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Ok this is the problem...
One of my best friends is this guy rite? well i dont like him as anything more then just a friend.... but he likes me. He asked me out the other day and i told him that i just cared about him too much to go out with him. That i didnt want to ruin our friendship over something stupid like a highschool romance. He still keeps grabbing my hand and yesterday he kissed me on the top of the head. its getting really wierd and its depressing the hell out of me, plus its giving everyone the wrong impression. He's the sweetest guy ever and i dont want to hurt him. i dont want to tell him that i dont want a bf right now because i DO, just not him. And im hoping this other kid asks me out. Its getting really annoying, like hes being really clingy, i cant even hang out with other people without him just coming over! He hangs out with me before school, at break, at lunch, after school, calls me everyday, and now im going to be going to church with him. Hes sweeter then any guy ive ever met, but i feel like i cant breathe.
I need help! Please, ASAP, give good advice and ill rate high!
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hey just tell him that he bin clingy and tell him how you feel about him hanging on you and being around you all the time! if he really likes you he would back off a little bit and he would enderstand!
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High school friendships fade fast. You care about him too much? If you want to spare him a broken heart, let your actions match your words. By letting him be affectionate with you, you're saying, "You're allowed to be affectionate with me." Push him away, or the behavior will continue. Be firm.
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Allow me to let you in on a little secret: When you turn a guy down and they still pursue you, you aren't hurting them by being completely honest and blunt, they're hurting themselves by trying at something they know probably won't happen.
Best friend or not, I would just be honest with him. He's your best friend. He before anyone else should be able to understand where you're coming from. What you're describing isn't something I would call sweet, by any means except if you were dating. This clinginess is just plain creepy to me.
I would just think about it. There aren't any signs you can throw out there that he'll get. You already threw the biggest one you can at him by saying you don't want to go out with him. The next step is saying something to the effect of "I just don't care for you that way". Since he's still incredibly flirtatious he probably won't understand it by any other means. Tell him in person or phone if you can't bring yourself to. Do it in any way you can so long as you're being blunt and you know for a fact he understands how you feel.
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