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FRIENDS.
okay, so i HAD a best friend, me and her were friends for almost 4 years she knew everything about me and we were really close. although she was a little fake towards me - such as she dated my ex and would never help me out when i was in a fight with someone she even once used me to get to one of my brothers friends. i always had her back though and let all these things slip by. so this girl who i dont like goes to her and tells her that ive been talking about her behind her back, that did hurt her but it hurt me to, my friend for 4 years cant even trust me? well i guess more then just this one girl told her that i was talking about her, and i must admit i had talked about her on several occasions, but she always ditched me when i needed her the most, and then would expect me to be there for her, i took a lot of crap for and from her and would always clean up after her when she got into trouble. but i had made this friend of mine pretty much my life and didnt realy have too many other friends besides her, and the ones that i did have she was also friends with and turned a lot of them against me. so im trying my hardest to make some new friends, and this weekend i may be hanging out with some new people. i dont really know how to handle this whole situation though, how do i make a good impression on these new people? what should i do while in school? and how should i act around my ex bestfriend? it seems like shes trying to make my life hell. i wish i could go somewheres and start over, a lot of people think im fake and 2 faced now. but in reality i think i had a right to atleast say a few things about her, i mean she laughed at me once for crying and did a lot of things a friend shouldnt do. im in a time in my life when i need a friend the most. what should i do? am i the one at fault?
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Definatly you are NOT the one at fault. If she is gonna laugh at you and do all those nasty things why even bother? If she wants to be mean and turn ld f4iends against yoiu then fine. Keep your chin high girl!! and while around your new friends be yourself because it seems no one else has qualafied :) Hop I helped
-Liv :)
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I know what you're going through because I went through pretty much the same thing. But anyways, if she's going to trea tyou like this, she doesn't deserve sumone like you because apparetnyl YOU weren't the one who was wrong in this situation, SHE was. I say to start getting close to these new people, and be YOURSELF around them--that's how you'll make a good impression, because these new people will know that they can be themselves around you as well.
Hope I helped! =]
-Jam
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My goodness! Why did you stick with such a person for 4 years?! Come on! You definitely deserve better friends. She's a slut. I'm sorrie but I really have to say that. Congratulations to her; she has surpassed the bitch mark.
Can't you see that she's pushing you around, using you as her stepping stone to become more popular etc? She's destroying your self esteem. Seriously, if I were you, I would've thrashed the shit out of her.
First things first, NO, you are not at fault. Don't worry bout leaving a good impression on your new friends. Like I always say, be happy and enjoy your time with them. Laugh with them. Don't worry bout what to talk to them. Throw all these worries to the back of your mind. You'll know what to talk to them when you're with them. Just enjoy your time around these people.
While you're in school, when you see new friends say "Hi!" with a friendly smile on your face and make small conversations. Small conversations do go a long way
Gradually distance yourself from your friend. When she wans to talk to you, don't show any interest. Say hmm, ya or ok. Don't be too nice to her and don't ignore her totally. Just give her satisfactory answers and that's it. Don't talk bad bout her to your friends. if you need to get it off your chest, tell your parents, sis, etc..or someone who's REALLY REALLY trustworthy.
If your ex best friend and those frens who turned against you don't wish to talk to you , forget it. Dont' bother bout these people. It's good that you're making new friends. You're already going in the right direction. Believe in yourself. You can do without her and get new friends.
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naa u aint the one at fault she a bitch man i say fight it out everytin sorted after a fight.with your new friends jus be ya self
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