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Is he worth it?
Theres this guy I met on online and he asked me to hang out with him we were already spose to go out one night but he got arrested.I'm ready for a hookup (I'm a virgin) and he loves sex. I told him to call me but he said for me to call him. Is this worth it? I mean if I'm looking for a hookup now? Should I call him?
P.S. Even though we met online, my good friend knows him so I think its okay.
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Hun dont lose your virginity to him. your first time should be special with someone you love. He sounds like a creep to me. i wouldnt even wanna go meet him if all he wanted was sex out of me. Even if your friends know him its still dangerous. If he has done this with more then one girls that you might get a STD.
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Graciee<33
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Well first of all, if your still a virgin i most deffinetly would not loose my virginity on a hook up. You will regret it and you want that day to be a special one because most likely if its just a hook up he wont talk to you, at least for awhile, after you have sex. and if he loves sex hes probobly had a lot of experience and you obviously have none because your still a virgin so he might not take it slow with you and it will most likely hurt and you'll bleed also. He doesn't sound like the greatest guy either if he got arrested, that isn't someone your going to want to be your first. Also, not all the time but in some cases when a girl looses her virginity she creates feelings, if there not already there, for the guy that took it and if hes just a hook up hes probly not gonna care and not want a relationship with you. Also, if a guy wont call you, hes not worth your time. GOOD LUCK HUN!
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i'm gonna say something that all girls should know. don't ever go for a guy that has a criminal record. if he's gotten a couple speeding tickets or something dumb like that, that's fine. everyone gets traffic tickets. but other than that, you leave him alone. what did he get arrested for? why do you want to give it up to a guy who you're fishy about? if yuou're in the dark about the dude, leave him alone. the right thing to do in this situation would be to cut the guy off and wait for someone or something better to come along. which it will if you give it time.
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Listen, its waaaaay to dangerous. Did it ever occur to you that he might be 46 years-old and be a child-milester(sp). I think you should tell him nvm and that you guys should only be friends.
P.S. plz leave him alone because you might get hurt.
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Umm thats a hard decision. I dont think you should go alone on the first or second date because you dont know him. If you go alone meet at the mall or something(so he cant try nothing). If he is a sex addict and you are not.I dont thin that is going to work out unless you are ready to have sex but if he pressures you, you know he is not teh one for you.
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This isn't going to be the answer that you are looking for, but I would say no, he isn't worth it.
The first red flag would be... HE GOT ARRESTED. Is that the kind of guy that you really want to be hanging out with. You know that he will influence you to do things that you shouldn't.
Secondly, you met him online. Maybe your friend knows him, but you haven't ever met him, so you don't know what he's like. People change. A girl at my school this past year got raped by her best friend of ten years. It isn't safe to go off and have sex with random guys. Even if he is a good guy, you have no way of knowing who he has hooked up with or whether he has STDs or not.
Everyone I have ever talked to that has lost their virginity like this has regreted it. It will mean so much more if you wait and have sex with a guy that your dating and you really like. Also, people will have a great deal more respect for you that way.
Really think about this, it isn't a good idea, and the reality is, you are going to regret it. Maybe not now or next year, but at some point, you will. I promise. Think about the rest of your life knowing that your first time was with a criminal that you met on line, and you did it the first time you met him.
Really think about this before you do it, because it will inevitablly lead to problems for you.
Best Wishes.
Sarah
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I'm going to be completely honest here. The first sentence gives you your answer. Two points in there are flat out telling you that this isn't worth it--
One: you met him online.. even if your good friend knows him, it doesn't mean YOU do. Have you ever seen Degrassi? Well there's this episode where this girl Darcy posts pictures on her MySpace-like website, and her good friend Peter has all these people that he knows that he directs to her page. One is particularly interested in her.. and happened to be a 40 year old CREEP that came to her house. Do you really want to risk that?
Two: he's been arrested. Yes, people deserve second chances, but I'm going to assume that he's been arrested before. Therefore, he's already blown his second chance, and plus.. he's the type of person that has actually been arrested. Do you really want to deal with people like that? Especially since you've only talked to him online? You don't know him at all.. and I think its pretty dumb to think you do.
Another thing: He loves sex. So he's probably only wanting to hang out with you for that. So you're telling me that you WANT to be used? Since you've only talked online, he doesn't really know you that well.. and he already wants sex. Guys like this are to be avoided at all costs. There are plenty of guys out there that don't just want sex. Find one of them to be with.
Don't feel like you have to lose your virginity at a young age.. I don't know your age, because you don't say.. but I'm going to assume you're about 15 or 16.. since most girls on this site are that age about. You have lots of time to find someone GOOD to lose your virginity to. Don't just give it up to some random Joe you don't even know. Give it to someone you really know and love.. I hope when you're older is then you'll decide to do that.
Also- if he's wanting you to call him.. he either doesn't have the courage to call you, or you're just another girl to have sex with. If he really cared.. he would call you.
So no- it isn't worth it. Find someone else.
--Jack
(15/m)
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