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Hi. I left and came back. But I don't like this column anymore. Check out my new column.

http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=thefish

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I love my boyfriend more than anything in the world. I'm only 16 so I can't really take him out anywhere ( i dont have my liscense and neither does he). Besides giving him head, letting him finger me, and making out .. what other things could I do for him? Like cutesy things?

There are many, many things you can do with your boyfriend.

You can talk. You can play Monopoly. You can watch Avatar: The Last Airbender.

If you haven't seen Avatar, you don't know what you're missing. In the last episode, there were these things called turtleducks, which as you can imagine, are half turtle, half duck. You want something cutesy? There you go. Everybody I've spoken to (who saw the episode) agrees that they are the CUTEST THINGS EVER.

Trust me, Avatar is perfect for couples. You can debate over what you think is going to happen next, or what relationships are better. Your boyfriend will love the fighting, and you will love the humor. Or the other way around. But it's not just fighting and humor! It has a beautiful, emotional plot! You can curl up under the covers and eat homemade cookies together and watch it all night long. Seriously, it's wonderful.

I want to know the rules of nude beach. At what age people can visit nude beach. is any one allowed or only couples or families are allowed. Are there the nude beaches for families only. Are the children below 12 are allowed to visit nude beaches. Please reply.

Anybody can visit them. They're not there for sexual reasons, so yeah, anybody is allowed. I went there when I was nine, and there were children younger than me. There were also people who were just by themself. There might be nude beaches for families only, I don't know. You might have to look it up. Just don't bring cameras or video cameras. A few years ago someone taped children on a nude beach and he got arrested. So it would probably freak out any parents in the area.

(14/f)
What is the age ( or around the age) that you have to start getting your vagina examined by a doctor?

Can the doctor tell if you've have sex before? Would the excuse "I pushed a tampon in too far" work?

Are doctors allowed to tell your parents you've been having sex if you dont want them to?

There's no set age, but if you have had sex, you really should have them look. What if you have cervical cancer? Wouldn't it suck to not know about that?

Since you would probably tell them before hand that you wanted to be examined because you've had sex, they would know that you have had sex. Besides that, you do NOT want to ever lie to your doctor. If you have an STD, but you told them that you were a virgin, they might think it was something else. It would be a waste of time and money--YOUR time and money--and if they don't treat the STD, you're in huge trouble. Also, it's just better to always tell the truth.

And if you tell the doctor not to tell your parents, they are legally obligated to keep your secret.

I am fond of eating banana but my bros dont want to see me eating banana. its impossible for me to eat banana in front of them and in public. Why the banana is related to bad thoughts?

Probably because it resembles a phallus. Who cares what your brothers think? Just eat the bananas. They are tasty and have potassium. If it really makes you uncomfortable, chop it up into peices and it it like that. Otherwise, who cares? You're the one eating the banana, not them. They need to get over it.

what is it? is itt illegall? can you get caught? just tell me basically ab it.

iill give 5s

Limewire is a P2P program used to download music. The program itself is perfectly legal, but downloading copyrighted material from it is not. Unfortunately, pretty much everything is copyrighted. Yes, you can get caught. DO NOT GET LIMEWIRE. It will give you spyware and viruses. I learned this the hard way. You're gonna have to buy your music, and that's just the way it is.

do you know where i can find a nice semi-formal dress ?

Yes. There are many stores. Check the nearest mall. Sorry I can't be more specific, but a dress isn't going to find you. You have to look around for one you like. If you are a plus size, you might try Lane Bryant. I got a prom dress at Filene's once. And don't rule out websites. Sometimes online stores have things that the actual stores don't.

okay my exboyfriend rob dumped me because of something my friend said to him. i cried for days about it, and he finally took me back. That same day he dumped me again because people were getting mad at him for dating me. I still have serious feelings for him and i love him sooo much! one of my best friends also likes him, and they are "friends with benefits". i don't know what to do, i want to tell him how i feel but i'm afraid that he will get mad at me, or not want to be friends with me or soemthing. PLEASE help me !

You're afraid he won't want to be your friend? I'm sorry, but you need to get over that. You need to completely get over this guy. He is not worth your time. This is going to be hurtful, the truth often is, but he doesn't care about you. He took you back because you were crying and he wanted you to stop. I know you still feel attached to him now, but this will fade in time. Just keep telling yourself that he's part of your past, and that you don't want him. If you really, really need to talk to him about it, do so. But don't expect to get back together with him. In fact, it's a good idea to get rid of all expectations, because if you don't expect anything, you can't be disappointed. Just say, "I still have feelings for you--I don't want to act on them, I just want you to know." I know it's hard, believe me, I KNOW. But this is what you need.

I am a teenage girl. I get really horny and enjoy it when I see girls boobs. I'm not sure if this is unusual or not. I also get horny when I see guys to. I would never act in messing around with a girl. But I would and I have messed around with guys and I enjoy it. Guys give me pleasure, its just I also get pleasure from looking at girls. So do you think I am a lesbians or something?
Please help!!!

Nope, you're not a lesbian and you won't be unless YOU call yourself a lesbian. You're just human. Humans have desires for other humans. Your sex drive doesn't know the difference between a girl and a boy. All it knows is "Oooh, pretty. Want touch." There is nothing going on, other than pure horniness.

(But never say never. I've changed my mind about who I'd rather be with--men or women--atleast fifty times within the last five years or so.)

Anyway, the bottom line is that people are attracted to other people. It's always been that way, it's always gonna be that way, and it's nothing to worry about.

Okay well a like a month ago, me and my bf had sex, and he didn't wear a condom. he lets call it "let go" no in me but a little lower than my lower stomache. Now see my period was supposed to start today, but it didn't, and i'm sure it'll come soon, but the thing is about 5-6 days after we had sex a month ago, i got my period.

Can i still be pregnant by any chance?

and i'm 14.

thank you.

No, because you have gotten your period since having sex. However, you should never use that so called "birth control method" again. Even if he doesn't "let go" in you, he could pre-ejaculate and not even notice it. Doing this NEVER works. You got lucky this time, but next time you make SURE he's wearing a condom if you have to buy it and put it on him yourself. It wouldn't hurt for you to go on birth control pills, either.

can i download songs on limewire for free?

Yes, but don't. Limewire killed my computer. Look on myspace, or ask your friends to send you music. Or just buy music. There are so many methods better than Limewire--trust me. You'll have music, but the viruses are NOT worth it.

Why is sex a sin? I know that its not a sin if your jewish, so why is it when your cathlic?

Because religion is something made up by people. People wanted power over other people, so they started telling them "Do this or you're a sinner!" Believe whatever you want, but if you crack open a decent history book, you'll find that this is fact. Personally, I don't go by what any religion says. I'll figure out the difference between right and wrong on my own, thank you very much, and I really think that more people need to start thinking this way, because religion causes wars. That's also a historical fact, by the way.

Ok,well today,i took a bath,shampoo'd and conditioned my hair,then put this serum that stops split ends.but recently (every once in a while) i've noticed my hair has been falling out.a couple of mintues ago,after my hair was dry (by the air) i put it to the side and combed through it with my fingers.i got about 10 strands of hair! i was so scared!!! my sister's hair fell out,but thats probably only because she dyed it so much.no one else in this family has had this happen!should i worry and go to the doctor,or is this normal?!

Well, hair loss is a symptom of polycystic ovarian syndrome, but I wouldn't worry about it. Hair always comes out when you brush it, and ten strands is not that big a deal. If it starts falling out in clumps, even when you're not brushing it, then you should see a doctor about it.

Okay, one of my friends are bypolar...but i have no clue what that means. I know when he gets really mad, his eyes turn like, blood red and he shakes, i don't know if that has anything to do with him being bypolar any;thing....

i'll rate 5 for good answers

A day in the life of a bipolar person is like this:

Morning-I hate the world and I want to die.
A little later in the morning-Well, I guess it's not so bad.
Afternoon-What a nice day.
A little later-I'm really, really happy!
End of the day-I CAN FLY!

That's pretty much the basics, I don't know any of the medical aspects of it, but I think the people who answered before me know what they're talking about.

How will eating honey effect my sex drive?

It's an aphrodisiac.

http://www.lifeofreiley.com/library/honey.htm

and

http://altnature.com/library/aphrodis.htm

have more information.

how can i increase my sex drive? 17 f

Try eating some honey.

whats a really rich neighborhood in california that isnt orange county or laguna beach

Pasadena.

The other day I answered someone's question. And in that question I stated that ovulation can also occur after a person's period. ( 6-14 days) which I googled and found out I was right. Another person wrote my advice column to dispute this fact, but turns out she didnt dispute it al all: here is that she said word for word: Oh, and no you are not fertile AFTER your period you fucking idiot. You are not fertile UNTIL 14 DAYS AFTER YOUR PERIOD. Get your facts right. Now does everyone see that she said your NOT fertile AFTER your period, its 14 days AFTER your period! Duh thats what I said! Why do people resort to name calling when trying to dispute something? or is it just this person doesnt posess any class? 5's for all thoughts.. except for her's.

Because people are idiots.

Anyway, you should really be reporting this. http://www.advicenators.com/abuse.php

Can you lose weight by not eating just for one day? I'm not going anorexic or anything, just wondering.

Another question, what are the foods to eat that will slim you down the quickest? Like salads with no dressing or croutons...

Thanks, I rate everyone 5!!

Well, yes, you can lose weight, but it's incredibly risky. Even just one day can do harm to your body. Your body will need to burn something, and without food, it will burn fat. But when it's out of fat, it's going to start on the muscle. You say you're not anorexic, but you never know what could happen--this kind of thing is addicting.

For your second question, it's not that you need to eat foods that will slim you down, it's that you need to stop eating foods that make you fat. I know that a lot of people say that low carb diets are bad for you, but those people don't know what they're talking about. Trust me on this one, I know from experience. I not only lost weight on a low carb diet, but my cholesterol dropped and I was generally healthier. No bread, no sugar, no chips, nothing like that. Always check the Nutrition facts. If the carbs are in the single digits, it's okay. Don't give up snacking entirely. A popsicle with three carbs is not the healthiest thing in the world, but it's healthier than a dozen doughnuts. Check the facts on fruits and vegetables, too. Some have more carbs than others. The thing with carbs, if you don't know, is that they burn before fat. So if you're eating a lot of carbohydrates and exercising, you're not burning the fat--you're just burning what you just ate. Plus, they make you crave more carbohydrates, so you'll want to keep eating.

The hardest thing with this kind of diet is temptation. You're probably going to be with thin people who are eating cake, and they're going to say "You're not that fat!" or "What's one slice?" Well, believe me, one slice is a lot! You WILL gain weight from it, and it will take a lot less time than it did to lose it. If the stress gets to be too much for you, you may want to try Weight Watchers. It lets you eat whatever you want in moderation, so there's a lot less pressure. Everybody I know who has been on this diet loves it a lot.

And remember, it's not all eating. You have to exercise too. And drink a LOT of water. That stuff will save your life. Really.

Well, I bought some proactive awhile back but didn't use it correctly so it didn't work so well. When I would use it it seemed to work, but then if I forgot about it they would come back..So I'm just wondering for people who are/have used this product if it's working for them. I recently orderd more, and when it get's in I'll use it correctly so it won't be such a pain but I wanted to know so if not I don't waste my time. Also, does anyone know of any better/ faster working products?

Thanks for your time.

Don't use it. It's a waste of money, trust me. It might get rid of your acne, but it'll probably dry out your skin too, which is horrible. I suggest Clearasil, it's better and much cheaper. If it doesn't work, you might want to see a doctor. Acne can be caused by certain hormonal problems that are treatable.

when my sister was younger she had an abortion and now about 4-6 years later, she had 2 miscarrages before she got pregnet and just had another one. does anyone think it could be from it. or maybe that she was molested at a young age.

i just wanted to know because it worries me. thanks!

I'm fairly certain that having been molested has no affect on her ability to have children. But yes, it can be affected by abortion. Many times, after a few abortions, a woman is unable to get pregnant at all. Don't worry too much about it. Your sister probably isn't in any danger. There are many women who have difficult pregnancies who are otherwise fine, but she really should be talking to a doctor about it.

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