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Okay right now Im stressed REALLY! My mothers husband has given me this ultimatum which was I either follow hs rules or leave the house. because I stormed out of the lving room because he was basically insulting my character, criticizing me and putting me down like I was a nobody. And as always she fed right into it. It's like I've lst everyone important in my life and it hurts. I dont know what to do. I've said I'll straighten up, even though there's nothing to straighten up about, he's just made that I focus all my attention on my school work, instead of things he wants me to do. Im really sick of him, and to be honest, this whole ultimatum will turn on my mother, and she'll have to decide wether its me or him. I'm thinking of going through with a plan to run away or go with my dad who I obviously mean nothing to. But I swear this guy betta back the hell up, b4 his history makes a u turn right back to him. Cause just like me and anyone else he aint perfect so he need to stop trying to act like he is
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I respect you for keeping your emotions inside, but it's not always the best. Also, running away might not be the best way to solve this. You've been pretty brave about this so far, so if you can, sit down and talk to your mom about it. If your mom is on your Dad's side, ask her what you have been doing wrong. If she has nothing, point that out to her and possibly she can talk to him. If nothing still goes well, tell her that you are serious and will want to move in with your dad if this continues and doesn't stop. That might make her stop and rethink things. I hope this helps!
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I give you a lot of credit for trying to be the bigger, better person and saying that you will straighten up. Who the hell does he think he is to threaten to kick you out of your mother's home? I mean, he knew that she had a kid before he married your mother, right? You didn't just pop out of thin air after the honeymoon. you know what the problem is? He's jealous of you, so he's trying to focus on anything negative. He is irrelevant, and the only person who you should try to communicate with is your mom. If you write her a letter about your feelings and ask her to read it when she is alone and then destroy it, she won't be able to interrupt you or defend her husband, and she won't show it to him for him to use against you. Don't expect the letter to change anything, and don't even ask her to change things, just use the letter as a venting board to get things off your chest and let your mom understand how you feel. Let her know that you need to feel secure in your family and your home, and if you are threatened with eviction, it makes you feel.....(insert feelings here). As for the jealous kidkickerouter, kill him with kindness. Not sarcastic kindness, just be polite. The better you are, the more it will get to him, and then when he tries to talk crap about you to your mom, he will stand out for what he is, and you will look like the mature one who is making an effort for harmony.
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This is an angry rant, and that's cool, you're allowed to be angry. But you don't give enough objective details for anyone to give you serious help. All I can really do is say "Yep, that sure as hell sucks ass."
When you calmed down a bit, why don't you try writing out the details of what happened? I'd be really happy to give you some advice on how to move forward, but advicenators really need some information to work with, and you haven't provided very much here to go on.
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