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There's this girl I was friends with in highschool and then after highschool she moved in with her grandparents in another town so she could go to the college there and ever since she moved our friendship had been different. It's like we are not best friends anymore. I've noticed that every time she calls me all she wants to talk about is drugs,drinking,parting,and sex and we get into arguments over the phone everytime she calls becouse I don't want to talk about that kind of stuff and when she lived here we never got into any kind of fight ever and lately that's all we do is fight and argue. Then about 3 weeks ago she called and said she was coming over to hang out for a few hours but I kept having to call her to see if she was coming and she said she was hanging out with somebody that use to be one of my friends to but she said if she came over that friend of hers that I don't like had to come over so I said she can't come over becouse I didn't get along with that other girl and then she was going to bring her over to my house even after I told her to. Then last night she came over just to talk and didn't even let me know before she came and when she came over she looked like she was high on something. what should I do?
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Look people change all the time, you might change later and become another version of her life , and you guys might get along again
But you have to know one thing she is not the same person she was when you guys were close
If you're asking what should you do about your friendship with her or about her bad behavior that is been happening , well i don't know exactly what you mean so i'm going to answer both
1. About your friendship it's clear that it's over because she is becoming someone else, she is changing, you can else accept her the way she is or end your friendship before the story gets bigger and more complicated
2. If your talking about helping you friend, well you can't do anything but talk to her, If she doesnt listen to you , you have to tell who is responsible about her which i dont advice you to do that at all even though it sounds like the right thing to do but i think you should let her go , she might come around later on.
Good Luck
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Things are never going to be exactly the same between the two of ou because you aren't in high school together, anymore. It is almost as if she's trying to push your buttons on purpose. There is absolutely nothing you can do about the drug use any more than you already have. You've told her you're not into it, so now she probably will avoid you when she is doing them, or at least not tell you if she's high, or not. The two of you will always be friends and have great memories, but it sounds like you are going to have to kick her out of the best friend slot. She may end up maturing, and the two of you can continue where you left off, or she may end up in a crisis and really need you for support. I wouldn't ignore her, but I wouldn't call as much, or invest as many feelings.
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it sounds like u 2 out grew each other. it sucks, but thats just how life is a lot of times. shes goijng down a pretty bad path, it and would proabably be best if you didnt get involved with it.
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It sounds like this girl is headed down the wrong path. I know you had a great friendship with her before, but you can't help it that she's made poor choices with her life.
Maybe the next time you talk to her you should (make sure she's sober first) talk to her and explain to her that you're worried about her.
Tell her that you would like to help her and that you miss her friendship. If she doesn't take this seriously and she doesn't want your help then that's all you can do.
If she laughs it off or gets defensive, then I think it would be best if you parted different ways. She's an adult now, and she has to want to work out her problems. If she doesn't then there isn't much you can do and you shouldn't stick around and let her treat you badly and hurt you.
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