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Im 15.I have 2 crushes. 2 huge crushes. Im really confused. I like this girl. I really like her. But I have feeling for this guy to. I dont know. I've dated the girl before. I was at one point best friends with the guy. I dont know which to choose. I dont know if im gay or if im straight. I dont even know. I know that the girl likes me. I know that the guy is gay. Im so confused. Dose anyone know should I choose the girl or the guy? I need advice. (link)
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I think, despite the feeling of urgency that comes with starting a relationship, you shouldn't choose either right now. Maybe ask them both on a couple of dates to see which one feels right, but keep it very casual. You don't want to dive into a relationship when you have strong, unsettled feelings for someone else.
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sorta a complicated question
please give advice asap i need it (14/f 8th grade)
ok heres the people i am going to use in my question
Kelli=bestfriend who i tell everything and which i am very close with and she is mature, less than me, but still mature ( friends since 7th )
Kara= bestfriend who's been my friend 6th grade, WAY less mature than me, but shes deffinately one of a kind..i can't talk about sum things with her that'd i like to
ok in school we have teams, four teachers to a team, and 8 total teachers, which means your on one team or the other, the last two years i've been in classes with kelli ( which means were on the same team ) and the last 3 years me and kara have been friends but on different teams. being on different teams basicly lowered your chances of staying friends..but me and kara pulled through and stayed friends
me and kara really never got into fights, even tough her mom and step dad fucking blow! i hate them, but thats WAY besides the point
me and kelli havn't been talking on the phone everyday, talking to each other a ton @ school, sitting by each other @ lunch, or hanging out really. sumtimes in literacy kelli tottaly ignores me..but yet shes not mad @ me...its hard to explain..it seems as if me and kelli are spliting apart, and she knows too much about me to not be friends! lol
but its really killing me, and i don't like spending the ngiht @ her house bc its gross!
i don't know how to make her not ignore me, i hav ethis feeling like when somebody hangs out WAY too much, they tend to get madder @ each other easier...so i am ''taking space?''
i just want to know how to make this friendship last forever..and did i forget to mention, kelli HATES kara!
that pisses me off..but girls will be girls
please help! i need it! (link)
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Yes, she's changing. So are you, I imagine. It's the latest fad. Everyone's doing it!
You can't stop from someone changing, so you can't make a friendship last forever. You can try to call her on occasion and you'll probably always think of each other in high regards, but there's no way to stop someone from changing.
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My boyfriend and I have been together for a while now. I love him to death. I do everything with him and Hes probably my closest bf Ive had.
Latley though (meaning the last 2 months) Ive notice he's been worring NON stop. I mean I have to promise him everything. He'll ask me if i love him and I'll say of course! and he will ask ... are you sure? do you promise? He always has to re ask me over and over if im going to call him that night or make sure plans are to be w/ him and no one else. We have talked about this worrying thing before and He said he would work on it, but its not getting any better.
Soo guys ... why do you worry? Or is it just my boyfriend. I am one of those girls that can work out anything so breaking up w/ him isnt an option. Him knowing that I dont know why he worries soo much. It HAS TO STOP THOUGH. That makes me more frustrated then anything else about him.
Please get some reason that would explain this!
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Yes, it's a security issue and I don't find it cute at all. I used to be exactly like that and, in retrospect, I was as annoying as Hell.
As for the reasons, maybe he's been screwed over before. It's either based on past experiences with someone else or it's just that he's afraid things will change soon. Maybe his last girl had a tendency to blow him off and lied about how she felt about him. Maybe he's just afraid of that happening with you. Either way, I'm assuming he's relatively new to the dating scene? I would just continue to talk to him about it. Tell him how much it annoys you and tell him he knows you love him and that you will call.
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Okay tonight i was suposed to go see a movie with my boyfriend and some of his friends. By the way Im 15 and hes 16. The movie was rated R and I told him to get his parents to go ahead and get them in advance. But he didnt take my advice we get there and we buy tickets to another movie. Well then the movie i wanted to see ... they were checking ticket. Now Im pissed because I really wanted to see this movie and Me & my bf were the only 2 who didnt get in. He should have listened to me right??
Should I really be this pissed? (link)
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Irritated? Yes? Pissed off!? No. A lot of people tend to be absent-minded, it probably slipped his mind. Do you think he honestly intended for you to miss the movie? If so, then yes. But what reason could there possibly be? I wouldn't put too much thought into this.
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I have a friend that lives in my appartment complex. She's always phoning me and asks if she can borrow one of my DVD's. I always say yes because I own lots and she's pretty good about returning.
Well I just got two movies from my dad, Willy Wonka and The Fog. She asked me already if she could borrow them and I told as soon as I finished watching them.
She just phoned me about a half hour ago and asked if she could borrow one of my movies. I told her sure. When she came over I told her she could watch anything except for those two movies that I hadnt watched yet. Then she got mad and said" well then I guess I won't be borrowing anything because those are the ones I wanted to watch". Then she left!!
I felt angry, like she's just using me to watch my movies. If she was a true friend wouldnt she have at least stayed for a visit to chat?
Am I overreacting or was that down right rude? (link)
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What did you do to overreact? Because you felt angry about someone being completely unreasonable? It's in my opinon that people acting this way definitely calls for a little anger. As to an explanation, clearly there was a gap in communication somewhere. She must not have heard you say she couldn't borrow those movies, or for some reason assumed it would be okay.
I suppose she is using you, but that sounds harsh. She's not using you for money or attention/feelings or anything, it's just to borrow dvds. Do you two talk about anything besides dvds and borrowing them? If not, then I wouldn't say she's using you in a sense that she's taking advantage of your friendship for her own gain. In that case, I wouldn't even say you had a friendship to use. You're just being neighborly and she's biting your head off for it.
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what is a milf
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what is a unic (i kno they say it in pirates fo the carribean) (link)
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Eunuch. There's the proper spelling people. A castrated man. Someday I'd like to become one!
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Hey Nick, mind giving me some advice?
I have bit of problem but then again since I'm asking a question I guess thats obvious.
There is this guy Marcus, who likes me and I guess I like him. Lately my feelings for him have diminished but anyways he has a girlfriend now but he still says he loves me and all that. (I don't understand guys who say they love you when they don't even know what it means...eh)
At the beginning of December I had a dream that sort of disturbed me and didn't make sense but its become constant now. I have it almost every night.
basically I'm taking a walk and I run into Marcus making out with a girl and I'm shocked, hurt and angry at the same time but when I turn around someone is right there and puts their arms around me and reasures me everything is alright. I know this person is a guy because of his cologne. he's in this brown/tan trenchcoat and I finish crying he goes out and beats up Marcus. (its a dream. I have to have my revenge) Then comes back and puts his arms around me a takes out to the car so no one can ask questions. When were out there we've been talking for sometime, I think and then this person says he loves me and I realize I love him too. We kiss and I wake up. The most desturbing part of the dream is that its my best friends' little brother. He's two years younger then me, 13. I mean this kid is very nice, and matture for his age but its no reason for me to be dreaming about him in such ways. I keep telling myself I don't like him. That its not right to like him but for some reason I constantly think about him. I'm really disgusted with myself. I don't even care that he's my best friends' little brother so much as the age. I feel stupid.
I've told my friend about my dream and she sees no problem with it. I can't get her to understand that there is something wrong with me.
Now my real question is, How the hell do I get myself to quit dreaming about him? I try listening to music before I go to bed, and think about anything but him yet it still doesn't work.
Any suggestions would be great.
kat
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Hmm. Well, how do you get someone out of the back of your mind? Wow, I don't even know if that's possible, seeing as how you aren't even aware that you're thinking about him. I've never really had re-occuring dreams like this before. Anything I say would be on a guess, but I'll give it a shot anyway.
I'm off to research dreams.
okay, after a little research, all I've gathered from everything is that you have these recurring dreams about him because you feel you have no control over your feelings for him.
For the recurring part, I found this, "anxiety can have a ripple effect that makes us feel vulnerable, and unable to adequately control the elements of life."
Though the car didn't have much to do with the focus of the dream, I found this, "Recurring car dreams usually deal with life's major themes that may include issues of control and sensibility"
For the relationship theme, all I could find was this, "In your dream state you may be experiencing some wish-fulfilment or confronting things that you would normally ignore."
His brown coat may have little to do with anything. But I suppose the coat could be seen as a comforting feature. Usually the clothes in dreams reflects the person. And brown is also a sign of comfortableness. It's symbolic of pleasantness and nature.
So what I've gathered is that you like him and your comforted by him. At the same time you feel you can't control how you feel about this, which is why you're having trouble getting passed it. You're trying to ignore it, so you're pushing it to the back of your mind, but it's still there. Which ultimately may cause the recurring dream. Hmm.
Well, this is all just what I found upon researching what dreams mean. I've always thought that dreams didn't tell you anything you don't already know. I think it's a load of crap that uses generalizations that are normally true in 'some' sense. Just the same, that's what I've deducted. As to how to get rid of the dreams, you're just going to have to accept that you have feelings for the boy (if that's the case). That doesn't mean you should act on them. I'm not going to tell you whether you should or not, that's your choice.
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I like your trash, it's very pleasing to my eyes.
I don't have much more to add. I'm doing homework. It's finals time, so of course I'm avoiding my work online.
so... hi. :) (link)
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Hi! You're never online!!
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Hi. I'm nearly 18, female and I live in Australia. I've never had a nickname that stuck because my name, Ruth, doesn't easily translate to nick-name-dom. A little while ago, this American guy from Spacefem who I was talking to on MSN told me he'd think of a nickname for me, but he never did. Can you think of a good nickname for me, or kick this guy's ass into gear so he thinks of one more me? I think you go to the College he goes to...
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How about... Tomato soup? From Ruth we get Baby Ruth, That's a 'Candy bar', Candy, Can for a shorter version, 'Tomato soup' comes in a can!
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sorry this is going to be long.. I need to add details in order to ask my question.
The other night I had my boyfriend over to my house to watch the CMA Awards and I told him ahead of time that we'd be watching it and that it lasts about 3 hours and he said it was fine. I also told him I had waited ALL year to see them because I'm THAT big of a country fan and he knows it. So we watch about 20 min. of it and he says "hey let's see if Texas Chainsaw Massacre is on, it's suppose to be tonight" so he changes it and we just HAVE to watch it.. I looked at him and said "well couldn't you rent it or borrow it from a friend sometime? I've been waiting for the CMA's all year and you can watch this any time." and he starts whining and begging to watch it so I finally just give in and ask if we can flip it back over after and he says yes so after the movie we flip it back and start watching it. About 10 min. later he gets all excited and says "OH MY GOSH SOUTH PARK IS ON!! WE HAVE TO WATCH IT!!!" he's obsessed with South Park so we flip it over and watch it. I wouldn't have been so upset if it were a new episode or something but it was RE RUN... so I said to him "Okay well can we atleast watch Keith Urban since this is a re run?" because Keith Urban is my favorite country singer and he says sure. Well my parents were in the other living room watching it on that TV and I hear Keith Urban start singing and I tell him to flip it and he says "But this is the BEST PART!!" and I tried to get up but he said he wanted me to watch it so I stayed. I started to complain about not being able to watch it and about that time South Park's over and Nip Tuck comes on.. so he's like okay well we can watch it after Nip Tuck.. and I said "Alright well then can we flip it over the the CMA's and watch Kerry Underwood sing?" and he said "Well alright if we have to watch it" but we never flipped the chanel.. and by the time we did it was already over. My parents said it was great and Keith Urban got ENTERTAINER OF THE YEAR.. and I missed it because my boyfriend just HAD to watch Texas Chainsaw Massacre, South Park, and Nip Tuck... so my question is.. Was I being too selfish by wanting to watch the CMA Awards instead of his favorite shows?
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No, but I don't see why you let him change the channel. In doing that, it's not all his fault you missed the awards.
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All right, then next time don't be so nice to him. He would have probably let you watch it if he considered how important it was for you. In order for him to do that you can't be so passive.
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I'm a 16 year old girl.
Ok. So I like my eyes and all but when guys try to get me to go out with them just by telling me that they like my eyes it totally turns me off even if the guy is really hott or nice. Here is an example of what most guys say: "Your eyes have taken over my soul."
The whole "your eyes see into my soul" thing is getting very old. My question is, can't guys come up with some original pick up lines? (link)
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Well, yes, they can. The exception to this is idiots, so trust your judgement. If a guy comes up to you and says "Your eyes have taken over my soul", he's an idiot, and unworthy of your time.
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Okay I went over to a friends house and we went to another friends house to scare them. Well when we got there we came in and stayed for about 2 hours. Well it happens his parents were out.. One was at a volleyball game and the other somewhere's else. Well we are all good friends me and my friend both have b/f's and my friends b.f was there but was acting like a true butthead. Well so it was me. my friend,her b/f and two other guys that are single. Well about 10 minutes after we get there my b/f calls my cell... Him and his best friend which is my other best friends b/f said they were gonna come over. so they did nad we all sat of the couch except for my friend's b/f and the prick as in the title of this thing.. And you will find out after I finish this story. Well me and my b/f starting dating 4 days ago and he and I were on the couch with 3 other people. I was laying on his lap and he was playing with my hair,holding my hand,and rubbing my back, Well before we left my b/f gave me a kiss bye. Well the prick comes up and we left. Well the prick tells my parents I was over at the guys house (the house me and my friend went to go scare) There was 7 guys and 2 Girls but Both of our b/f's were there and all we did was listen to this comedy tape. And nothing. Well my parents are split and my mom is physco (she knows things) and she calls me and asks me about it, I told we went over there to scared them (plus we did have permission from myfriends mom) and she was like okay. She tells my Dad. My dad don't understand what it is like being a teenage girl I mean he don't trust me having GUY friends and gripes when I talk to guys on the phone. He blames it on "how teenage boys are" SO he is griping me out for going over to the guy's house. And the prick is my OLDER brother's half brother. that had no relation to him. Plus he knows my older brother HATES my b/f so I think he told my parents about us being there to make me mad. Cuz that is his way of "fun" and my b/f and all the rest that were there ARE not happy. And this will all come back to me. Because I am a good girl that is never in trouble and everyone is sitting there waiting for me to screw up soo I have no clue on what to do! PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE help WILL rate AS HIGH AS I CAN! (link)
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Just dodge the jerk. If you know he's going to be somewhere, try to get people to go somewhere else. It seems like a lot of people don't like him, so it shouldn't be too hard. I doubt your father doesn't trust you. And it seems like he knows more about the typical teenage boy than you think.
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Alright .. well word is that my boyfriend is cheating on me.. whenever i ask him about it of coarse he gets defensive and ends up mad at me for even thinkin it...but whatever he's a guy.. i've heard this alot but now it's just pushing me over the edge... i like him alot but im starting to wonder if its worth it.. he isn't at school toda and last night his mom called my house looking for him...i like him and this is like half of all the drama going on ... what would you guys do?! i'm not willing to break up with him so something other than that... (link)
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Well, it's commonly understood that a healthy relationship can't exist unless there's trust. If you don't think he's worthy of your trust, then you're doomed to be miserable relationship since breaking up with him is something you're unwilling to do. Since you won't break up with him, give him the benefit of the doubt. Assume he isn't cheating unless you know he is.
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i have a really random question: as long as your overage, its not illegal to get drunk as long as you don't drive, right? lol i know its a really weird question but please answer thx! (link)
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Yes, it's legal to get drunk so long as it isn't while driving, public indecency, PULA, etc.
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does an adopted child has right to know who her real parents are? why or why not (link)
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Legally? I'm not so sure that they do. I don't know if the confidentiality of birth parents remains the same for every adoption agency/orphanage.
On a personal level, I think everyone deserves to know where they come from. I understand that circumstances exist where people shouldn't get involved, especially at a young age. Decisions were made and to go back on them might cause a split between an adopted child and the people that adopted them. It brings up a lot of problems, but I still think someone deserves to know who their biological parents are. That's just my opinion.
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Okay i need the answer to this riddle please!!
You are stuck in a room with no windows or doors. a solid room. Only things in this room is a mirror and a table. how do you escape?
It really got me thinking and i can't seem to find out the answer. If i think you got it right then i`ll give you a 5. but if you try i`ll give you a 5 also!! =D thank you (link)
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No, you look in the mirror and see your reflection. You see what you saw, take the saw, saw the table in half, two halves make a whole, you use the hole to get out. I'm fairly certain you don't saw a hole.
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ok i have a wierd question i dont no why im do enterested in rape im 13 f and i like to look at pics and read storeies of it.. is it like normal (link)
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Hmm. I suppose it can be percieved as normal, despite how abnormal it seems. Generally, we as people seem to be drawn to things that frighten us or may seem taboo; hence our interest in horror movies, serial killers, etc. And when one sees such things so often that they seem mundane, it's not illogical to think they would try to find something more shocking. I suppose it's normal to be interested in such a thing as rape, so long as you have no urge or desire to take part in such acts. I wouldn't try to feed this interest though.
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ok here we go i hate people. the worp people not people its so weird like say it the way it looks peeoopl thats how it looks like it should sound so guy wats ur opinions? (link)
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I'm not sure I understand what you're saying.
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Can a passionate love-hate relationship work out? (link)
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Opposites do attract, but that's not to say that a love-hate relationship is healthy. Opposites attract in that a shy person might be attracted to an outgoing person, or vice versa.
When it comes to a love-hate relationship, it really depends. In a situation where a couple say they love each other but all they do is fight, I don't think there's not much hope. I think it usually doesn't have much to do with them being opposites, but more to do with them just getting tired of each other, but not wanting to change anything by breaking up.
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One of my best friends is this guy rite? well i dont like him as anything more then just a friend.... but he likes me. He asked me out the other day and i told him that i just cared about him too much to go out with him. That i didnt want to ruin our friendship over something stupid like a highschool romance. He still keeps grabbing my hand and yesterday he kissed me on the top of the head. its getting really wierd and its depressing the hell out of me, plus its giving everyone the wrong impression. He's the sweetest guy ever and i dont want to hurt him. i dont want to tell him that i dont want a bf right now because i DO, just not him. And im hoping this other kid asks me out. Its getting really annoying, like hes being really clingy, i cant even hang out with other people without him just coming over! He hangs out with me before school, at break, at lunch, after school, calls me everyday, and now im going to be going to church with him. Hes sweeter then any guy ive ever met, but i feel like i cant breathe.
I need help! Please, ASAP, give good advice and ill rate high! (link)
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Allow me to let you in on a little secret: When you turn a guy down and they still pursue you, you aren't hurting them by being completely honest and blunt, they're hurting themselves by trying at something they know probably won't happen.
Best friend or not, I would just be honest with him. He's your best friend. He before anyone else should be able to understand where you're coming from. What you're describing isn't something I would call sweet, by any means except if you were dating. This clinginess is just plain creepy to me.
I would just think about it. There aren't any signs you can throw out there that he'll get. You already threw the biggest one you can at him by saying you don't want to go out with him. The next step is saying something to the effect of "I just don't care for you that way". Since he's still incredibly flirtatious he probably won't understand it by any other means. Tell him in person or phone if you can't bring yourself to. Do it in any way you can so long as you're being blunt and you know for a fact he understands how you feel.
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