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Hi, I'm Brittney, I'm a junior in college. don't ever feel hesitant to ask me a question, I will never judge you. Be completely honest and I will give you the best answer I can give, 100% of the time. A fun fact about me- I'm a triplet!

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This is weird, but something Ive always wondered about. Ive kissed and made out with plenty of guys, but usually no longer than like five minutes. I hear about people making out for like hours and stuff. Seems like you would run out of breath and stuff. Is that an exaggeration? Doesnt it get boring? Maybe its just me, but I dont get it.

I guess it really depends on the mutual agreement and type of person. Personally, I would not typically be the one to make out for "hours" on end, but I have also heard that some people can in fact make out for a surprisingly long time. :-) hope I helped

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I HAD a problem. since i was 12 i started cutting. I dont know how to explain it to people that dont do it becuase its something you have to have gone through to understand. its like a drug i was addicted for 4 1/2 years, slowly killing myself. anyway everyone found out and i had to stop.
the question is like what am i supposed to replace it with. Ive tryed running writing (which is my passion) and everything in between. I just need some good advice as how to stop.
Please help, anything will be appreciated.

I am not going to pretend I know everything about cutting. But I do understand what you mean when you say that nobody would understand unless they too are cutting themselves. I still want to help you, so I got you some websites to visit, that I think can really help you. :-) Let me know if this helps

http://www.wikihow.com/Stop-Cutting-Yourself

http://www.ehow.com/how_2156667_stop-cutting-yourself.html

http://www.palace.net/~llama/psych/self.html

^This website in my opinion is my favorite. I think it will help you the best because it has different things you can do in different situations, and different types of cravings you get. You will understand once you look at it. :-)

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17/f

Is it possible to build a worthwhile relationship with a "ladies' man?" What typically goes wrong with this type of guy? He seems to know all of the right things to say and do but sometimes doesn't seem genuine. Thanks!

In my opinion, looks can be deceiving sometimes. If you like the guy for his personality, and not his rep, then I say give it a try. Try not to judge or stereotype him right off the bat, hey you never know. :-) It could be your future husband you are looking at.

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Where can I get this dress
http://www.rissyroos.com/products/Sherri_Hill_br_Style_1050-3765-5.html

for like 10times cheaperr?!

I couldnt find anything on the dress that is cheaper, but I found the site that gives you coupons and saves you 10% on any dress. here it is :-) :

http://www.fabuloussavings.com/online/us/edressme_dresses/1/sherrihill/


and here are some more coupons:

http://www.tjoos.com/Tag/18569/Prom-Online-Stores/

sorry if this wasnt exactaly what you were looking for, but I tried my hardest. Good luck!

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Recently at school I got really hot, stressed and anxious at the same time and I got red from my chest all the way up to my face. It wasn't hard to breathe and I didn't pass out or anything. I just don't know what happened, and someone told me I might have high blood pressure or had an anxiety/panic attack. Has this happened to anyone or does anyone know what it could be?

That happens to me too, its when you have so many emotions running through you at the same time, and they are not good emotions i guess you can say. It could be that you have high blood pressure, but mostlikely you just got really upset at that moment. When that happens to me, the heat you feel is because your body is heating up (your blood is too) and your blood rushes up to your head making you feel hot, (light headed) and you can very likely get sweaty. This also happens as a way of having your body try to calm down, so next time this happens, no matter what the situation is, just take a second, and recollect yourself :-) everyone deserves a break once in a while :-)

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Uhm,

What is the difference between being stressed and being overwhelmed??


Thank you!

first off, when your stressed, thats never a good thing. But when you are overwhelmed, you can be overwhelmed with joy. Being stressed just means your really frusterated and have too much to handle all at once. Being overwhelmed just means you are come by or overcome by something, which could be happiness or joy or sadness or anger. (usually being overwhelmed is sudden, and refers to in the spur of the moment, as aposed to stressed which is usually meaning a long period of time.)
Hope i helped!!!

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So basically, I've been asked to study my Learner's book because i want to get my licence as soon as possible, but when it comes to studying Im not good at memorizing stuff unless Im really interested in it, and well, Information about giving way and whatnot just doesn't interest me and if i feel pressured to pass the test, I will have a panic attack pretty much. My mind tends to go off into another direction when im trying to focus reading so im veryy easily distracted. Does anyone know a special way to study and remember informationn?

okay wow I can relate to this question so much! I completely understand, I got so scared for my drivers test that I cried for like 20 minutes! To help with my distractions, I limit myself to how much music I listen to before the test so that it doesnt get stuck in my head. Also, while your studying, you may think you are learning the information, but to know for sure, test yourself and cover all of your answers. If you dont know the answer, then look at the answer, and cover it up again and repeat the question and answer to yourself trust me it works! Another thing I do, is say when you want to go get a snack or watch tv. Set a goal for yourself, say to yourself that you cant watch tv until you study for this long, or until you know this many things. Try not to study on a couch or in bed, I do that alot haha and I ALWAYS fall asleep. Thats another problem, I tend to get bored. If you do too, just get up and take a stretch or something. That could also be a good time to quiz yourself. If you find that you are just reading things without actually listening to what you are reading, I will read it again (out loud but quietly) and then ask myself what I just read. If I know then I continue, if I dont then I read it over again and that will help you focus the next time around.
Good Luck!!! let me know how this goes for you! Im glad I found this question, I can relate to this so much! :-)

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Thank you so much. That definitely helped but there is one problem that I am having trouble with- he is my teacher. I know it sounds disgusting or immature but it is just a weird feeling. I feel like he is interested too but at the same time something is telling me he would never risk his career for a high school girl. I also know it is very illegal which is why I would never tell him how I feel. I just can't help it.. I don't know how to get over it. I honestly don't think I will. I am even more afraid to show how I feel because I want him to know but at the same time I don't because I don't want him to stop talking to me.

That is a tricky situation, it would help if I knew the age difference, but thats okay. For example, it would be completely different if you were say an 11 year old and you like a 32 year old teacher. (thats a bit dramatic) but I think you get the point. I hate to be the downer in situations, but I am going to tell you the truth. There are a couple of possible outcomes here:
*you guys illegally do something (which I do NOT recomend at all!) :-)
*you wait until it is legal
*nothing will happen
I know its difficult for you, and you think that you will never forget, but trust me you will. Actually, I take that back, you will never forget, but you WILL move on. The thing is, nobody forgets, I still dont forget the first time I liked someone, and chances are you will never either, but thats part of life. Accepting can be a difficult thing to deal with, but before you know it something amazing will step into your life, and you will be happy again. Having him as your teacher is going to make it a little harder to move on because you see him everyday, but dont let that stop you. I think you need to take some time to yourself and just think :-) All of us here on advicenators can help you, but nobody can tell you what to do, I know that you will find the right thing to do, you seem like a pretty intelligent person. :-)

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So there is this guy I have known for a few months now, he is older, but age doesn't really make a difference to me. I haven't really felt this way before about anyone. We have so much in common that we just sit and talk for hours every day. At first he was a little apprehensive, but now I feel like he really opens up to me. I do the same. I just get butterflies every time I'm around him. Even when I'm not with him I'm constantly thinking about him and things that he says to me and it just makes me smile. I even get butterflies when I think about him. I'm not sure if maybe I'm just infatuated with him or if it is really love. For the most part, he is usually the one to initiate the conversation and it seems like he asks questions to get to know me better. He always chooses to sit next to me and sometimes when he talks he gets really close to my face and he always looks me straight in the eye. A few times when I was really upset he tried to be there for me. It seems like I have somewhat "loosened" him up and changed him a little bit. It also seems like he is constantly saying things just to make me laugh. Whenever I ask for something, he is always there to help/gets it for me right away. I feel like I can relate to him so well.. but I just don't know if it would ever work out if we did end up persuing something. I also feel like if I ask him if he's interested I will look like a complete idiot and he won't ever talk to me again.

Based off of what you are saying, it seems like this guy really likes you. I would keep taking things slow for now, if you like him too then flirt back with him, show him that you like him too. For starters, if you want to try to have a relationship with him, ask him to hang out with you. As for not knowing if it would work out or not, everytime you get in a relationship with someone, that question will always be there. How will you know if it will work if you dont go for it? You only live once right? I remember I felt the same way as you did, and I had a similar situation. The guy was sooo nice to me, and when we started going out it didnt work because he changed. But that happened to me again, 9 months ago and now I am in a great relationship with a boy that I wasnt sure would work out with me or not. Did I explain that correctly? I was trying to say that not everything is going to work out the first time, but thats okay. Thats how we learn, just take life one step at a time. Maybe he wants to be re-assured that you like him too, guys are very mis-understood sometimes. Alot of times us girls think that a guy asks a girl out, and she automatically says yes, no problem, but thats not case at all. Guys actually need closure, and are in fact scared of what might happen, and their biggest fear is in fact rejection. By asking him to hang out (maybe just the two of you if you are comfortable) it will show him that you are into him as well, and you can both get to know each other better to see if there is any chemistry.
Thank you for the inbox! I really hope I helped, if you have any other questions or comments at all, never feel hesitant to ask me. Let me know how this works out for you! And I hope you gained something from my advice :-)

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Ok so I might be going to the movies with tis guy I really like
All my friends say he likes me
I denie it. But KINDA think the same thing
Im kinda on the chub side & I think Im unattractive
But thats off topic;
In case he DOES like me
Im afriad he might kiss me
I want to kiss him
But first kiss = I have KNOW idea what to do
How to move my lips
Just. Im clueless with the WHOLE thing

Help?
Links to websites and bideos would be LOVED

I was freaking out just like you for my first kiss, and to be honest, you shouldnt be :-) it will just kind of happen in a way.

here are some websites i found for you:

http://ezinearticles.com/?Simple-First-Kiss-Tips:--Easy-To-Learn-First-Kiss-Tips-For-Teenagers-and-Men-and-Women-Of-All-Ages&id=436975

http://howtokiss.info/

http://www.partyhearty.com/kissingadvice.html

http://www.how-to-kiss.net/first-kiss.php

i looked over these websites, they are all really good and PACKED with step by step info! Good luck! let me know how the kiss goes if it happens!!!!!

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this is kind of a weird question and maybe it isnt even possible, i wouldnt know. but is there any natural ways to make my boobs bigger. i know thats a really awkward thing to ask but i feel like mine have gotten smaller or something..i dont even know. thanks for your help

This is wierd, but everyone tells me that eating corn makes them bigger...too bad im not a fan of corn! :-)

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hi(: well my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 5 months and I love him dearly

I had the same problem as you! here is what i did:

get my name around to babysit (put adds up too)

mow lawns

shovel snow

garage sale

raking leaves

cleaning rooms in houses (vaccuming)

walking dogs

watching pets

help make grocery runs for the neighbors (they can give you a tip)

try to apply for a small part time job if you can, that will get you through enough of your time to get him a gift! :-) and happy 5 months thats adorable!

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I want a chia pet in the form of an elephant...Is it possible to grow it in a school locker?
haha, i want it at school...cuz i'm there most. :)

thanks!
:D

I did a little research for you, and it sounds like the chia pet needs sunlight in order to grow, so it may not work as well as planned. But maybe you can grow it at your house first and then bring it into your school :-) I listed some websites about chia plants for you in case you wanted to take a look :-) Good luck, hope I helped!

http://www.wikihow.com/Grow-a-Chia-Pet

heres a place to buy the elephant if you dont already have one:

http://www.asseenontvguys.com/index.asp?PageAction=VIEWPROD&ProdID=385

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this guytold me he liked me and i told him i did too. then over winter break he didn't talk to me at all, then IMed me saying ... "im bored" and i told him i was mad at him and he asked me why, but before i could answer he said, actualy don't. and then said something like, "do i still like you. yes." and then signed off. now i check facebook and hes in a relationship with his ex grildfriend. and her status is ... [his name]

Let me just say first off that you have the right to be mad. It seems like either this guy wants to

*make you jealous
*make you go CRAZYY over him
*be a HUGE jerk

i know its really hard, but try to ignore him (for right now.) If he sees you honestly dont care, then he will want you. But by saying you are mad at him only makes him realize and think that you are the one chasing after him. If you are going to have a conversation with him, at this point, i would do it in person. Just dont put up with any of the B.S that could potentially be thrown your way. You deserve wayyyy better than to be treated as a left over.

Good luck, please let me know how this goes for you! If you need anymore advice or anything at all, go to my advice column xosodapopx3 and you can inbox me there! :-)

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I have been dating my boyfriend for almost two years. His dad is a golf pro and where he is located he isnt getting paid very well. Therefor his dad has been sending applications tryin to get a job somewhere else. His dad is in his mid to late fifty's. I want to prepare myself for the chances of him gettin a job and moving. Does anyone out there know the chances of his dad getting a new job within the next two years? Im a sophomore now so after two years it wont matter because we will be in college. Also does anyone have any ideas of how we could stay together if he moved.

Ps: please dont say were just 16 it doesnt matter.
Real advice only

Thank you so much
Maria

I wouldnt worry about his dad moving yet, just enjoy the time you have together. Mostlikely, his dad could find another job soon, but considering his age and financial issues and what not, it might be a smarter decision for them all to stay here so dont worry! :-) If by the off chance he does move, I would suggest getting a webcam (if you dont already have one) so you can video chat with your boyfriend and see him live. Its tough when someone you really care for moves, but if you are really committed, it can work. Also, make really early plans to see each other over break or the summer. Maybe he can stay with you for a couple weeks? or vice versa. The reason i say plan really early is so that first of all you are organized, and second of all so you guys never stop thinking about how excited you both are to see each other. Also, call him alot, and update him on everthing that is going on in your life (have him do the same)
Good Luck! I really hope I helped, I know you are in a sticky situation, but as they say "When life gives you lemons, make lemonade."

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Okay. Well , I have like absolutly NO arm muscle.
I can do like half a push up. && when I flex its like no muscle what so ever? How do I qet some biceps && triceps? Pleeasee && thankyou.

I would definetly start eating extra vegetables, and drink extra milk, and eat more meat :-) but as for exercises, i like dumbells, and I also got this new thing (its like 20 dollars at dick's sporting goods) and it fits on your doorway (you dont have to nail it in or anything, and it doesnt need assembly or damage your door whatsoever) and you can actually do pull ups on it. and trust me, this works! I have been playing volleyball for 2 or 3 years now, working my muscles all the time and I got a little sore after I did 3!!! (when your muscles are sore that to me means they are growing haha) also, start taking some vitamins, and stick with the daily pushups (even though they may not seem effective yet, soon you will develope the ability to actually do a push up, and then gradually over time be able to do more and more) its also good to go to the park and even though this sounds childish- use the monkey bars, that will definetly help you. or if you go to a gymnist class, they can make you climb ropes and latters etc. Good Luck! hope I helped! ps, also take some nutrition bars and protein bars and power bars to help you boost up! :-)

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I'm writing an essay in English concerning the different life styles of teenagers in high school. If you guys could answer a few questions just to give me a few ideas, I'd totally appreciate it. :)

1. What kind of things do you do? (Sports, clubs etc.)

2. Do you have 1 best friend that you spend a lot of time with or a group of friends you spend all your time with?

3. Does your school have lockers outside? Anything cool about your school-block schedule? Stuff like that.

4. Are drugs and drinking big concerns at your school?

5. Finally, is your high school life fun? Do you spend most of your time studying or hanging out with friends? Do you go out with friends every weekend? What kind of stuff do you do?

You can answer some or all of the questions, I'm just trying to get a few different ideas. Thanks!

1. I used to play softball, soccer, and basketball, but now I play volleyball. and only volleyball...all year around (thats because of club) But I also do some charity work when I have the time

2. I pretty much have one best friend that I primarily hang out with, but I hang out with a group of friends that usually doesnt include her because she doesnt hang out with my other friends.

3. No my school doeesnt have lockers outside, but we do have block scheduling...I SIT ON THE FLOOR because there are just too many people in our school. But we do get pizza that is from pizza palace, and subway, and cluck-you, and chineese food that is to die for.

4. LITTERALLY pretty much 99.8% of our school has a drinking problem, less drugs, but thats very common too. Which is why I mostly dont hang out with alot of people in my school, if you dont drink or do drugs, you are an outkast.

5. I hate high school to be very honest. I used to like it, but it really sucks. Like I said, Im not into drinking or doing drugs, so I get ridiculed and not invited to alot of parties. But this is also a result of the fact that my parents are really strict (very nice) but strict, if they ever found out i so much had a beer, they would probably kill me... Overall yes I do hang out with friends every weekend, and dont get me wrong if i sound like a "geek" I am definetly not, I have tons of friends, and I am ALWAYS busy. I also have a boyfriend, but I make sure he doesnt drink either, so long as hes together with me as bf and gf :-) hope I helped with your work!
:-)

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i love wearing lipgloss when im around my bf cuz it makes my lips look fuller but then when he kisses me it gets all over his lips too and thats just weird lol is there any lipgloss that you know of that will stay on my lips? haha thanks in advance

I had the same problem haha :-)
Now I have nivia, it gives me a little shine. But also, nivia has some nice lip gloss that is supposed to stay on your lips when you kiss someone, I havent personally tried it, but my friends say it works. Also, soft lips (which is more of a balm) has some color ones now that give your lips both shimmer, color and shine (I use it, and love it!)

I also found you a website with a person that has the same question, and people gave her a BUNCH of answers.

http://ph.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20070906121222AAvhLrv

Good Luck!!!

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Yeah so the title says it all! :] So im not looking for movies like cats fighting against dogs [but if you cant find anything else thats fine]. an example of an all cat movie is the aristocats! [not sure if i spelled that right...lol] thanks!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Well I know of Cats vs Dogs, but thats about it haha. :-) So I found you some websites that have the movies about cats listed.

http://cats.about.com/od/giftsforcatlovers/tp/catmovies.htm

^This website is the top 5 movies about cats. (Shows the cover of the movie, and the title and more)

http://cats.about.com/b/2003/07/20/tv-guides-top-10-cat-movies.htm

^This site lists all the top 10 movies about cats

Hope I helped! So in total you have 15 or more movies about cats :-) Good Luck!

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15/F
Over the winter holidays, I've watched almost the entire four seasons of MTVs The Hills.
My life used to be so depressing and dramatic and there was so much to worry about all the time. But sometime this school year, I don't even know at which point, it all...stopped. Dead in its tracks. So now things are boring.
I think I like watching The Hills so much because it makes up for my lack of a social life at the moment. I mean, I have friends and we have fun, but there's nothing to THINK about anymore. Instead of staying up all night wondering what if, I mostly just sit there.
I don't WANT drama, at all. I actually don't know what I want :[

In the mean time, any shows you recommend? And is The Hills having another season or is it straight-up done?
Thanks.

Well, I know that The Hills might be done, but theres the new Bromance that just came out with Brodi Gener, and Whitnie from the hills is actually having her own reality show coming out too. And there is the real world Brooklin coming out. But also, weekly its fun to watch sitcoms or ongoing series shows such as Lost, Gossip Girl, American Life of Teenager, Grey's anatimy etc..

But to be very honest, I think you need to take a weekend day (like saturday) and do something exciting. I know there might not be much to do, but maybe you could go roller blading, ice skating, bowling, shopping, go see a movie, pull an all nighter with a friend, throw a party, have a movie day with your friends and watch movies all day! Or, depending on where you live, maybe you could travel just a little bit (by car of course) I live by NYC so it would be really exciting and not an everyday thing for me to go to NYC, but that depends on where you live.

I know how you feel, because I seriously felt the same way a little while ago. Trust me, you may not want to, but litterally force yourself to hang out with friends, you will have a BLAST! Just trust me :-) ps. maybe you want to go to a game that your school's team is playing with your friend (like ice hockey or go watch a volleyball game or something) thats always fun :-)

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