially and you would say the same to sarah if she was doing the same to helen-trix

Q: IM USUALLY NOT ALLOWED TO SPEND THE NITE AT PEOPLE'S HOUSE BUT I ALWAYS ASK NE WAYZ AND THREE NITES AGO I ASKED MY PARENTS AND THEY SAID YES SO I SPENDED TEH NITE AT MY FRIENDS HOSUE LETS SAY HER IS aNNA* I'VE KNOWN ANNA FOR 5 YEARS AND I'VE ONLY KNOWN MY NEW FRIEND FOR 1. SO SHE GOT REALLY MAD AT ME FOR NOT SPENDING THE NIGHT AT HER HOSUE AND YES TO ANNA'S HOUSE BUT I GUESS MY PARENTS HAVE TO KNOW THE OTHER PEOPLES PARENTS TO LET SPEND THE NITE.I WILL RATE A 5 TO ANYONE WHO ANSWER THIS QUESTION!!!!

Just tell her the whole problem and the sit.-trix

Q: my friend amber is really making me mad! all she does is yell at me and says i lie to her what do i do??

signed,

im sick of it!

Yell at her back to get the point across and let her know you wouldnt do anything to lie to her in the first place cuz she is a good friend and you wouldnt want to lose her as a friend so you wouldnt risk lying to her-trix

Q: ok im 13 and my friend thats 12 and weve been friends ever since like we were 2 and shes a year younger then me n stuff so she used to look up to me and when i was in 7th grade and she was going into 6th she was super scared and so i told her it was no big deal and so ya she did rilly good makin friends n stuff cuz shes like rilly popular so then there is a girl that shes like best friends w/ now and shes like a rilly "bad girl" or however u wanna explain that and she steals drinks n smokes n stuff and shes only 12 too! so then those 2 became rilly good friends n just last weekend she went up to her cabin for a week and my friend since she was w/ her friend got caught stealing drinking and smoking so now im like super mad at her n stuff and shes always like god im sorry it was a mistake and i told her before she went up there to be careful cuz i knew that was gonna happen and it did.. and im super mad at both of them cuz her friend got her into it becuz she told my friend to smoke drink and steal stuff and idk wut to do cuz everytime i try to talk to her about it and try to tell her not to do that ever again and her parents found out and they didnt do anything they just grounded her for a week and then left it at that i mean shes 12 years old and i know shes gonna do it again! and im scared and i dont know wut to do cuz idk how to talk to her if shes gonna tell me not to talk about it.. so wut should i do?! ill rate u for this if u answer this! pleez i need help before she goes n does it again!

Well just tell her how you feel and how much she means to you and how much it hurts you to know/hear what she is doing to herself and winding herself up in.. and its not good tell her all the bad things weather she wants to listen to you or not-trix

Q: How come one best friend can like another best friend more than one you have known longer?

Well they could just have a stronger bond between eachother then that other best friend but personally we should all be treatin equal in my eyes-trix

Q: Okay here it goes....Both of my best friends are fighting!! They continually tell me how much they hate each other!! She'll say something about him, and he'll say something about her!!! They won't stop!! I feel like I'm in the middle of this whole thing!! How can I make peace between these people? And how do I make it so I'm not in the middle of things??

Signed,
Stuck-n-Middle

Tell them to stop talking smack about eachother that s/he happans to be your other best friend and you'd do the same for him/her. And tell them you dont want to be in the middle but maybe you could try to fix it by finding whats wrong and figuring the answer out for them-trix

Q: So right now I don't have any friends at all.I used to but all of them moved or we just grew a part.I am getting homeschooled but I want to go to high school to be able to make some friends.Well the problem is transpartation.How can I make new friends?

Well in classes you will meet some new people and become friends with just dont be judgemental of people and be friendly and you will do just fine-trix

bio

My name is Trix, I am 17. I love pink, and degrassi.

I just recently got out of a relationship of 21 months. I love him still but I'm moving on.

I've been there done that im sure

ex. (with the number of expierences)

-Long term relationships (2)
-Bad expierence with BF's family (1)
-Broken bones (11)
-Stitches (2)
-Seen someone killed (1)
-Loss of family (1)
-Cancer in the family (2)
-Family in Iraq (1)
-Mom had brain surgery (2)
-Loss of pet (4)
-Moved from state to state (5)
-New highschool (2)
-Car accident (3)

Like I said "been there done that"