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Why so Worried?
My boyfriend and I have been together for a while now. I love him to death. I do everything with him and Hes probably my closest bf Ive had.
Latley though (meaning the last 2 months) Ive notice he's been worring NON stop. I mean I have to promise him everything. He'll ask me if i love him and I'll say of course! and he will ask ... are you sure? do you promise? He always has to re ask me over and over if im going to call him that night or make sure plans are to be w/ him and no one else. We have talked about this worrying thing before and He said he would work on it, but its not getting any better.
Soo guys ... why do you worry? Or is it just my boyfriend. I am one of those girls that can work out anything so breaking up w/ him isnt an option. Him knowing that I dont know why he worries soo much. It HAS TO STOP THOUGH. That makes me more frustrated then anything else about him.
Please get some reason that would explain this!
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I go thorugh this all the time with my girlfriend..One day everything is okay, the next im worried she will leave me for some one "better", Im not sure as to why exactly i feel this way, however, I find that it mostly happens when we have arguments or whenever i faill to do something important that she wanted me to do. Basically what im saying is that in my case, I feel like my gf id leaving me whenever i feel guilty for not keeping promises and such..But at the end, all it takes is for my gf to show me how much she loves me, by telling me and holding me..one kiss can make it all go away.
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i think he's going through a low-selfesteem phase. give him space but make him feel like he's actually worth something, or alot for that matter and show him that you mean when you say i love you . say i love you to him first. and show him that he's special to you.
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Yes, it's a security issue and I don't find it cute at all. I used to be exactly like that and, in retrospect, I was as annoying as Hell.
As for the reasons, maybe he's been screwed over before. It's either based on past experiences with someone else or it's just that he's afraid things will change soon. Maybe his last girl had a tendency to blow him off and lied about how she felt about him. Maybe he's just afraid of that happening with you. Either way, I'm assuming he's relatively new to the dating scene? I would just continue to talk to him about it. Tell him how much it annoys you and tell him he knows you love him and that you will call.
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Well I think it is a good sign if he is worried. He obviesly loves you very much. Maybe he just needs a little reasurig. Show him that he is the only one for you and I garunte he will stop worrying so much. from the advice chick
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hey ...im a girl! but im still giving advice! wow honestly it sounds cute when a guy is worried about the person he loves ..thank god your not the one thats worried hehe..but it sounds like he started thinking about you leaving him for someone else, make him feel that hes special in your life, call him more often buy him gifts. tell him how you feel about him. eventually the worrying should stop, but still confront him and if you see a really hottt guy when your walking with him in the mall. tellhim " you are so much cute then him." even though he might now be ..just kidding. but tell him how you feel about him, that you love him to death and stuff and that your afraid if his worrying would make you start worryin about ruining what you guys have. tellhim that you dont want to, but he should trust you, and that you dont want to hurt his feelings at all!
'that should work out!
take care and hey keep me updated with everything and tell me how it turns out!
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He might always worry simply because he's still insecure about you and him. Past experiences might make him insecure, and now he's just afraid. break-ups can sometimes come out of nowhere, and that might be a case for him, so now he doesn't feel secure even though you two are in a stable relationship.
Talk to him about that, but it really is something that he has to work on himself. It's a self-confidence issue on his part that he needs to overcome as time passes.
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Ok. Well, you need to ask him why he is so worried. You haven't done anything wrong so it may be possible that he is just afraid of losing you to somebody else, or he may just want some attention. Spend some time together and assure him that you love him and care for him. Im sure its just a phase he is going through, but if it keeps getting worse, then you need to have a serious talk.
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