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me vs. them
why does it always feel as if i'm the outcast of my group? whenever i hang out with friends i always feel like i'm not wanted there. i am single and some of my friends have gf/bf and all but even if i'm not with a couple, it is just acward.
Also, ever feel that when you get mad at someone over something they did and you tell them that you're mad and why they always seem to either get mad back or just blow you off like you don't matter? And then they don't talk to you or appologize because they think that you're just being a big baby but you really were hurt by them, but then on the same page they can get mad at you for no reason and get even madder and ignore you when you try to act the same way that they treated you in a similar situation? is that fair that they can treat you like that, but you have to butter up and be nice when they're mad and you can't treat them the same way that they can't treat you? (Sorry it's so long...)
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hey, well that`s not fair to you at all. it`s happened to me before as well and im sure that it`s happened to pretty much every teenage girl out there, so don`t think it`s only you because your not alone. what i would try at first would be to seriously approach them about it. have a meeting with them. these meetings are not always effective and if they are they might not be permanent. like when i did it they fixed the problem for about a week and got back into there games. my next approach was then to start finding a new group of friend`s. i approached this girl and first told her my problem. i then asked her if she would mind me joining her group at lunch because my group of friends and i weren`t getting along. she said yes! i then started sitting with them and then we became good friends! now as for my other group of friends, i didn`t ignore them completly as much as i wanted to, but i wouldn`t go out of my way to hang out with them. if they said hi to me i would say hi back. i might hangout with them once a month, but my new friends are so much funner to hangout with. i wish you the best of luck : ].
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ALL the time. Ive had this problem for as long as I can remember throughout middle school and high school. Its a very common problem - especially with teenage girls. They want the control and they will step on anyone who is nice to get that feeling of being on top of the world - as evil as that sounds, I know. But its true. Ever notice people are meanest to the nicest people? Its because they know they'll feel better. Theyre just insecure. Id ditch them, honestly. You have 2 choises. Leave them in the dust and protect your morals. Or dont stand up for yourself, know you'll always have a group but go through pain and struggle.
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Honestly? If all of these questions are pertaining to your group of friends, you need to start reevaluating your friendships.
Friends don't treat friends like that. Not REAL friends...
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