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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.


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--Jack

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I've put on weight. And today two seperate people were like
"Oh,Jordann you've put on weight."
One even was like you were like this [ ], now you're like this [ ]" (with her hands)
I'm feleign really self-conscious, and insecure.
Should I try and drop a few?

No. You shouldn't "drop a few". You're absolutely FINE! Honestly- if someone is going to be that rude, and say that you've put on weight, even if you did, they are just being rude. Who cares if you have. You don't look fat to me- and that should count for something- as I don't tend to pay attention to looks that much [though I do, just not much].

--Jack
(15/m)

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My best friend (D) told me not to long ago that she had sex when she was 12, now shes 14. I was shocked and disgusted too, because people always thought she was a whore. My other best friend told me that D told her that it happened more than once. Once in the bed, once in the shower, once on the beach, and once somewhere else, and a couple other times. This was all with her boyfriend (M). M died last year, and he was only 13. Anyway, she didn't tell me it happened all those times,because she knew I'd be even more disapointed I guess. When D told me about the first time, I told her I had lost respect for her. I think she is a whore. One time in class we were counting all the guys she dated, and I was naming random names and she would be like Yup. The total was 17. D turned 14 a few months ago. Would you agree that D is a whore? Also, would it be wrong to stop talking to her, because of that.

I think she is a whore, simply because she's been having sex- AT 12 FRICKING YEARS OLD! She's disgusting. Having sex with 17 different guys by the time your not even 14 is just wrong. She's obviously very messed up, and I wouldn't blame you for not talking to her. If you don't want people like that in your life, you don't have to have them there. Go find some better friends.

--Jack
(15/m)

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Okay well im a 14/f and i have a friend- ex friend now- but she texted me and was like i tolled everyone your secret! - and my secret is that im a lezbian- and she is the only one i tolled and i thought she was just kidding but she wasn't she tolled like veryone i know and so now everyone is like Oh god you are a lez sick your perverted , do you have a girlfriend , you should die lezbians and gay people shouldn't be aloud on earth ext.... but its starting to get to me and i dont know what to do can you help me??
love,
Stressed out!

Be proud of who you are. You are you- and no one is like you. So what if you're a lesbian! They can all go die, seriously.. they are jerks and THEY don't deserve to be on Earth. You can't change who you are- so if people want to criticize that- screw them.
And your ex-friend needs to get a life.

--Jack
(15/m)

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How can you,being a guy, tell that you LIKE a girl. Like what are some things guys do purposely or not purposely that show they like a girl as more than a friend ?

Honestly- its different for every guy. I myself tend to find myself wanting to hang out with her. Like at school, I purposely try to take a different route to a class just to see said girl. I smile at her when I'm with her. I make stupid jokes. I find a reason for her to get "mad" at me, and hit me on the arm. I laugh at something she says, even if its not funny at all. I smile at her [yes, I realize I said it twice.. it means its a definite must]. I possibly grab for her hand- and then smile and say "Just kidding".
I do a lot of flirty things when I'm with a girl I like. Most things are on purpose, not on accident. =].

If a guy smiles at you a lot, it means you have a funny-looking face or he likes you. I think it tends to be the latter of the two.

Hope I helped.. it took me awhile to come up with a good list.
--Jack
(15/m)

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Whenever I click on Microsoft Word a box comes up and says "This action is only valid for products that are currently installed."

I deleted a program off my computer earlier, Windows something 2000. Does anyone know what I deleted? Please help!

Igotamonopoly is exactly right. You've deleted the system your computer runs on. Mine is Windows XP- and without it, you can't have Microsoft Word, Excel, Powerpoint, etc. I suggest reinstalling what you deleted- as you can't have very many programs without a system to run by. =D

Good Luck!
--Jack
(15/m)

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I was wondering, What do guys look for in a friend thats a girl ? Do they like someone who is more boyish?

Psychotic is exactly right. It really depends on the guy. Personally- I look for a girl [friend or potential girlfriend] who has spunk. She's gotta be her own person and be smart, funny, nice, and just overall a great person. I think if you truly and honestly just be your own person and be yourself- not like everyone else- you'll attract more guys than you could ever imagine. Trust me- I shy away from girls that are fake.

Good luck!
--Jack
(15/m)

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how do you unfreeze an ipod?
i tried switching back and forth the hold button and holding down the menu button and the play/pause button but nothing works!

I would suggest you try plugging it in [to charge it]- and maybe it will cause the iPod to change its screen. If nothing happens- I would look in the original package for your iPod and look for the Apple Help Line number-- whatever it is.

or visit http://apple.com/support and maybe you'll find help there!

Hope I helped!
--Jack
(15/m)

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Hi im just your average teenage girl whose friends are in different groups. Last year one of my friends made my other friend cry (not purposely) and I was just the silent watcher. So now this year how do I get along with one friend without leaving the other behind? Even if my friends both don't like eachother.

I've found that the only way to keep friends in different groups or cliques is to separate your time with each of them equally, if that makes sense. In other words, just hang out with them equally. If one mentions the other- change the subject or just shrug the subject away. Don't schedule things with both of them. If both want to hang out on a particular day, hang out with one, and then if it happens again, hang out with the other group. If you have to chose, I would personally chose the girl who was "bullied" I guess you would say. She probably wants to see that you still support her and that you are still her friend.

Good luck!
--Jack
(15/m)

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well ive been with my girl for 2 1/2 months and she just told she loves her ex what should i do wait or dump her straight???

Wait. See what happens. If she continues to say she loves her ex [I think to you- you didn't really say], ask her why she's doing this. If something seems wrong, like she's wanting to hang out with him a lot or she's always talking to him, don't be afraid to dump her. She should focus on her current boyfriend.

--Jack
(15/m)

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There's a song that rarely comes on the radio, I'm guessing it's like years old. It goes like this:
"As we go on, we remember, all the times that, we had together."
And it would be a great song to play at a graduation, I'm pretty sure they do.
Tried google, didn't come up with anything.
---Many thanks.

Hey- everyone has already told you that it is "Graduation" by Vitamin C, but here's a tool that can really help you next time you need to figure out the name of a song when you know the lyrics and the beat:
http://bored.com/songtapper/index.html

Here are the directions:
Not sure what the name of a song is?
Use your computer keyboard to tap the rhythm of the song. Bored.com will help you find the name of the song. Its fun, its easy, and thousands of daily visitors find it very helpful.

All you have to do is tap the song rhythm and SongTapper does the rest. After tapping is complete you will see a list of matching songs. If we can't identify your song, you can teach our system by entering the song name.

Congrats on being my 555th question answered!

--Jack
(15/m)

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Ok well I've started talking to this kid that I've had the biggest crush on for like ever. But he dropped out of school and he smokes...a lot. But he still is the most sweetest and quietest kid ever and I am a hundred percent sure he would never hurt me. Heres the problem. I'm a straight A student and have always been drug free. I know my parents would NEVER approve. So what do i do? Stick with him or find someone else who doesn't do that stuff? PLEASE HELP!

You can't help who you like, but you can help what you do about those you like. Even though this sounds horrible- I would find someone new. He dropped out of school: STRIKE ONE! He smokes: STRIKE TWO!
I bet you that he does other things you don't know about: STRIKE THREE! He's out. Its good that you want to stay a straight A student [like me] and drug free [like me, too]. Its also good that you realize that your parents won't approve. That should be a red flag. If your parents wouldn't approve- something is obviously wrong with the person. Plus, if you were to go out with him- he would most likely pressure you into doing something you don't want to do. He has two stains on his record- smoking and dropping out of school. You're better than that- and I hope you make the right choice.
Not to mention the horrible effects of secondhand smoke. =/

--Jack
(15/m)

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Okay so I copied and pasted a code of a video from youtube onto my myspace. It's on my myspace but you have to click play for it to start. How can I make the video to automatically start?

http://www.google.com/support/youtube/bin/answer.py?answer=56107&topic=10836

That is a good page that will explain how to do it.

--Jack
(15/m)

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okay i just turned 13 and i fingure myself 3 or 5 times a day it dosnt affect my social life but friends also havnt got their peroids and i have im just wondering like am i weird or different. like i cant come up with the word but i want to know if im to young?



p.s. thank you ans sorry its sorda long..=)

I wouldn't say you're too young. Some girls start to finger themselves earlier. You're not weird or different. It isn't affecting your social life or anything, so I'd say you're fine.

--Jack
(15/m)

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I have been wanting to txt really bad so i finally talked my dad into getting me a plan. I have to pay for it,, so i need to really understand the plan. It has like 1500 msgs, unlimited verizon customers. does the 1500 include sent and recieved?? Or just sent?

Thanks!! I will rate!

It is both sent and received messages.

For more information about it, visit verizonwireless.com

--Jack
(15/m)

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what shampoo do you use? your hair is GORGEOUS.


well so are you :]

And, do you have a screen name?

I use Men's Suave Shampoo. And if you're a guy- I'm scared- if you're a girl.. you're not going to be using the shampoo I use. I don't do the "lather, rinse, repeat" thing, either.

And I'm not responding to anything else you said- because the "what shampoo do you use" was the only thing even close to asking advice.

My forum is open!

--Jack
(15/m)

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My boyfriend broke up with me about 7 or 8 months ago. We only went out for a little over a month. He broke up with me for another girl and it took me a while to get over because i still liked him. We managed to stay friends because we chill with the same group of people. Just a few days ago my friend told me how he was talking about how he doesn't even know why he went out with me and it was only because i had a "huge rack" and a "nice butt". And now its really been making me upset and i dont know why, what can i do?

I'm sorry. First of all- he's shallow. Ignore him! Ignore him! Ignore him! He's a JERK! He's scum! He's everything else I wish I could say on here, that I can't actually say. Don't let one ex ruin your life, especially one that says he only went out with you because of your "nice butt". He won't get anywhere in life- and you can laugh about his stupidity. Let him say what he wants, but don't retaliate. Just leave him be and he'll end up screwing up his current relationship. Plus, I bet he's only saying that stuff because he doesn't want to admit that he actually regrets breaking up with you. Either way- he's nothing to worry over.

--Jack
(15/m)

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okay , so i went out with this boy named alec for about 4 months, then we broke up and i found out the reason was not because "we never saw eachother" it was because he liked this girl brittany . and they started going out the same day we broke up . and brittany happends to be my bestfriend's boyfriend's sister . yeah weird ... anyways . he told me he was going to the beach tommarow with his "brother , dad & step mom" then i looked on his myspace comments and saw this from his "girlfriend" brittany , it said "tomorrow is gonna be fun ur not tackling me into the water either!!!" hmm.. why would he lie about that to me? does it mean he still has feelings for me ? or what ?

It means he's a jerkface. If he's that shallow that he has to lie to you- then it isn't worth caring about. Trust me, I've dealt with lying exes and it is the stupidest thing to do. Just ignore him and let him live his shallow and untrustworthy life. He'll end up hurting someone really bad and you'll know that it wasn't you that was hurt. Let him be.

--Jack
(15/m)

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hi well im 14 and my voice still hasnt gotten deeper and its kinda annoying cause everyone is starting to think i might be gay

and im deff not,.,haha

some questions i have are ......could somehting be wrong?/

can it get deeper later for some people

is this bad///


and just any general info


THANKS

Dude, don't worry. Your voice will change in due time. I know that mine didn't start to change until about the time I became 14 (almost 2 years ago). Every guy is different and goes through puberty differently. Some guys don't even start puberty until they are almost 17. I'd say that you're about average. And if people think you're gay- screw them. People thought I was- and if you don't let it get to you, it will stop.

--Jack
(15/m)

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why do people like to have unprotected sex when they're not trying to get pregnant?? does it feel better...or give you more pleasure doing it without a condom???

I think most people are just lazy. They don't think about the consequences of having unprotected sex. Its really horrible. They think that using contraceptives [condoms, birth control] takes too much time. I don't think its a "pleasure" thing- although I may be mistaken. I haven't had sex yet. I'm a virgin- and I'm proud.

--Jack
(15/m)

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when a guy puts on his pants, does his penis like go to one pant leg? or does it like stay in the middle...that doesnt seem like it would be so comfortable

this is a serious question, because this girl put her hand on my guy friends leg close to his crotch area? and he was like "thank god that wasnt my left leg" so i thought "uhm is his penis on his left side?"

I guess its all what the guy prefers to do; whatever is comfortable for him. I assume most put it on the side...

Umm...

--Jack
(15/m)

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