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i know this girl who goes to another school who is my absolute bff and she had a girl sleepover this night and that girl absolutly hates me! and she told me how much people talk behind my back and how fat and ugly i was and it really is hurtng my feelings b/c i never really did anything to her until tonight when i called her a bitch and now i just feel so emotional and i just feel like telling my best friend that if she wants to be friends with her she could be but she won't find me talking to her anymore. so i'm really confused and don't know what to do anymore

You should talk to your best friend about this and tell her how much this other girl is hurting you. Also say to her that when the other girl is around, you won't be hanging out with her. You don't want to be called down by someone you did nothing to. When your best friend wants to hangout, make sure it's just you and her. Maybe you could get your best friend to talk to this other girl about this all. Once she talks to her and tells her how much it's hurting you and her, maybe she'll smarten up. This other girl seems a bit jealous. She probably wants the closeness with your best friend, like you have with her. She probably just wants to be you and have a best friend.
♥ Krissy

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if sperm touches your vagina,(& may have gone in a little..) is it possible to get pregnant?

Yes, it is very possible, especially if your not using pertection. If sperm goes into your vagina, that's usually how you get pregnant. Even if sperm is outside your vagina, it can always move around and enter your vagina.
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i can't decide who i should trust and has my back. so what type of kids should i not trust?

People that gossip and talk behind your back should never be trusted. They'd probably start talking behind your back if they do it to so many people. Also, cheaters. Once a cheater always a cheater. Fake people who try to be someone they're not. And people who have lost their friends because they weren't able to be trusted.
♥ Krissy

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all my friends have boyfriends.. and my best friend.. who ive been through everything with has ditched me for her boyfriend who i hate so much right now.. she doesnt talk to me when we go out cuz shes too busy slobering over him and its disgusting and it pisses me off more than you can ever know. sure my friends are good friends when their BOYFRIENDS arent around. i wa sjust ditched tonight.. my best friend had her boyfriend.. and my other friend had hers.. and i pretended to sleep on the couch while they humped eachother and shit. i cant take it.. someone just help me calm down and make me feel better

First of all, that is just wrong. They shouldn't be all over eachother while your still in the room. That stuff that they're doing should be done behind closed doors. That's just rude of them. They also shouldn't be ditching you/ignoring you when they have their boyfriends around either. There's nothing wrong with your friends having boyfriends, but they shouldn't be ditching you. Boyfriends come and go, but friends are forever. I think you should talk to your friends about this and tell them how much it bugs you. Tell them you think it's totally rude what they're doing to you. They should understand your point-of-view on things and if they don't, don't hangout with them for awhile. Maybe once you don't bother with them, they'll realize what they are missing and will smarten up!
♥ Krissy

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what can i say beside "sorry" to make my friend forgive me for lying to him??? can some one help me please???? i really need to talk to him again but he will not listen to me and he will not even look at me any more!!! i cant take it!!! i really want him back as a friend!!!! thanks to anyone that can help me! and see i didnt mean to lie to him thanks anyway!

Maybe you could do something special that will show your sorry. Write him a long letter, explaining to him how much you don't want to lose him as a friend. You could also tell him reason's why your sorry and such. Also tell him how special he is to you and how your friendship is worth so much more. Tell him you really want to stop fighting with him and you hate when your not able to talk to him. He'll probably come around after awhile. And the letters and all the talking will help loads. But just give him sometime to get his head straight.
♥ Krissy

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i like to look at girls bodys..like boobs..butt..and girls online.does this mean i am BI?i never made out with a girl but i almosted did..i made out with a couple of guys..and i like guys but do i also like girls?

please help

Your just curious right now, that's all. A lot of girls go through this, it's a part of growing up. Until you actually do something with girls, wanting to kiss them and such, your not bi.
♥ Krissy

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My older sister is 17 and tonight (a few minutes ago) she came home from her friends house and her room & clothes - everything - reaked soo bad of cigarette smoke. When i confronted her about it she told me "yeah i know, Nikki`s [the girls house she went to] house smells like that." I dont know Nikki that well but should i believe me sister? I mean, i dont even think i need to nark on her. My parents will find out eventually. But, what do i do???

You should believe your sister when she tells you that she wasn't smoking. Maybe a lot of her friends smoke and she was just hanging out while they were smoking. And if Nikki's house does smell like smoke, it's very possible that your sister smelt because of that. A lot of my friends smoke and I'm always smelling like it. I'd beleive your sister. And if your parents do ask her about it, just be there to back her up!
♥ Krissy

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what are the best shoes to wear when you're wearing a denim miniskirt and white knee high socks?

You could wear anything really. A lot of things go great with a denim miniskirt. Maybe try, heels or sneakers. Both of them would look cute, so it's really up to you on what one to choose. Try them both on and judge for yourself.
♥ Krissy

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a lot of my friends tell me to dump my boyfriend because hes hurt me a lot. but hes also made me so much happier. i dont know what to tell them to stop them from telling me what to do. no matter what they say im not going to leave him. i'd rather die first. literaly. it just gets annoying when they do this to me. its getting me mad at my friends which makes my boyfriend mad at them because i get mad at them. and i havent had too good of friends in the past either. we've been going out for 1 1/2 years. i dont know what to tell them. any ideas?

I think you should talk to your friends about this all. Explain to them how much you care about this guy and you don't want to dump him. Just because they want you to dump them, doesn't mean that you'll actually do it. They should be happy for you because you finally found a guy that you love. Tell them how annoying everything that they say about you and your boyfriend is, how much it gets to you and how mad it makes you. Also tell them just because you boyfriend hurts you, doesn't mean he's not a great guy inside. And that is what a relationship is about. Sometimes people get hurt and you do fight, but that is just how it goes. And he's still with you, so that must mean something. Try to get your friends to understand your point-of-view. And tell them if they were in a 1 year and 1/2 relationship, you'd be happy for them.
♥ Krissy

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Like...see i jus moved to a diff place last summer... and ive been here at my new school ever since. ive jus been realy sad at times because i really miss my friends and like the old life i used to have and everythin and i jus wish i had someone to look to for support...like a shoulder to lean on..like a guy, so i can really feel happy here...like i dnt wanna say i have found bad friends but like my bff shes like really unsure of herself and really shy and most of the time im the one helpin her with advice... i mean shes really nice...but ya like shes not the most "stable" person to lean on if u know wat i mean. like there are tons of ppl (guys) who seem interested in me, but yet seem distracted...or somewhat scared of me. like they try and like talk to me, but not really...and when they do i feel all like red in my face for sum odd reason...i mean like...im a sorta shy person...especially when it comes to guys but i really want a guy to at least be friends with...
plz help! i feel so lost sumtimes...

Try talking to these guys more often. If your always talking to them and hangout with them you won't be so shy. You'll feel more comfortable around them and will be able to tell them stuff. If you want more guy friends that you can actually tell stuff to, always be there for them. They'll notice that you are great because you're helping them, so they'll start helping you out. Don't be shy to ask them to come hangout with you. I'm sure they would love to chill. If I were you, I'd miss my old friends too. But always keep in touch with them and catch up on things. Never lose the old friends you have and also never lose the new friends. Just because your life isn't so great, doesn't mean it won't get better. Being super friendly and yourself will get you anywhere in life.
♥ Krissy

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i feel like im not a sensitive person. for example, if someone got hurt, it kinda doesnt make me feel sorry for them. i really want to be nicer, i just dont know how=)

It's not that your not nice, being sensitivity doesn't mean you have to be nice or not. It means that not a lot of things can make you cry/hurt you. In some ways, that is great because it shows your a strong person. But in other ways, its not so great because you really need to cry and let everything out once in a while. Maybe you could try putting yourself in others shoes that have been hurt. How would you feel if you were them? Really try to make yourself feel what the other person is feeling.
♥ Krissy

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me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 3 months this guy jake all of the sudden starts liking me and all of my friends are telling me to break up with my boyfriend and go out with jake because jake seems way nicer and that he would treat me better. they say this because my boyfriend is kind of scared to make the first move and its fine im not in no big hurry but jake n i were talking and he said that my boyfriend doesnt give me what i want and he was talking about .. you know.. well c i dont know if jake only likes me for that or because of my personality and stuff and he said i was awesome n nice ? help

I don't think you should break up with your boyfriend, just because your friends want you with Jake. If you like your boyfriend, stay with him. It looks like your boyfriend actually cares about you and that is why he's taking everything slow. It looks like this Jake guy, might be in it just to get some skin. He's always saying that your boyfriend isn't giving you what you want and such. He sounds pretty strange if you ask me. If I were you, I'd stay with your boyfriend. It looks like he's the one that is treating you right.
♥ Krissy

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okay so i met this super hot guy at a church retret. i like him alot! we flirt alot at church and stuff like that but he has a girl friend but his best friend told me that he likes me. while we were at church he wanted me to come sit with him instead of him sitting with his girlfriend. then after the serivice he was like you want to come over to tomorrow and gave me his number. i didnt end up going over there. but i like him alot and im willing to do whatever it takes to get him. what should i do?

Since he's ditching you for his girlfriend, it shows that he's liking you a lot. I think he should dump his girlfriend so he can go out with you. You should have went over when he wanted you to hun! But anyways, just be yourself; you don't want him falling for someone your not. Always be there for him when he wants to talk. Flirt with him, be sweet and laugh at all his jokes. You could also ask him if he would want to hangout with you sometime. Go to the movies, the mall, your house, his house, the park, etc. Talk on the phone/computer when ever you get the chance to. Give him hugs when he's feeling down/when you get to see him. All kinds of stuff like that will help you out!
♥ Krissy

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I wasn't completley sure what category this goes under, so I took a guess. My dad always tells me not to pop/crack my knuckles. And he always yells at me when I do. Is there a certain reason why you shouldn't? I heard you can get arthritis from it, I heard that your fingers will get bigger, and I've also heard that nothing will happen. So like why shouldn't I be cracking my knuckles? Can it really do that much damage?

Yes, it is bad to crack your knuckles. But it also depends on how many times a day you actually crack them. If it's a lot, you'll probably end up having sore hands/swollen knuckles when you get older. If it's not really a "habbit" and you do it every so often, nothing bad should come out of this.
♥ Krissy

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ok, so i meet this guy online. i know what you are thinking....oohhh how dangerous, he could be a murderer...but hes not. i've talked to his friends and i know almost everything about him. i even quizzed him to make sure. he has become one of my really good friends. we always talk when he's online, but im not allowed to call him anymore. i always feel myself missing him when he isnt online, and i crave to talk to him so much. i think i like him, but i havent seen a picture of him, let alone seen his face. i live in new york and he lives in canada. i always talk about him, and it really annoys my friends. i know he is single, but how do i tell him i like him?? we always flirt...its obvious really, but i dont know how he feels about me.

First off, online dating can be crazy, but on the other hand it can be really good. I don't see a big difference if you meet someone in a club or in a chat room. Anyways, since you want to tell this guy you like him, come out and do so. Just say: "Look, listen. I love talking to you and I feel like I can talk to you about anything. When your not online I feel myself thinking about you and missing you. I just wanted to let you know that I do have strong feelings for you". Then maybe you could explain a bit more about why your crushing on him and such. After you explained everything, he'll probably come out and tell you if he likes you or not.
♥ Krissy

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Tomorrow is my dad's birthday, but I don't know what to get him. There's not really any time to go buy him something, and I wanted to make him something special anyway. What should I make him?

You could have the hole day planned out for him. Maybe make him a morning breakfast. Make him a card and explain how much he means to you, or put 50 reason why he's such a great dad. Then make him some dinner and have a little movie night; Rent some movies and hangout at home, while having a talk and catching up on things.
♥ Krissy

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I just started shaving down there and I get this little red razor burn bumps. It also hurts and sometimes bleeds when I shave. How do I prevent this and get rid of the bumps I already have?

Try getting a really good razor. Use water and soap/shaving cream. Shave upwards in the way your hair grows. When your done shaving, put some cream/lotion on; it'll help with the bumps and redness, that you might have.
♥ Krissy

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my and this guy are just friends now. hes really nice and sweet and i like him a lot. the other day, i spent all of my class time talking to him. not romanticly, we were talking about what was going on that day. we didnt say anything about us well i didnt. he talked about his mom a little and we talked just talked like friends. i do like him a lot becuz he seems like a nice guy. so what should i do. becuz if he doesnt like me in that way, i dont want to screw up our friendship and i dont want him to break my heart

This is starting off great. I can tell that he's very comfortable around you. If he wasn't, he wouldn't be telling you about his personal life, it shows a lot of trust. Since you really do like this boy, I think you should tell him how you feel. I'm sure he'll totally understand everything and nothing will happen to your friendship. If you tell him, things could turn into a relationship, because it looks like he may be crushing on you. So, just tell him. You never no what could happen. Don't give up this chance!
♥ Krissy

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hey im 14/f and im 5'4 and im about 100 pounds. I wanna take off like 10 pounds for the summer, but i dont want it to be a rapid change. I was hoping in like 4 months i could loose tht weight. What is the best way to loose the weight but not torcher myself? PLEZ HELP!!

Hun, you don't need to lose any weight. Your underweight right now, so don't try to lose some more. If your really not happy with your weight though, maybe do some sit ups every night before you go to bed and watch what you eat.
♥ Krissy

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ok so i was making cookies, then i discovered that we had no butter. can you substitute oil for butter? if you can how much oil for 1 stick [1/2 cup] of butter?
thanks

Nope. You cannot add oil to your cookies insted of butter. If you have the butter in the blocks, or margarine, you can use that for butter, but not oil. Since you can't really do something about this, maybe go to the store and get some butter. It would be your best bet.
♥ Krissy

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