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more than friends?
i just recently got close with my friend jake. i ALSO just broke up with my boyfriend about a month ago. anyways, hes been there all through the break up and everything helping me out and making me feel better. we talk almost everyday, if not twice a day and we really do have an amazing friendship. about a week or two ago, we started talking about relationships (since we both recently got out of one) and we started comparing what we want in one and what we like/dislike. ever since then, we're even closer & i think im starting to like him. im really afraid to tell him though because i'm afraid it'll screw up what we have, and how close we are. i have one of my best friends talking to him trying to get a feel of who he's interested in, but i really want a straight out answer. i mean, if i dont tell him and he really does like me too, i could be missing out on something great you know? sorry its so long, but any advice you can give me would be great. thanks.!
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I had this happen to me too
actualy i was still in a relationship.
When i started to liek my best firend.
I just went for what I thought was right.
And weve been going tou for nine months now.
If you think you liek him, and you have the slitest idea that he likes you, just go for it.
And if he is as good as a firend as you says he is, if he isnt into you, it shouldnt mess up your friend status.
Go for it girlfriend !
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okay well first off, i think that its a good idea to look at your friendship and weigh it out with a realationship.. like you said, you wouldnt want it to go wrong and wind up ruining it. But i also think that if you did have a relationship it would be really strong because of how close you are. Honestly even though its going to be tough just flat out ask him because if you dont, like you said, you could be missing out.
Just remember that there is a HUGE difference between loving some one as a friend and loving someone as a boyfriend. and sometimes we mix those two feelings up.
hope i helped you!
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Ask him how he feels about you, as in if he likes you as more than a friend. It doesn't hurt to ask, and you'll feel a lot better knowing the real answer once you do.
Put it this way, if you don't ask him if he likes you or not, you'll most likely never no for sure, and if he starts having a relationship with another girl, and you find out that he liked you originally, I bet you'll feel really mad that you didn't jump at the chance to ask him if he liked you when the time came.
I think knowing that he doesn't like you is a lot better than not knowing whether he likes you or not.
You will not jeopardize your friendship either, trust me. That's what everyone worries about when they are in this same situation. If they are really a true friend, than they will most likely stay your true friend, even if they reject you.
If you need anymore help, just ask. :D
Best Regards,
Mariah
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Try talking to him a bit more as friends & see. You definitely should tell him how you feel. Since you guys are such close friends, there would be nothing wrong with explaining your feelings towards him. He would actually probably really appreciate your honesty. It shouldn't ruin the friendship. My boyfriend is my best friend & I think that relationships really work out if your bf is a good friend of yours. You guys will know a lot about each other. There are situations where friendships were ruined by dating, but it definitely isn't all of them & you don't want to regret anything. You shouldn't be worried about it now either. You should give him a chance & see. If you guys are such good friends, a more than friends relationship shouldn't hurt anything. You should go for it & see how things go. Talk to him about it. He might feel the same way as you do.
-hope that helped!♥
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Hey. First off- as I do with all inbox questions- I really appreciate it.
Secondly.. here is my advice. You obviously have 2 options here:
1.) You can tell him that you like him- and he would either tell you that he likes you that way too [which is what you always hope for!] or he could get really offended or whatever and not talk to you ever again.
2.) You can NOT tell him that you like him- and things will stay how they are.
Option 1 Analysis:
Advantage(s):
-He will know exactly how you feel and you won't feel like you're hiding anything from him.
-He might end up liking you how you do and you could have the best relationship you could probably imagine [at least at your current age].
Disadvantage(s):
-He could end up not wanting to talk to you or be with you. Your liking him may scare him off [This happened with me and my friend Leah- who I used to like- and it ended up that we didn't talk for almost 3 months last year.. it was horrible!].
Option 2 Analysis:
Advantage(s):
-You won't risk him rejecting the idea of him knowing. Things will most likely stay the same.
Disadvantage(s):
-He won't know how you feel about him and you'll feel horrible keeping something from him.
-You might be missing out on "something great" as you say.
I assume you already knew that- but I just wanted to lay it out for you.
I would say- no matter what you do- you should tell him. Yes- he may be like my friend Leah and you might not talk for 3 months, but at least you know that you're not lying to him. You'll be being completely honest with him- and he might respect that and thank you for telling him.
Who knows? You might end up in the best relationship you could imagine- and you could be a very happy person. He might feel the same way you do.. and is just a little nervous to spit it out.
Just tell him and if he doesn't like you like that- let him know you still want to be friends =].
--Jack
(15/m)
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