about

My name is Laura and I'm 28 years old. I live in Illinois and work as a licensed veterinary technician. I am a runner, bookworm and obviously, an animal lover.


I've been on this site since '05. I take hiatuses, but I'm never gone for good. I enjoy giving advice and I've made such lovely friends on this site that I couldn't imagine giving it up!

chat it up yo.


ps. here's my bestestestest friend.
I love him. You will too :)

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15/f. i use proactiv for my skin and it really helps. my skin normally looks really good except for maybe one zit. but now i'm on my period and i'm breaking out like crazy!

what can i do? i look horrible. my face is all red and blotchy from the zits.

so just what can i do in addititon to my proactiv to make them go away?

I just got this really good facial soap bar.
It's neurtogena, and it's in a white & orange box, and it says 'for acne prone skin'. Like I said, it's in bar form.
I don't have major acne or anything, but I get the occasionaly pimple and whatnot and that soap works really well. =]
Also, put toothpaste on the pimple or whatever it is and it helps to reduce redness and shrink the size. Good luck!

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i have these reddish bumps on my arm. some other girls/guys i know have it too...i was just wondering what it was called. my doctor told me that people are born with it and it is not contagious but it can't be cured. what is this called? is there a website about it?

It could be eczema.
I have it, and it sounds like your description.
Also, it isn't contagious, but can't be cured.
You can get prescription lotion for it from your doctor or a dermatologist.
It helps a lot.
But all around, it's not big deal =]

Here's a few websites:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eczema

http://familydoctor.org/online/famdocen/home/common/skin/disorders/176.html

http://www.emedicinehealth.com/eczema/article_em.htm

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okay so like idn if youll be able to help or not. but like i have an ex that im still like in love with and like ill talk to him and he doesnt seem intrested and then like i wont talk to him for awhile and then he'll i.m me saying like we havent talked i miss you. idn what to do cause i dont no how to tell him i still like it. like it has been awhile since

I was in exactly the same situation.
He misses me, he dosen't.
He wants me, he dosen't.
It started to hurt me, alot.
What I did, was just forget about him.
It really helped.
I started talking to him less, and we let each other do our own things.
We're still friends, we just don't pressure one another with the whole 'I miss you, now I don't." thing.
Find someone new, someone who won't do this to you. Chances are, you'll like them 10 times more than your ex.
The first guy is always the hardest to get over.
But don't worry, I promise it will get better and easier with time.
I hope this helps!

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My boyfriend and I have lost the passion in our relationship. We both are trying to get it back by becoming more "friend like" and holding off on everything physical. Do you think that will work? What else can we do?

I think you could make it work.
Though, I'm a wishful thinker,
but I still believe in you 2.
I see I'm also the only one?
And it depends how old you are.
Just take it down a couple notches,
to the just friends level
and see where it takes you =]

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ok so in 8th grade i went out with this guy and i really liked him. but then we broke up. well now we are juniors in high school and we are still friend but i still really like him, i never really got over him. he knows i still like him and somtimes it seems like he likes me back but other times it dosent and i dont know if i should let it go or keep holding on. please help!

I hate guys like this.
Really I do.
They screw girls like ourselves up.
I'd just get over him.
That's my new outlook on this situation.
His lose, our gain. The end. =]
Try to find a better guy, one that won't do this to you. Someone even better.
Or just talk to this guy and ask him how he feels about you. See what he says, and then plan your next move.

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i have the video game ddr (dance dance revolution) and i would definitely get bored and lose motivation quickly doing a regular running/walking workout. so do you think if i did ddr for a set time daily or like 5 days a week that i could lose a few pounds? im only looking to lose maybe 5, at most 10 pounds. im not in a rush but the sooner the better. im trying to eat healthier also, but thats a different story. if it would be a good cardio workout, how long should i do it for daily? a half hour? 45 minutes? im willing to try to fit it into my days if it will help. thanks

There's a work out mdoe that lets you know how many calories you're burning =]
I'd say it would definently help if you're not doing it on the easiest level.
And 3 days a week, for about 45 minutes I'd say.

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Okay well im a 14/f and i have a friend- ex friend now- but she texted me and was like i tolled everyone your secret! - and my secret is that im a lezbian- and she is the only one i tolled and i thought she was just kidding but she wasn't she tolled like veryone i know and so now everyone is like Oh god you are a lez sick your perverted , do you have a girlfriend , you should die lezbians and gay people shouldn't be aloud on earth ext.... but its starting to get to me and i dont know what to do can you help me??
love,
Stressed out!

Wow, well this friend, is a terrible person.
I honestly despise people like her.
But you don't need to stress out,
that is what she wants you to do.
You've just got to be confident.
Who cares what this loser says to you?
She's the sick one who shouldn't be allowed on this earth. I mean, if this is how she treats people, especially her 'friends', she's an awful person. Just try not to let it bother you.
Just because you're a lesbian dosen't make you any better or worse than the next person, lesbian or not.

And hey, it might come back around to her,
kharma works in mysterious ways =]

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I have two friends who have decided to become vegans/vegetarian. Please tell me if theres a difference. I've heard there is but I'm not very educated on this type of stuff. Also, thay keep telling me that being a vegetarian is way more healthy. I don't think thats true because they don't get protein from meat. I respect they're lifestyle choice and I'm not trying to say that they're wrong or anything like that but is it really healthier or what?
kthnx for the help,

There is a big difference.
Vegans don't eat any animal products. Milk, eggs, meat, etc. They also don't wear animal products.
Fur, leather, etc.
Vegetarians only stay away from meat.
And there's even more differences when you decided to what extent you want to go to.
For example, some vegetarians only don't eat red meat. Some stay away from meat altogether.
They can both be healthy, as long as you keep getting the vitamens you need.
If you want more info, I'd highly reccomend going to: www.peta2.com
Sorry if I ramlbed on a little,
I somewhat recently got into all this stuff and decided to share it with you? =]
Hope it helps!

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ok heres the deal i had sex like 2 weeks ago and well i was throwing up like afterwards for the first couple days i i thought i could be pregnate but i got my period but it is a really light period i normally last 5-7 days and this one was 3days could i be pregnate or not

If you got your period, you aren't pregnant.

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I was born with a born disorder that makes me underweight. With the help of medicine that my doctor gives me, I weigh 110 pounds at 5'10".

I want to know..would girls think that I am ugly? Please be honest.

Thank you.

Like the others said, it does depend on the girl.
But personally, I love skinny guys.
Guys that have huge muscles are disgusting looking in my opinion.
So you'll for sure find someone else like me for you, because I know I'm not the only one who feels this way.

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recently my best friend had her first kiss,
and told me it was kinda awkward because she didn't really know what to do.
I've never been kissed yet, and I started thinking about it, ahhh what are you supposed to do?
I'm sorry if this sounds incredibley stupid..
is it a natural thing? Something you just learn to do with practice?

Well, my first kiss wasn't awkward.
Probably because I didn't stress about it
and I just let it happen naturally.
The More you worry,
The Worse it'll be.
Just 'go with the flow' =]

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Hey guys. I'm 14 and I want my nose pierced.

1. Do you think that's a good age?
I won't be considered a whore right?

2. How can I talk my parents into letting me get it done?

3. Is it painful to get done?

4. How much does it usually cost?

Thanks so much. I rate.

I don't think you're too young.
I know quite a few people who have theirs done and I'm 15.
Just ask them, see what they say. If they say no, don't whine or anything. Just calmly ask why? And explain that it's your body and you want to do what you want with it.
I've heard (from a close friend) it's not painful to get it done, only after it feels a bit tender.
I'm not sure on cost.
It all depends on where you get it done.
Good luck!

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Ok, so a couple of days ago, my mom and i went walking at a local track. I jogged one lap, walked two, and jogged another. I went 4 times around it. My legs have been hurting since then. (It was 3 days ago, to be exact.) Is this natural? I mean, I know i'm out of shape, but should my calves feel like they are really cramped up??

Yes, it's natural.
This happens to me if I don't stretch well enough.
So stretch before you walk/jog/run next time.
Also, start gradual, then increase, then decrease.
So walk one lap, jog two, run one or something along those lines.

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I'm 14 and I was wondering what piercing I should get. I have my first holes, my top hole on my cartilage, and one a little below that in the middle. I want another piercing, but where. If on my ear, where and what type of earring ?

I'd say nose!
I'm dying to get mine pierced but my mother won't let me =[ Lol and just a small stud looks super cute. I wouldn't do anymore on your ears if you have them both pierced and then other piercings with it.

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Where's the best place to find good ones?

Go to xanga.com
Click blorgrings and search aim profiles.
They have a ton!
Also, you can find a few sites on myspace by searching
'aim profiles.'

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How do I change a picture to black and white? I've done it before, and I feel like an idiot because I forget how to do it. By the way, this is Jack.

Thanks, Laura!

Hello Jack.
Well I do it using Kodak Easyshare.
It depends what program you have for your camera.
Usually you just click edit
And then scene effects and there's a black and white option =]
Hope this helped.

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i dont have a picture or anything but i really want a long silver necklace with a solid BIG heart. I looked at wetseal and express lola charolette russe etc where can i find one?

Forever 21 has great necklaces.
In fact, I got a long one with a big heart
and I know they had more than just the one I got.

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I just turned 13 and well my bf is a little older than me. We have already made out. But I was wondering how far you think that we should go... considering my age.

Thanks.

How much older?
And I think you're fine at making out.
Don't go farther and screw your life up.
You're only 13, and have plenty fo time for that.

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Does anyone know any xanga.com sites that have quotes in them?

http://groups.xanga.com/groups/group.aspx?id=2137392
There's 8108 sites.
Take your pick =]

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how do you say "much" in French?

Beaucoup =]

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