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Alright. I've been dating my boyfriend for over ten months and we've started to have a lot of problems. Around the six month marking period we starting getting into a lot of arguments and got upset with eachother easily. This has been going on for the past three or four months. He's in a different state for a couple of weeks and I usually get to talk to him, but for some reason this trip is different. I've talked to him maybe 30 minutes in total in a week or so. So I went to a party today and I met a guy that I had seen during drumline camps and stuff. He invited me along with a bunch of other drumline people to come over to his house. We got to talking and stuff and he texted me while we were watching fireworks with everyone if I wanted to hang out with him sometime, that'd be fun. So, I texted him when I got home and told him that'd be fun. The thing is IDK what to do. I don't know if i can go on much longer with my current boyfriend the way things are going. This other guy is dropping hints like crazy that he wants to know me better. "I haven't had a girlfriend in over a year, so yeah" and so on. please help.

**edit** ok dump your current, it isnt working..seriously it going no where and its just adding more stress to your life. its not healthy! if its meant to be youll get back together after the other guy...he seems to actually like you.

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okay well im a dancer and i was wondering if any of you guys know asome good songs to do a lyrical solo to???

try anything tori amos.. "winter" is really good for a solo. vanessa carlton songs are very popular at competitions too. hope this helps!

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hey, i wanted to get a job at walmart after i turn 15 in december.. does anyone know what age they start hiring at?

thanks a bunch

in my state they dont hire until you turn 16. i think krogers/fry's hires bagging people at 14.

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I would like some advice on what to look for in a decent, used Laptop computer. I'm looking to use this for internet use, Word programs etc, and pretty light on the game play with a CD Rom and floppy. What is the price range I'm looking at for something very decent but also not new, because I only have about $350 max to work with.

Is it lame of me to think to find a good laptop on ebay?
If I try to find one on ebay, what specs should I look for? I'm not up on what RAM, ROM, is considered 'good', or anything about internet cards.

I was also told that laptops are basically useless, and that if I want a personal computer I should just get a desktop one. How true is this?
Is my search hopeless?

Thanks a lot to anyone who will help.

well i have a toshiba laptop that i got for 600$ but it had some rebates from circut city. its a celeron so its good for the stuff you are looking for. i say save up some more money to get a good one. my laptop ist useless, i really like mine actually. ebay...well i personally wouldnt recommend it because people do weird things with computers but if you find something you like and sounds good for you needs, go for it.

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What r some of the signs of a yeast infection? thanks

i heard something like cottage cheese-like discharge is one and a really really bad odor.

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hey me and my boyfriend have only seen eachother once. We talk a lot but we never see eachother that much, and i really like him. All my friends say to break up with him but i really like him, i dont know what to do? I always ask him when can you hangout he says i dont know. But when my friend asks him he gives a day. We were supposed to hangout this weekend but he never called me back. He always says he loves me one day we stayed on the phone till one in the morning! Hes so sweet but i never see him. I dont know what to do anymore.
Julia xox

i had a boyfriend like that...i loved him so much but he wouldnt make time for me so i broke up with him. but thats just me, follow your heart.

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I'm kind of a shy type, so I don't really sing in front of people, but when I do I make it sound, like not my best. But when I sing by myself, I think that I may be talented. I also like to dance, and I like to draw and I'm good at that too, and same with writing. At my school there is Drama Club and I froze up and forgot all my lines and absolutely refused to sing. I dont know what to do. I want to be found out, but part of me doesn't. I'm a very split person.

honestly, just belt it out like no one is watching. when you are older youll regret not going for parts with tons of singing. put yourself in charecter like youre not the one singing, its your charecter you know what i mean? it isnt that bad, i froze up the first day at theater when in reality, i sing in front of anyone anytime. almost everyone struggles with that and people realize when you come out of your shell so just do it! im rooting for you!

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I just dont know anymore. I'm falling apart in life. I feel like a mother. I'm 15 Female and i clean my house every day! feed all the animals on the farm. And with all of that i still have to have a teen life. Last year wasnt my best year i went through like 10 boyfriends and all they wanted was sex. My family has been falling apart. My love of my life and the boy i lost my virginity to moved far!!! away this year. All i wanna do right now is die. I just dont know what to do with myself. I only had him and he talked to me listened to everything and had a answer. He told me he wanted to keep in touch so i wrote him and he never wrote back and it should have been here already i called him once and im gonna call agqain but no one picked up.... =/ how can i make myself happy again. Be the girl i once was. Make my mother proud of who i am and for her to stop saying i dont do shit for her in her life!! And to try to get through loosing the bestest person ever cause i dont wanna get over him but....i dont know



---->Lonely

aww hunny its alright! well one thing really struck me...be the girl i once was. i will tell you, no it wont be like that instantly if ever. jst live life week by week focusing on how to make yourself better one step at a time. you cant really avoid the chores or anything but i totally understand why you would think you have nothing to live for. a friend of mine had this problem...she was basically raising herself at 13. she found refuge in an adult friend...she didnt tell her the big problem (she was suicidal) but having her to talk to helped her get out it. as for your heartbreak, if he isnt answering, dont beat yourself over it. things change even when you dont want them too. the relatioship sounded almost too good to be true. try to move on...this will help you out. for your mother...o gosh. well this girl had the problem too. she got a journal and wrote all this bad stuff in there, never to be read again. now to help her, she does a lot of sports, runs alot (it realeses natural highs) and just isolates herself so no one can invade her space.
if you need anything else, feel free to ask!

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ok my bf (lets call him ed) was talking about running away. then i was talking about running away. we both have some family problems that we want to get away from. and his friend(lets call him bob)is just a huge risk taker. and one night i was talking to ed and he said that me and him should run away together:-\ and then he said bob would go with us. well, its been about a month now and we sarted talking about how ed didnt want to do it anymore because he is even more sad. and now i dont know if were going or not. i dont know what he means by he is too sad...do you think that means he wants to kill himself or something?
please help me

this guy sounds sad, yes, but i dont know about the whole suicidal thing. you might wanna ask before you find out the hard way. um, you will probably have more problems if you do run away so just get together a ton so the family cant ruin your life when you have a guest over or just go for walks often so you are running away but only temporarily. just talk to him about it and i hope it all works out for you!

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ok does anyone know a good song that is about break ups? or to dance to?

break ups- dont want you back, get out leave, since youve been gone, youll think of me, behind these hazel eyes, i hate everything about you, so yesterday, broken vow, remember when it rained, my give-a-damns busted...some are cheesy but you didnt specify a genre.
dance to- anything michael jackson, yeah, grind on me, heaven, headstrong, 1985...just about anything.
lemme know if you have any specific needs!

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is there a self quiz online to tell if you have depression or not?

well i actually go this from a book and if you have a lot of the symptoms, then yes you are. honestly i think a list works better than a quiz because most are not accurate. keep in mind, being bummed and being depressed are 2 very different things. depression is a serious condition so heres the list:
1 feeling very sad, tired, pessemistic, bored, hopeless, worthless, or helpless for an extended period. (more than 2 weeks)
2 getting more colds than you are used to
3 having a hard time concentrating, or making decisions or remembering things.
4 not being interested in things you normally like
5 blowing off friends and family all the time
6 letting your grades drop big time
7 losing or gaining a lot of weight
8 sleeping all the time or not being able to sleep at all
9 drinking heavily or taking lots of drugs
10 being overly harsh on people or violent
11 getting physical sexually when you dont really want to
12 being obsessed with dying and suicide
13 pain in neck or back*
hope this helps! plz rate if you like or appreciate the effort!

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ok im 13 and im 210 pounds but im also 5'6 and i need help to burn my belly fat and how do you get rid of chin fat like doubled chined fat i rank high

110 or 210? well if its 210 then dont worry so much ab out one particular area, try working your whole body with aerobics and cardio type stuff. the only way to change your chin is to lose weight by the way. go to a gym, im sure they can help you with it.

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how do you break up with someone but be nice about it? what should you say?

well give them a reason why first "you havent called me for over a month" then give them time to explain it "sorry babe i really didnt have time blah blah blah" then say, "how about we give it a break an see how it goes then if we still care about each other we will get back together" hope this helps!

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Hey. Well, I was wondering where do people get those pins that they put on their bags because I want some. Also, I would like to know if they are expensive or not...how much do they cost? Thanks!

hot topic has tons for about $1.50 ( hottopic.com ) im not sure about spencers and www.interpunk.com has some too

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Hey can anyone here please tell me what a faghag is exactly. Thanks

hmm ive never heard of that but since no one else answered im gonna guess its an old gay man. fag = gay, hag = old (person). yeah hope this helps!

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whats a prude? is it a bad thing?

well usually people say it to people who are like "freezers" and dont want to have any kind of physical contact with the opposite sex. a lot of people get called that for saving themselves for marriage. its a value but its not praised by peers so its a good and bad thing.

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Can one get sick from eating old graham crackers? They're probably about 3 months old, and I guess the package was left open. haha They're not dusty, but they're soft and chewy, very bizzare...

i think it is possible if the package was open so just be safe and dont eat them. better be safe than sorry!;-)

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im going to dump this guy today. i cant get him on the phone tho. he isnt online, so i dont know what to do. tonight i have a date with another guy but i dont like cheating so i wanted to dump the other guy first. please help!

very good decision. this happened to a friend of mine. she actually did call him and chatted with him a bit then an hour later she was holding the other guys hand...she felt a bit guilty but not as much as she would if she did it without dumping the other guy soo good choice! so yeah i dont think the phone is really that bad because a lot of people do it after a date and thats like horrible..."oh i had a great night, how about you?" "well yeah it was fun but i met someone and were over, bye." see what i mean? so just tell him straight up that you dont want to see him but do it nicely!

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im a 14 year old guy. i like this one girl, who ive liked for a while. i havent talked to her in years, and im afraid to talk to her. what should i do?

get her sn, talk to her on the phone, ask her to go see a movie then talk about it afterwords and just become her friend. being friends with her will get you more comfortable and then more things to talk about will come up and shell get to know and love you. yeah this happend to one of my guy friends so hope it works for you!

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Hey
My boy friend moved out of my school district.
I don`t know what to do because i don`t see him anymore.
But i still love him very much.
I miss him but i can`t see him because i can`t ride my bike to his house and it really sucks!
please tell me what to do.

Shannie

well i dont know how your school districts are seperated but around here if you cross your front yard your in a different district. try getting your parents to drive you or plan out times when you can see each other t a place that close to both of you.

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