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My hearts hurts, yesturday I had the symtoms od a heart attack, a real heart attack. And now today my heart feels werid. It doesn't hurt as much as yesturday but I can feel it beating in a odd way...What should I do?

It is recommended you get this checked out as soon as possible.
It could be serious, yet could be nothing to worry about.
I had problems a few years ago with my heart and I got it checked. You should do the same and don't delay.

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can you have sex durring your period?

It's up to you.

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i pierced my second and both my cartiliges before and i still have earings in them... i was just wondering if i pierced my tragus would that be more dangerous since its not part of the lobe? and if someone has pierced it themselves before, does it hurt alot?

I have it. and the pain wasn't bad. Of course after having it done, it stung for a few seconds and throbbed for a little while, but other than that the only time it would hurt is if it got knocked or accidently turning on it whilst sleeping.
I wouldn't recommend you piercing this yourself though because it's quite thick and in this particular spot, it's easy to get placement wrong, leading to future problems. It's also wise to get correct jewelry inserted too :)

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I bird pooped on my head when I was on a walk! I rushed bakc home and washed it and then I had smelly hair! Does my hair have to be shaved off or something?!

Why would your hair need to be shaved? If it did, MANY people would be walking around bald right now!
Just wash your hair thoroughly again leaving the shampoo and conditioner on for longer before rinsing :)

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hey
i just got my bellybutton pierced about a week ago with the bananna barbell
i have been cleaning it twice a day with dial liguid soap
but now i woke up and its all red and hurts and white stuff is coming out
so now i am still cleaning it with dial soap but im also putting neosporin on it as well
my friend got it done with me and hers is fine
i dont know what to do because i like it so much and i dont want to take it out
any one ever expeirence this and have some suggestions?
thanks in advance =]

It's normal. Continue cleaning it and apply hot compresses to it (not boiling!!) for about 10 minutes once a day to help with any pain etc. :)
Give it a few days, if it's no better, see your piercer.
It should be fine, however.

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what is it called when you get that hard part in the middle of your ear pierced? (not cartlidge)

Tragus. I have one and I think they're really pretty. :)

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Okay,
so i have super thin hair, it's hard to do things with it, like even in a ponytail because then it looks stupid. Any tips on how to make hair thicker?

Back comb. I don't mean alot so you look like a witch (!) but doing it at the roots and fixing with a touch of hairspray (not too much) creates lift and adds extra volume.
Give it a try.

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okay well i have wanted a cartilage peircing for a verrry long time. i've peirced my ears 4 times without infections and stuff, but only on the lobe. i've HEARD that it's very dangerious to peirce my cartilage MYSELF. but i really want to do it.

while i will most likely do this nomatter what advice i get here, i really would like your input on how dangerous this is. i've heard crazy stories about peoples ears getting amputated and things like that. i dont know, i just need somebody who knows what they're talking about from experience.

oh and btw i was also thinking about my nose. i would also like advice on that.

thanks!! =)

You said no matter what advice you will get, you will still do it anyway!
I'm guessing you know the risks, so I'm just going to help you along the way to doing your piercing.

Yes, every type of piercing can be dangerous and in extreme cases, complications do occur whether it's minor or even life threatening. This can happen no matter where you go to get your piercing.

It's not about finding a safety pin or whatever and numbing/reducing swelling with ice.
You need to think beyond that.
Do you have the correct jewelry? (same gauge as needle you will be using)
Placement? This is crucial.
Tools?
and they key word here: STERILE?
It's almost impossible to sterilize things yourself without them being autoclaved.
People think washing their hands and rubbing alcohol onto the equipment (or boiled salt water, lighting the tip of the needle and jewelry, hydrogen peroxide etc) will do the trick but it doesn't get rid of everything from the equipment you will be using.

Does it stop people piercing themselves?
Must be joking!

I wouldn't recommend doing the nose yourself. Getting it pierced can be tricky. You need the right placement and not just aiming in a straight line. The needle has to be pushed correctly and down to enable you to wear proper jewelry and basically, the risks are too great :) The slightest bad movement with piercing your nostril can cause friction and give you the dreaded "nostril bump" which is such a pain to take care of and eliminate.

If you must do your own cartilage piercing, make sure you're calm and in a comfortable position.
Of course it's not going to be like in a piercing studio but if you want the risk of infection to be minimal, it's good if you do it the best you can.

Wash your hands and wipe your ear thoroughly.
Get all sterilized (to the best of your ability) tools and lay them out.
Mark the point you wish to pierce.
Wash hands and glove up if you have them.
Breathe in, and on the exhale, push the needle through.
If you're using a hollow needle, good. You can simply push the jewelry through. If not, it's alot more tricky and may cause you more pain.

Make sure to have extra equipment with you incase you're a bleeder :)

Cleaning the piercing thoroughly is vital!

You're most probably going to be one of the lucky ones where it turns out fine. and I really hope it does. Just don't forget there are tonnes of risks involved.

Feel free to ask for further advice if you need it.

and lastly, if you haven't already, do your research! Look on the internet for stories of people who have pierced themselves, how to's, and about risks etc.

Good luck.



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My period hasnt been on for two months. I have not had sex with a boy, never. what could be my problem. Please help

Nothing is wrong. It can take months, even years for your period to regulate. If you've been having it for a while now and think something could be up, simply check with your doc. But I wouldn't worry about it. Many things can cause it to do this, such as change in diet, stress, etc. :)

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Hey. I was wondering how to change my username on myspace because they gave me this number which I don't really like at all. haha, thanks

Everyone gets given a number after signing up.
There should be a box on the homepage telling you to create your own username, but to be careful and make a wise choice because that's the one you will have forever :)

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Any one kno where and how i can get like on of those myspace tracker things? i heard of them and that they can tell u who is lookin at your profile. where can i get the code for it?

At one point, one of the trackers did work. Although now none of them work and can actually cause harm to your profile and possibly other people who view it.
Myspace trackers are not safe, so I wouldn't bother risking it.
Anyway, keep the fun in Myspace! Anonymous profile viewers are better!

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Hey everyone! Well, I've never heard of limewire until the other day from a friend. So, I started to use it but my parents are concerened that it is illegal. is it leagal? cause some people at school say it is leagal and others say it is illegal. i need to know! wut happenes if you use it and it is illegal??thanks!!

The program Limewire is legal.
Big BUT time (!)..
If you don't pay for the songs etc then it's illegal.
Although, most people do it anyway and nothing will happen.
Unless something different like downloading a virus accidently, which is very common with programs like Limewire. So be careful! :)

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Ok so a lot of people tell me i am too thin. I've done those online calculators and they say i am, but you can't really trust those things because they don't take in to consideration a lot of important factors, you know. So, I thought if people could look at my pic site and give me their honest opinion? Thanks. http://www.picturetrail.com/photos/blondina75

Honest, honest opinion:
Looking at your pictures, yes you do look very thin and could be mistaken for someone with an eating disorder. To put it bluntly, if you feel you aren't eating enough, I would definitely see a doctor. Even if you think everything is okay, still see one. Deep down, you know something isn't right or you wouldn't let us decide if you are thin for you.
Don't put your health at risk. Just go and check you are healthy and everything is working fine. :)

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Ok so i'm 15/m
Ok right, is it ok for a guy to straighten his hair ? Because i straighten my fringe..because it luks stupid without it straightened, but i don't think many people realise i do. Anyway, one person in my class made a comment about how only gay guys straighten their hair :| and i was..:(..because i'm not gay.
Do you think it is right/wrong ?

I know tonnes of guys who straighten their hair. What's wrong with taking pride in their appearance? Nothing :)
So don't let anyones comments like "He straightens his hair. He must be gay" put you on a downer.
You do it because you feel more comfortable doing it and you obviously want to look your best!
Carry on doing it I say!

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i was wearing clothes
when i lost my virginity
his penis went in my vagina though.[[[he moved my underwear out of the way]]]]
but only for 5 minutes
did i still loose my virginity?

stupid question
yes i know.

His penis entered you, so yes. :)

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i need some help i need to know exzactly how to get preganet i mean i knopw you havbe to have sex but i mean do we both have to have a orgasim to get pregnant when he cums or does it mater we both have been trying but not sure were to start can you help

If it worked like that, it would be very difficult for some women to become pregnant!
Not all women orgasm during sex.
To become pregnant, you have sex. Can't say when you will become pregnant though..
and if you didn't know this simple advice, you shouldn't even be having sex.

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ok im 13\f and i need help..ok i have this b.f named austin and he is soo nice to me n all n latly he has been hangin up on me and ignoring kallz and i just tlked to him n he was like all short ansswered and i dont know wut to do it is killing me and i just dont know wut to do can u helpme??wb---racerchic4390@yahoo.com ----ppllllzzzz.**Amber

You really need to talk to him.
Communication is something which is vital in all relationships. Without it, there's no point.
Call him, or next time you see him, just ask him what's up.
Maybe you've done something without realizing to hurt his feelings. Or perhaps he's just going through a hard time which you might not be aware of? I'm sure there's a logical explanation.
Try not to worry about it though. Seriously, just come straight out and ask him. It will make you feel so much better.
I hope things work out fine for you. Best of luck. and if you want any more advice, don't forget to ask.

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i know this sounds really weird but i really need to lose weight fast. a lot of people have probably had these diseases but which one works better, anorexia or bulimea? i need one of them and i just cant say why but please just tell me which is better

Appalling. Utterly appalling.

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A little over three months ago I got a two-year subscription to Seventeen magazine; It also comes with a free makeup kit. The ticket said I would recieve the gift but it did not say how long it would take. How long should it be until it arrives? Its been almost four months now! Thankya.

They take time, unfortunately.
Believe it or not, I once waited 2 years for a free gift, but Seventeen magazine might not be the same :)
Give it about 2 more weeks, then contact them (they should have a number or email inside the magazine)
Hope you get it shortly!

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What does it mean to get your hair thinned?
How do they do it?
And is it good for your hair?
Thanks.

I always have to get my hair thinned because it's so thick. Basically, it rids you from having too much hair, making it lighter and much more manageable :) However, the downside is you are more at risk of having split ends.

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