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ugh. my parents think im some good girl who knows nothing but i do a lot behind their back and im proud of it. but they make me so mad because they dont let me do things that other kids get to do. ive talked to them about it but they just say ill thank them when i get older. so im always trying to go to friends houses casue their parents let us go out. but what can i do to stop being so mad at them or to make them let me go out more?
15/f btw.
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i know exactly how you feel. you have to let them trust you completely and they will gradually start letting go some. when you want to go out somewhere tell them all the information you know about it and tell them to think about it but give them time and im sure they will come through. remember: your only born with one set of real parents so be thankful that you have them in your life. good luck!
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first off i know what your going through. just about exactly. i'm fifteen too. my mom used to be majorly overprotective. not sure what made her back off, but she did. i think she just realized i'm growing up. parents are going to be protective. it just means they love you. i know that's cheesy, but it's true. it doesn't make them right. you're growing up, and they need to realize it. from the sounds of it, you manage to do the things you really want to do. there's not a whole lot you can do about them being overprotective. they need to come to grips with that on their own. until they do, they're going to keep treating you like you're three. the only advice i can give you is to try and keep your life going as honestly as you can, though that can be fairly difficult at times
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Take it from someone who is losing things everyday; you NEED to listen to your parents & appreciate their rules. The rules may piss you off, but they're there for a reason & you need to accept them.
Your parents may not want you to go out because pedophiles are increasing & it's very easy for someone to just snatch you. You think people are your friends until something dangerous happens - then they ditch you. Not all people are like this, but it's a worry. Back when our parents were kids, pedophiles were sort of like a secret. Nobody really knew about them because people were ashamed of the truth. It's not like that anymore.
I think you need to sit down with your parents again & discuss the situation at hand. I'm not sure how previous conversations have went, but if you were getting an attitude & getting whiny - of course nothing is going to change. If they tell you no, say "Alright, I understand." & take it & walk away. If you're mature about things, they may begin to ease up & give you some freedom. They might say yes & they might say no, but you've got to accept it either way. Life isn't perfect.
But honestly, accept the rules your parents place. They give them to you for a reason. It's to keep structure in the household & the relationship, & to keep your safety in tact. They don't do it because they hate you & want you miserable. They do it because they love you & don't want anything to happen to you. I'm 16, I'll be 17 in February, and I still don't do the things I wanna do. My mother tells me no all the time, and I ask why. She gives me a good reason & I leave it alone. Then I ask again later on & she's usually changed her mind by then. I'm not sure if that'll work for you, but it works for me. Try it.
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I know your parents make you angry at times, because you don't always get to do what you want to do. However, you only have one real mom, and one real dad. So it's best to try to make the absolute best of it, because I know how hard it is without a parent. I lost my dad and I'm the same age as you are, and believe me, it's a feeling unlike any other.
So my advice to you is to try to make things work out. Talk to your parents, let them know how you're feeling (in a calm manor), and try to go about it that way. I think the key is responsibility in this case, try to prove to them that you're responsible enough to be able to go out more often. That you're trustworthy.
Although, this may still not work. Especially, if you're like me. My mom and step dad won't let me stay out later than my curfew (9 PM) unless it's a special occasion, though if I talk to them about it, they usually let me go. So I think you should try what I suggested, and I think things just may turn around for you. Good luck!
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