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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.I'm one of the very blessed.
I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.
Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.
Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.
I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.
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what exactly is blackmail?
To add to younggrandma's answer, it is a crime to blackmail some one.
I know I do have a hemroid but now lately for the last day or two I have had a feeling of pressure or something every once in a while just for a few seconds each time in my right buttocks.
what could this be?
It is possible that it is caused by an internal hemorrhoid. To be on the safe side, see your doctor about it.
what happened to mrs. marsh's hair in south park? why is it so short? i saw a clip of her in "Stanley's Cup" when her hair was longer... so why would she cut it?
It is a cartoon. They just make her that way out of construction paper.
My question about cartoons- why do they always make them wear the same clothes day in and day out?
Ah.. the mysteries of animation.
I am from India. My sister(24) is in her final semester studying homeopathy.she was in love with her schoolmate for the past 5 years but has finally decided to call quits. She says he is a practical,insensitive kind who considers emotions to be unnecessary and money is everything bcause of which he spends nil time with her and working so that they would have a better married life. All these years she put up with his attitude and was completely devoted to him.but as her disagreement grew she complained to him about his insensitivity to her to which he had the same story of earning money.since 6 months she has been constantly asking him to break off and has finally stopped talking to him.but now he is raving and crying about asking to give him a second chance and talking about suicide.he has stopped working and trying to drain her emotionally.my sis has another friend of 3 months who became quite intimate with her during these months and has proposed her to which she accepted.since her ex is now showing tantrums and talking about suicide.What should she do?
Good for her for leaving.
His ideas of being insensitive and spending his time working for money for their marriage is not doing her any good. In fact, that is probably exactly what her married life would be like if she stayed with him. He can't make a happy marriage with her with money alone. He has to be there for her and spend time with her.
Her best bet would be to stay clear away from him; do not even speak to him. Most likely, the only reasons he is saying these things to her is to get her to come back. You said he was trying to drain her emotionally. He is trying to get some kind of mind control over her. He is no good.
She needs to be completely devoted to a man who gives her the same respect. Her ex is not that man.
As for him using suicide to win her back, that's just too bad for him. That is NOT her fault he feels that way. She should NEVER go back with him because he makes her feel guilty like that. If she does, her life will never be a happy one.
Tell her if she is happy with her new friend, stay with him. And tell her to please stop getting anywhere near the ex. He is only out to make her feel bad. If she does not see him or talk to him, he can not throw tantrums and make her feel guilty.
when you date a guy, but he doesn't send anything to you or call you or email you or anything on Valentine's day.
Do you just break up with him? Or you call and ask him what's going on?
I don't think you should break up with him or even call him out on it. I think that it is wrong to expect a gift, email, or whatever, from anyone.
theres this girl i like and i think she likes me too but she said she cant have a boyfreind till shes 16, i want to ask her out but shes a realy nice girl and i am kinda shy what do i do?
Well, if she can't date or have a boyfriend until she is 16, then you need to wait for that time to come. If you really like her, you won't risk getting her in trouble at home by asking her out. Have patience.
my dad just relized my birthday was 2 days ago its only me and my dad i ve been talkin about it for a long time and he forgot for 2 days he said he was sorry he relized it when i was crying sayin you didnt remember my bday all my friends called and sang and talked and everything but my DAD didnt i cant get over it he forgot last year too ITS EVEN ON THE CALANDER im cryin i just cant get over it
I assume you are a girl?
Listen, dads are guys. Guys tend to have a hard time remembering dates. Ever heard of a guy forgetting his wedding anniversary or his wife's birthday? It happens. It's not a fault, it's just that guys generally don't tend to recall all of life's little details like women/girls do.
So that could be a part of it. Also, he may have a lot going on in his head and life right now. Where as it is only you and your dad, he has a lot of responsibility to keep track of on a daily basis on his own. Not saying you don't do your part, but saying that he has a lot of adult responsibilities to take care of.
The man said he was sorry. I'm sure that he is sincere in his apology. He likely didn't want to forget his daughter on her special day. Honestly? He likely feels like shit enough for forgetting, not once, but twice in a row. Don't grind his nose in it and make him feel worse about it.
I was in class today and this girl on campus i kind of know was looking in my direction and it seemed liked she was looking directly at me so i looked back at he rnot a dirty look but a half smile look and she begin moving her lips but i didn't know who she was talking to or what she said but whatever she was sayiing it looked like it was being said with an attitude so later i asked her was she trying to tell me soemthing not in a attitude kind of way but like i was asking a general question. Was i wrong and should i feel embarassed?
Why should you feel embarrassed? You wasn't sure if she had something to say to you, so you asked. I would have done the same.
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So there's this guy "tyler" who likes me. I mean REALLY likes me. Now tyler is not the best-looking guy in the world, but he's amazigly nice. He has asked me out a few times, but I've always said no. There are just some things I cannot stand about him, like that he is really into drugs, he's practiclly an alcoholic, and again he's not the best-looking guy in the world. Since we live really far away, we usually talk online, and we've become really good friends this way. When I see him in person, though, I keep thinking about his faults and I can never see myself with him, though I can when we talk online. Because of this, I've come to think that I'm being very shallow about this whole situation...but then I think would I really be happy with him and say I would not so therefore I am not being shallow. It's been bothering me for like forever, so please, what should I do about this whole thing, and am I shallow?
Thanks
No, it isn't shallow to not want to be with a guy who is into drugs and alcohol. Why would you want to put yourself into a potentially dangerous situation by going out with him? That's called looking out for your best interests.
I highly doubt you would be happy with him. You already have problems with his ideas of personal entertainment, and that will only escalate if you were an item.
Also, don't ask him to quit drugs and alcohol for you, and don't believe him if he says he is going to quit for you. It doesn't work that way. You will only end up angry and hurt when you find out he still does these things behind your back. He has to want to quit these behaviors for himself.
If I were you, I would keep him as a friend if you enjoy talking to him an such, but I would strongly advise you find some one else more suited to you for a relationship.
what would you wear to a work interview for a hometown bbq restaurant? i guess would jeans be ok [considering the employees wear them]?
You show the employer how much you want the job and how you will perform once you get it by how you present yourself.
Since it is a BBQ restaurant, I would go with a nicely put together casual look. Nice slacks, nice shirt. You don't have to be too dressy, but look nice and presentable. If you are a girl, no need to wear a skirt and hose. A guy, no need to button up to the throat and wear a tie. You can look very nice without having to overdress. But don't under dress. Jeans would fall into that category as well as t shirts.
Okay so when me and my bf makeout we sometimes like lay on top of eachother and he will put his penis like were having sex(that type of position laying down) and it will touch me down there and itll like feel good or whatever..and i get this feeling....(the really good feeling is for like 5 seconds)but then like right after its like i lose it and i just want to stop for some reason cause i already hit that point. i dont get it cause i still want to makeout and touch and stuff but part of me doesnt agreee? can someone help me whats going onnnn
Obviously you just aren't ready to go that far with him. What you're experiencing is your subconscious telling you that. If you aren't ready, don't do it. If he is a good guy, he will understand and wait for you to be ready to have sex.
okay so i have this friend and her name is jenna. we've been bffs since kindergarden and are still bffs. but this year is really different. like everytime shes around SHES the spotlight. and im the OUTCAST! its so annoying. and today is valentines day right? & i forgot to give her gift to her and she was like UMM I LOVE HOW YOU GAVE ME A VDAY GIFT. i was about to punch her SOOO HARD. ughh shes really agervating me. and oh yeah if i tell her how i feel she'll be like I DIDNT DO ANNYYTHING. (because she "never does")
oh please help me
thanks in advance!!
I truly hope you reevaluate this friendship.
BFF is a title given to a very dear friend who you hold in the highest regard, and vise versa.
It was very rude for her to expect a gift from you, and even worse for her to make an issue out of it. If she is so inconsiderate of you and your feelings to not only behave that way, but to go on about how she never did anything when you talk to her about your feelings, then she is no BFF to you. A BFF is a person who respects you and your feelings.
If i guy u jus met and known for about 3 weeks doesnt buy u a gift on valentines day is that a bad sign?
No. It has only been 3 weeks since you met. He may not know you well enough to feel comfortable picking out a special gift for you.
Don't take offence or get worried if you didn't receive a gift from him.
Those who sell them declare that they are 100% natural and safe, but seriously...who trusts them? Of course they wouldn t say it if they were dangerous.
What is your opinion? If combined with really hard exercise and really healthy nutrition are they safe? If I am about to buy them, I ll ask a doctor first but I want peoples personal opinions.
Want to know something? They may say 100% natural and safe, but they don't have an FDA approval.
I wouldn't trust them, myself. The diet and exercise you mentioned is plenty to help you burn fat.
Yah, ask your doctor. Better yet, ask your pharmacist. Pills and medications are their life; they can answer all of your questions.
I am leaving town, without my boyfriend. In the first place I was not in love with him but things got serious on his mind. I am not leaving on having a long distance relatioship and I dont wanna break his heart. Help please?
Don't lie to the guy. Tell him the straight, honest truth of the matter. Tell him you are sorry, but you don't feel the same about him as he does you. Tell him you are leaving and this relationship has to come to a close.
Don't lead him by the nose. THAT is what makes a broken heart, more so than the truth.
ok well my ex cheated and hes with the girl he cheated on me with..
& on my myspace i have this boys initials to make him jealous and he keeps txting me saying 'oh ur desperate you told me you didnt like him when we were goin out' and i was just thinkin why would i actually tell you if i like a guy when were goin out. but like why is he bugging me? he told me he didnt care and hes 'GLAD' that i found a new guy. and was like ok if u didnt care why would you text me talking crap anyway? helpp :/ why is he doin this if he 'doesnt care' and has a gf anyway!
I wouldn't answer his questions. They are none of his business anyhow. Why should you care weather or not he cares about you? He cheated on you, for crying out loud!
Tell him to go piss up a rope, then do yourself a favor and move on to some one who is going to treat you with respect.
There's this girl Stacey. I went to elementary school with her and in like 4th grade we were friends and talked on AIM. not really good friends cause she always seemed kind of cold. So now we are in 7th grade and we never talk, and I have never done ANYTHING mean to her. I don't even talk with her. Wait, actually, in like 3rd or fourth grade maybe we got into some stupid little kid fight. well she isn't on my softball team but one day she came to help. Well I was at softball practice. I'm standing there, just watching the other girls cause we had a break and stacey was with us, stacey whispers to her friends., but she does a really bad job of it because I hear hear "See that girl, I HATE that girl alyssa." Oh my god, I just wanted to scream "can you TELL ME WHY YOU HATE ME?" (oh btw I kNOW SHE WAS talkING ABout ME cause I was the only other one in the dugout besides her 2 friends!!!) And her two friends nod like all knowingly, and i'm like wtf first of all, one friend hardly knows me, and her second friend is usually nice to me! Well stacey is overall a bitch and is usually only nice to girls in her "group", but she isn't MEAN LIKE THAT for no reason!! Does anyone know why she would say this?
Hmmm... Why would she say this?... Maybe because she is a bitch? Seriously. I imagine her problem is that she is trying to start shit with you and get under your skin to make herself look like some sort of "big bad ass" in front of her little friends.
If you want to confront her about the issue, by all means, do so.
HOWEVER, fair warning to you: By doing that, you may just cause more unwanted drama between the two of you.
If you let her know she is getting to you, she will keep doing it. That's what people like her do for kicks. If you make it clear that you could care less about her opinion of you, she will get bored and move on to something more entertaining.
See, if it were me, (and believe me, it HAS been me before on MANY of occasions) I would just say "Hate me? Well good for you." Then drop it and go on with my life.
7th grade was about 15 years ago for me, but I haven't forgotten what it was like. I know how seriously it can suck, and how nasty-mean girls can be.
I acquired an outlook of not giving a flying horse turd about what other people think about me. I know I'm a good person, and if somebody hates me, well, that is their own too bad. Their loss, not mine. I don't need them in my life anyhow. They aren't worth my time or my effort. To retort to their rude comments would only be a waste of my precious air. So go ahead. Hate me. I, frankly, don't give a damn.
That is my life. That has been my life for many, many years. And guess what? I don't feel bad about what others say to me. I don't get all hurt if somebody hates me. I know I'm better than all that. I know I am not above them, but I can strive to be above their actions. I am a perfectly happy and content individual. I don't allow others to break my stride. They aren't worth taking that away from me.
You can be that way, too, if it's what you really want for yourself.
i'm having some issues at home, and i'm really stressed out and just stuff like that. anyway, i really hate crying or being sad around people or talking about my problems... but last night i was hanging out with some of my friends and i just couldn't stop crying! i layed on my friend and just cried... i'm almost positive he knew i was crying...but anyway, i felt bad afterwords so i texted him and told him i was sorry and he won't reply... could he be mad at me?
I would wager the guy is confused. He doesn't understand why you were so upset. All he knows is that you were crying and couldn't stop.
Since he is your friend, maybe instead of texting him, call him, or go see him (better yet). Explain to him about what had upset you so. He is your friend, so maybe he can help you work through your problems if he knows what they are.
I'm trying to go on this student travel thing, it is for high schoolers, you go to a different country and do community service for a month over the summer. I need two teacher recomendations.
i'm going to ask my advisor, but i need someone else. I really want to ask my english teacher, she is awesome, she is my favorite teacher. but... I do very well in that class, i'm a good writer, but one of the questions that she would have to answer on the reccomendation sheet is the students mood, social-ness. And a lot of times I come into that class kind of quiet and i look sad. Partly it's at the end of the day, also i'm going through a lot of stuff so i'm not always in a good mood, and also i don't raelly realize i look sad even though i do, i don't notice that i'm smiling. she even commented on it a few days, shes like "you always come in to class like the world is about to end." i think she thinks i'm a good student and everything, but i'm worried about that question. should i ask another teacher that i don't like much, ask her, or ask her and be like "I know you think i'm never happy looking! but really, I am, it just doesn't seem like it sometimes, and I really to like this class and I'm worried about what you'll write, but i wanted to come to you anyway because you're my favorite teacher" ?????? so what should i do, i really want to do this student travel program!
You should ask her, if she is a good teacher. I'm sure that she will realize this student travel thing is a good thing, and it is very good of you to want to volunteer your time for this.
ok well about3 weeks ago me and my boyfriend boke up(btw 14/f) adn since then, he hasnt tlaked to me adn we cant start a decent conversaion. this is exxacctly why i didnt want to start anything to begin with, becasue i knew it would end up bad.. we use to be the bestestr of friends.
As I always say, the best way to lose a friend is to date them.
It has only been 3 weeks. Give him some time and space and hope for the best. That is all you can do.
Maybe he will get it together and be able to be friends with you again, but, honestly, the idea of ever being good friends again is a long shot in the dark. Sad but true.