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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.


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--Jack

advice

when you're on your honeymoon do you have to have sex? is that what the guy usually expects to happen?

I would assume that that is what the guy expects, but if you don't want to have sex on your honeymoon, just be open and honest about it with our to-be husband and maybe he'll be fine with it. Don't do anything until you are ready.

--Jack
(15/m)

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I live in Rhode Island and I'm going away to Pennsylvania and Washington D.C. tomorrow. That's considered far for our family and we are driving. We are leaving tomorrow and coming back Monday afternoon. That's 7 days. It's going to be VERY warm there. I don't know how much to pack for clothes, accessories, and things to do to keep me occupied for the ride. If you were going on this trip, what would you pack?

Like example:
# of shirts
# of necklaces
# of pajamas etc. etc.

Thank you!

Hey!

I would bring a shirt for everyday [7], plus three extra shirts, [making 10 total]. That way, you have enough for every day, and if you spill something on one of them, you have three backups. Remember, the more, the merrier! Also- you might want to bring a separate set of clothes for the trip there and back.

I guess you could bring 3 necklaces.. I'm not sure about that.. I'm a guy.. I don't have ANY clue about that sort of stuff.

I would bring 3 pairs of pajamas.. that way you can swap each night, and you'll only have to wear one three times.. and most clothes are still fine after the 2nd time.. at least for guys.. haha.

Bring two pairs of pants.. and 5 or 6 pairs of shorts. Pants because you never know if it will be too cold to wear shorts, and shorts because I know that D.C. is warm around this time of the year.

Bring enough underwear/bras for each day. Plus, just like the shirts, bring extra! You don't want to be stuck wearing things like that over again!

Bring your bathing suit. Even if you aren't sure if you're swimming or not.. at least you'll have it if you get the opportunity to.

Bring two towels. I don't know where exactly you're going, but I'm sure there will be a place to take showers.. bring whatever other toiletries you think you'll need. Again, I don't know what those will be for you, as I'm not a girl. I guess that means tampons, razor, etc.

As for the ride down and back up: bring a book. Bring anything that you can do while sitting down. Bring cards maybe. You and your family can play car games.. trust me... there are many:

only search advicenators.com


I know of a really fun one.. my sister and I played it on our way home from Cedar Point last week. You can have two, three, four or however many people you want to play, just not too many. One person names a candy, and the next person names another candy different from that one. You keep naming candies until no one can name anymore. The last person to name a candy wins.. and there are a few rules: You can't repeat candy names. You can't get help from anyone or any outside source [internet, etc.]. And basically you can set up any other rules you want. This game will seriously last for HOURS!

Have a nice vacation!
--Jack
(15/m)

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15 f
ok so like my ex is a total jerk and i jsut want to find someone better out there. so guys help! is there guys who arent jerks. these days it seems that guys only like me for my looks and think im hot or whatever and that jsut gets me so mad! like i realllllllyyyyyy want a real relationship but guys are jsut so immature these days and it just kills me! like evrytime they say something i always think its a lie1 like i dont believe anything any guy tells me anymore because of the bad reputation ive had dating guys. i really hate the fact that i cant find a really nice guy anymore. so if ur a guy and ur really sweet help me out and tell me something so i can get soem hope. that there are some sweet guys out there! thanks alot!

Well.. since Igotamonopoly basically said that I would answer this question, I guess I HAVE to.

I myself am a 15 year old guy, 16 in November, and I would actually consider myself a non-jerky guy. In relationships, I look for personality more so than looks. I'm actually being VERY honest here. I know plenty of guys like me. They know that in the end- why would you want to be in a relationship with someone JUST because they're "hot? What would the relationship be based on? NOTHING, that's what! That's why I don't go for girls just because they are pretty or whatever. And I'm sorry that you've had to go through guys like this.

Let these guys say what they will.. but you don't have to go out with or date any of them unless you want to. Just be patient and you'll find a guy like me. They ARE out there, you just have to be watchful.


Feel better.. and don't let those guys ruin your outlook on relationships! The really nice one's will start to appear as you grow older. Right now, the majority of guys our age are immature jerks that have no sense of right from wrong when it comes to girls. Let the nice guys come to you. They will.. honestly.

Does that help? I hope I lived up to Igotamonopoly's expectations of me.

--Jack
(15/m)

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Theres this guy I met on online and he asked me to hang out with him we were already spose to go out one night but he got arrested.I'm ready for a hookup (I'm a virgin) and he loves sex. I told him to call me but he said for me to call him. Is this worth it? I mean if I'm looking for a hookup now? Should I call him?
P.S. Even though we met online, my good friend knows him so I think its okay.

I'm going to be completely honest here. The first sentence gives you your answer. Two points in there are flat out telling you that this isn't worth it--

One: you met him online.. even if your good friend knows him, it doesn't mean YOU do. Have you ever seen Degrassi? Well there's this episode where this girl Darcy posts pictures on her MySpace-like website, and her good friend Peter has all these people that he knows that he directs to her page. One is particularly interested in her.. and happened to be a 40 year old CREEP that came to her house. Do you really want to risk that?

Two: he's been arrested. Yes, people deserve second chances, but I'm going to assume that he's been arrested before. Therefore, he's already blown his second chance, and plus.. he's the type of person that has actually been arrested. Do you really want to deal with people like that? Especially since you've only talked to him online? You don't know him at all.. and I think its pretty dumb to think you do.

Another thing: He loves sex. So he's probably only wanting to hang out with you for that. So you're telling me that you WANT to be used? Since you've only talked online, he doesn't really know you that well.. and he already wants sex. Guys like this are to be avoided at all costs. There are plenty of guys out there that don't just want sex. Find one of them to be with.

Don't feel like you have to lose your virginity at a young age.. I don't know your age, because you don't say.. but I'm going to assume you're about 15 or 16.. since most girls on this site are that age about. You have lots of time to find someone GOOD to lose your virginity to. Don't just give it up to some random Joe you don't even know. Give it to someone you really know and love.. I hope when you're older is then you'll decide to do that.

Also- if he's wanting you to call him.. he either doesn't have the courage to call you, or you're just another girl to have sex with. If he really cared.. he would call you.

So no- it isn't worth it. Find someone else.

--Jack
(15/m)

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would you consider slow dancing with another girl cheating?

No. And if your girlfriend thinks that, set her straight.. politely, of course. If she's uncomfortable with it, let her know that you are committed to her, and ONLY her. I would consider cheating if you:
-make out with someone else
-have sex with someone else
-"feel up" someone else
etc. [all age-dependent]

So no, you're not cheating.

And congrats on being my 600th question answered!
--Jack
(15/m)

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so i met this guy at the beach and gave him my myspace url. we made out and stuff. he commented me on myspace and said "all YOU baby HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHa"

what the heck is that supposed to mean?
kthnx

I guess that means he's interested in you and he liked the time with you at the beach...?

I don't know. Its kind of vague... "all YOU baby".. hmmm.. Maybe he's trying to flirt...?

I guess the only sure-fire way to know is to ask him what that means. That way, you'll be able to respond to him appropriately.

--Jack
(15/m)

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ok my friend likes these 2 guys can she CANT pick who to choose so would u please help me. 1 man is evan- whos 2 years younger, hes a cutie and he asked her out twice and she denined him and wishes she didnt and ever since then she loved him for like a year but hes in florida now but hes coming back in middle of july. the only thing is she hasnt seen him in a year and she doesnt kno if he likes her. ok next guy is kevin- who just met her and hes in LOVE with her and obsessed. he cares about her alot and hes a year older. hes a cutie and they just started hanging out. shes torn between both of them and i doesnt know what to do. please help! any advice!? ill love you forever

I guess Kevin would be the right choice, since he's there with her right now. And it appears he cares about her.. so that wouldn't be a problem in the potential relationship. I don't think the looks should have anything to do with it, but continuing on! Evan is away, and she's having doubts whether or not he likes her. Tell her that it isn't worth waiting for, especially if someone like Kevin is there for her right now.

Hope I helped, and consider the love taken [forever].
;-D

--Jack
(15/m)

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i have 2.83 in end of the freshman year is 2.83 GPA is bad? is like C or C+ im pretty much worried is my GPA bad? thank you

Well, a 4.0 is an A.
A 3.0 is a B.
And so a 2.83 is about a B-, C+.
Its not bad, but it also isn't good. If you work hard in your sophomore, junior, and senior years.. you'll be able to bring it up.. but you really have to work at it. Don't give up!

--Jack
(15/m)

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so i talk to this guy quite often (normally through txts and IMs) and recently we got onto the topic of drinking, and ive drank before, but ive never gotten drunk....well now he talks about how we should hang out and get drunk and stuff like that, mostly cuase he wants to do stuff with me. I wouldnt mind making out or minor sexual things, but i dont wanna go any further...so what should i do to let him know that i wouldnt go very far with him, without making him think i wont do anything...thanks in advance

The only way to let him no is to straight up tell him. He can't read your mind. If you just tell him, maybe he'll respect you and take to your wishes. If not, don't associate with him.

And on a side note, don't get drunk or whatever just because someone wants you to. And you can get in trouble for it.

--Jack
(15/m)

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ok im apoligizing now for the legnth bc its gonna be like but like I REALLY need advice so if you gave me some ill love you for EVERRRR..

Little background:
alright so my school is clique like no joke ok so i have this one friend emily and the rest of my friends dont like her. like she just doesnt fit like shes a slut, she drinks. and the rest of us just like to hang out and have a good time and thats just not her she'd rather be drinking and doing shit with guys. and we always gett in fights with her. like all the guys and girls in my 'clique' dont like her, and we think as soon as we get in high school (which is where were going this year) shes just gonna ditch us. which wasnt really gonna bother us bc the all the upperclass man HATEEEE our freshman class. bc we have a bunch of sluts. and number one on girls to beat the crap out of is her. and people think because were friends wtih her were like her and were not.

Story:
ok so the other night at my other friends house i got in a fight with emily and i told her how nobody wanted to be friends with her bc of those reasons and shes like thats bull and crap and she said how we shouldnt care what other people think and to some ecstent shes right but its high schoool its been that way for howeverlong and were not gonna change it, so. and at first all my firends were like good i hate her now we dont have to be friends with her but now emilys calling like the two girls in my clique that she noes are easy like to get friends wtih her agian bc they havent been friends with her that long and mind you ive been friends with her since second grade. and is like I LOVE YOU THIS IS SUMMER WE SHOULDNT BE FIGHTING. and there like yeah thats true adn now there all buddie buddies with her and like i dont know it pisses me off bc there two faced. and when i say shes all we talk about like im not lieing. it terriable but i dont no


ok so like i no theres no really question in there its just more like what do you think offf the whole decision bc i dont really regret my decision of not being friends with her its just im i dont know. just tell me what you think of everyhting

If you don't want to be friends with her, that's fine. You don't have to be. But it should be because YOU want to not be friends with her, not your "clique" or your high school classmates. If its your own personal decision based on your ideals and morals and such, and not those of others, then its fine. Don't let peer pressure get to you. Make decisions on your own [not to say that you can't have help..but don't do something because everyone else is doing it]. Its like the classic saying: If everyone jumped off of a bridge, would you? No.. probably not.. so just because everyone else doesn't like her doesn't mean you shouldn't. Catch my drift.
And your question wasn't that long.

--Jack
(15/m)

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hi im 14 m and i had a question.i tend to masturbaute quite often (maybe like once a day or every couple of days)..but i was wondering.i know that everytime you masturbaute and ejucatulate your body produces new sperm.but is it possible to run out,or is it possible that after a while it can cause like birth defects or anything?
please answer .. thanks : )

No. You will not run out, and masturbating is actually quite healthy... it wouldn't cause birth defects.. because you're already born.. haha.. I had to make a joke.. I know what you're asking, thou...
It won't cause your children to have birth defects..

And doctors say that having sex [much like masturbation] is something that makes you happier and can actually cause you to live a longer life.

--Jack
(15/m)

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im 15 im a female and i live in NY,

i just came back from a one week summer program now i have ntohing to do for the rest of summer!!

any ideas?

Read a book. Go outside and smell the flowers. Call friends to hang out. Go swimming [either in a real pool or in an imaginary one in your front lawn]. Start a hobby. Start a collection of something you think is interesting. Do something ACTIVE.
http://www.cdc.gov/youthcampaign/

There's some information about VERB, its what you do. You know.. those commercials.


Continuing on...

Color in a coloring book with friends. Scream at the top of your lungs [outside, of course], "I LIKE [insert either favorite or least favorite food here.. your choice]!!!!". Go to the park and make a friend. Ask your parents to get you a pet [that you'll take care of, of course... this is optional, as it is a big responsibility...].

Here is what looks to be a fun site that can help you:

http://www.discoverfun.com/freeinfo/500fun/index.html

It gives a list of over 1200 items to do. Sounds like fun. There is a special section for "Bored".


I'll copy and paste a few of them for giggles:

Simple Boredom Fighters

* Blow bubbles with bubble gum
* Blow on a beer bottle
* Blow on a blade of grass
* Crank up some music
* Cut out photos and paste them on Popsicle sticks and have a puppet show
* Eat
* Eat 6 spoon full of sugar, a soda, and another think that makes you hyper and then you won't be bored anymore, you will end up finding something to do... trust us
* Experiment with makeup
* Get a bubble blower and then blow some
* Get a tootsie pop and see how many licks it takes to get to the center of the tootsie pop
* Laugh out loud
* Learn how to fake an accent
* Make a humorous crank phone call
* Make an entertaining phone answering-machine message
* Make up poems or songs about your boredom
* Nap
* Play cards
* Play Dead
* Play house with yourself
* Play with marbles
* Pop zits and blackheads, clean lint out of belly button, q-tips, and find those hidden treasures of the nose
* Practice your arm pit farting skills (Advanced participants try with your hand cupped on the back of your knee)
* Pretend that you are not bored
* Read some comic books
* See how long you can hold your breath
* Send a tune with keypad numbers on the phone
* Sing even if you can't
* Spin until you're dizzy
* Stand on your head
* Stare at the ceiling and try to make something out of the dots
* Write your name in permanent marker on all your underwear


Haha. Don't those look like fun?

If they don't, here are a few more:

Inside Boredom Fighters

* Break into a friend's house and clean it
Call a wrong number and talk to whoever answers.
* Catch a fly, then put in a jar and stick in the fridge (this cools their metabolism down), then tie the fly to the end of a thread 15in. and hold the other end of the thread while you watch it fly around (We have tested this and it works - a lot of patience is involved)
* Chase your best friend round the sofa
* Dance around your living room naked
* Doodle or cartoon
* Dress in something silly and laugh at yourself
* Fiddle around with a Ouija board
* Figure out how to get yourself on TV
* Find an address to your favorite famous person and write them a letter. See if they write you back
* Flip a coin 500 times to see who wins
* Get on the radio
* Give names to your body parts
* Go shop for a really cool book
* Go through the English dictionary looking up really long words like discombobulated.
* Have a carpet picnic
* Have a staring contest with yourself in the mirror.
* Kiss your elbow, if you can.
* Lay a long straight line of masking tape on the floor. Now spin around really fast then try walking on the masking tape.
* Learn a new word in the dictionary
* Learn to Juggle
* Learn to peel a banana with your feet
* Let a helium balloon float up to your ceiling and throw things at it to pop it
* Listen to a type of music that you don't normally listen to
* Listen to really hard music and head bang
* Listen to some polka music and eat sausages
* Make a list of the fun things you've already done, then admire how long your list is.
* Make a trash can a basketball hoop and throw crumpled up paper for baskets
* Patch some clothing
* Phone your local government rep and see if you can convince him or her to have lunch with you
* Plan a journey
* Play bottle cap hockey...with pens as the sticks and a bottle cap as the puck
* Play dress-up with all the clothes you have in your closet
* Pronounce your friends names.backwards
* Put doll clothes on your cat and play dress up
* Rent a movie, 2 hours later go back to the same movie store and rent the sequel, 2 hours after that go back and get the third movie
* Rent some fun movies
* Roll your change
* Run around your house as fast as you can and, count how many times you can go without getting tired.
* Shave your head
* Sit at your desk with your left arm sticking out until it goes numb
* Snap your fingers as if suddenly you have a bright idea and see if you get any
* Take a company that has been getting on your nerves - find out who the person is that you should write complaints too. Write a letter to them with the most trivial or confusing complaint. Ensure you talk in circles so that the letter is well written but extremely confusing
* Take one hundred dollars out of the bank and spend it all on yourself
* Throw a huge party for no reason at all
* Turn on the T.V., put it on mute and make up dialogue
* Washable crayons are a wonderful invention. Pick a wall and invite friends
* Watch 101 Dalmatians and see if they really show 101 Dalmatians
* Watch a foreign film
* Watch cartoons (preferably funny stupid ones)
* Write a big list of fun things to do
* Write a limerick or twelve
* Write a rant letter to the paper
* Write out ten things that make you happy - then do one of them
* You and a friend pick your noses and see who has the biggest boogers


Hope this helped. Happy Summer!

--Jack
(15/m)

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(Sorry this is a little bit long!)

I'm just starting a new relationship with a guy, Robert. He is ten years my senior, super intelligent, heaps of fun to be around and has his life together, from what I can tell.

We have fooled around and had a bit of sex, but not much because I'm not on any contraception at the moment (and like most guys, Robert really hates condoms). I'm looking forward to going on the pill because I think we will have great sex together.

Here comes the bad part: my last partner had an absolutely HUGE penis (it was like a small tree trunk!!). It was totally out of proportion to his body as he was very short and thin. My 5 month "relationship" with him was a joke, however. We had pretty good sex to start with, but then I started to find it painful, and I realised didn't really like him that much as a person! I found him boring and shallow. I had no qualms breaking things off with him - a big penis was definitely not enough for me!

I had told Robert about my ex at some stage, saying the relationship was purely physical and I was never that into him. This was a BIG mistake. Robert wouldn't let it go. He asked me questions about it. I should have refused to answer them but stupidly I didn't. Eventually he asked, "Did he have a really big willy or something?" and I didn't say anything (wish I'd said no!). He keeps asking me about it, and last night, he even said, "How big was it?", which I refused to answer.

Robert has apologised for asking, but he said he feels we can't move on with our relationship until he knows. I've tried to reassure him that I really wasn't that into my ex but he is fixated on the big penis thing. Robert is above average in the penis department, by the way, but now he has a complex about it!

Now I am awaiting this conversation Robert wants to have with my about my ex, where he will no doubt repeat the size question. What should I do? Should I back-track and lie? I'm scared if I tell Robert the truth or avoid the conversation all together, I will lose him, but I'm also scared that telling him the truth will make his complex even worse and drive us apart :(

Well... As I have never seen this type of question before- I knew I had to answer, because it ISN'T about questioning whether you're pregnant or not.

So.. enough with my blabbing, and onto my advice! That is what my answer should be anyway, but I like to connect with questioners and make them feel comfortable..

Advice: I suggest you just tell him. He isn't going to let this go- and lying to him will only make it worse. If you can't be upfront and honest about one silly little thing [at least to me, its silly.. sorry if that's offensive], then how can you possibly move forward in this relationship. If you just let him know, he'll probably forget about it and you two can move on live happily ever after.. at least for as long as you would like.

Just let him know the whole truth... that his size affected your relationship too much, and that you're happy with his size [and hopefully you are]. Let him know that your past relationship shouldn't affect your relationship right now. You love him [at least I hope you do ;-)] and you're with him. THAT is what TRULY matters.

=]
--Jack
(15/m)

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when do the tickets go on sale?

how much are they?


where can i get them?


for dec 11. in nyc

thankssssssssssssssssss

http://www.thespicegirls.com/en/index_us.html

There is the website. Click the "Spice Girls Tickets" in red and then click on "New York" in red, where NY would be on the map. Fill out the boxes. Unfortunately, you DO have to register to get tickets. Good luck!

--Jack
(15/m)

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Does anyone know when the whole 22 hr concert is airing? I saw pieces on mtv and then I saw about 2 hours on nbc. my internet connection is CRAP so..help?

Unfortunately, xoerinnox is right. It aired yesterday. I don't know if its got a website or anything... but try this search, maybe you can find parts of it online:

only search advicenators.com


--Jack
(15/m)

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i want to make a blog and stuff but i dont no a website?? so like any sites can help like about blogs!!

Blogspot.com is a really good one. In fact, here is my blog from it:

http://cuxmibecknow07.blogspot.com/

You can add a picture of you, and you can have a really cool background and come up with cool names for posts and your blog. Mine is "Yes, I have a Life".

LOL


**EDIT**
Blogspot.com is actually "blogger.com"
My mistake!

Enjoy!
--Jack
(15/m)

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i am giving my boyfriend a gift for our 6 month anniversary and i don't know what to get him! I know for a fact that he is giving me jewelry

i'm already baking him cookies but i also want to do something else for him

i'm 14 and i don't have a job so it cant be something expensive

Make him a scrapbook with the memories you guys have shared over the past 6 months, with pictures of both of you together. It could have love quotes or little stories of you and him. My sister did this for her 1 year with her boyfriend and he loved it. It turned out really well and he thought it was a fantastic gift.

Hope I helped!
If you need more detail, say so in feedback!
--Jack
(15/m)

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i have tons of misquito bites on my legs for being outside a few nights ago. they itch like crazy! how can i get them to stop?

Like WoahThereBabe said, try NOT to itch them as much as possible. I found that Gold Bond Anti-Itch cream works really well. Here is their website if you're interested:

http://www.goldbond.com/gold-bond-products.html

It really is a "quick fix for almost every itch". My mom used to give it to us when we got a bee-sting or mosquito bite.

--Jack
(15/m)

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Well, this isnt the same guy that i like this boy was my friend and i was just wondering if he did that if it meant that my friend liked me?

Didn't I just answer this? LOL

Long answer short: Possibly. You can't know FOR SURE unless you ask. =]

--Jack
(15/m)

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Hey, this one guy used to always tickle me and poke me to make me smile and he always wanted me to hug him. that is another way that a guy likes you right?

It very well could be. I found myself doing anything to make the girl I liked laugh.. and I assume that most guys are like this. So I think its safe to say that yes, that is another sign that a guy likes you.

Was this a follow-up?

--Jack
(15/m)

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