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i like this guy
female/ 15
i really like this guy at my school. i dont know him but i saw him once and i thought he was so hot. later on, i found out that a friend of mine knows him pretty well through her boyfriend. i talked to this friend and her boyfriend. they told me that this guy is really fun to talk to and interesting and intellectual and that mnay "pretty" girls approach him all the time but he is looking for something more. he is my age and both my friend and her bf said they dont think he has ever had a gf. i tend to get really obsessed about guys i like and i dont wanna get my heart broken. this guy is my dream guy though, both his looks and from all these great things i have heard and seen even from far away of his personality. he plays guitar and my friend offered me to go to his concert next week. i get picked up in the same place as him after school and i have wanted to start up a conversation but either i chicken out or he isnt there. for some reason, i keep seeing him a lot lately and although a lot of the time i do try to go to places at school where i know i can see him it is often a coincidence. my friends tell me that when i see him i stare and almost drool. i wanna meet this guy so badly but im afraid that if i do it at the concert it will look like another one of those awkward stalker situations that i feel like im in with him sometimes. help please!
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I can totally relate to you on this one... and I would have to say that most girls do. He seems like a wonderful guy, but your never going to truly know until you see for yourself. The most important thing to remember is to be confident. The next time you see him, no matter where you are or what your doing just simply say hi and smile. I mean what harm can it really do? more than likely he is going to smile back. Then at the concert casually just tell him what a great job he did. This way you won't seem like a stalker and then the next time you see him the ice will already be broken. Good luck, hope everything goes well :)
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The next time you see him at the bus stop introduce yourself. Say to him "Hey, aren't you X? Aren't you friends with (insert name of your friends)? They've told me so much about you. My name is Y it's good to finally meet you. Maybe we can get together with X some time as a group. Does that sound like fun to you? I'll talk to X about it.
You could also have your friend introduce you to him. He may look, sound and appear like your match but you won't know until you get to him. Naturally, your friends will say a lot of nice things about him but you might not click or even like each other. Go about introducing yourself in the manner shown above and see what develops.
He's going to like you for who you are. If he sees that you aren't anything like the girls he doesn't go for maybe you have a shot. You need to get to know him and become a friend before he can consider you as more. Talk to your friends about being introduced or go with the above idea.
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I wish I could paint you a picture of understanding. You are at an important age of learning and interaction with other teens. Meeting guys is one of these challenges that you will find in your life. Do not be afraid though, this is a great opportunity for you and for him to meet someone new and interesting. Be the fun person that you really are and treat this fella' like any other person you are just meeting and becoming acquainted with. When you talk to him, talk with all sincerity, so that he can see your personality shine through. If perhaps you do not connect on a deeper level after meeting each other, then what are you to do? You are to continue your life and keep growing and expanding yourself into a beautiful woman. And you are also to write to me again =].
I hope that tomorrow will bring wonderful rays of sunshine to you.
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Hey! I've been in a position like this before. It's nerve-wracking but you just have to go for it...
So let's start by putting yourself in his position. If you had a concert and a cool girl introduced herself to you afterward and started talking, you wouldn't think it was weird- it would probably make you really happy to get attention from someone.
Anyway, I'm thinking that you need to get a mutual friend to introduce the two of you at the concert. Even if you have nothing to talk about, it will still be okay if you wear a great smelling perfume.
But you just need to remember to be outgoing and just go for it, balls to the wall. If it doesn't work out, then it just wasn't meant to be. But you'll never know if you never try :)
By the way, my situation was really, really similar (age, "stalking", concert, everything) and I went for it and it worked.
Good luck!
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OK, this is my first time answering:
I have been there too! I had the same situation with this guy namrd Jesse. He was smart, really hot, and a nice guy. Find a reason to talk to him. Ask him if you can borrow a pencil or something. I noticed you said he was an intellectual, so if you ever catch him reading, ask him what he's reading. Also ask him questions other girls would ordinarily wouldn't ask him.
Do this and REMEMBER: be yourself. Or else he's not worth it.
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it seems like he either isnt ready for a relationship or he is serious about one.. if you stare, then you stare, just make sure that its not too long or his doesnt notice! lol. i wouldnt go to the concert if youre only going for him. i think its better for you to get to know him yourself then find out everything about him before you even talk to him! it ruins the moment!! i would have your friend and her boyfriend introduce yaall and find out something yo have in common and go from there. if its meant to be, then its meant to be.. hope this helps!
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Firstly, BREATH!! It really is okay!! Many people go through this. If you have problems talking to your crush, why not ask your friend who knows him to talk to him when you're there and introduce you to him. That way, you don't feel like a stalker but as a friend, a caring friend, who actually KNOWS him. You know what I mean... Ignore what you're friends say about you almost drooling, everyone is unique, and so are you, you may drool and they may not, who cares?! You never know, your crush might actually like that about you, some guys actually lik girls that snort when they laugh! It is all natural. And when you talk to him, don't rstrict yourself, let the converstation flow and see where it goes, mainly, have fun! You could be the one he's been looking for! He may find you the MOST beautiful person out of all, not necessarily your looks but your personality too.
Don't jump to conclusions too soon, you never know what may happen!!
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