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The Ladies' Man
17/f
Is it possible to build a worthwhile relationship with a "ladies' man?" What typically goes wrong with this type of guy? He seems to know all of the right things to say and do but sometimes doesn't seem genuine. Thanks!
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My point of view, VERY POSSIBLE and intersting.
Go for it, you;ll experience and mix it up.
Good Luck
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Now this is a fun question.
Is it possible? Yes, it is.
You could call me a ladies man. I know how to talk with and interact with women, and have somehow always been absent that self consciousness that so many people suffer from around the opposite sex.
I know what to say, how to say it, and how to act to get what I want. The worst part about it is that I'm incredibly good at it, to the point that I never seem fake because I can deliver the entire presentation unflinchingly and without a single hole or slip.
It took a girl intelligent enough to see through the bullshit and force me to drop it for something to work. I've had alot of girls come and go before this one because... well honestly because it was too easy. I had complete and utter control over the relationship without even trying, because I knew how to act to get whatever I wanted. I'm not a cheater, more a serial monogamist. I'd lose interest and move on pretty quickly.
My current girl though, is a match for me. Been together 4 years, and she knows me inside and out to the point that she sometimes reacts unconsciously to things she knows I'm going to do.
The trick to it, is showing him that you can see through his bullshit while not making him think you think less of him for it. In truth, all of this is a defensive mechanism. I have an intense fear of failure and rejection, so I spent years refining myself, my knowledge, and techniques so that I'd not have to fail in this area ever again.
I built a wall around myself because I was afraid that who I actually was wasn't good enough. I didn't want to fail, so I did what worked, even if it didn't lead me into a single relationship that was actually worthwhile. Its funny, all my best experiences with girls fell into my lap, while every relationship I've purposefully pursued has fallen apart.
Pay attention to him. Find out where he's bullshitting, blow his act wide open, and let him know that you like him anyway. Getting a guy like this to open up is a LONG process, but hopefully underneath theres a decent guy you can drag back out into the sunlight.
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In my opinion, looks can be deceiving sometimes. If you like the guy for his personality, and not his rep, then I say give it a try. Try not to judge or stereotype him right off the bat, hey you never know. :-) It could be your future husband you are looking at.
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Fake things AREN'T genuine. Ladies men aren't on the same page as ladies. While your trying to have a relationship, they are too. With you and three other girls. Those kind of people are afraid of commitment. Not saying it will always be that way, but at our age, it is. I'm 17/f, too :) haha
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Of COURSE it's possible! ANYTHING'S possible! Sure his..."knowledge"...may seem a little too perfect, but you have no reason not to trust him yet, do you? If you do, then be careful. There's nothing worse then knowing you didn't trust him but let him blind side you. But if he hasn't given you a reason not to trust him yet, then go for it. Good luck!!!
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It is possible, if he is a player you have to lay down some rules though or he will play you. All the girls will be after him so watch out. He knows just what to say because he is a ladies man and he has been with a lot of girls and he knows what you want to hear. So just be really careful and don't fall to fast or you might get hurt. Hope i could help =]
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Well a ladies man is exactly what you describe.. knows how to sway the ladies with his words.. What typically goes wrong with this type of guy? He might be super confident with himself (which is not bad but over the top is) that he will most likely flirt with other girls, talk and get close and friendly with em, possibly, if he's into it, go out with other girls behind your back... It is possible building a relationship with a ladies man, and yes, people can change, but I would keep an eye on him, things don't change so quickly. be careful =]
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Well, if he dosn't seem genuine then don't even bother! They tend to be full of them self and put others on the back burner. It is possible to have a good relationship but it is hard. Remember you wanted to be treated like a queen not a maid. If you know what I mean. Good Luck!
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