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how to I get my girl friend back???
I am still in love with my girl friend we've been together for 4 years on and off... we both know we love each other but we're also long distance part of the four years but we visited often... we had a falling out back in January she did something to hurt me(not cheeting)and so I thought to show her that I was hurt and dissapointed I stopped talking to her for about six months she did try to contact me several times but I ignored her never for a second I stopped to think of her or stopped loving her... I was just really really hurt... I got in touch with her couple of weeks ago she was very nice and responsive to me but tolled me that she is dating someone and has moved on and suggests I do the same... just the thought of that makes me sick... I know 6 months is a long time to ignore a person especially a person you love... I also know I was stupit to ignore her for this long but I did it... I never dated anyone else I was just hoping that she would realize her mistake and apologize and all would be great again... I tolled her how I feel and that I was sorry for all that time out but she tells me she likes this guy and wants to give her all to make it work... oviously I have different plans I want her back she keeps telling me that it is not fair to her new guy for us to talk but she keeps talking to me everytime I call her... we talk for long periods of time and she also calls me back when I leave a massage or a text... I try not to over do it so I do not drive her further away but I stay in her face enough to let her know that I am here... I am approching it like lets be friends and I talk to her about things we use to do together that were fun and great memories and try to make her laugh... I am not sure if she is doing it because she feels pity and sorry for me or because she still loves me but she just does not want to come out and say it especially with someone else in her life her new relationship is only 2 months old we have history how can she do this??? I am a pretty smart guy but I sure can use some good advice here what is the best strategy to get her back in my life???
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Sorry buddy don't consider you're self a smart guy,you say she tried to contact you several times and you ignored her,then where is the chance you were supposed to give her to appolagise to you for what ever her mistake was when you turn her away, it seems like you might have a chance of gettering her back because she still converse with you, but the bird seem's to be flying away, get my message.
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I can understand how deeply you must love her and she obviously really loves you as well. Sometimes long distance is a huge obstacle and if people stop talking for months at a time, a lot can change. People change. When you stopped talking to her she probably thought it was over between you guys so she tried to move on. It really is unfortunate how often this happens. The reason that she now calls you is not because she feels sorry for you but because she cares about you, but not in quite the same way that you care about her. She gave you the best advice that can be given. She made herself very clear in where she stands. The more you allow the thought of you two getting back together stay in your mind, the harder it will be for you to move on with your life. She was able to move on when she thought you didn't want to date her anymore, and you also have the ability to do this. I know it won't seem like it at first, but this really is the start of a new stage in your life and you should embrace it. Out of horrible things, beautiful things can be born. Good luck, I hope and pray for only the best for you.
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