Hello, my name is Sam. There's a lot that I can say about myself, but if you'd like that then you could always message me and we can have a nice cup of tea together :D
I am not very old, so I might not have too much life experience, but I do like to help people. I know that life often throws unexpected blows at people, but I am so extremely optimistic. Hopefully some of my optimism will rub off on the people to whom I am giving advice. I am happy to help with anything! :)
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Okay, so theres this guy and his name is Dan. Hes 45 years old, married, with kids, and I went to canobie with him, my uncle, and my cousins. And the only reason I was there was because one of my cousins is autistic and I was going to help. So right when I get there Dan comes up and puts his arm around me and just starts walking with me, and I was like what the heck? But I didnt say anything cause Im too shy. (Im 18 by the way) and we get to the first ride were going to go on and everyone kinda split up and went there own way and I was trying to figure out who to sit next to when he whispers in my ear, sit next to me in the back, and ofcourse, I was like uhm okay, even though I felt weird about that. But I did and it was fine, until I got off and he had his arm around my shoulder again. Anyways later when I was there this guy I knew and was just friends with came over and gave me a hug and I hugged him back and Dan came over and was like okay thats enough and then practically dragged me away from him. I found that soo rude but I didnt say anything. And towards the end of the day we were talking about who was easier to read, guys or girls, and this girl standing next to me was like oh is he your dad and I immediately said ha, no! And then I thought she would think I was weird so I was going to explain that he was one of my moms old friends but he interupted me and I was like Im a....friend. And I was just like oh yeah, hes a friend. But hes not my friend. Hes my moms friend. And I caught him staring at me a few times too, which made me feel so self concious so we went to his car because some of the others wanted food and water and stuff and I was looking in the reflection trying to make myself look better when Dan was like relax you look great. So I kinda blushed and was oh thanks. So anyways that was Canobie. Then like three days later my cell phone rings right and it was him. It was a text message that said pg. And I wrote back and was like what does that mean. And he called me back and said that it was a mistake and that somehow his locked phone, unlocked itself in his pocket and sent me a text. And I believed him until I talked to one of my best friends and she was like no, hes lying and now I believe her instead. And I already told her all this stuff and she thinks that he likes me, but I really dont know. Can someone please tell me what they think? Thank you soo much, and sorry about the length! (link)
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I think that he might not really like you. I know it seems like all the signs are there but maybe he just wanted to hang out with you cuz he wanted to get to know you better. After all he is your mom's friend. I also know this older guy who a while back when we were away on vacation, was acting kind of weird and it made me kind of uncomfortable, but then over time I realized that I had completely made a bigger deal of it than it really was, and that he just wanted to be friends. But then again he could think that you are pretty and be going through a mid life criss where he wishes he were younger. Also the cell phone thing is completely believable, so I wouldn't really make too much of that. Just in case though, just keep your guard up when you are around him for a while until you don't feel uncomfortable with him anymore. I hope that I helped you.
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Hello My name is seanicka (female), im 18 and on my way to college for education. The problem is my boyfriend lives in nassau bahamas. I met him over the summer while visiting my family and we became so close over the 3 months. We decided that we are gonna keep the relationship going because he really likes me and I really like him. Well actually its more than like, I can say we fell deeply in love with each other over that time and made lots of connections. Now im back in miami and everyday I cant do nothing but think of all the times that me and him shared and its making me cry everyday. Im just really afraid that this might not work out because i've never really been in a long distance relationship. Im not worried about him cheating on me its just the distance. Sometimes I just wish I knew if this is gonna work beforhand so I wont be wasting my time. Im really willing to make sacrifices to make this work and he say that he is as well but like I said Im still afraid. Do you think this can work out for me. (link)
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Okay, I think there are too things I should say.
The first is that the two of you should talk about the distance and how it should not affect your daily lives. I know it can't be easy to be far away from a person you love, but you have to move on with your life. Be happy that there is someone who loves you, and use the thoughts of him to motivate you in work, school and in everything rather than crying about how he is so far away from you. He should also do the same.
The second thing is a question. How long will you be apart? Are you planning on moving closer in the future or keeping it long distance forever? The important thing to remember here is that people and circumstances change with time.The best thing that the both of you can do to continue this relationship is to both have your own life rather than trying to relive your time together. I'm sure that you will visit each other from time to time, so it's not really goodbye. If you say that he won't cheat on you then that's great, you don't have to worry about that happening and in the meantime just try to be strong and try not to cry. If you can endure the distance then I am sure that your relationship will be able to endure anything. I wish you only the best. I hope you are well.
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I am still in love with my girl friend we've been together for 4 years on and off... we both know we love each other but we're also long distance part of the four years but we visited often... we had a falling out back in January she did something to hurt me(not cheeting)and so I thought to show her that I was hurt and dissapointed I stopped talking to her for about six months she did try to contact me several times but I ignored her never for a second I stopped to think of her or stopped loving her... I was just really really hurt... I got in touch with her couple of weeks ago she was very nice and responsive to me but tolled me that she is dating someone and has moved on and suggests I do the same... just the thought of that makes me sick... I know 6 months is a long time to ignore a person especially a person you love... I also know I was stupit to ignore her for this long but I did it... I never dated anyone else I was just hoping that she would realize her mistake and apologize and all would be great again... I tolled her how I feel and that I was sorry for all that time out but she tells me she likes this guy and wants to give her all to make it work... oviously I have different plans I want her back she keeps telling me that it is not fair to her new guy for us to talk but she keeps talking to me everytime I call her... we talk for long periods of time and she also calls me back when I leave a massage or a text... I try not to over do it so I do not drive her further away but I stay in her face enough to let her know that I am here... I am approching it like lets be friends and I talk to her about things we use to do together that were fun and great memories and try to make her laugh... I am not sure if she is doing it because she feels pity and sorry for me or because she still loves me but she just does not want to come out and say it especially with someone else in her life her new relationship is only 2 months old we have history how can she do this??? I am a pretty smart guy but I sure can use some good advice here what is the best strategy to get her back in my life??? (link)
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I can understand how deeply you must love her and she obviously really loves you as well. Sometimes long distance is a huge obstacle and if people stop talking for months at a time, a lot can change. People change. When you stopped talking to her she probably thought it was over between you guys so she tried to move on. It really is unfortunate how often this happens. The reason that she now calls you is not because she feels sorry for you but because she cares about you, but not in quite the same way that you care about her. She gave you the best advice that can be given. She made herself very clear in where she stands. The more you allow the thought of you two getting back together stay in your mind, the harder it will be for you to move on with your life. She was able to move on when she thought you didn't want to date her anymore, and you also have the ability to do this. I know it won't seem like it at first, but this really is the start of a new stage in your life and you should embrace it. Out of horrible things, beautiful things can be born. Good luck, I hope and pray for only the best for you.
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what are some tips for going to high schoool? (link)
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Hi.
Well high school isn't too different from middle school [unless you were home-schooled]. What I do want to stress is the importance of grades. If you are thinking about college in any way then make sure you do take somewhat challenging classes in high school. Also it helps if you take some extracurriculars, not only for college, but also to make friends and have a fun experience. It can be anything: sports, drama, band, cheer, or anything else you might be into. If you don't know what you like yet, then that's okay too. Just don't go around saying stupid things to older people and be nice to everyone. Stay as far as possible from people who like to create drama so that you don't have to deal with those types of problems. But do talk to people and make friends. If you already have friends then hang out with them too but also talk to other people. The thing about being able to choose your classes means that you will get to meet all kinds of people from different grades. Anyways, high school can be great fun or it can be boring and problematic. It really depends on what kind of experience you want to have. I wish you the best of luck this year, and for the 3 years after that!
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im really obsessed with a guy i know ill never be with. because he is a member of soreal cru and im just a fan/ im just SOO OBSESSED WITH THIM i cant stop viewing his profile..
sigh*
whats a cure for this? (link)
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Block his profile so you can't see it. These are desperate times and since you clearly can't control yourself, then you should try that instead. I used to constantly look at someone's profile so I blocked him and then waited two months till I was over him to unblock him.
Also you should try to focus on everyday life. Are there any guys that you know that you might like? Or if you don't then maybe your friends have friends that you could meet or talk to more. The point here is to realize that although there are many amazing celebrities and even ordinary people that are amazing that you can admire from afar, it is much better to develop a liking for someone who is within reach. Besides obsessions are sucky, while crushes are fun. Wish you the best! Contact me if you need anything else.
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I have this friend and we're going into high school and she just made out hooked up with whatever you want to call it with this soon to be senior at soccer camp. She's only had 3 boyfriends and only kissed 1 of them. I feel like she's taking it way to far way to fast she only just met the guy! Plus before it was like she never used to talk to guys now she hangs out with her sister's high school friends and likes older guys!
I mean it's fine to like older guys and stuff but i think she's taking it to fast and trusting people more then she should. What if she does something with her body that she doesn't want to do?
I don't know how you can help me but explain to me why she is doing this and am i loosing her as a friend? Is this some kind of cry for help!?
THANKS :) (link)
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This isn't a cry for help. It is most likely her tired of not having talked to guys for most of her life and she feels like she's missing out on adventure so, naturally, she goes insane all of a sudden. I've seen this happen, actually it happened to me a while back. The important thing to remember here is that we are teenagers. Hook ups happen. And yes sometimes they go a little too far too fast, but I think the only thing you can do to help your friend is talk to her about how you don't want her to get hurt or do something she isn't ready for. Be there for her now and always. This is just her living a stage of her life and I promise you it will pass. Guys should never replace friends but if you ever feel her growing distant from you, just remember that she is going through a confusing time. High school can be fun or complicated-and I'm talking about clean fun here, not pot smoking and alcohol. Anyways I hope you have a great time in high school and make tons of friends this year. Take care.
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My boyfriend and I have been trying to have a baby for over a year now. I haven't been on birth control in over a year and he never wears a condom but still, nothing! I'm just wondering for all you mothers out there, is there something we are doing wrong? I've heard you can only get pregnant when an egg releases and that they only release on your period. Does that mean that if we have sex on my period, I'll get pregnant? I don't smoke or drink or anything harmful. I've talked to doctors, but they just gave me vitamins to take. I'm not sure what we're doing wrong =/ Any help please! Thanks in advance. (link)
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One of the main problems I've heard of is stress. When you are stressed out sometimes you don't ovulate because your reproductive system gets messed up due to the stress. I'm not sure what might be causing you stress but if its work, family or maybe just the fact that you can't get pregnant then you should try and relax as much as possible. I don't know if this is the problem for you or not but maybe if you just try to take your mind off of things then you will get pregnant when you least expect it! I wish you the best of luck in getting pregnant because you seem like you will be a great mom! =]
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Me- 16-female
Boyfriend- 17-male
we've been dating for almost a year and my idea for our year since we havent taken many pictures was take one of the pictures we have and put it in a little frame for him and then put it in a box with a shirt he'd like along with our favorite candy that we purchase and eat together quite frequently which happens to be gummy worms & put a few bottles of his favorite pop and maybe an energy drink in there and give it too him that way does this sound like something you would enjoy to get?
would you give this to your boyfriend for your 1 year?
((moneys an issue for me))
which is why i cant go all out like he does for me.i love him
I'd also like to mabe right a long note about how this year has made me feel and how amazing its been an remind him of the good times we've had together.
ive got 40$ and what i have so far i have an extra about 20$ and id like to spend it on something to add to this
please give me some good ideas (link)
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I think that is a very thoughtful present to get him. It doesn't matter that you don't have much money, because the thought that you are putting into the gift is beautiful.
Anyways if you want to add something to it you could maybe think of what he likes. Does he like a band? CD perhaps? Maybe tickets to go see a concert? A good book that he might like? A hat! =]
Also, I did this for my brother and he liked it. Put all of his gifts into a scavenger hunt with clues and each time he solves a clue he gets another gift and another clue. And at the very end is the best gift! Hope I helped and happy anniversary!
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17/F My friend is a Jehovah's Witness and really tries to convert me. I am Jewish as in heritage, but I've come to the conclusion that I am fine without a religion. I don't need to be led and that's final. If I tell her I am content with my religious choices...will she still be my friend? or should I just continue to turn down invites to her congregation...I've been there before, so I have given it a try. (link)
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It is hard to have friends of different religions, especially when they try to convert you. Yet you have to be honest. I remember my friend told me that she really did not need a religion at this point in her life because she wanted to figure out life in her own way, and I accepted that. What I mean is that you should tell her how you feel and as a good friend she will step aside and allow you to believe in whatever makes you happy. I actually used to be a different religion but when my mom switched to Buddhism, I really began to feel free. And that is exactly how everyone should feel, free to live the life that they want.
Anyways, I hope you are able to talk to your friend so that she can understand this unique side of you and support you in your time together.
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Ok, I read a story once about a homosexual teen who is confused about his orientation Then this girl comes along and they are in a play together which brings them closer and he eventually decides he's not gay. Then, he's in denial about all of it. Basically, the story has a LOT of ups and downs. I remember reading it and it was REALLY good but I can't remember if it was a book or just some story I read online. Does this sound familiar? I know it was a fictional story, but I just can't remember where I read it. Thanks! (link)
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I know!
At least, I think I do..
I read Pretty Things by Sara Manning a while back. It might not be the book you are thinking of but based on how you described your book, I think you'd love this one. I did. Alright hope I helped here.
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ok my friend keeps saying he likes me and he is going out with my friend she is clueless on this whole ordeal and i really like the guy and this always happens to me and hes telling me to wait for him for like 5 more months but he is wanting to kiss me makeout with me hold hands etc. and i just dont no if i should tell the friend or not and should i tell him i loe him to cause i kinda do. (link)
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I'm sorry to say this but going out with him would be degrading on your part. I mean he has a girlfriend who you are friends with, hes willing to cheat on a girl-which says a lot about the kind of relationship he is capable of having, and he tells you to wait 5 months! It's really unfortunate that you fell for this guy and now you have to deal with those feelings, but I don't even think this guy is mature enough to handle a relationship. Don't add all this extra pressure on to your life by making out with the guy or holding his hand. You deserve better than that and you should know it..
And if you decide not to go for him, which would be a good choice, then you might also want to talk to your friend about the kind of boyfriend she has. I think she should know.
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well im 15 i turn 16 in nov. i relly want a bf not just to make out and stuff with (even tho i will proply) but i want someone that will love me for how i am and thinks at im beautful and will tell me i am. but ive never had a bf and i dont know how to get one and when i see a boy and a girl and there all cute and cuddle i want to be that girl and i love being plus size but most guys think big is not beautful and i want a guy that will be like i love this girl no matter what!!
how do i get a bf????
im i asking for to much?
im i ment to be alone forever?
thanks
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Life just continues to prove to me how not alone I really am. We are even the same age, by B-day's in december though. But this is beside the point. What I want to tell you is that I have the same feelings at times. It's hard to see other people coupled off and it sometimes makes us feel lonely. But let me just say that you have a wonderful idea of what it means to have a good relationship. You don't just want someone there to get sexual with, so thumbs up for you buddy. You understand the importance of people connecting on a deeper level. It's a great feeling when someone tells you they love you and holds your hand, and shares a lot of happy memories with you. But the feeling is even better when the two people really know each other and are completely comfortable around each other. What I think I am really trying to say here is that you are not meant to be alone! [I am though, I already have 20 cats and no husband ;] I am glad that there do exist confident plus sized girls in this world. Seriously though, you are already amazing. Your attitude and confidence alone will lead you to meet a guy who will love you for you, exactly the way that you already love yourself. Many girls will go years and years without ever loving themselves, but you are very wise. Just know that patience is not fun but in the end makes having a boyfriend all the more better. And you aren't alone either. There are many girls who are also single. Give it time. And enjoy your summer!
I wish you the best of luck in life.
-Sam
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i feel like i have met the girl of my dreams and like it truly was love at first sight. the only problem is that we are such good friends and she doesn't know how i feel. i think that itwuld make things very awkward between us if i told her how i felt and she didnt feel th ame way back. however if i dont say something and she feels the same way, i could be letting the girl of my dreams slip away. what should i do? (link)
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I myself would try the hypothetical approach. So one day when you are conversating with her and you are talking about relationships or something similar just say, "If I ever liked you, would you be weirded out by it?" and then she will say something like:
"No, it wouldn't matter, we'd still be good friends."
or
"Why are you asking?"
or
"It might be kind of weird."
So based on her answer you can kind of decide right away whether she likes you or not. Pay attention to her facial expression when you ask her the hypothetical question. If she blushes, seems excited, her eyes widen, or any other noticeable action then this is good. Now this is the part where you say...
"Well, I do like you."
And then she likes you back and yay everyones happy. But this is of course only a suggestion. It's what I would do. I wish you the best of luck!
-Sam
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problem:
My Best Friend is a JERK!!! At least I think.
My best friend is a guy. We get teased a LOT about it, but whatever. He WAS dating this girl named Destiny. She's in 8th grade (we're in 7th.) She's a little bit of a slut, but I didn't say anything, even though I secretly have a crush on Koby, but whatever... The point is his OTHER best girl friend, Katie, and I saw Destiny dirty dancing and holding hands with a guy OTHER THAN KOBY!!! I was pissed, as you can imagine. Katie was too, so she texted Koby and was like,"Destiny's with another guy." And we took a pic of them holding hands. Koby texted her back,"How am I suppose to believe you? Are you tired of waiting for me to break up with her so you can have me?" Is he a jerk or should I forgive him? (link)
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I think that he is being defensive. He isn't trying to be mean but sometimes anger makes us say things the wrong way. He probably doesn't want to believe the truth, because he obviously likes this girl. I am sorry that your feelings for him are in the middle of your friendship, that always makes things difficult. You and your friend are being good friends for trying to help him avoid being in a relationship with a girl who is dishonest to him, so you haven't done anything wrong. Just continue to be his friend and try not to make a big deal about what he said. Hopefully I've helped. If you need anything, please write to me.
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female/ 15
i really like this guy at my school. i dont know him but i saw him once and i thought he was so hot. later on, i found out that a friend of mine knows him pretty well through her boyfriend. i talked to this friend and her boyfriend. they told me that this guy is really fun to talk to and interesting and intellectual and that mnay "pretty" girls approach him all the time but he is looking for something more. he is my age and both my friend and her bf said they dont think he has ever had a gf. i tend to get really obsessed about guys i like and i dont wanna get my heart broken. this guy is my dream guy though, both his looks and from all these great things i have heard and seen even from far away of his personality. he plays guitar and my friend offered me to go to his concert next week. i get picked up in the same place as him after school and i have wanted to start up a conversation but either i chicken out or he isnt there. for some reason, i keep seeing him a lot lately and although a lot of the time i do try to go to places at school where i know i can see him it is often a coincidence. my friends tell me that when i see him i stare and almost drool. i wanna meet this guy so badly but im afraid that if i do it at the concert it will look like another one of those awkward stalker situations that i feel like im in with him sometimes. help please! (link)
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I wish I could paint you a picture of understanding. You are at an important age of learning and interaction with other teens. Meeting guys is one of these challenges that you will find in your life. Do not be afraid though, this is a great opportunity for you and for him to meet someone new and interesting. Be the fun person that you really are and treat this fella' like any other person you are just meeting and becoming acquainted with. When you talk to him, talk with all sincerity, so that he can see your personality shine through. If perhaps you do not connect on a deeper level after meeting each other, then what are you to do? You are to continue your life and keep growing and expanding yourself into a beautiful woman. And you are also to write to me again =].
I hope that tomorrow will bring wonderful rays of sunshine to you.
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i need a picture of blair waldorf's school uniform. like a picture of blair in the uniform. preferbly one in which she spiced up (red tights)
i need it to be obvious that it is a school uniform. i ahev been looking everywhere!!!@@
help!
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http://www.shopstyle.com/uim/d5/96/d596154a2b5af1bc4e0dcf9549c1be9b.jpg
Or if you have a camera ake a picture next time you watch the show.
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i am writing a story about 2 completely different teenagers falling in love at a summer camp. i need some cute ways that they could meet or cute things they could do to each other that would make sense at a summer camp. thankya (link)
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1]One of them is a camp counselor who is constantly around the other one so they start talking that way.
2]They meet on the bus when one of them is sitting alone, and the other one sits beside him/her and they start talking
3]They get put in the same group at a camp activity
4]The girl gets lost somehow and runs into the guy who is also lost so they have to find their way back to camp together.
5]They have rooms next to each other so they see each other every morning.
Haha hope you like those. I would think of more but I have to write a story of my own for english right now. bye
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I need hepl on figuring out what giving head means (link)
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It means to put your mouth on his penis. =/
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My hair is naturally dark brown, almost black, and over the summer last year, I dyed it to a light brown. When fall came, I dyed it back to dark brown and i kept it that way until it started to get hotter outside. I like making my hair lighter when the sun comes out. But when spring came, I tried to dye it lighter again and it stayed the same. Just last week, I tried another time and still no change. if anything, it got darker. I used the right color hair dye and everything but nothing is working.
i'm really good with dying hair so i don't want to spend a bunch of money at hair salons for them to do it but why isn't it changing? is there any way I can dye it light without having to bleach it? (link)
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I've had a similar experience. Generally when you dye your hair darker, its really hard to get the color out and dying it lighter usually doesn't work. You can wait for it to grow out so that your natural hair color grows back, but that may take too long. Other than that your only option is probably bleaching it.
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well today i told my boyfriend that i had sex with another guy back in december when i cheated on him and he called me a slut but then he was the one who had like 25 girlfriends and slept with all of them i feel really bad for sleeping with the person i cheated with. am i a slut or did he make a bad judgement (link)
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Slut is a stupid label that is used to make people feel bad about themselves. You and him both know you cheated on him and he is obviously upset about it which is why he is calling you this. I hate the double standard in this world that involves women being sluts because they have sex with someone. Anyways I don't think you are a slut. I'm sure you feel bad for what you did and that alone makes you a good person. A good person isn't someone who is perfect, it's someone who learns from their mistakes. So no you are not a slut, you just made a mistake, like we all do. The important thing is to learn from our mistakes.
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