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Reoccurring Dream
Hey Nick, mind giving me some advice?
I have bit of problem but then again since I'm asking a question I guess thats obvious.
There is this guy Marcus, who likes me and I guess I like him. Lately my feelings for him have diminished but anyways he has a girlfriend now but he still says he loves me and all that. (I don't understand guys who say they love you when they don't even know what it means...eh)
At the beginning of December I had a dream that sort of disturbed me and didn't make sense but its become constant now. I have it almost every night.
basically I'm taking a walk and I run into Marcus making out with a girl and I'm shocked, hurt and angry at the same time but when I turn around someone is right there and puts their arms around me and reasures me everything is alright. I know this person is a guy because of his cologne. he's in this brown/tan trenchcoat and I finish crying he goes out and beats up Marcus. (its a dream. I have to have my revenge) Then comes back and puts his arms around me a takes out to the car so no one can ask questions. When were out there we've been talking for sometime, I think and then this person says he loves me and I realize I love him too. We kiss and I wake up. The most desturbing part of the dream is that its my best friends' little brother. He's two years younger then me, 13. I mean this kid is very nice, and matture for his age but its no reason for me to be dreaming about him in such ways. I keep telling myself I don't like him. That its not right to like him but for some reason I constantly think about him. I'm really disgusted with myself. I don't even care that he's my best friends' little brother so much as the age. I feel stupid.
I've told my friend about my dream and she sees no problem with it. I can't get her to understand that there is something wrong with me.
Now my real question is, How the hell do I get myself to quit dreaming about him? I try listening to music before I go to bed, and think about anything but him yet it still doesn't work.
Any suggestions would be great.
kat
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Hmm. Well, how do you get someone out of the back of your mind? Wow, I don't even know if that's possible, seeing as how you aren't even aware that you're thinking about him. I've never really had re-occuring dreams like this before. Anything I say would be on a guess, but I'll give it a shot anyway.
I'm off to research dreams.
okay, after a little research, all I've gathered from everything is that you have these recurring dreams about him because you feel you have no control over your feelings for him.
For the recurring part, I found this, "anxiety can have a ripple effect that makes us feel vulnerable, and unable to adequately control the elements of life."
Though the car didn't have much to do with the focus of the dream, I found this, "Recurring car dreams usually deal with life's major themes that may include issues of control and sensibility"
For the relationship theme, all I could find was this, "In your dream state you may be experiencing some wish-fulfilment or confronting things that you would normally ignore."
His brown coat may have little to do with anything. But I suppose the coat could be seen as a comforting feature. Usually the clothes in dreams reflects the person. And brown is also a sign of comfortableness. It's symbolic of pleasantness and nature.
So what I've gathered is that you like him and your comforted by him. At the same time you feel you can't control how you feel about this, which is why you're having trouble getting passed it. You're trying to ignore it, so you're pushing it to the back of your mind, but it's still there. Which ultimately may cause the recurring dream. Hmm.
Well, this is all just what I found upon researching what dreams mean. I've always thought that dreams didn't tell you anything you don't already know. I think it's a load of crap that uses generalizations that are normally true in 'some' sense. Just the same, that's what I've deducted. As to how to get rid of the dreams, you're just going to have to accept that you have feelings for the boy (if that's the case). That doesn't mean you should act on them. I'm not going to tell you whether you should or not, that's your choice.
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