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In Love??
well i dont know what to say there this boy that i like so much its driving me insane. And like i beleive in true love and sometimes i wonder if i really truley love him like in love with him. And I'm only 16 and i know i might be young but still it really feels like love. I think about him 24/7, i talk about him all the time, i daydream about him alot and i dont even focus on school that much like i use to. And this going to sound crazy but i sometimes cry over him and i dont know why. I've been liking him for 4 years already and i havent really told him how i feel.And when i dont see him for like 2 days i just start missing him its just crazy. There wasnt one day where i dont think about him. He knows i like him but thats about it.
so is it really love for me or just a big crush.
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I don't believe that 16 is too young to be in love. I say this because I'm 15 and I have been love.
I can't be exactly sure whether you are in love with this guy or not, simply because: I am not you.
To me, it actually sounds less like love and more like infatuation. However, the fact that you've had feelings for him for four years changes that a bit, as I would think you might have gotten over the infatuation by then.
Infatuation is when it feels like your whole life is consumed by your feelings for this person. It's almost as if you have an addiction to them. When I was infatuated with someone, I sounded a whole lot like you. He was ALL I thought about, ALL I talked about. I daydreamed about him constantly and it was seriously effecting everything I did. Like you, I couldn't focus or concentrate on school at all. I cried over him all the time. But I wasn't in love with him.
I want you to ask yourself these questions:
Do you know him very well?
Have you seen him at both his best and worst? (emotionally, mentally and physically)
Have you known him for a long time? (well I already know the answer to this but..)
Have you had feelings for him for a long time?
Do you feel comfortable confiding in him?
Do you feel as if you have to keep him safe? (for example, you worry about him when he's cold or upset or angry or in danger, almost in a motherly way.)
Say you can only save two of the people you know, would your mind automatically jump to him?
Do you feel protective over him?
Do you want him to adore you?
Do you feel sexually attracted to him?
Do you feel comfortable around him?
Does it just feel 'right' when you are together?
Do you two have a connection?
Does him being happy make you happy?
Do you think your life would feel empty if he were not a part of it?
Have both of you changed during the time you have known him?
And probably most importantly:
Is his happiness the most important to you, even if you are NOT a part of it? (for example, if someone said to you, in order for him to be happy, you cannot be a part of his life, would you stay out of his life even though it hurts you to do so?)
I think if you can honestly and genuinely say yes to all these questions, then you are probably in love. If you can't, then get to know him better and then ask yourself these questions again to see if your feelings have changed. However, if you DO say yes to all these questions, you have to know for sure that that's how you feel. It depends on how long you have felt that way.
Please feel free to ask me any more questions if there's something I havn't been quite clear about.
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Well, we really can't tell you if you love him, only you know that for sure. Sometimes when you like somebody so much, you just think about him/her a lot, it happens to everyone.
I've had a fair share of tears over guys just because I like them, but I would never say I'm in love with them because I cried over them, then I'd be lying to myself. I'm not IN love with my boyfriend but I could cry everyday for him because I care about him. Sometimes crying is just a way to express yourself in showing that you really care, but you don't have to be in love with him.
Four years is a long time to like someone, I'm sure you have great feelings for him, but I can't tell you whether you're in love or not, that's all up to you. If you feel like you're in love, you very well could be, but if you feel like it's just a big crush, that's a possibility as well.
I hope I helped some :]
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