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Is he really interested? Is this really love?
So there is this guy I have known for a few months now, he is older, but age doesn't really make a difference to me. I haven't really felt this way before about anyone. We have so much in common that we just sit and talk for hours every day. At first he was a little apprehensive, but now I feel like he really opens up to me. I do the same. I just get butterflies every time I'm around him. Even when I'm not with him I'm constantly thinking about him and things that he says to me and it just makes me smile. I even get butterflies when I think about him. I'm not sure if maybe I'm just infatuated with him or if it is really love. For the most part, he is usually the one to initiate the conversation and it seems like he asks questions to get to know me better. He always chooses to sit next to me and sometimes when he talks he gets really close to my face and he always looks me straight in the eye. A few times when I was really upset he tried to be there for me. It seems like I have somewhat "loosened" him up and changed him a little bit. It also seems like he is constantly saying things just to make me laugh. Whenever I ask for something, he is always there to help/gets it for me right away. I feel like I can relate to him so well.. but I just don't know if it would ever work out if we did end up persuing something. I also feel like if I ask him if he's interested I will look like a complete idiot and he won't ever talk to me again.
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Based off of what you are saying, it seems like this guy really likes you. I would keep taking things slow for now, if you like him too then flirt back with him, show him that you like him too. For starters, if you want to try to have a relationship with him, ask him to hang out with you. As for not knowing if it would work out or not, everytime you get in a relationship with someone, that question will always be there. How will you know if it will work if you dont go for it? You only live once right? I remember I felt the same way as you did, and I had a similar situation. The guy was sooo nice to me, and when we started going out it didnt work because he changed. But that happened to me again, 9 months ago and now I am in a great relationship with a boy that I wasnt sure would work out with me or not. Did I explain that correctly? I was trying to say that not everything is going to work out the first time, but thats okay. Thats how we learn, just take life one step at a time. Maybe he wants to be re-assured that you like him too, guys are very mis-understood sometimes. Alot of times us girls think that a guy asks a girl out, and she automatically says yes, no problem, but thats not case at all. Guys actually need closure, and are in fact scared of what might happen, and their biggest fear is in fact rejection. By asking him to hang out (maybe just the two of you if you are comfortable) it will show him that you are into him as well, and you can both get to know each other better to see if there is any chemistry.
Thank you for the inbox! I really hope I helped, if you have any other questions or comments at all, never feel hesitant to ask me. Let me know how this works out for you! And I hope you gained something from my advice :-)
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