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can't move on
My first serious boyfriend broke up with me about 2 months ago. It was a blow to my heart and the big problem is, I can't move on. I still think about him everyday & get the urge to pour my heart out to him. I'm very involved in school, I have a job and many supportive friends, but nothing is helping. We're actually on good terms but he seems to be happier than ever. How do I let him go & finally be happy? I've never had to go through this. (18/F)
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Yeah heartbreaks are no fun :( Im hurting right now myself but i find that when im in school..most of the time im ok! especially around friends if we hang out..and a big thing is working out! its proven that when you excercise your body releases endorphens that seriously make you happy!
sso my suggestions are to
-join a gym,sport,or club
-become social and active..be around friends
- get a job or a new one to give yourself some change
- my final suggestion is to let him know how you feel beforeeee you really try and move on. maybe he feels the same way? he might not though so be careful. let him know how you feel..but use your disgression..you know him best..you know how to talk to him..so give it a try because ...
love is worth fighting for! at least you can walk away saying you gave it a shot..and when you walk away..it will bring closure to you.
best of luck..it hurts
trust me i kno :(
<3 melissa
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I know this is easier said than done..but you have to look at the BIG picture. What is this guy compared with all of the other men in the world? It's almost ridiculous how insignificant. It's also about maturing. You have to realize that you have other things to live for, responsibilities, and people that count on you. You can't let something as trivial as a breakup disrupt the flow of your life. After all, you do only get ONE life. No do overs. do you want to spend your one chance mourning one person, when obviously he is not mourning you? Are you that desperate for love, or really are you just a little hurt.. Ask yourself those questions and wake up!
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You need to pour your heart out, but in a safe way. I suggest writing down every single thing you are feeling and can think of to get it out of your system. This may take pages and pages, but the important thing is to get it out of you and onto paper. When you are done, take a deep breath and congratulate yourself. If you are able to, I want you to rip up or burn all those pages and think about how you are now released from holding onto them. Feelings are real, but amazingly tranformable. It is important to acknowledge your pain, frustration, anger, and anything else you find out as you write, but it is also important that you realize that you are still a whole person when you take those feelings and put them somewhere else. You may be left with the residue of being rejected, and may feel a little empty for a while. During this time, take the opportunity to rediscover who you are and how you have grown. You are stronger than you think, and you will move on to better things and opportunities, sooner than you think!
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Hey...I totally understand how you feel.
The thing is that with him on your mind 24/7, you're never gonna let him go and be happy.
You've gotta keep youself busy. Keep at your school work. Don't let him come into your mind while you're busy doing stuff. When you start to drift back to him, SNAP out of it. Go do your homework, go out with your friends, go shopping, put in effort when you do your job. Don't spend time alone daydreaming cos that's only gonna make you think bout him. Go out and shop! Eat!! Lot's of nice things out there to do right! =)
It's ok to cry your heart out. Let it out if you have to and when you feel like crying, it's good for you. Don't suppress it.
Don't worry, it's just a phase that everyone will go thru in life. You'll get over it in no time.
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Try to get rid of everything that reminds you of him and any evidence you went out with him. DOn't ignore him in the halls and say hi if you bump into him. Don't become full on strangers, you want to keep everyone you meet through life close incase you need them later on. Good luck!
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