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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.


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Laura!




--Jack

advice

Is highschool scary? What's it like? What should I expect?

Hello.

I was a freshman last year- and I have to say.. it was one of the most scary things I've EVER experienced! I was thrown in the trash can on the first day and it was horrible. Some kid even had to go to the emergency room! It was the WORST first day of school of my entire life! I almost didn't go back!

Haha- so hopefully you didn't take that seriously- because it really wasn't like that at all. I always play that trick on people who ask this question. C'mon- I gotta have a little fun! High school is NOT scary. It actually is a lot more fun. You have more freedoms than middle school and you can take REALLY awesome classes.

Here is my list of DOs and DON'Ts:

Do:
-Do all of your homework.
-Make new friends [some old ones will naturally just fade away].
-Ask the teacher for help if you need it.

Don't:
-Don't talk to seniors.. they most likely DON'T like you. The won't give you any respect.
-Don't wear revealing clothing- seniors will automatically hate you.

All in all- if you just be yourself- you'll be fine. If you have upperclassmen in any classes- you'll get to know them over the course of the year- and you may end up meeting some really great people. I know that some of my best friends I met at school last year- and most of them were 10th grade or older. Not all seniors hate you- some will be welcoming- but just assume the worst in them, at first. After awhile- you'll know who to avoid and who to warm up to. You'll be fine. Don't worry.

--Jack
(15/m/Sophomore)

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okay so basically i like this guy a lot.
and i think he likes me but im not sure.
and i wanna tell him that i like him back, but i'm scared that im going to get rejected and then feel like a complete loser.

anyone wanna help me?
i have no idea what to do :[

Tell him. Yes, rejection hurts [trust me, I've been through that neck of the woods a few times], but it helps you learn. How can you possibly know that you've loved or experienced life if you haven't been rejected. It happens to everyone. You shouldn't feel like a loser if it happens.. you should know that you've experienced it and you'll know more about love from it, I guess. I know this sounds confusing and like I'm repeating myself.. but I'm trying to put this into words as best I can.

Go for him. If you don't take a risk- you'll never know what could have been. You could be preventing the best relationship you'll have in your teenage years..you never know until you've tried.

Good luck!
--Jack
(15/m)

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During sex, does it hurt for guys like it does for the girls (their first time) or does it feel good to them??

From what I've read and heard- it doesn't hurt for the guy nearly as much as it does for the girl.
Apparently us guys really enjoy it [I wouldn't know, because I'm one of the few guys left that HASN'T lost their virginity due to lust].

--Jack
(15/m)

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so there is this guy. He is really fine and has a way with words. He is very sweet and fun to be around. Me and him talk dirty to eachother a lot. And one day he said lets hangout. so i said okay and do what? and he said anything. And i said anything but sex? and he said no, im down for that. i want to loose it to you. I really like him and he is special. i am a virgin. and so is he, but he has done everything except sex. and i want to loose it to him!
Should i?
no lectures

Okay- first... not to be rude- but you're asking for our opinions, and you say no lecture. If you want my true opinion- it is going to involve some sort of a lecture. If you don't like what you're about to read- then don't rate me a 1 or 2 just because you didn't like what I had to say. Rate me on the quality of my opinion.

I personally wouldn't do it. You have your whole life ahead of you to lose your virginity, and you shouldn't do it just because you're having lustful feelings right now. I don't know how old you are- as you don't say. But I'm going to assume that you're 15 [I bet you I'm wrong]. Either way- you're young. I've heard a lot of people give their opinions on should they have lost their virginity at the age they did.. most say they totally regret it because it wasn't someone who was committed to them. Others, while there are few, don't regret it one bit. They are still with the person and they think they're going to get married. Honestly- don't do it just because you want to prove something to someone. If you chose to do it, do it because its what you want. Don't do it because of pressure. Do it only if you're 100% sure its what you want.

Whatever you decide to do- make sure that you are ABSOLUTELY sure that it is what you want to do.. and what you're willing to live with for the rest of your life.

Oh- and congrats on being my 700th question answered!
--Jack
(15/m)

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on your about me thing, how do you get the link to say"forum" on mine it just has the adress thing.
thanks
-manda2195

Hello-

Here is a question I answered that may help you:

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=500328

This question can be found in my "about me" section under "Go here" near the bottom of my picture.. around stuff about a forum.

Anyway, I just looked at the question- and it doesn't explain that part you're asking about..

Sorry.. I'll explain it here, I guess.. lol


Hokay-
So you take your URL, and add it to the following code to get it to appear like it does in my column:

My Forum or whatever you want to show up


Check out my forum sometime.. its pretty active.. haha
--Jack
(15/m)

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is it bad to start liking someone who has a girlfriend...who is also cousins of the kids you babysit...who also lives like an hour away...who u barley see and met a couple times throughout the years and dont know why u like him

No. Liking someone is never bad, persay. Yes- you may have picked someone who is taken and who you won't see often.. but you can't help who you like. Don't think its bad, because it surely isn't.

--Jack
(15/m)

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alright.there's this kid.i talk to him all the time.and he flirts with me alot.it seems as though he tells me everything!and i basically tell him everything.but im just having very confused feelings for him.like sometimes i think he only talks to me because we're talking about his ex or about some stupid thing he did earlier.just dumb stuff that he likes to talk about.but when i say something like "oooh nvm" then he'll be all "say it" and bug me and bug me until i tell him and it makes it seem like he cares but most of the time he hardly says anything.i really shouldnt be worrying about,but what do i do?

I'm sort of confused- but I think you should just ask him why he sort of only seems interested in talking about his ex or whatever. If he only seems interested in talking about things that have nothing to do with you [not that all conversations should be about you... lol]. But it seems like that isn't the case; he is sort of talking about things you want to talk about. I'm not really sure, since you don't say.. but if you feel like he doesn't give you the attention you think you deserve.. just give him a little bit of time and hope that he changes, I guess.
My mom always says, "You don't have to be around anyone you don't want to be around. Don't be afraid to get people out of your life if you aren't comfortable with them being there," and that is just about the best thing I can tell you at this point.

**EDIT**
I do have an AIM, but I'm not online now... and I'm not on a lot either. I barely go on the only computer that has AIM anymore. If you would like further advice- my inbox is open.

--Jack
(15/m)

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youre hot. i love you. will you marry me?

Thanks. I don't know you.

Sorry- I won't marry you. I'm apparently getting married to Camille behind Thew's back.. although I don't know how that will go down with him.

Please don't do this- next time I'm filing an abuse report. I'm not for doing that just now, so you get a break. Just know that I have quite the knack for filing those. Just ask YG or S_C. They'll tell you.

--Jack
(15/m)

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Okay me and my friend Haley just recently got into a big fight because she was trying to stick up for the guy she liked.And when she found out she was wrong and I was right she was all "Oh I'm so sorrryryryyryryryryryryry" and blah blah blah.But this isn't the first time she's done this.She does it all the time.I'm getting kind of sick of having to deal with this.


What should I do?


:/

If you're getting sick of having to deal with it- then don't feel bad if you don't take her back as a friend, I guess. I mean- sure you might seem like a shallow jerk- but you don't have to be involved in the friendship anymore if you don't want to. Like my mom says, "If you're uncomfortable in any way with anyone you're around- you DON'T have to be around them anymore if you don't want to be."
I might give her one more chance to prove that she can be mature- but make sure you let her know that you're tired of her immaturity [I guess that is the word for it] and she really should try to be reasonable, but you shouldn't say this rudely, of course.

--Jack
(15/m)

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alright so this might sound really stupid. ok well i go to this daycamp thing and there's this kid that's 11 and going into 6th grade. and im 13 and going in 8th. so he's really cute. and he likes me. and i like him. is it weird if we went out because of the age difference? and also he's short for his age, but i don't mind. thankss

Nope. Two years isn't odd or whatever. Be with who you want- don't let age define that. Unless, of course- you're 13 and he's like 35. That would be creepy. Any age within reason is fine and not weird. If you want to have a relationship with him- he might be a little less mature- but go ahead with it, because people learn with experience [I'm referring to him].

--Jack
(15/m)

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my friend ryan committed suicide about two weeks ago and i just can't get over it. just seeing him in that casket made me sick to my stomach and burst into tears. it's so wrong to see a 15 year old in a casket.. it's just wrong. everything reminds me of him cuz he was the coolest person in the world. plz tell me how to overcome this or help me to be at peace with his death. i miss him so much

Hello.

I would first like to say- I AM SO SORRY! I can really tell you're upset.. and someone as young as you shouldn't have to go through this!
There is NOTHING wrong with being upset for awhile. If you want to be upset- it is perfectly alright and healthy.
It will be VERY hard to get over this.. and you probably never will be completely over it. I know that I am still not over my great-grandmother's death over a YEAR ago. I still cry about and it still upsets me to no end to this day!
Dealing with death is tough, and I know how you feel. Just looking at the casket at them. Someone who didn't deserve to die.

Hopefully this can help you:
http://www.mcall.com/features/family/familyproject/all-5089079sep15,0,4700377.story

I think to help you make peace with his death you should remember him- not forget him in any way. Just remember the good times you shared and treasure them. Let them be the memories you have of him.

I wish you the best of luck- and if you need anything more- My inbox is open.

I'm so sorry! My heart goes out to you- and I will pray for you.
--Jack
(15/m)

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k so theres this guy that i see like everywhere

and hes so good looking and when i look at him he is sometimes looking at me but most of the time he is . he also seems like an amazing guy and i really want to get to know him.

were friends on myspace and i am debating if i should message him that hes beautiful cause im a funny person and so is he so yeah. or if you have anything for me to say. please help me out

Hey- if you are interested- and you think that he is interested- then GO FOR IT! Love doesn't come around often.. so when it does- you gotta jump on the train and ride!
Sure- you could say "You're beautiful" or whatever.. anything that would get him to at least chuckle. I know that if a girl is witty/funny I tend to like her a little more.. its really quite funny.

So yes! Go for it! And be funny/witty!

Good luck, this could be your chance!!

--Jack
(15/m)

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im so scared i might be pregnant. i had sex with this guy on may 18th. he didn't come in me, he had a condom on, but then he took it off, n he came in my underwear, which i put on like right after. that day was a friday. on saturday night, like at 11 or 12 at night i felt kinda nauseas. i dunno why. then i felt nauseas monday morning till like wednesday morning, but it might have been because we were disecting pigs in first period every morning. after that, i didn't get nauseas or anything anymore. i got my period regularly three times. i just finished my third time. i noticed it was kinda light. it ended maybe a day or two sooner than usual. last night in the shower, i noticed my stomach got a LOT bigger. not like super huge, but i'm a skinny girl, &it got bigger. could i be pregnant ?

I could be wrong, but I'm almost positive that if you have your period- you aren't pregnant. If you haven't had sex since May 18th- then you're not pregnant if you've had your period 3 times since then. I've heard that if you stress out- your period may act up and start/end early.

I think its safe to say you're NOT pregnant, but you could take a pregnancy test if you're still scared. Next time- be careful with your sex practices. Wash out clothes that got sperm on them before you put them on.

--Jack
(15/m)

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Ok so there's these 2 guys that I really really really like!!!

Guy #1- He's really sweet, caring and nice to me. Prob?? well he was my neighbors ex... so that makes it a little complicated. She is friends with me, but if I go out with him... she said she'll kill me and never speak to me again

Guy #2- is Guy #1's bff.... which also makes it hard and confusing. He was in my 7th, 8th, and 9th grade but we never really spoke to each other that much. Maybe because I didn't have a crush on him until I actually met him (thanks to guy #2)

HELP! I really like both of these guys but there's a twist to both of them. That makes it super hard for me.

Any advice on what to do?

I was thinking of ignoring both of them and looking for another guy, but i'm not sure.

:/

Well- first off- If you like Guy #1- then go for him. Just because he's your neighbor's ex doesn't mean you can't date him. If she doesn't want you to- she's jealous. She isn't going out with him anymore, and she has no control over who he dates, or you, for that matter. If he seems like someone you would like more than Guy #2 [and I don't see a major problem with him, making it "super hard" for you], then you should date Guy #1. If you think you'll like Guy #2 more, then date him. Just because you haven't talked to him much doesn't mean the relationship couldn't work. It just might be harder to communicate at first, and it might be more awkward for both of you.
I would go for Guy #1. Sounds like you like him more.

--Jack
(15/m)

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I am an African American teen! My mom is black and so is my father. I look like I am half black half white, half Mexican, Mexican, Puerto Rican?! I have long curly hair, too. A lot of people ask what my ethnicity is and I tell them what I am. They often reply, "FULL?!" "No you're not!" "What else!" "Well, you don't look like it!" "You're lying!" "well, why is your hair like that?!" "No, because look at your hair!" "your parents must not be dark!?" My mom does have light skin, but that doesn't make her any less black than a darker person! I get so mad when people tell me I am not black or I am half! I believe there is nothing wrong with being multi racial or biracial, but that's NOT me! I KNOW what I am. What's the best way to tell people to not tell me what I am or tell me I am less black because of what I look like?

Just ignore them. They are immature and don't understand that everyone is different and that NOT all African-Americans are completely dark-skinned. Some are like your mom- with lighter skin. And some are like your dad- with darker skin [I'm just assuming he is- you don't say]. You are the offspring of two African-Americans. How can you NOT be African-American? People are just dumb and don't understand. If people ask- just tell them like you do.. and if they do have those follow-up questions.. well just tell them nicely or just ignore them. A lot of people are naive and sometimes they don't know any better. Having patience is key!

--Jack
(15/m)

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How do you add a picture as a picture caption?

Hey!

This has been asked today: http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=504037

Here was my answer:
You need to upload your picture on tinyurl.com or tinypic.com and get the URL. Then you need to put it in this code:



There you go.

--Jack
(15/m)

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i just recently got close with my friend jake. i ALSO just broke up with my boyfriend about a month ago. anyways, hes been there all through the break up and everything helping me out and making me feel better. we talk almost everyday, if not twice a day and we really do have an amazing friendship. about a week or two ago, we started talking about relationships (since we both recently got out of one) and we started comparing what we want in one and what we like/dislike. ever since then, we're even closer & i think im starting to like him. im really afraid to tell him though because i'm afraid it'll screw up what we have, and how close we are. i have one of my best friends talking to him trying to get a feel of who he's interested in, but i really want a straight out answer. i mean, if i dont tell him and he really does like me too, i could be missing out on something great you know? sorry its so long, but any advice you can give me would be great. thanks.!

Hey. First off- as I do with all inbox questions- I really appreciate it.

Secondly.. here is my advice. You obviously have 2 options here:

1.) You can tell him that you like him- and he would either tell you that he likes you that way too [which is what you always hope for!] or he could get really offended or whatever and not talk to you ever again.

2.) You can NOT tell him that you like him- and things will stay how they are.

Option 1 Analysis:

Advantage(s):
-He will know exactly how you feel and you won't feel like you're hiding anything from him.
-He might end up liking you how you do and you could have the best relationship you could probably imagine [at least at your current age].

Disadvantage(s):
-He could end up not wanting to talk to you or be with you. Your liking him may scare him off [This happened with me and my friend Leah- who I used to like- and it ended up that we didn't talk for almost 3 months last year.. it was horrible!].

Option 2 Analysis:

Advantage(s):
-You won't risk him rejecting the idea of him knowing. Things will most likely stay the same.

Disadvantage(s):
-He won't know how you feel about him and you'll feel horrible keeping something from him.
-You might be missing out on "something great" as you say.

I assume you already knew that- but I just wanted to lay it out for you.
I would say- no matter what you do- you should tell him. Yes- he may be like my friend Leah and you might not talk for 3 months, but at least you know that you're not lying to him. You'll be being completely honest with him- and he might respect that and thank you for telling him.
Who knows? You might end up in the best relationship you could imagine- and you could be a very happy person. He might feel the same way you do.. and is just a little nervous to spit it out.
Just tell him and if he doesn't like you like that- let him know you still want to be friends =].

--Jack
(15/m)

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how do you make a link when answering a question

You mean where it has your own words on the clickable part?

Use this code:
What you want to appear here

If that doesn't show up when I submit- I'll edit.

If you talking about the "Link [Mouse Over to See Full Location]" or whatever.. you just insert a URL in your answer.. and it automatically appears like that.

--Jack
(15/m)

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Ok so you know how the 7th potter book is coming this saturday? well, a while ago i wanted to read the 5th and 6th one to catch up on things. but my friend had them and i just got them back. and there's no way i can read both of them in time. especially since i'm going on vacation this thursday. so does anyone know of any sites with a DETAILED summary of each chapter of the books? it would help me out a lot. thanks!

p.s. especially the 6th one because i saw the 5th movie twice so that helped a bit.

Hey!

I am a big Harry Potter fan!

Here is a website for the 5th book Chapter Summaries:
http://blogs.salon.com/0001092/stories/2003/06/24/harryPotterAndTheOrderOfThePhoenixChapterSummaryIndex.html


Here is a website for the 6th book Chapter Summaries:
http://blogs.salon.com/0001092/stories/2005/07/17/harryPotterAndTheHalfbloodPrinceChapterSummaryIndex.html


I have to say that there is no replacement for the actual books- but that is your choice!

--Jack
(15/m)

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I went to this summer camp once, and I made friends with this girl and her older brother. They were a bit younger than me, but we were the oldest there. This was about two-three years ago.

Well, the guy added me on myspace, and we talk once in a while. And then kaboom!! he asks me out! I say yes, I don't know why, and then he says that maybe we shouldn't. Ok. No big deal. I don't like you that way anyway. This was two years ago.

Now hes sendng me these messages through myspace like to rate him, and list the things I would potentially be willing to do with him. Well, I only like him as a friend. Period.

What should I do when he sends me these messages? So far, he sent me two, the first one of which I filled out, but I really truly listed the things I would do with him (I think the furthest was hugging... but as friends, ya know?)

Well this one that he sent me I have to rate him. Could anyone suggest how I should rate him without hurting his feelings, but not making it sound like I like him that way, either?

---GRADE ME---
F= damn you're ugly
D = your parents must be heated
C- = You're just someone I don't want to talk to, okay?
C = You're okay looking, but you need work...
C+ = You're just average
B- = Your kinda cute and you're cool I guess
B = You're cute. And you're a pretty interesting person.
B+ = Pretty damn attractive. I'd hit that.
A- = You're extremely attractive, and you're awesome.
A = DAMN YOUR SEXXXAY!!
A+ = ... will you go out with me?.... seriously!
A++= will you marry me
A+++=TAKE ME NOW ON THE TABLE AND KISS ME AND DON'T STOP

Should I put A-?

...he's not extremely attractive, but obviously he just sent it to me so I would tell him something like "I'd hit that, will you go out with me?, etc.

If you don't think he's "extremely attractive" then don't say he is. That will just leave him thinking you might like him- which is obviously not what you want?
I would rate him how you ACTUALLY feel about him. Don't lie or overthink it. Is he "just okay looking and needs work"? Give him a C. Is he "cute and a pretty interesting person"? Give him a B. Just be honest with him. And it doesn't say that you can't add additional info/words to your response.. so just say.. "haha- I don't know what to pick. I just like you as a friend and these all would make you think I like you.. lol" or something.

--Jack
(15/m)

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