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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.
I'm one of the very blessed.


I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.


Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.


Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.


I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.






advice

what's the best way to gain weight, besides eating alot? thanks

Drink protein shakes.

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People have told me that I've changed and I'm looking pretty now. I used to be really very nerdy and unattractive and now I've changed the way I dress and my looks. I'm really happy about the way I look now.

People do look at me on the streets now, but the guy that I like doesn't seem to notice at all and he is just so unaffected. Majority of the people around me are kind of affected except for my close friends and THAT guy. NONE of them said anything bout me changing and I personally think it's something that is damn pretty obvious! But I don't receive any compliments whatsoever from them.

But I guess I'm just not pretty enough for him. He only notices really hot girls and I guess to him I'm just an average plain looking girl who has no effect on him. I always plan what to wear and people (except for my close friends and THAT guy) tell me I look good. I mean really, what's up with that?

It really breaks my heart to see him smiling and acting shy in front of really pretty girls and just talking to me like a normal friend. All these just makes me feel that whatever I've done to myself is just hopeless. I just feel so sad everytime after I meet up with him.

Honestly? If it's his thing to like really hot girls, then he is not the guy for you. Liking girls simply based on the fact that they are hot is superficial; you don't want a guy like that. You want a guy who likes you for YOU, not what you look like.

Whatever you have done to yourself shouldn't make you feel hopeless. You say you are really happy about the way you look, and that is what is important.

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Hello. My name is Whitney. 13/f. I'm getting obsessed with AIM. This problem is, I use to be super outgoing, had a backbone, can stick up for myself and others... I was known as the girl not to mess with. Now it's completely different. I feel that I deal with all my problems, let all my emotions, and everything else through AIM. So when it comes time to stick up for myself in person, I freeze up.

This isn't the real me, & I need help!

Use AIM for chit chatting with your friends. When it comes to things that are better said face to face, say it in person. Your problems, emotions, or anything of the sort should be said in the company of a person. AIM is not talking to a person, realistically. It is talking to words that are connected to a person on the other end. Make sense?

The problem is, you are using AIM to live your life. You are talking to everyone about everything via a little screen, and sometimes that may seem easier than actually talking to a person, you see how it has damaged your interactive life.

Start talking to people outright about your problems, or anything else personal, to rebuild your interactive skills.
Like I said, save AIM for simple chit chat.

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I've been going out with a guy for couple months. He told me he's not over his ex 2 weeks ago. I was upset (but i didn't tell him I am), so I gave him back whatever his staff he left at my place last Monday. It only took 5 min., becausw when he saw me that Monday, he didn't say sorry or try to talk to me about that he's still not over his ex.....
And now, I'm still upset about it, and he hasn't called or emailed me for a week. What now? Does it mean it's over between us? does it even matter to talk to him about it now?

Sounds like it's over to me, if you returned his stuff to him.
I wouldn't worry about emailing or talking to him. His interests lie with his ex, and not with you anymore.

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Okay everything was going great with my boyfriend but.. he said "if i said i love u what would u say?"
I like him, he's nice and fun to be around but we have only been dating for 2 weeks.

he keeps pulling this crap. i don't know what to say

because he comes up with "What if I was being truly honest?"

Gee, we have only hung out about 4 times and we talk online a lot.. but how could you EVEN think you love someone already?

I'm not going to throw those words around. I don't even love him and honestly, i don't care if he loves me. He doesn't really know me.
What should I say?

He wants to know how to prove to me that he really loves me.


I guess if he says he loves you, just say "Thank you."

You are right in not wanting to just throw those words around; they should mean something when you say them. If he expects you to say it back, tell him that you don't know him well enough to love him, and to say that you do love him would be a lie.

I highly doubt he is feeling love for you. He likely feeling infatuation for you.

There is nothing you can really tell him to do to prove his love for you. If what he is feeling is love, then, first off, he wouldn't feel the need to prove it to you, and second, he wouldn't have to ask you how to prove it.

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Ive been together with my boyfriend for 4 and a half months now. We talked about us both being ready to make love. Theirs just one thing holding me back. He has condoms but I dont feel comfortable with just that i heard the pill can give you cancer so I was woundering what else I could do to be safe. I dont want to tell my mom i know she'll ruin the experiance for me.

Even if you get on birth control, you should still use condoms. Condoms are the only thing that will protect you from getting STDs.

Also, if birth control caused cancer, it wouldn't be available to buy.

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23 Male

I got a phone call tonight. Old friend I used to talk to a few years ago. He wanted to talk to me about a friend he has; in particular, his own girlfriend. I like to help out my friends, so I said I would help.

He mentions a name to me. It rings a bell, because it happens to be the same name of my girlfriend, but I don't tell him that. A few minutes into the conversation I find out it is the same exact person we are talking about. I keep my big mouth shut.

They've been dating for a few months. I feel a deep hurt on the inside: we've been dating a few years. I find out the problem he is having and do the best I can to help him as a friend. I act as if I know her just as a friend and nothing more. This leads him to tell me more and more about them. I'm not reeling it out of him, he's just letting it all out. Should I confront her about this? She avoids the topic when I ask about him and my friend asks about their future. What is going on here, why does she avoid things, and do I need to tell her and possibly break things off?

I would send her packing. You have been dating for a few YEARS and that is all the better she respects you? I wonder, is this the first time she has done this to you? I am sure this is the first time she was CAUGHT.

Yes, I would confront her, and then I would tell her to piss up a rope. I know you probably want to keep her around since you have been together for so long, but is she really worth giving up all of your trust? No. Is she really being allowed to use you as a rug to wipe her feet on? No. Is she really worth losing your heart? No. Do you deserve to be treated SO MUCH better? Yes. Do you deserve respect out of the woman you love? Yes.

Move on, get over her, then find the woman out there who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.

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We have a couple. The man crosses the river to work. When he is supposed to come back home, he doesn t show up. The woman worries and tries to cross the river to find her husband. A cannibal offers to get her across the river ONLY if she has sex with him.
Who has the biggest share of fault in this story?
Go downwards for instance
1)Cannibal (Biggest Fault)
2)Man (Medium Fault)
3)Woman (Less fault).
There are no other variables. You dont know how long was the husband was late, or if he could communicate and didn t etc.
I will tell you what it means on my feedback. You ll learn interesting stuff about yourself just by answering this question.


This is not like the usual dumb quizzes you find on the internet.

Ok, I'll take a stab at this.

1) The Cannibal. He wasn't out to help the woman in need, he was out to get something.

2) The Man. Not for being late, but for worrying his wife, knowing she can't cross the river on her own.

3) The Woman. I don't think she went to search for her husband out of mistrust, but out of concern. It doesn't state weather or not she crossed the river, so it is unknown if she took the cannibal up on his offer, so I can't factor that in as being a fault.

However, who's to say that the Cannibal didn't eat the Husband, being the reason he was late?

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oh key so my ex broke up with me like a month ago and i still really like him he likes this other girl alot but she doesnt like him. i want to talk to him,i can do it on AIM i just dont know what to say.. i also want to talk to him more, he said he wanted to be friends but we havent communicated whichi understand i jsut dont want to say anything to him, like annoying him so yea how should i talk to him, i want to tell him i still like him but w/o putting him into shock lol thanks in advance

Talk to him like you would talk to a friend. He said he wanted to be friends, right?

I wouldn't suggest telling him you still like him unless you know for certain that he feels the same. Otherwise, you may just cause more hurt for yourself.

If he likes some one else, chances are that he is no longer interested in you like that. Personally, I would just move on.

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I went to work and I walked in and there was books laying around that had not been picked up and the person i was working with had been at work for 30 minutes before i did. ( I work in the Library- work study) So i was going to put them up later but i didn't feel like putting them up right then and then the boss came over and told me to put them up and to check over there and stuff like i was slacking off. Now i might have been but i'm, saying if he was going to make anybody put them up it shold have just as well been her s well as me right? She had not done anything since she had been at work.

If she is at work, she needs to be WORKING, not STUDYING. I think I would make that clear to her next time she gets mad that you aren't doing HER work fast enough. Because, yes, that should have been her work, since you picked up the books earlier.

Your best bet in the situation, is to go ahead and pick up her slack. I know that it sucks, but your extra efforts won't go unnoticed, where as her lack of effort will. She is being paid to do a job that she isn't doing. Nobody likes to pay somebody for nothing.

It is possible that your boss has already noticed these things, and told you to put up the books because he knows he can rely on you to get the job done.

If it is a big problem, complain to the boss. Let him know exactly what goes on while his back is turned.

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13/f
ok, a couple weeks ago i went to a party in miami.
i used to live there so i knew a few people there.
but there was this one guy that i didnt know.
and i was dancing with him all night.
before me and my friend left i made out with him.
EVERYONE knows about it.
even at his school.
im going out with him now.
and he was the first guy i ever made out with.
but, do you think im a slut?
thanks in advance :]

slut (slt)
n.
1.
a. A woman considered sexually promiscuous.
b. A woman prostitute.
2. A slovenly woman; a slattern.

That is the definition of "slut" in the Free Online Dictionary.

If none of these apply to you, then you are not a slut. From what you said, you don't fit any of these definitions.

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ok i know all about like what a girl goes through during puberty & all but what do the guys get if girls get periods??
nothing?

Nothing, really.
Unless you want to imagine what it might be like for a guy to get an erection for no reason, out of the blue, in the middle of class...

Poor guys.

One more reason I'm glad to be a girl. I don't think I could handle my body doing things out of my control like that.

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I like this guy and one of his good friends said he likes me buy my best friend had to burst my bubble and say that he didnt bc one of her good friends asked him...now i think he hates my guts and i think i hate his to but no one belives that i dont like him any more. Do you think what my friend said was true or what his friend said was true??

The best way to get the truth as to weather or not some one likes you is to outright ask that some one yourself.

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by this summer i am going to be sixteen years old and i would like to get a job jusst over the summer. Does anyone have any ideas for part-time job other then like bag and check, coldstone, and wild rivers. PS i live in southern cali if that helps for any reason (and i know i am not going to have a lot of options but if anyone can give me some ideas that would be great)

If you live in a fair sized city, you may check with all of the shops in your nearest mall. You may be able to get a job in your favorite store...

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im a complete novice

how can i get started on cooking

what cookbook would you recommend and the usual general ingredients i should have in my house

Beginner? "A Man, A Can, and A Plan." It is made by Campbell's Soup, and is a hard book shaped like a can. It makes learning simple.

As for general ingredients, it depends on what kind of food you want to cook.

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why does it always feel as if i'm the outcast of my group? whenever i hang out with friends i always feel like i'm not wanted there. i am single and some of my friends have gf/bf and all but even if i'm not with a couple, it is just acward.

Also, ever feel that when you get mad at someone over something they did and you tell them that you're mad and why they always seem to either get mad back or just blow you off like you don't matter? And then they don't talk to you or appologize because they think that you're just being a big baby but you really were hurt by them, but then on the same page they can get mad at you for no reason and get even madder and ignore you when you try to act the same way that they treated you in a similar situation? is that fair that they can treat you like that, but you have to butter up and be nice when they're mad and you can't treat them the same way that they can't treat you? (Sorry it's so long...)

Honestly? If all of these questions are pertaining to your group of friends, you need to start reevaluating your friendships.
Friends don't treat friends like that. Not REAL friends...

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is it bad to get the hpv vaccine when your already sexually active?

No it is not a bad idea. The Human Papilloma Virus is a Sexually Transmitted Disease.

Here is a link to a website that offers you information about HPV:

http://www.cdc.gov/std/hpv/

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I want to make friends but it seems like just talking to someone is not the way. I am lonely and I don't want to not have any friends. I think it's because of how I look.

If a person is going to base having a friendship with you on how you look, then they aren't going to be a real friend anyhow.

Maybe you are looking in all the wrong places for a friend? That seems to be the case if you are concerned you can't make a friend based on your appearance. Try a different crowd of people.

Talking and getting to know some one are the only real ways to make friends.

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a popular site that helps on family problems?

Honestly? It would be easier to find one that best suits you if you say what sort of family problem you are wanting help with. There are so many out there and quite a few may not suit your needs.

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So there's a boy (obviously.)
We're pretty good friends. Joke, have fun, talk a lot, etc.
We're even LAB PARTNERS, (My teacher makes it so that you have to BOTH pick that person, otherwise you get matched with someone that doesn't care.) if that says anything. (Ha, ha, with the *chemistry* jokes.)

We have a lot in common, including the fact that we're both really shy.

I really like him, but I'm not sure if he feels the same way.
Do I say something?

(15/f)

Yes, you say something. That will be the best way to find out his feelings.

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