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Dear advicenators.
I'm a guy, 19 years old, and there's a girl (she's about one and a half years younger) I'm really close friends with. She always comes to me with stuff she would never tell anyone else. But recently, she takes offense in everything I say to her. Today was particularly bad. I would go watch her game (she plays a sport of which I'm not even sure if there is an english name for it) today, and tonight we would hit the town and go out with some friends. This morning I told her that I wasn't feeling very well (I suffer from migraine attacks regularly) and asked if she would really mind it if I would skip the game so I could let my headache pass and still go out with her tonight. She didn't take that very well. Her boyfriend sort of dumped her yesterday so I expected that she would be displeased, but I explained very carefully that I was really sorry and wished I could come to her game. But despite that she was very pissed and told me she didn't want me to come along tonight.
Stuff like this happens a lot recently, even when she and her boyfriend were still together with no problems. She is not the most reasonable type, so asking her what's the matter or why she acts this way doesn't really help. So I was hoping one of you might have the insight it takes to shed some light on this mystery. Why does she act, no, overreact like this all the time? (link)
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Girls ARE by nature, very sensitive and quite self-centred at times.
Girls are very emotional.
Girls in general are rather insecure and skeptical bout the people around them. For wat reasons, I really don't know.
They are very sensitive and even if you mean no harm in what you say, they might take it the wrong way and get offended. Getting easily offended is an evidence of insecurity.
They think a lot. It runs probably in our XX chromosomes.
I think the reason why she's so snappy these days is cos she recently just broke up with her bf. She could be feeling lonely. And therefore she expects you, being her confidante, to be there for her regardless of whatever bad situation you're in.
I know you must be thinking that there are other girls who say "hey its alright, take good care and rest well yea". I can honestly tell you that even these girls will feel a little upset at you not being able to be there for them when THEY NEED YOU THE MOST. Yup. Note those words in caps.
It may seem to be just a game you're going to but to her, your presence could mean support and companionship.
It is difficult for a guy to completely understand the girl. It is in fact very difficult for a guy to even understand half of the characteristics of a girl let alone talk bout her whole personality.
Even I myself sometimes don't understand why are girls so damn petty.
Basically, in a nutshell, she is pissed with you because she feels that you are not there for her when she needs you. She doesnt feel the ASSURANCE from you. That's is why she's angry.
Try assuring her like saying "hey I really have a bad headache. I'd really love to go if I was feeling fine. You can call me after the game to talk bout the game or anything else if you want. etc etc"
The point isnt bout going to her game. The point is bout how much you're willing to be there for her.
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Hey, I'm a guy and I grow my hair out long, over a foot in length. I wear it parted in the middle and pulled back in a pony-tail, and have had it like this for several years now. Just recently, I've started having a lot of breakage in my hair, lots in the shower drain and in the brush or comb. (no, I am not going bald, in case you're wondering) I can see the ends where the hair has broken and it's looking really bad.
Is there a type of shampoo or conditioner that works well for longer hair and prevents breakage? I've been doing other things that my girlfriend suggested such as using a hairdryer and certain ways of combing. But I still have a lot of breakage problem. Don't want to cut it off, either, as I like having it long. =P
Any advice or suggestions? If it helps at all, my hair is also very fine, not thick or curly. (link)
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First things first, let me start off with some facts:
1)As your hair grows longer, it's going further away from your scalp.
Your scalp secretes sebum which protects your hair and so those at the lower ends of your hair will not be as protected as those on top as they don't get as much sebum.
This is why are there things such as split ends.
2)Trim the ends of your hair regularly (bout once in 3 mths) to get rid of split ends
3)Use a brush instead of a fine-tooth comb. A fine tooth comb makes your hair wave cos of static electricity.
4)To prevent hair loss : Don't yank your hair while un-tangling hair knots or when washing your hair. BE GENTLE to your hair. When you wet your hair, run a brush through it b4 shampooing to reduce any formation of knots while shampooing.
5) The hairdryer is the hair's deadliest enemy. The heat is gonna give you lots of split ends cos it dries your hair up. So stay away from it if you can.
6) Use a conditioner while shampooing AND apply moisturiser when your hair dries. Concentrate on conditioning the ends of your hair.
I'm using DOVE conditioner, SILKEN shampoo and moisturiser and it's really great. SILKEN is a japanese product. I don't know if your country does import SILKEN from japan but do look out for that brand. It's not a very common brand but it's a great hair pdt.
Try not to tie it as often cos you are suffocating your hair. Don't you feel that your hair's dryer when you tie it up?
That's cos you're pulling it away from your scalp and depriving it of more sebum.
Most importantly, constantly condition and take good care of your hair.
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I wouldn't say I'm geeky with glasses but I'm wondering if maybe the guy I like might be embaressed of me wearing them since he knows I like them but everyone says I look good with them. What do you think? (link)
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It's now a trend to wear glasses. They don't call it the "geeky" look anymore. They call it the "smart" look now. Wearing glasses equates to smartness and confidence.
IF you feel you look good in them and if your friends say you look great in them, go ahead. Be confident in your own taste. If he doesnt like it then it's fine. I don't think he'll be embarrassed over such a trivial issue. If he does so, he's a jerk.
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do you have sites where you can download free albums or music plz help (link)
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*limewire
*morpheus
*imesh
Try these three. I'm using limewire, but this program takes up a lot of memory when it's running. So when you open limewire, your com will tend to lag.
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Hey. I'm a very sporty girl. I play soccer, basketball, and a little hockey. 70% of the time you'll find me out on the field messing around with my buds. But, since I'm so active I wear sports bras all the time. In fact, I only have sports bras. Lately my erm... boobs look odd in sports bras, It looks like I have one big one a "uniboob". I really want a real bra, a cupped one. But I'm soooo shy I can never ask my mom to take me to get one. Tips would be lovely yo help this conversation to go smoother. Thanks! 13/F (link)
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"Hi mum! Don't you think sports bra spoils the boobs?"
And she might say "Yup. It's better to get a real bra."
And you say "OK let's go get it!"
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Which music videos have a clip of a heart monitor going flat? (link)
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Hey I'm dying to answer this one!
"Like a surgeon" by Al Yankovic.
It's a spoof of Madonna's "Like a virgin"
Go look for it in you tube!!! You'll love it! I loved it! =)
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Can an exes really be friends after a break-up that neither one knows why it ended? I need straight to the point answers (link)
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Yes definitely. I am still friends with my ex and we still talk and hang out.
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i was on youtube and i found this on the top videos: http://youtube.com/watch?v=gSmYVlofcZE does that really happen when you get your period? lol probably not but im still wondering ... thx (link)
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That was one darn sick video. It's total bullshit.
Normal people don't get such periods. The woman in the video is the abnormal one.
Edit: Are you a guy? You must be one since you're asking this question. If you are, pls don't let this crap distort your impression of females. Such gross things are so not true and exaggerated.
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My first serious boyfriend broke up with me about 2 months ago. It was a blow to my heart and the big problem is, I can't move on. I still think about him everyday & get the urge to pour my heart out to him. I'm very involved in school, I have a job and many supportive friends, but nothing is helping. We're actually on good terms but he seems to be happier than ever. How do I let him go & finally be happy? I've never had to go through this. (18/F) (link)
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Hey...I totally understand how you feel.
The thing is that with him on your mind 24/7, you're never gonna let him go and be happy.
You've gotta keep youself busy. Keep at your school work. Don't let him come into your mind while you're busy doing stuff. When you start to drift back to him, SNAP out of it. Go do your homework, go out with your friends, go shopping, put in effort when you do your job. Don't spend time alone daydreaming cos that's only gonna make you think bout him. Go out and shop! Eat!! Lot's of nice things out there to do right! =)
It's ok to cry your heart out. Let it out if you have to and when you feel like crying, it's good for you. Don't suppress it.
Don't worry, it's just a phase that everyone will go thru in life. You'll get over it in no time.
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I'm taking medication that makes my lips extremely dry. As a result, they are constantly chapped, and a few days ago, they started to crack and bleed on the sides. It is painful and not attractive AT ALL. Chapstick helps a little..I reapply chapstick about every 15 minutes.
How do I make the pain go away and help my lips get better? =[ Don't tell me to stop the medication. I need it, and the lip thing isn't a HUGE deal... (link)
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1)Drink lots of water. Water will hydrate you and prevent you from getting chapped skin. Don't lick your lips. There's teeth and gum bacteria, leftover food, etc in your saliva so try not to lick your lips during these period of time.
I had a friend who kept licking his lips during winter time in China [we were on a holiday] and his lips swell up to the size of sausages the next day.
2)Stay away from cold places as it dehydrates you. Stay in warm places.
Meawhile, do continue to apply your lipbalm.
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well i have an x called danny and he wont stop staring at me and i have know idea if i should get back with him but the thing is im with one of his bestfriends'jono'and jono at the moment doesnt like him but anyway should i get back with him or not?...he dumped me just cos i interupted him on his stupid game but he still likes me what do i do?
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Wat the f...? He broke up with you cos of a game? That's the dumbest reason and the jerkiest guy I've ever come across.
Let him stare at you then. Let him continue liking you. You don't have to get back with him just cos he shows signs of liking you.
Why go back to a petty, immature nut.
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Okay im 13 female and i stayed back this year in the 6th grade so im in that grade now.
I like this boy named Eric and i only see him on the bus cause were in diffrent grades but you cant help that :)anyway i see him on the bus and ill talk to him and ill give him personal information and ill start tallking about it a couple days later and he wont remember but sometimes he does.And like 2 months ago I told him i liked him right at the end of the bus well when it was my stop and when i did i talk SO fast i dont think he realy understode haha but all the said was okay and i was absent the next day cause i was tired and my BESTEST friend that i know would never lie to me said he ask her where i was.So he did think of me but wensday the first morning hes on the bus he sat across some other kid so i couldnt playing his gamey thing and never talked to me and a couple days later he still wouldnt talk to me.So i gave him a note about the magizeens he looks at and there just wrestling but theres liek half naked women on them so it made me feel horrible cause i not that pretty.and alot of other stuff was in that note and 3 days latter he then just started atalking to me after that.Now i dont want to keep shuving it his face that i like him.I donno i just think that if he really liked me he wouldve done something by now dont you think but then kim will say guys try to hide there emotions and stuff so im confused.We joke around and everything and we sit next to eachother sometimes and he'll try pushing me out and i dont know just kidding or not so.And he's already told another kid he likes kayla heitz but she moved last year to florida which is like half way aorund the country and beofre moving dumped him!!so yeah understandible but i just want someones opinoin do you think but how we are do you think he thinks of me the same way and just to tell you i have REALLY curly hair that wicked frizzy always in a pony tail fat face with glasses and im fat and when i mean fat is ikm really over weight and i just went to the hstpital for diabetes fat...so im not sure if he likes me or not and i have myspace...http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendid=99687693 thats mine and i hav pics for what i look like if it madders.....help haha
katie (link)
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Based on my experience and my friends' experiences, if guys like you, they'll show it in ways that are really very telling. If you have to go bout thinking "oh does he like me? When he does this does he mean that he likes me? But then He could've done that to anyone".
You don't have to be pretty for guys to like you. I'm not pretty, but i do have my fair share of guys that like me. You look fine and you are confident bout yourself. That's good. Guys like confident girls. Everyone loves confident people. Keep it up.
See, if he doesn't do anything, then try to approach him slowly. You gotta talk to him more and not just straight away tell him how you feel. Try to make him happy by telling jokes. Make him laugh his ass off. Make him laugh till his mouth can't close.
Do tell me how it goes! =)
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I'm taking a poll and I'm curious what people think the most spoken language is. Don't search the site or look at other people's answers and see. I want what YOU think. (link)
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English
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13/F
Is it ok to not know if you like your guy friend or not, and then go on a date? Just to see if it works out. If not, is it okay to say no to a second date?
Thanks! (link)
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Haha. Yea it's perfectly fine. A date, to me, is just like trying to get to know a guy friend better and seeing if it's gonna work out fine after that date.
Don't worry bout it.
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i have been with my boyfriend for almost a year but im starting to have major feelings for an ex boyfriend. i know its very bad of me but my boyfriend now just isnt making me happy anymore and i dont know what to do. my boyfriend lies to me about everything so im to the point i dont know whats real and whats a lie. hes lied about smoking (twice), going to a party, going to school, and to as stupid as how much he spends on something. i just dont understand. he tells me hell change but hes said that since day one and it continues. also on two occasions he didnt go to school once i found an earring and the other time i found an ankle bracelet. i asked whose it was and he told me he didnt know. i told him i thought he was cheating on me and he got all mad and said he wasnt. im just not happy anymore. i love him to death though. but my ex boyfriend and me have been talking the past 3 days and im not sure whats gonna happen but hes making me so happy. ive been smiling nonstop and hes making me feel whole i talked to him yesterday from 1:30 pm all the way til 5 am nonstop. on the internet and phone. i just dont know what to do. i dont want to hurt my boyfriend but in the same sense im not happy. but i dont wanna rush it with my ex boyfriend either. please help me (link)
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Hi there,
When you're stuck in this kind of situation, I would say - Follow your heart. You have to do what makes YOU feel happy. I know this is gonna sound mean but you have to think of YOURSELF first in this kind of situation.
I know, you don't wanna hurt your bf; but do you think it's gonna do the two of you good if you stay on with him, continuing to doubt him? You're only letting the problem drag on, isnt it? I personally feel that you shouldn't carry on this relationship with your current bf.
Trust and happiness forms the foundation of a strong and heartwarming relationship. People go into a relationship to find a complementary partner who SHARES their problems, not to find a partner who GIVES them problems. When a trust between the two of you is broken, it's gonna be hard to salvage the relationship.
As for your ex bf, let things take it's natural course. What's meant to be yours, will be yours. Don't call your ex bf or stop him in the hallways for nothing. Talk to him when you feel you need to talk to him. Simple as that.That way, you won't be rushing it with your bf, right? Just take one day as it is and don't think too much.
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So.. I heard that Adam and Eve were the only ones there.. So they had sex and had two sons.
And.. ? How did we come from them, then?
One of the sons, did it with Eve?
Isn't that incest?
I thought incest was bad in the bible.
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That's a very good question.
One thing's for sure : Adam and Eve had daughters as well (genesis 5:4).
It wasn't stated in the bible how Cain and Abel (their sons) reproduced, whether with Eve or with their sisters. But you're right in that they must've slept with someone related to them. At that time it was not called incest. They were required by God to "be fruitful and multiply". I can't remember when was the act of incest condemned, but it was stated in the bible.
Now incest connotes an act which is committed when you do it with a relative knowing that you actually have the OTHER OPTION of doing it with someone who's unrelated. Technically speaking they may seemed to have committed incest. But then again, Cain and Abel weren't given the option of mating with someone unrelated.
If the story of Adam and Eve was mythical, while some other parts true....
I mean...I don't see any sense in believing parts of the bible only. The bible is one whole entity and refusing to believe the story of Adam and Eve is equivalent to not beliveing their descendants' existence, which includes moses, noah, etc. It doesnt make any sense as well since WE come FROM Adam and Eve. It amounts to not believing in your own existence as well.
I'm a christian and so I believe the bible right down to the last alphabet.
P.S If anyone has any nasty comments to make, please don't. I'm open to differing opinions. Feel free to voice out any disagreements but don't get personal.
I hope I've answered your question. =)
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How do you feel better when you are crying? I'm kinda going through a really rough time and I'm having some sleeping problems. If it helps, the rough thing I'm going through is a break-up. We were together for about 3 years and he just ended it. So can anyone give me some tips on how to stop crying and feel better? (link)
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Cry it out. It's good for you. Don't keep it inside you. Cry your heart out and give yourself time to heal. Time heals everything, really.
Meanwhile, to help yourself get over it faster, get out of the house. Don't stay indoors and start brooding over it. Go do fun stuff with your friends like shopping, eating, watching movies, playing, etc. You can go get a pet for yourself if your family doesnt mind. Their cute little faces will cheer you up =)
Keep yourself busy and try not to let your mind wander back to sad memories. SNAP out of it once you start to dwell on it to help yourself get over the breakup faster. You're only gonna depress yourself by mulling over such things. If you really can't help it, cry it out if you have to.
At night, get some of your good friends to talk to you on the phone or chat with you via hp texting till you fall asleep. I did that while I was getting over my breakup and it helped me to get over those nights.
Don't worry, give yourself time to pick yourself up.
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I want to dye my hair lighter, with one of those like 10 dollar boxes you can find at a pharmacy. does anyone reccamend any good brands? (link)
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Go for LOREAL. The new packaging which is silver in colour. It doesnt spoil your hair. They provide a moisturiser as well. I used LOREAL and my hair actually feels softer after tt.
P.S Don't every use NATIER or something like tt. I can't remember the name. But don't go for a brand that sounds like tt. It can really damage your hair.
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okay, so i HAD a best friend, me and her were friends for almost 4 years she knew everything about me and we were really close. although she was a little fake towards me - such as she dated my ex and would never help me out when i was in a fight with someone she even once used me to get to one of my brothers friends. i always had her back though and let all these things slip by. so this girl who i dont like goes to her and tells her that ive been talking about her behind her back, that did hurt her but it hurt me to, my friend for 4 years cant even trust me? well i guess more then just this one girl told her that i was talking about her, and i must admit i had talked about her on several occasions, but she always ditched me when i needed her the most, and then would expect me to be there for her, i took a lot of crap for and from her and would always clean up after her when she got into trouble. but i had made this friend of mine pretty much my life and didnt realy have too many other friends besides her, and the ones that i did have she was also friends with and turned a lot of them against me. so im trying my hardest to make some new friends, and this weekend i may be hanging out with some new people. i dont really know how to handle this whole situation though, how do i make a good impression on these new people? what should i do while in school? and how should i act around my ex bestfriend? it seems like shes trying to make my life hell. i wish i could go somewheres and start over, a lot of people think im fake and 2 faced now. but in reality i think i had a right to atleast say a few things about her, i mean she laughed at me once for crying and did a lot of things a friend shouldnt do. im in a time in my life when i need a friend the most. what should i do? am i the one at fault?
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My goodness! Why did you stick with such a person for 4 years?! Come on! You definitely deserve better friends. She's a slut. I'm sorrie but I really have to say that. Congratulations to her; she has surpassed the bitch mark.
Can't you see that she's pushing you around, using you as her stepping stone to become more popular etc? She's destroying your self esteem. Seriously, if I were you, I would've thrashed the shit out of her.
First things first, NO, you are not at fault. Don't worry bout leaving a good impression on your new friends. Like I always say, be happy and enjoy your time with them. Laugh with them. Don't worry bout what to talk to them. Throw all these worries to the back of your mind. You'll know what to talk to them when you're with them. Just enjoy your time around these people.
While you're in school, when you see new friends say "Hi!" with a friendly smile on your face and make small conversations. Small conversations do go a long way
Gradually distance yourself from your friend. When she wans to talk to you, don't show any interest. Say hmm, ya or ok. Don't be too nice to her and don't ignore her totally. Just give her satisfactory answers and that's it. Don't talk bad bout her to your friends. if you need to get it off your chest, tell your parents, sis, etc..or someone who's REALLY REALLY trustworthy.
If your ex best friend and those frens who turned against you don't wish to talk to you , forget it. Dont' bother bout these people. It's good that you're making new friends. You're already going in the right direction. Believe in yourself. You can do without her and get new friends.
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:Hey, im a m/16 virgin, Junior in High School
-i have never had a serious relationship, at all. When i was in 8th/9th grade or so i had a few "intimate" moments but nothing worth mentioning. Right now im quite lonely. betrayed by a few of my close friends (not really there fault, just time takes it toll) I tend to be a "friend" of many people. never have I once gotten sexually close or even talked about this to anyone.
At this point I am deperate for a sincere relationship. I am the type of person that would ask a girl out, as long as it was a 50% chance or higher I would get a "yes". But at this point I am pretty sure that not one girl would even consider me.
I'm not amazingly attractive, nor do I have the IQ of a genious. But I'm kind, smart, and caring.
I tend to question alot about life, and If a girl or friend in general cant hold there own ground, I may just lose that person from my life because I'm to damn annoying.
What should I do? I know alot of people as "friends". Not one would consider even going on a few dates with me to get to know me. I am a bit lonely and I feel that if I dont find someone soon, to at least raise me up a little higher, I might become depressed, or extremly lonely.
Since I'm a Junior I have a little more pressure/respect for my decision and I can justify what I do/am (Single/Not -Single)
How can i get what i want, a serious relationship with a great girl that will understand me. and someone who i can take an intrest in and help too (Im not selfish ^_^)
any advice at all would be great! (link)
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You sound like a SNAG- Sensitive New Age Guy. The type that I would like.
Anyways, don't just be a friend to everyone. Get to know them more in depth. Girls like to talk bout emotions, thoughts bout things, etc. I'm very sure tt you wont have any problems having long conversations with girls.
I think guys like you are virutally extinct; sensitive, having your own opinions, knowing what you want etc. That's great. Please remain that way. Dun change it. Right now you may not have a gf probably cos most people your age aren't mature yet. Most aren't willing to go into a relationship which you've just described cos it requires a great deal of committment.
Be patient. Pay attention and be more sensitve and caring to a girl's feelings. Don't annoy girls or your frens with questions in life. Be more sensitive in this aspect. When they start to show signs of impatience with your questioning, stop talking bout it already. You can't expect every one of your friend to share your passion for being inquisitive.
I can guarantee you that guys like you are a rare breed and are what most girls look for for a long time relationship. Don't worry, you're already there. I can assure you; with your character, many girls will be attracted to you. Just get to know girls in depth but don't make yourself look desperate though (cos girls fear desperate guys) and I'm sure the right one will come along soon.
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