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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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hi,i wana get a pack of condoms and the sex clinic is just down the road but its shame of asking for a pack..do sex clinics give them out?..what can i say to get a pack?..thank you

Walk in, and say "Hi, I wanna practice safe sex. Do you have some condoms?"

It's not really all that hard.

what's this about
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It just means that she's br00tal & super hardcore.

Or that she's lame. It's just a pose the hardcore scene kids do to look cool.

I used to be best friends with this guy, he's 16/m, I'm 16/f. Anyway, we got romantic one night (not sex) and nothing's been the same since. It's been 8 months, and I was hoping the friendship would gradually get better. It's gotten worse, I barely know him anymore, he lies, I give 100% effort in this friendship, and he gievs maybe 4%. I told him when we were BEST friends that I would never give up on him, and that I didn't ditch people. I'd love to keep my promise, but quite frankly people I feel like completely blowing him off & never speaking to him again. I think it's because I've had it & feel like I have nothing left to give.

Question is, do you think blowing him off/cutting all contact with him is a good idea? If not, why? If yes, how should I go about that? (we have this thing where he calls once a week & i call once a week to check in) Thing is, I still want to do the friendly "hi" in the hallway when I see him at school, I just don't want to talk to him outside of school. ANY ADVICE? please. hellllp.

I personally think you should TRY to stay, but if nothing works, then leave.

What you need to do is call him, and invite him over. If he wants to meet up somewhere, cool, do that too. But whether you're meeting up somewhere or going to each other's houses, a serious talk needs to take place. Talk to him about the friendship, the situation about what happened 8 months ago, if there's a way to fix this & how, or what to do if nothing works. Tell him you're sick of putting all the effort in & him putting in hardly any. Friendship is a two way street, it takes effort from both people. Lucky for you, you know that. =)

Anyways, if he just completely doesn't listen to you during that talk, or he has nothing to say, just say "I think we're better off as acquaintances, and I'd like to say hi every once and a while inside school, but I want nothing to do with you outside of school. I'm sick of being the only one who wants this friendship to work, so I'm done." Then get up & walk away. If he really cares & wants a way to save the friendship, he'll come after you & sit you down to talk again. I hope all goes well.

14/f

Right, I'm 14 and I've never snogged anyone. It might not sound that bad but most people about two years younger than me have snogged someone, and it's beginning to become a real problem.

I'm scared of getting into relationships with people because they'll have had experience and I worry that it will be awkward and they'll think I'm a bad kisser.

I don't like playing truth or dare and always try to get out of it because I might be dared to snog someone, or asked how far I've got. Most of my friends have gone further than snogging, and I'd feel really embarrassed if I had to admit the most I've ever done is kiss someone.

Is there anyway I can get over this and stop being so worried? And do you have any tips on snogging and how do it?

Sorry I said snog and snogging so much, I hate those words, but I wanted people to know what I meant, and not just think I meant a peck on the lips or something.

Thanks in advance, xxx

I personally think 14 is too young for a relationship. You may think I'm wrong, but I'm pretty sure I'm alright with my opinion. Who the hell wants to experience a broken heart at 14 years old? No one I know...

Anyways, you shouldn't be ashamed of the fact that you're not easy like everyone else. So what if all you've ever done is kissed. That's not a big deal. People aren't going to care. Sure, they'll be shocked because you're not at their "level" but in all honesty, you're probably a lot better off than they are. Trust me, it's okay to just kiss & not go any farther than that. Don't do anything you don't wanna do & don't do things that make you uncomfortable.

But if you do happen to get into a relationship & the guy gives you bullshit because you have little experience, then you kick him in the balls & find yourself someone new. If a guy really liked you, he wouldn't care about how far you've went with people unless he really is that shallow. Do what makes you happy, and do what you're comfortable with. If no one can respect you for the things you've done, then they're not worthy of being in your life, nor are they worthy of your time. =)

im 13 years old
i want original/cute/funny solo/group costume ideas!
thanks for helping! =]

When Britney Spears is done being a stupid crack whore, you can be her for Halloween.

I know this isn't really asking for advice, but the last few days I was just thinking about this and wondering why the people here joined.

I guess it is just out of pure curiosity. I would have just posted this in the moderator forum or in the supporter discussion, but I'd rather see why everyone joined rather than just those who have been here for some time and such.

So, why did you join advicenators and why are you still here? What about the site made you want to stay?

I'll probably be one of the first people to answer this (I'm not going to answer it in the question).

S_C

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I've been on this site for a year & a half, but I've been on it since I was 13 with many previous accounts to which the names I do not remember.

I joined advicenators because I wanted to help people solve their problems, or just to help with anything. I knew that I could do that here. When I first joined at 13, I joined because the site fascinated me & I had never seen anything like it before. But I stayed because I was getting better at giving advice, and simply because I like it.

Although there's a lot of stupid questions on this site, it gives me a good laugh, and I like to help.

Yeah! So the title means what is going on in your life. Often times it makes me feel better when I read that other people have problems and that I'm not the only one who is going through a dark and lonely stage. Okay so what are you going through? I would really love to know how life's been treating you even if you're happy. I really want to know. Please don't get offened by my question.

I actually wish more people on the site asked questions like this. They're actually interesting to answer.

I'm not going to get all gloomy on you, but my life right now is actually pretty horrible. Two weeks ago, my boyfriend passed away while serving in Iraq. Everyone has such little problems compared to that, and things I thought were SUCH a HUGE deal are completely microscopic now. I had a fight with my mom. SO WHAT? My boyfriend broke up with me. SO WHAT!? Honestly, it's not a big deal. You still have those people in your life, shit blows over. Nothing lasts forever, except death. Problems like that don't even count as problems. Try waking up realizing your boyfriend is still dead. It doesn't sound good, does it?

Another thing besides that is that school is starting soon, and my boyfriend went to my school. I hate my school enough as it is, but now I have a constant reminder like "Oh, my boyfriend probably sat in this desk, or this classroom or my boyfriend probably used this locker." It's a piece of shit problem to deal with, and I don't like to face it even though I know I have to. Personally though, I just wanna graduate.

Another thing wrong with my life is that I'm not really rich. I'm actually pretty poor, but nobody believes me because of how spoiled I am. I'm a spoiled girl, but I have to BEG my mother for the things she buys me. She just used to buy me them when I asked, no questions asked, but now we have to argue in order for her to get me things. I'm not expecting any type of Christmas this year. Not only that, but my parents are divorcing. I always thought my parents would last forever, but now that it's finally hitting me that they're not & that I'm not gonna really have my dad anymore, it sucks. He's not much of a father, but I still love him.

I'm not going to keep going on about all the negatives though. Yes, my boyfriend's dead, I have no type of family structure at home, I'm on tight ends with money, and I hate my highschool, but that's life. It eventually gets better & I'll find a way to manage, I always do. I'll never get over the death of my boyfriend, but I know that he's around me & watching out for me.

What type of clothes do leg warmers compliment? Tops... bottoms... types of shoes, etc.

Thanks

Leggings look good with skirts & dresses. You can wear a babydoll tee with leggings, flats, a headband & maybe some shades, and you'll look alright.

So when you wear leggings, these things will go with it well:
- Flats.
- Boots.
- Skirts.
- Dresses.
- Babydoll Tees.

ugh. my parents think im some good girl who knows nothing but i do a lot behind their back and im proud of it. but they make me so mad because they dont let me do things that other kids get to do. ive talked to them about it but they just say ill thank them when i get older. so im always trying to go to friends houses casue their parents let us go out. but what can i do to stop being so mad at them or to make them let me go out more?

15/f btw.

Take it from someone who is losing things everyday; you NEED to listen to your parents & appreciate their rules. The rules may piss you off, but they're there for a reason & you need to accept them.

Your parents may not want you to go out because pedophiles are increasing & it's very easy for someone to just snatch you. You think people are your friends until something dangerous happens - then they ditch you. Not all people are like this, but it's a worry. Back when our parents were kids, pedophiles were sort of like a secret. Nobody really knew about them because people were ashamed of the truth. It's not like that anymore.

I think you need to sit down with your parents again & discuss the situation at hand. I'm not sure how previous conversations have went, but if you were getting an attitude & getting whiny - of course nothing is going to change. If they tell you no, say "Alright, I understand." & take it & walk away. If you're mature about things, they may begin to ease up & give you some freedom. They might say yes & they might say no, but you've got to accept it either way. Life isn't perfect.

But honestly, accept the rules your parents place. They give them to you for a reason. It's to keep structure in the household & the relationship, & to keep your safety in tact. They don't do it because they hate you & want you miserable. They do it because they love you & don't want anything to happen to you. I'm 16, I'll be 17 in February, and I still don't do the things I wanna do. My mother tells me no all the time, and I ask why. She gives me a good reason & I leave it alone. Then I ask again later on & she's usually changed her mind by then. I'm not sure if that'll work for you, but it works for me. Try it.

I'm 16. Every time I go out, all the kids I see look chubby or overweight. I haven't seen a "healthy" looking kid in a long time. When I was younger, I remember that most kids were average weight.. but now.. it's changed. Is it because their parents don't care enough to give them a proper diet or what? Did computers/video games take over little kids?

Here are possible reasons why kids are overweight:

- Parents don't have time to cook & make a good meal, so they order out or leave their kids money to eat whatever they want.

- It's hereditary. It can be in your genes to be overweight, so some people actually cannot help it, & it's hard for them to lose weight.

- Some people don't really care for their looks & are happy with who they are. And again, it really is who you are that matters, not how you look. Looks are nice to have, but they're not everything. :)

- New technology has come out & it's a lot easier to use that technology than to actually get up & do the exercise. Some kids aren't motivated enough to exercise.

It's just a lot easier to sit around & be lazy than it is to run around & exercise. It's not just parents sometimes, so you can't blame them. But if these kids don't wanna take care of themselves, then that's their problem & you shouldn't bring it upon yourself to make it your business. People are going to be overweight. Oh well!

is it true that zac efron is homosexual? i heard it from this advice columinist but i think hes lying cuz zac is pretty hot

second question: what do you do to get discovered... acting singing [maybe modeling?]

i really wannt to be a celebrity someday

13/f

No. He's actually dating Vanessa Hudgens. And so what if he's hot? Looking good has nothing to do with your sexuality. There are ugly gay guys, and ugly straight guys. There's also hot straight guys & hot gay guys..What you look like has nothing to do with whether you like men or women.

And you would get an agent if you wanna get something. But to get an agent, you have to have talent. If you have no talent - pick a new career plan.

I agree with Matt. If you want more than one question answered, post more than one question seperately. Asking more than one question per post isn't allowed & if you keep doing it, you can get banned. :)

Do you know where to get random/love icon's for myspace?

I use www.createblog.com

They have icons, layouts, html help, etc.

Made is coming to my town. What are some cool things to be made into? I can't think of anything even though there are alot of things I would like to try. But for sure cannot think of anything super amazing, y'know? What would you like to see someone be made into? Haha. Thanks.

If I had to choose, I'd like to be made into a:

- Marine.
- Surfer.
- Skateboarder.
- Snowboarder.
- Football Player.
- Boxer.
- Novelist.
- Actress.
- Cute Girl.

I'm a girl, and I realize some of those things I listed are considered "manly" but I'd like to try them out.

15/f
my friend sam, said she didnt like this one girl. and i mean i did, but like i guess she didnt think i did or something, because she was like ew no i hate her shes so weird. and i was like ok. but then i was reading what sam said to her on her myspace..

oh my god i got your message. and omg im sorry i cant hang out tongiht i could only hang out during the day cuase i have cheer tongiht and what about tomrorow we need to before i leaveeee. and OMG =( i just did something and oh my gosh call me noww!!talk to you later hun.

YESSSSSS. PLEASE. I NEED TO HANG OUT., Its Eight in the morning and my mom woke me up and im depressed. LITURALLY depressed. Ill explain why later. BUt yeah lets hang out today? call my cell. when you get this or wake up . Oh my god! =(

like.. wtf? theres a ton more like that too. she never leaves me comments like that? i dont think im jealous. im just confused.

whats up with her?

I realize it said on my column that I was done with this site...but I'm so tempted that I HAVE to give in.

HELLOOOOO!? YOUR FRIEND IS TWO FACED. She says she doesn't like this girl, yet turns around & leaves her comments that she doesn't even leave you.

Ditch her! She's a horrible person, and she's obviously a two-faced backstabbing little whore. I realize that's probably mean, but hell - look what she's doing. She's not worth your time - so end it.

i'm a 16 year old male and i'm looking to switch my style up for the next year.for as long as i can remember i've always stuck with stuff like band shirts and various skater clothes with jeans...that gets kind of old.what can i wear that's like that but a little more exciting.i'm kind of looking for shirts that have designs all over them instead of just a little something on the front or whatever but i can't find any.

You can find those types of shirts at American Eagle, Hollister, Pac Sun, Zumies & A&F. They might be a little expensive, but it's definitely worth it because they've got a lot of cute stuff.

My boyfriend, i started going out with him yesterday. And i dont like him at all and hes been saying he likes me alot and he thought i would never say yes to him because im to good for him but i said yes and i hes weird i dont like him and i know im sounding rude and all but hes like a band freak and is weird and stuff and hes a nerd but i know im sounding rude and all i kinda liked him at first but hes really weird and i gave him a chance i mostly judge on personality but on looks to and like i wanna dump him but i dont wanna hurt his feelings and i dont wanna be rude and all and i cant belive i said yes to him and i like alot of other people and stuff but i dont know how to tell him and stuff i dont wanna be rude what should do
nd i dont like him at all but its making me sad he likes me alot so what should i do stay with him or what???

You're REALLY, REALLY shallow. If you're going to judge someone because of what clique they're in or because they're nerdy, then that's shallow & bitchy & inconsiderate. You're not too good for him; it's the other way around. He's too good for you.

If you didn't like him, you should've just told him that you didn't see him that way instead of saying yes & leading him on. Yes, looks matter, but so does personality & just because he's not considered "cool" doesn't mean he's not a nice guy.

...Wow. I hate people like you.

okay so the other night, i met up with my new boyfriend at this elementary school thats close to our house to just hang out. my younger sis came, and two of his friends and mine that i knew from 7th grade ( we're all in 11th now) were there too. now its been since june that ive seen him because he was in nc with his sister, staying with his dad for a large portion of the summer since his parents are divorced.
so my sis and i were there and my boyfriend is in the middle of giving me a hug when we see my dads car pull up. he gets out and its soo obvious he was mad.
so my sister and i get home, and my dad lectures me telling me that i should call and tell him who i hang out with. and he was also bugged about how my boyfriend "had his paws on me"
My mom gets home from work that night and the first thing she did was come in my room and ask for my cell phone. i give it to her because i knew she would look at it to see if there were any from him.
later that night, she was saying how she doesnt want me hanging out with scum like him. she assumes that since his friend isnt big into education like we are that my boyfriend is the same.
she is finding every possible reason for herself to not like him. since im going into a better private school that costs well over 10 grand, she believes he's going to "distract" me from getting good grades.
yesterday she was mentioning how i should date people who have money and are close with their family. this really made me angry because back when my mom and dad were dating, my dad couldnt afford much and he was not close with his family.
shes basicaly told me she doesnt want me to see him. my boyfriend and i have known each other since 7th grade but we've been talking for about a year and before he left for NC we were quite close and we have strong feelings for each other. we've both decided to fight through all this.
I justt need help with how i can convince my mom to allow me to hang out with him?
has this happened to you before? what did you do?
thanks very much.

To tell you the truth, your mother has made up her mind about your boyfriend, and it'll be fairly hard to get her to change it.

The most I can suggest to you right now is for you to talk to her & convince her to meet him & his family. Once she meets them & realizes that they're not the scum she labeled them to be, she may ease up & let you see him.

If that doesn't work, you can have them talk one on one & see what happens. If she still has her mind made up that he's a scumbag & he's no good, then you should respect your mothers wishes & stop dating him. But once you turn 18, date who you wish. Stay friends with him though because the feelings you have may not go away.

Good luck!

School's coming up within the next week and I do not want to see anyone. I feel like I've gotten more bitter over the summer...like all the joy and excitement of seeing my old friends have flushed away. All summer long, those myspace comments, "We miss you so much Claire!"..., "We have to hang out!" What about those yearbook signings? "Claire, we are SOOO hanging out this summer!" Guess what. Not one phone call. Nothing. NO INVITES. I feel betrayed and so out of the circle. I see pictures of them hanging out and laughing on myspace/facebook. It's like they're rubbing it in that I'm not with them or something. Is it wrong of me to feel bitter towards each and every one of them? I didn't see any of my "friends" this summer...Oh except, I did run into two of them at the grocery store once. I've been lonely all summer..and when school starts again, I'm going to see them, and my hurt will show. How can I react to them when I see them. All those fake "Awww, Claire, we missed you SO much!!" Well, if you missed me that much, why didn't you ever ask me to hang out with everyone throughout the summer? Any words of advice?

I personally think [and this is only my opinion], that it's wrong of you to blame them. Friendship is a two-way street. They shouldn't be the only ones who have to put effort into the relationship. You have to give & take a little as well.

They may not have called you; but did you call them? If you made no effort either, you're no better than them & should not place all the blame & guilt on their shoulders. You have the right to be upset, but not enough to talk shit & call them fake & say that you're bitter towards them. Just accept what happened & move on. Shit happens. If you wanted to hang out; they were a phone call away. Both of you have the blame.

So if you're 18 then you'll be really helpful. So did people come into your lives??? and did they change it?

I agree with the person below me. I've had a lot of deaths in my life, and a lot of friendships lost & gained. My boyfriend just recently died in Iraq, and I've known him since I was 12. I'll be 17 in February.

You don't have to be 18 to have people come into your life & impact you and make some sort of change. When I met my boyfriend, I was 12 & over the years, he's made the hugest imprint into my life, and it'll never fade. Although he's gone now, and I don't have him anymore, he's still my boyfriend & he's still taught me a lot. He's the reason why I am who I am today. Before I met him, I was stupid. I didn't know shit about life, and I thought everything I did was right.

However, he changed that. He made me see that I make mistakes & that everyone does too & no one is perfect. He told me perfection doesn't exist...however, to me it does. He was perfection in my eyes; and he still is.

So, people can come into your life at any age & impact you the way they would if you were younger or older. Be thankful for the people you've got in your life; realize your mistakes; laugh until your stomach hurts & tears roll down your cheeks & live like you're dying tomorrow. Everyone's going to come in & come out; but true, special people are what make you.

what are some cute quotes from the show The Hills?

Go to www.wittyprofiles.com & click on Famous.

It has quotes from The Hills.

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