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Hey. OKay, so heres the deal. Its pretty simple.
I want to be popular.
and like the popular kind of gurl who the guys like but is good in school and doesn't do the bad stuff.
I mean, i am totally not a geek. (not to brag!) but im not the most popular. I'm kinda in the middle, you know? but yeah. are there any tips on becoming either:
A) popular (of course) or
B) loving the way I am and stop being SOOOOO fricken jealous of the popular kids walking down the hallway everyday?
Thanks!
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A is just a stereotype and a group that means the girls are popular wiht the guys because they put-out or are known for other things besides their ability to "do everything impecably" and that is soo not true. Popularity is just a label.
B would be the best choice for you. Just hold your head high and be the best you can be at everything. If you feel confident and look confident, boys will b attracted to you no matter what, but don't forget to dress cute :] The "popualar kids" aren't always what they seem and why trade what great qualities you posess to be "popular"?
Hope I helped :]
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i need to know how to bump and grind. i was at a dance the other night and this girl wanted to dance with me and she started bumping and grinding up against me and i didnt know what to do. i felt stupid. and she got really low to like my knees and i didnt know if i should try to get that low either. can somebody please help me? (link)
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Just follow the girl's lead/moves. Take notes and if she gets low, move with her, but uhm, if you get REALLY uncomfortable and don't know what to do, excuse yourself, take a break, and chill out. Dancing like that should just come naturally.
Good luckk with the dancing skills.
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13/f
Well I like this guy && he likes me too.
But he hardly goes on msn, he used to but hes grounded. I'm really scared we're going to loose our relationship, cause hes also in a different class then me. He only talks to me at like Break/recess & Lunch. But I'm in his Math class, I cant sit near him since his friend always sit there, and then one day, I finally found a spot that is KINDA near him... Something like this.
F= his friends BF = my friends K= always hated this girl H= Him M=Me
F H K BF
f f BF M
Sorry if that was confuesing. Anyways. It was like that, and then I dont really see him talking to me in math. But when "K" was talking to him since he was kinda right beside her, he started to laugh. I can't really find any other time to talk to him. && the valentine dance is coming up. But our school rule isnt ask people before the dance. Its actually you ask the person AT the dance. I want to dance with him, but I'm afraid of the relationship ending. =\
Any advice would do! Thanks. (: (link)
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Well, maybe you could ask BF to switch seats with you so you can talk to him and so K isn't getting all of the attention. And make more of an effort to talk to him in between classes, during classes, and outside of school. Call him, but for the msn part, amke sure your realtionship isn't based ALL on the computer, cyber realtionships can get messy.
Hope I helped and good luckk
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So I like this guy, I have 3 classes with him, out of 6. I'm 13 in 8th grade and I really like him. He talks to me during math, and its my favorite class because thats when he is there and I guess it helped me do better because I had a C now I have an A. But anyways I really don't know what to do. He talks to me and jokes around and picks on me. He has asked me about homework and stuff too. Popularity has nothing to do with this kinda stuff, right? Also my friends have no idea that I do like him. Should I tell them? They are really trustworthy but I don't how I would tell them anyways. We have a lot in common too. And every time we have new seating charts he always ends up sitting behind me. I wish we would go out that would be a dream! But even if he did ask me out I would have no idea what to do. So help would be appreciated, thanks! (link)
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It seems like you are really crushing on this guy and his flirting with you isn't going un-noticed. You should tell your friends because if they are your friends and are trustworthy, than there should be no problem, and they should understand completely. If you just talk to him more and flirt with him as much as he is with you, there is a very high chance that he will ask you out and if/when he does, just go for it! Say yes, and take it from there, follow his lead for now and see what builds from this relationship.
Hope it all works out for you!
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my parents say just because we have a really good life i dont appreciate the value of hard work and they say i take them for granted just because i would rather hang out with best friend and god bro roger every day and my girl friend mariah whom i love very much they get mad because i would rather hang out with the girl i love more than anything in the world and my bro roger hes my best friend we have been together every day since i was five we live right next door to each other they just told me that since i take them for granted they're shipping me to a school in north carolina called ashville but rogers parents may send him to i told them i dont wanna go but they don wanna listen they already started looking for available flights so they can start looking at the different campuses their flight left 8 hours ago i dont wonna go because if i do ill lose the love of my life and i cant handle that what should i do (link)
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Your parents are probably just upset because you rather hang with your friends and girlfriend than your own family, your own flesh qand blood. I really tink you should talk to them and tell them how you feel about your friends and love life, that you don't want to lose them or [your parents] because your girlfriend and god brother are like your family. If they still don't understand then maybe you should take some time away from Roger and Mariah, not permenantly, just enough time so your parents reconsider their decision.
And if you do wind up going to Ashville and you are forced to leave your girlfriend she should still love you because love like that doesn't just die.
Hope it all works out in your favor!
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Hi, I didn't know who to ask since you're the one I've been talking to about it.
I called for Sam. TJ answered. Sam wasn't there.
My luck.
So I talk to him and he asked if I read the POEM.
I told him yeah and told him I thought it was super sweet and I liked it.
I also hate messengers. Too much drama so I asked him:
"Sam told me you liked me and I wanted to find out from you....if you liked me?"
He told me he did!
I also found out his cousin helped him write the poem but it still doesn't matter because it was his idea in the first place (atleast I think!)and he did help write it!
Well I wanted to know, since I know he likes me and he knows I like him, would it be kinda stupid for him not to ask me out? I asked my best friend and she said it'd be stupid AND weird.
Afterall that had happened!
I just needed a second opinion.
And any advice on what I (underline 20 times please haha!) should do would help a lot! (link)
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Aww, so sweet! TJ really likes you and that was sooo great that you worked up the nerve to ask him if he liked you yourself :] And for him not asking you out would be insane, because yeah, you guys totally have chemistry and I agree with your best friend, it would be really stupid and wierd if he didn't ask you out.
But what I think you should do is keep talking to him, and do whatever you're doing because it is definetly working !! On Monday just be yourself and if by Friday he doesn't ask you out, ask him yourself [a lot of boys like that, when a girl asks them herself before he does] You guys are soo right for eachother, from what I've heard, and keep me posted :] I'm always here
--if you have a sn or e-mail I could talk to you on whenever you need help and don't want to ask me on advicenators, you can give it to me, but if you don't it's totally fine, just keep asking me on here :] have a great day !!
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ppl tell me im very pretty adn have the look to be a model, i weigh like 120 redhair pale skin dont have many freckles but im only 5'6' im tryin to loose some more weight cauz uve got to be extremely skinny to be a model bu tbefore i go to that extreme, is there even a chance of me makin it, cauz i heard you have to be like at least 5'8' to be a model is that true? (link)
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no height dosnt matter at all expecily if you are only 2 inches away trust me my sister is a model and she is 5'5 and today i was out with my sister shoping and i was offerd a job in modeling and im only 5 feet tall haha good luck i hope i helped
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ok well, im 13/f.
My breasts are small, maybe a bit smaller then AA? anyways. My nipple is dark colour. I heard most of them are supposed to be pink/light brownishh? well mine are pretty dark. It sometimes gets puffy, and sometimes small.My nipple is also small... O_O
Is that normal?
Thanks! ;♥ (link)
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well you know that all people are diffrent mine are like that also and i have alot of stomach problems so people are always looking at my stomach and stuff so i think they would tell me if somthing looks weird or anything so i think its fine good luck i hope i helped
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where can you buy woollight (link)
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most any regular grocery store or pharmacy good lck i hope i helped
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i have to write a paper about cutting and i really need help! i have been looking it up and stuff but i still need information. If anyone has anything about it (why they do it, what they use, when do they) it would be greatly appreciated. please anything will help! if you are/used to be a cutter i would love to hear some personal stories! thank you so much! (link)
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well i do cutt i would love to talk but i would rather do it in private so just ask me about it on my colum and i will tell you all about it
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14/f that is a virgin
if your a vigin and a female does masterbating pop your cherry or take your virginity (link)
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oh no you only lose your virginity if you have sex somtimes if you ride a bike or ride a horse or use tampons it can pop your cherry but you can only lose your virginity if you have sex there is no other way good luck i hope i helped
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does it really cost $1 to give a facebook gift?
i dont get how theyd charge you ha
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you give your credit card number. keep in mind though that the money doesss go to looking for a cure for breast cancer, i believe. or at least thats what it was last year.
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16/f
i have ALWAYS wore my hair really long, like down my whole back, and i really want a change so i was thinking of cutting it short, like at my shoulders
does short hair make you look younger though?
i hatee when people say i look younger then i am so i dont wanna look like a little girl, does it depend on the person?
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I know people who have short hair and look mature, and not young, but then there are the people who look extremly young when they have short hair, it all depends on how you wear your hair, make-up, clothes and the shape of your face. If you hvae a small heart shaped face, [kind of like a baby face] I wouldn't encourage you to cut your hair, but otherwise, go ahead, it just really depends on how you style it and wear it.
Hope i helped
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so my friends mike and drew invited me over tonight to hang out with them and this one other guy, but i'd be the only girl there. i'm afraid it'll be really awkward. like i'm friends with these guys, but idk, should i go?
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do itt =]
i love guys haha
i do this all the time im like the only gir with 6 guys its never really awkward. but thats because im very outgoing.
what would you have to losee? itll probably be soo fun!
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so my friends mike and drew invited me over tonight to hang out with them and this one other guy, but i'd be the only girl there. i'm afraid it'll be really awkward. like i'm friends with these guys, but idk, should i go?
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Yeah, you should go because I'm sure you'll wind up having a great time. They are your friends and invited you over because they like hanging out with you, and you can show the other guy that is coming how cool you are also. It might be awkward in the beginning, but it will even out and start getting comfortable fairly quickly.
Have funn
xxoo
Understatmentoftheyearx3
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Hii sorry to bother you.
I just needed to know something.
You said anxiety and I agree but even now my stomach is in knots.
As you can tell these situations don't happen to me, well the guy problems.
They just don't.
I like him and it's taken a while but I know I do.
It's just I'm so nervous it's all a joke. Even if it's not, I can't help but think we won't go out or something and it'll be awkward. Or even that we do go ot but break up and it's awkward.
So either way it'll probably be awkward.
I don't know I just am so nervous and I can't calm down. (link)
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It's okay, you're not bothering me, this is what I'm here for, helping people :] Okay, so, I bet you have this feeling in your stomach like you are on a roller coaster that is about to go down on one of the biggest drops you have ever been on in your life, right? Well, I know this feeling all too well, because some boys just have htat effect on me and it seems that TJ has that effect on you as well. I know that your mind can only think about this and no matter what you do, your still jumpy and nervous, thinking about what he will say on Monday, replaying what you said to Samantha, maybe even wishing you never said it at all, but give yourself a break. You are a phenominal girl with a wonderful personality and you probably have a lot ot offer some lucky guy. Right? Well, I'm 110% sure that this isn't a joke and 200% sure that if it was a joke, Samantha wouldn't have told you that TJ likes you, because it just wouldn't happen. And I'm really positive that you guys will go out, I mean, the liking one another is mutual, it goes both ways, so this most liekly means that you guys will be going out. I mean, TJ was bold enough to give you a POEM, now that takes some guts and his time, because he spent that time making you a lovely poem that I'm sure you have read over and over again :] [I would have too hehe] And it won't be awkward because what should have been awkward was that whole poem thing and it wasn't, so the only thing that seems a bit awkward is his sister telling you all these things haha, but just look at how far you have come! You are doing a great job and maybe you should just watch some TV, or read that poem again just to ease your mind. Monday will come soon enough and I'm sure you'll like the outcome :]
Everything is gonna be fine, trust me. And you can ask me anything at anytime, I'll make sure your question is answered :]
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which is the best smelling hollister perfume in your opinion?
SoCal
Malaia
Ryder
thanks guys (link)
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SoCal and Malaia. But Malaia is the best, at least I think so :]
xxoo
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16/f, i have 2 best friends who i can be my complete and utter self around. ever since last year, our first year of high school, (we'll call her A), A has changed a lot because of joining sports. all 3 of us have always been shy, quiet, and that is probably why we came together in elementary school. so last year A played sports all 3 seasons in school and made "friends" or people she talked to because she had no one else to talk to. this has made her more outgoing, but sometimes she acts as though she is better than me & B (my other best friend), since we have not played any sports and especially last year, didn't much many new friends.
now, this year, our sophomore year, A is still more outgoing, and out of the 3 of us i do believe she is the most outgoing,.. B and me being on pretty much the same level. last year luckily we all had lunch together, but this year, i'm left alone. A & B have lunch together. thankfully there's people that i can eat with, and although i am not my self around them because i'm really only like that with a select few who i feel most comfortable around. i am surviving.. well here's the main reason i'm writing this.
last night, apparently A & B have been doing some serious talking at lunch without me, becasue last night as all 3 of us are hanging out in my room, they decide to give me this sort of pep talk about my shyness and how they think the way i respond to people makes me seem bitchy sometimes. NOW, in some ways i see this. the other day in class this girl next to me asked me if i went tanning. i was pretty much caught off guard, because i don't go tanning, and just simply said no, so she said my face looked pretty or something and i said a simple thanks. ok didn't tell you this: i have FOUR classes with B. only one with A. but B pretty much sees every interaction i have with anyone else. when i asked her for examples last night of how i come off as bitchy, she gave me the tanning example. she said she didnt even hear me say anything. does it matter if SHE didn't hear me say anything? no. i wasn't talking to her.
another example she gave me is in another class my teacher assigned a few people to be "master quizzers" and we would quiz people as they came around to each quizzer. B and i were picked as these people and of course stood close to each other. she claims that i looked so uncomfortable quizzing people. she's not me. how does she know how i feel? really. she's shy too. i bet she felt the same way as me.
it sucks since we have so many classes together it's like we're always comparing or competing or something. i just don't understand how she could say all those things when she's just like me. and she did most of the talking too. A just kept saying how i'm such a good friend and she wants people to be able to see the real me. which i want that to happen too, but it won't happen overnight. and she kept apologizing, especially when i started CRYING. like i know i'm shy, this has been going on for years, i'm just a SHY person. i want to change and let people see more of my personality, and if i'm coming off bitchy i don't want people to think that. but i'm so fed up with also being known as the quiet girl that i really don't even care if people think of me that way. i'll talk to the people i need and want in my life and i'm fine with that. i don't know, everything they said last night just made me feel depressed sorta. i know i'm shy, and i was dealing with it fine until they said everything. now i feel kinda worthless. i'm just confused. and now it's gonna be awkward in all my classes with them because they're probably gonna expect me to be all talkative. maybe i'm just overreacting, maybe i'm just pmsing or something, but i have no clue what to do. i really don't even know what i'm asking, i just needed to let that all out.
sorry this was overly exceedingly tremendously long, thanks if you actually read all of that, and thanks if you give me a good response too. (link)
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I am 15, in highschool, and more outgoing than I have ever been in my life. I'm still having problems with being shy, but it's getting better and I do come off as a bitch to some people because I AM shy, I only talk to the people who I want to and my best friends can't even tell me that I come off as a bitch because they don't want to get me upset. So I know how you feel. Even my best friends aren't in my lunch room and they are starting to talk about me behind my back, but it can be a good and bad thing that they confronted you about your shyness, depending on the way you look at it.
From one view point it could be bad because they talk behind your back and are critizsizing your shyness when they have/had problems with that themselves. And even though you may feel worthless because of what they confronted you about, you're not. You are fine just the way you are and don't let anybody, even A&B, make you think otherwise.
The second viewpoint is that it was nice and good that they talked to you about the way you may come off to people because they care about you enough to let you know what they feel and that they are looking out for you. That's what best friends are supposed to do, even if they didn't tell you what you wanted to hear, at least they told you what kind of person they were seeing, and yeah it's totally obnoxious that they think they know how you feel when they're not you, because they aren't you. They don't know how you really feel, so everything you just typed, you should talk to them about it.
You have all the right int he world to be whoever you are, with whatever personality you have/want and you shouldn't change yourself to pleased someone other than you. And even if your friends may expect you to change wiht the snap of their fingers, you don't have to, but if you want to, it won't happen in a matter of days and they will realize that soon enough. You don't have to be very talkative if you're usually not, and you can do whatever YOU want, if they are really your best friends, they will accept that fact and appreciate you for you.
I hope that all made sense and that I helped. Because I'm still in the situation you are, and it does get better, I would know.
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Picture This:
You live in a 8000 sq foot home. You have a 13 year old, a 10 year old and a 5 year old. You've been married for 15 years. However, you're married to a man who calls your daughter a stupid bitch, and your sons dumbasses and idiots on occasion. He's called you a lazy, ungrateful, fat, stupid pig. You've been fighting since you met, and it only gets worse. He's abandoned you without a car, locked you out of the house, and is distant and shows no emotion for your kids. Your kids are upset.
You're an english teacher, and there's no way you could afford the house on your own, but you're not sure what to do with it because it's on your parents land and you don't want to sell it to someone who isn't family. Your struggling, considered divorce, but you know you love him even though your kids get upset.
What do you do? (link)
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Put your kids before yourself, if they're unhappy, do something about it. Don't put your kids in a situation that they were dragged into without any say in the matter, so you either make your kids suffer with this emotionless mean man, or remove yourself from him, get a better pay [or ask your family to help you out, maybe even sell the house to someone in your family, or get a loan] How can you love a man who is sooo mean to your kids? Your own flesh and blood?
It's your decision entirely if you want to get a divorce or not, no one on advicenators can tell you what to do with that, this is what you feel is right and best for your family [excluding your husband]
I hope you make the right choice.
good luck.
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Those of you who answered my first question, you helped a lot.Those of you who aren't familiar with what happened, read my other question.
Only now my nerves are getting the best of me.
I talked to Samantha yesterday......
Well last night....and TJ got on the phon and she was screaming "GET OFF THE PHONE"
I thought she'd killed someone haha just kidding. But she told me he wouldn't hang up the phone.
Anyway that's not the point.
I asked her if he really liked me and wrote that poem and she said yes, TJ wrote the poem and he likes you.
I doubt she'd lie as he was around.
Wel I finally told her I liked him too and now my stomach is in knots.
I probably won't see him til Monday and have no idea why I'm so nervous now....except well I don't know.
I guess because I had planned to say, " Well if he likes me and wants to know if I like im, he can ask me himself. ' But I was so nervous I barely got the words 'Yes I do.' out.
I really do not know what to do.
Any advice would help because I have no idea what to do! THANKS! (link)
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Take a few deep breaths and let it out, there is no need to be scared or nervous, you're probably just feeling some anxiety because you are anticipating what he will say to you on Monday. But if you know he likes you, just relax because I don't think he would change his mind just because you told Samantha that you like him. When you see him on Monday just be yourself, act no different than you usually do around him and let him speak up, don't shy away and let whatever happens happen. :]
Good luck and everything is gonna be finee.
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