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Okay right now Im stressed REALLY! My mothers husband has given me this ultimatum which was I either follow hs rules or leave the house. because I stormed out of the lving room because he was basically insulting my character, criticizing me and putting me down like I was a nobody. And as always she fed right into it. It's like I've lst everyone important in my life and it hurts. I dont know what to do. I've said I'll straighten up, even though there's nothing to straighten up about, he's just made that I focus all my attention on my school work, instead of things he wants me to do. Im really sick of him, and to be honest, this whole ultimatum will turn on my mother, and she'll have to decide wether its me or him. I'm thinking of going through with a plan to run away or go with my dad who I obviously mean nothing to. But I swear this guy betta back the hell up, b4 his history makes a u turn right back to him. Cause just like me and anyone else he aint perfect so he need to stop trying to act like he is
I give you a lot of credit for trying to be the bigger, better person and saying that you will straighten up. Who the hell does he think he is to threaten to kick you out of your mother's home? I mean, he knew that she had a kid before he married your mother, right? You didn't just pop out of thin air after the honeymoon. you know what the problem is? He's jealous of you, so he's trying to focus on anything negative. He is irrelevant, and the only person who you should try to communicate with is your mom. If you write her a letter about your feelings and ask her to read it when she is alone and then destroy it, she won't be able to interrupt you or defend her husband, and she won't show it to him for him to use against you. Don't expect the letter to change anything, and don't even ask her to change things, just use the letter as a venting board to get things off your chest and let your mom understand how you feel. Let her know that you need to feel secure in your family and your home, and if you are threatened with eviction, it makes you feel.....(insert feelings here). As for the jealous kidkickerouter, kill him with kindness. Not sarcastic kindness, just be polite. The better you are, the more it will get to him, and then when he tries to talk crap about you to your mom, he will stand out for what he is, and you will look like the mature one who is making an effort for harmony.
okay, well. ive been talking to the guy for a few weeks now and we really like eachother. well one day when i was at school and he wasnt, i got a text from him saying "are you telling people were dating" i was like "no why would i say that" and then he was like "everyone keeps asking, i guess thats the current rumor" and i was like "well i didnt say anything" well he bleieves me. i found out who told people..and it is one of my friends. so i asked her about it and she said one of her GUY friends was saying he and my guy liked eachother and were about to date and he kept obsessing over my guy. so to get him to shut up she was like you do know him and (me) are going to date right. so then he told everyone. then i told my guy that the guy was telling everyone that they liked eachother..and..well okay im a girl. and the boy im talking to is straight..DOESNT LIKE GUYS AT ALL. and everyone knows that. but this kid thinks its okay to tell everyone..well my guy got really mad. and a some people keep saying he actually asked the other guy for head and shit and i dont know what to do at all.
The guy who likes your guy is a dirty liar, drama queen who doesn't care how he effects anyone else. If you happen to hear that rumor, defend your guy, because what is happening to him is not fair. Your guy is straight, so you don't even have to think about what could be going on with the rumor starter. He has the, "If I can't have him, nobody will have him," kind of mentality. Don't let go of someone you like, because then the jerk will have gotten exactly what he wants.
My ex boyfriend is trying to get back with me. However he doesnt know I have another bf already nobody really knows about him except for my really close friends because I didnt want any gossip, drama, and my mom doesnt like him that much (she doesnt really like anybody that much). However, I found out that he asked one of my really good friends to be his girlfriend as well. I talked to him about it and he admitted it. He said that me and her are both beautiful and that he likes her a lot but he really loves me and that he didnt want to be alone and anyways he knew that she was going to say no. This sounds kind off like player to me but he denies it...I feel kind off like....okay so im your back up plan? no it doesnt work that way... he got mad when I told him what I thought...and i dated him for 5 months and know he´s a good guy. Lately a lot of my "friends" true faces came up...so I dont really know what to think... am I right to think that he´s just playing with me....and that...hes and idiot? in my eyes hes trying to get together with two girls since one was obviously going to say no then theres the back up one....Im nobody´s backup...and i have someone who loves me and truly cares about me....what should I say? am I right to think this way? Im 17 female...
One game people play is this...
"I really want to get my girlfriend back, but I don't think she wants me anymore. I know what I'll do! I'll make her jealous. I'm going to ask out her really good friend. I can't lose. If she gets pissed, I will know she still likes me(or at least get the satisfaction of knowing she is jealous), if she doesn't get pissed than I will know she doesn't like me, but at least she will think I'm over her because I asked out someone else."
The worst part is, it kind of worked, huh. You have a boyfriend, but now you're busy wondering about your ex and actually considering getting back with him. He is probably getting more attention from you since he asked out your friend than he did when he was your boyfriend.
its been four months since I've been with my boyfriend .I lost my virginity to him Im 17 and his 20 years old.we started dating in september 20,2008 and had sex for the first time on november 11,2008.
we were at his house in his room around october of 2008 and we were making out and he tried to take my shirt off and i said no he was upset and kept asking me what am i waiting for this happened twice . the third time i told him i was ready for his own sake and he went to get a condom and we were ready to go and i told him that i wasnt ready so he was like its okay im not going to pressure you a month later which was november 11,2008 we were making out and i felt like i was ready for me this time and we did it.thinking back im wondering did he force me im still with him and i really care about him he treats me right and im happy .
He didn't force you, but he probably ignored that little voice in the back of his head saying, "I'm not sure she really wants to do this," but who can blame him? You ignored that voice, too. Maybe you really were ready, and right now you are just having some normal regrets about losing your virginity. All of your teenage years you were picturing what it would be like when you lost your virginity, and you were a little dissappointed in the way it turned out. Welcome to the club. All of us girls pictured bells and whistles and fireworks, and then....wa.wa.wa(supposed to sound like dissappointment on Spongebob). There aren't a lot of people out there who can say losing their virginity lived up to their expectations.
To make matters worse, now everything is different. He starts to think of sex as more of an expectation than a priveledge.
But, here's the good news..He treats you right and you're happy.
And the better news...the bells, whistles, and fireworks will come in about 7 years. Until then you'll have lots of learning experiences (some you'd rather forget) and a bell, a whistle, or a firework every now and again.
theres this guy that i like, and he told me he doesnt like me..i accepted it. but he keeps telling people who dont even know me that i like him..why is he doing this?
Apparently he doesn't get a lot of compliments, so he's gotta hang on to the one you gave him for all it's worth. I do have to say, you should probably take it as a compliment. If you weren't pretty he wouldn't be using you to boost his status. Also, consider this conversation:
person you don't know: "Wow, check out that girl, she's hot!"
Guy you like: "Yeah, well good luck, kid, she's all into me."
There's this girl I was friends with in highschool and then after highschool she moved in with her grandparents in another town so she could go to the college there and ever since she moved our friendship had been different. It's like we are not best friends anymore. I've noticed that every time she calls me all she wants to talk about is drugs,drinking,parting,and sex and we get into arguments over the phone everytime she calls becouse I don't want to talk about that kind of stuff and when she lived here we never got into any kind of fight ever and lately that's all we do is fight and argue. Then about 3 weeks ago she called and said she was coming over to hang out for a few hours but I kept having to call her to see if she was coming and she said she was hanging out with somebody that use to be one of my friends to but she said if she came over that friend of hers that I don't like had to come over so I said she can't come over becouse I didn't get along with that other girl and then she was going to bring her over to my house even after I told her to. Then last night she came over just to talk and didn't even let me know before she came and when she came over she looked like she was high on something. what should I do?
Things are never going to be exactly the same between the two of ou because you aren't in high school together, anymore. It is almost as if she's trying to push your buttons on purpose. There is absolutely nothing you can do about the drug use any more than you already have. You've told her you're not into it, so now she probably will avoid you when she is doing them, or at least not tell you if she's high, or not. The two of you will always be friends and have great memories, but it sounds like you are going to have to kick her out of the best friend slot. She may end up maturing, and the two of you can continue where you left off, or she may end up in a crisis and really need you for support. I wouldn't ignore her, but I wouldn't call as much, or invest as many feelings.
My boyfriend thinks I'm dirty and weird, cos I like porn films and magazines. He thinks it's just for men. Am I dirty and weird, or is he being a prude?
A whole bunch of girls like sexual material, you're just confident enough to say so. Consider yourself enlightened. This is what your boyfriend is thinking while you are getting into that porno. "Wow, that guy has a huge di**...I know she is thinking that mine is smaller....Wait a minute, nobody can do it in that position! ...Now she's gonna think I'm a loser...How in the world is this guy lasing so long?..She must think I suck...That chick has been having an orgasm for like five minutes, now. I know she's gotta be faking it...I hope my girl knows she's faking it..She's probably wishing I could make her get off like that...When is she going to turn this thing off?..I'm just gonna tell her she's dirty and weird, then maybe she won't watch anymore."
ok i am a girl. i am 19 in college. So there is this guy. I met him in school and he's been really cool. He's really everything i would want, like completely, but i know he's been on and off with this girl and supposedly she's now in a relationship with this other girl. I want to say 'ya know i like you' and all but if there is something going on with this other girl i don't want to become a part of it, or make things weird for next semester. But like he's does all the things the guy i would want does and he gives me the impression he likes me back. he listens and actually remembers what i say lol and gives advice and says he thinks my friends and family sound funny and he'd have fun with them. theres lots of hugging and goofing off, but no kissing... and like he tells me all about his life, tells me to make plans for us, but then like... i invite him to things and he says he'll come and that he'd really like to but then he says he has work and i understand his schedule is really crappy and he does call and tell me his trying but this has been going on for a month. my friend thinks he has 'bonified asshole potential.'so i wonder whats going on and i know the only way to know is to ask, but like...its so hard. so how do i know he's interested like some def. signs that will help me out and give me the balls to tell him?
He is on the rebound, and people on the rebound are notorious for confusion. On the one hand, he is enjoying your company, and his bruised ego is getting a little nudge up every time he hangs around you, but on the other, he might be holding out for someone else, which is why he doesn't follow through. If the history of their relationship has been off and on, he could be used to the breaks and just waiting for the on phase again. I would say something like this, "I like you and you're the type of guy I could have a relationship with, but I know you're sorting out some feelings about your past, and I don't want to think about where things might go between you and I until I know you have figured all of that out." If you let him know that your not interested in a relationship right now, he will be more likely to keep plans with you because he won't have to worry about what it is you're expecting. Beware-on again off again relationships go something like this. One member of the couple is dominant, and they always leave, while the other kind of waits around hoping they will come back. The one who left goes out, has a bunch of fun, and messes around with other people, while the other one kind of waits around. The minute they stop waiting around, the one who left decides they want them back. Once he starts going out with another girl, she will all of a sudden start calling and playing all of the games to get him back. She will have the advantage. She will know which buttons to push. She will say everything he wants to hear. He may or may not fall for it, yet again. Think about yourself. Have you ever let a relationship last longer than it should have, not because you really wanted to be with the guy, but because you didn't want him to be with anyone else. Have you ever broken up with a guy you really didn't want to be with, but then gotten second thoughts once you found out he was with someone else? Well, these two have gone down that road a few times, and now it is almost a predictable cycle for them.
So now, what do you do? Well, first, I'm just going on instinct here, and I could be way off. If you know someone who knows their past ask a few questions just to figure out if this is the case. Then, don't be the reason she decides to come running back. Do what you can to kind of downplay whatever it is yo have going on with him. Yo be the one to insist on taking it slow. If the two of you get together, predict her next move. Tell him she will be coming back, and then tell him she will be leaving again once you have gone. Talk to him about it like a friend. Tell him that even if he doesn't get with you, you would rather see him with someone who truly cares about him and doesn't think she can throw him away, and then take him back every time he finally crawls out of the dumpster.
is it ok to have sex with more then 3 poeole at the same time?
Here's the deal; it is OK to do anything sexual as long as you feel comfortable with it. A lot of times people get caught up in the moment and before they know it, it is over with, and they are saying to themselves, "what the hell just happened?" If you are asking the question because you heard someone else did it, try not to judge. You don't want anyone to judge you. If it is something you are considering, I don't think you should do it, yet, because you aren't sure how you feel about it. If it is something you have already done, accept it as a learning experience, forgive yourself if your angry, and try to concentrate on the good. If this was a group of people who really respected and cared about eachother it could even be a great experience.
what did oscar wilde mean when he said, "life is never fair, and perhaps it is a good thing for most of us that it is not"? why wouldn't we want life to be fair?
For a person who has never said a mean word, or never uttered one teeny lie, I guess it would be great if life were fair because they would get what they deserve. But most people do mean things once in a while. Sometimes we hurt other people's feelings even if we don't mean to, lie, or even wish another person would just drop off the face of the Earth. This is what Wilde is talking about.
okay, the subject was a little extremee....but whatever
this guy fingereed me tonight. were just friends it was a one night thing and its not bad so dont tell me that lalala. i stopped everything after like 5 minutes and we were under a blanket and not alone so nothing bad could have happened. He fingered me. it was the first time anyone ever did. IT HURT. i was nervous and when he did it hurt so it made me more nervous. my legs were like clamping it was horrible. whyd it hurt so much?! thank you. and ive never put in a tampon before adn stuff...thanks.
It is likely your vagina is tight because you never have had anything inserted into it. Another reason is because you were clamping up, which will make all of your muscles tense, including your vagina. It could be that he was doing it too fast, or that he had long fingernails. It could be any number of reasons, but the important thing is that you didn't enjoy it. The next time you are intimate with a person you have to let him know if you need him to go a little easier, or whatever. You might be uncomfortable giving directions, but he could probably tell that there was something wrong, too, he just couldn't figure out what it was. Guys tend to like things rougher than girls do, and they will do it that way thinking it is what feels good. If you don't seem to be liking what they are doing, they will try to go even faster and harder. If it ever happens again say something like, "Be gentle, it is delicate," and he will get the picture. Sex is supposed to feel pretty good, but even if it doesn't feel good, it DEFINATELY isn't supposed to hurt.
thank you for reading this in advance
when i turn on my laptop,
it pops up and error message
then a blue screen comes on saying
something along the lines of :
if you've seen this message before,
disable catching and shadowing of drivers
try starting the computer in safe mode
(which i did and it only works in safe mode)
i tried everything and once it
enters that screen, you can't get out
PLEASE HELP!!! i'm in desperate need
of my computer
It sounds like your computer got some bogus virus. Best Buy, or another computer store can bring it back to the factory postion, but you will lose all of your information and software.
I'm 14,i jus turned 14 actually and at school im basically the biggest slut ever,but ive been trying to change that,well ever since i found out im pregnant.i used protection.i was on the pill,but i guess somehow i got pregnant but the worst part is i dont know who the father is and honestly it could be like 10 guys.no joke.im tryin to determine if i should just get an abortion and not tell my parents or tell them then get an abortion or tell them and have it or just have and dont tell them till its ready to come out!its such a difficult decision and lately my mom has been getting mad at me cause ive been eating so much food.please someone help me!
First of all, you are not a loser. When you are young, and decide to have sex with a guy, he tells his friends, so now they start pressuring you into sex, and you just want affection and attention and to feel special. When you have a reputation and you really like a guy, you feel as if you have to sleep with him because you slept with another guy he knows and the guy you like will say, "Hey, why did you sleep with him, but now you won't sleep with me?" It is a viscious, confusing circle, and you are stuck right in the middle of it.
Second, I'm not sure about every state, but I know in most states there are only two ways a minor can get an abortion. One is by parental permission, and the other is by a court order. I think it is best if you tell your parents, because you are on a time limit. You can only get an abortion up to a certain point, and if you decide to keep the baby you should get prenatal care. Once you tell your parents, they will be able to help you make the best decision possible. As far as who the father is, that is your last concern, right now. There is no possible way for any one to know unless you make the decision to have the baby, so don't worry about it until you know what you are going to do.
Another thing, don't tell alot of people about this pregnancy, yet. If you decide to have the abortion it is nobody else's business. I know it is probably driving you crazy and you are looking for all the advice you can get, but your friends can't really make the decision for you, and if a bunch of people find out, it will just make things harder.
I like this kid in my school (I'm in 8th grade by the way so that may help) and im not so sure he cares much. He knows I like him and ive given him a few small presents for the sake of giving a present and he really liked I. So I don't know if he liked it because I gave it to him or because he said it looked cool.
Also I'm kinda hyper in school and really tomboyish and I like most guy things(e.g. Videogames shooting movies and hate the color pink) he knows I'm like that. But my real problem is he likes another person but just found out she doesn't like him. How do I ask him out without sounding desperate?
I think your major problem here is you have kind of entered the friendship zone with this guy, so number one thing you want to do is avoid this. You say that he likes another girl, so the absolute worst thing you could do is become his shoulder to cry on about that situation. You don't want to find yourself in the uncomfortable situation of giving a guy you like advice about another girl. This doesn't mean you can't ask him out, although your timing might be a little off if he likes another girl right now. Do you gys have any mutual friends? If you do, you should try to arrainge a group kind of thing, like you all go out to the movies, but of course it has to be couples. Another good way to get things going is to ask him to hang out right after school, or sometime during the day. Try to keep things light like that for a while.
I'm not sure if you will notice this part of my advice, because you asked me a question in the feedback, but there is no other way for me to answer it unless you ask me directly (I'm new at this, so I don't know exactly how it works).
I think you should tell him that you would like for the two of you to start talking, instead of using the messenger. I actually think if you guys have a conversation he will probably be the one to ask you out! The fact that he uses a messenger means that he is nervous to talk to you, which usually means he likes you. Good luck, let me know how it goes.
I am a 55 year old female; very interested in the healthcare field, studied for 8 years, am certified massage therapist, have experience in studying energy medicine. Now my 80 year old mother is living home but is missing some of her capacities. My dad died about 3 years ago, my brother lives with her and has a full time job so he's home only at night.
Because of my experience, I felt like the right person to provide her with some help. She has piles of magazines & catalogues all over the house but doesn't want them moved so it's difficult to clean. When I gave her a massage she ended up telling me what to do and when I try to help her make healthy choices in her food, she complained about all my cooking and I found stashes of cookies and candy anyway. I am frustrated, to say the least.
The bottom line is: should I stay or should I go?
sometimes, it is more frustrating to deal with a person you love than a complete stranger. Only you can decide whether to stay, or not, but if you are thinking about leaving you have to also consider how you will feel about that decision after your mother passes away. One tactic that you could try when you are getting frustrated is to disassociate. Pretend to yourself she is a typical nonrelated patient. You may not get as upset, or take her bad behavior as personally if you imagine your not as invested as you really are. Maybe there is some sort of compromise, too. There are some senior daycare centers, or perhaps hiring a caretaker for a couple of days a week might give you a well needed break.
im 16 and my moms boyfriend is an ass.
he talks constantly and gives 2 hour lectures about random stuff and gets pissed if i try to walk away (he lives in the house). Recently Ive been getting into a couple fights with him and I told my mom next time i'm going to go on the run. She said she loves me and doesnt want me gone but she still refuses to get rid of him. so basicly, I go on the run and go to jail (im on probation) or i live through this hell for 2 more years.
Its getting pretty bad, every day it gets worse and sooner or later im going to snap and punch him in the face if one of us dont get out.
Think of it this way-if you were to go on the run you would be giving this guy exactly what he wants. Don't let him win. The best revenge is success, so the better you do in everything, the more you will be shoving it in his face. Not only that, but he will have a really hard time putting you down to your mother when you are grown up with a better job than he has, right? I know that you feel like your mom is kind of betraying you, and blood is thicker than water, but she is in a really hurtful situation. She loves you more than anything in the world, but in a few years you are going to be off starting a family of your own and she doesn't want to be alone. When you get older it is harder to find a person who you can get along with, and if she is in love with him, she might be worried that she won't get so lucky again. The most important thing you should consider is how he treats her. If he is a good guy to her, maybe you could make a teeny weenie effort to try to get along, like not turning your back and walking away in the middle of a conversation. If you really can't stand him, ignore him the best you can and smile inside to yourself because your mother will never love any other human being as much as she loves you.
Hellooo
I'm 15/F and a sophomore
I was wondering if I should go for this guy I like.
He's my age, he's super sweet, really cute, smart, funny, and respectful. The only problem is, his best friend is my ex boyfriend and we had a REALLY bitter break up :/ to our friends, it would be really wrong if anything were to happen between us but I have really strong feelings for him and I don't know what to do.should I go for him, or not? And if I should, how do I let him know how I feel?
The first step would probably be to figure out if this guy would consider dating you, or not because of the past. Try to feel him out. There is no use in putting your feelings on the line only to find out he wouldn't date you because of your ex. I don't know how long ago your breakup was, but the more time passes the more it won't matter anymore.
i know this is weird but i gotta know. okay, so after you give birth, and like your whole down their is all ripped up with stitches and etc... does sex ever feel good again? i got stitches once and that part of my skin i soooo sensitive, i don't even want anybody to touch it. i'm getting queezy just thinking about this. haha, so yeah, this question is preferably for people who have had a baby.
I have had 6 kids, though 4 were c-section, and afterwards sex was just as good, although I'd hate to imagine what it would be like if I had all 6 kids vaginally.
Well ever since i was little Ive had depression and anxiety...Ive tried almost every type of antidepressants, anxiety meds and all kinds of therapy, except shock therapy...I've been in inpatient programs three times as well as out patient...no matter what i do and don't do, I'm always soo depressed...not a day goes by that i don't want to die...I'm 19 now, still suffering from horrible panic attacks and suicidal thoughts...i have a boyfriend and i love him so much...and i don't want to live with out him...but my depression and anxiety makes me push him away...and its not him saying it...i no i do it...i just want to be happy...i haven't not wanted to kill myself in over 10 years...Ive tried suicide 6 times and was hospitalized each time...but for some reason nothing is helping me...i don't know what to do...i'm going insane and slowly giving up...Ive tried everything...HELP ME PLEASE!!!
As you probably know all too well by now, there is no magic switch to turn depression off and a person who hasn't experienced the feeling might wonder why you just can't snap out of it. One of the best ways to deal with the symptoms of depression is to help to another person. Think of all of those kids out there who are just beginning to walk down the path you have been on for a long time. Think of that young kid who feels as if they just can't go on anymore. Tell them your story and give them some knowledge on the subject. It is pretty hard to feel down and useless when someone needs your help. Volunteer at something you believe in. Force yourself to get out of bed and accomplish one thing on a daily basis, even if you don't feel like moving. Excersize brings out endorphins and dopamines that give you a natural high. Many times people who are depressed are the most caring sensative people in the whole world, which is why they get hit so hard by the sadness around them. Please-please-PLEASE-don't give up. You never know what the future will bring. A good book that always makes me feel better is, "Oh, the Places You'll Go," by Dr. Seusse. Also, I know you have tried counseling before, but maybe if you found the right person they could really help you work things out.
So, my boyfriend and I have been going out for over a year. We're both completely serious about our relationship, and we don't plan on breaking up any time soon. But the problem starts at this: He's on the basketball team. Innocent enough, right? Wrong.
The coach works them through the mill every day, and I never get a chance to see him outside of school. Before he joined basketball, he was really a good person to be around, plus he was in the same theater troupe as me. But now, he is always stressed and doesn't want to talk to me as much anymore. And he's probably going to get kicked out of the troupe because he misses so many practices due to basketball.
The thing is, he keeps on saying he wants to quit, but his parents refuse to let him. They are convinced that he should just suck it up and do what he's told. This emotional rift between my boyfriend and his parents is already ruining our relationship, because no matter what, they refuse to let him quit even if he begs.
This whole ordeal is totally screwing with my head. We both got called to the principal's office today because we blew up at each other in the hallway; him saying that his parents refuse to let him quit and asking what it is I wanted from him, me saying that he made a commitment to the troupe way before he joined basketball and that he had to keep that commitment until the end. All of my previous emotional depression is storming right back in, and I can't go a whole day without crying because he's never there for me.
I don't want to break up. That's 100% certain. I definetly love him, and if we do end up splitting because of this, I'll never forgive my self. So please, send me your advice!
At some point in almost every relationship (usually right around a year) the couple has an issue that can make them stronger or tear them apart. You have said you don't want to break up, so the other option is to make your relationship stronger. You do have a valid point about his prior commitment to the troupe, but alot of parents will place a bigger emphasis on sports because they feel as if it bodes better on a college application. The truth is, unless your boyfriend is a standout basketball player, his time in the troupe will probably stand out more on his resume. But, none of that really matters because his parents call the shots. Like he said to you in the hallway, there is nothing he can do about it. Here are ways to make your relationship stronger...
1. You say that every time you see him he is so stressed out, but some of that could be because the two of you are arguing. Girlfriends have a huge impact, and you can make his whole day or break it. When you do get together try to put your arguments aside and have a good time for the little bit you get to see eachother.
2. Find something to so with your time even if it sometimes cuts into the time you will get to see him. At the very least it will give him a taste of how you feel. Most people get into a relationship and focus most of their energy on that. They don't hang out with their friends as much, start hanging out with your friends when he's at practice.
3. Go to his practice sometimes if you can, and go to his games and cheer your head off. If you can't beat 'em, join 'em.
4. Be a part of the game, tell him that all of the baskets he gets that night are going to be a symbol of his love for you. Each basket could turn into a little secret "I love you" that only the two of you know about.
5. Tell him he can't get rid of you that easily because you're in for the long haul. Tell him that you can't help getting frustrated sometimes because you miss him, but you know he can't do anything about it, and you can't promise you won't still get pissed off about it, but you will try to be more understanding.
Before you know it basketball season will be over and things will be back to normal.
One thing you don't want is for his parents to catch wind of this whole argument because they are obviously strong-minded, and they might think that you are trying to control their son. You can't be sure, but it sounds as if his parents might feel as if he is only asking to quit the team to make you happy, which is why they are so adamant about him continuing while allowing him to quit the troupe.