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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.

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Here is my Recommended Columnist of the Decade for the 2020s:
Laura!

--Jack

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Does anyone know someone with a tattoo who is younger than 16.

One of my classmates has one. Its on his upper arm. It looks retarded.. its apparently his family crest. You have to have a parent/guardian with you or written permission or something. Eitehr way- you have to have permission.

--Jack
(15/m)

is there a scene in the newest harry potter (order of the pheonix) movie where he's naked? i googled harry potter and i keep getting these pictures of daniel radcliffe half naked in scences from one of the movies

No- there isn't a scene in 'Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix' where Danielle Radcliffe gets naked.

He was, however in a play where he was supposed to have sex with a horse.. maybe that is what you're seeing.

Haha...?

--Jack
(15/m)

i need some more ideas of hot guys to google for my locker. if anyone has any ideas please let me know.

thanx.

I just have to say this first one, because I know my friends on here will want me to say it.. just know that is is a joke:

http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=CuxMiBeckNow7

Me!

Haha.. now.. I'm not gay-- but I asked my sister who she thought was hot.. and this is who she said:

Oh! and I forgot one she always mentions:

Hope that helps.. especially since I'm a guy.. haha.

--Jack
(15/m)

How do I get a forum on my column like you have? How do I put it into the link like you have?

Hey there!

http://www.advicenators.com/talkaboutme.php?userboard_id=30323

Notice the "30323" at the end of the link. If you go onto your column, and click "ASK ME A QUESTION", the URL on the page has a number at the end. This number is the registered columnist you are. So, I am the 30,323rd columnist to register on this site. There are 46,535 registered columnists right now [July 20, 2007 3:50pm Eastern time].
Anyway, take your number, and replace my number with yours [so you put it at the end after the "="], and that gives you your own personal forum.

So you take your URL, and add it to the following code to get it to appear like it does in my column [as "my forum"]:

My Forum or whatever you want to show up

Check mine out sometime, and make sure to put the link on your column so people know about it.

--Jack
(16/m)

ok so i have sort of a problem. im 15/f. i have, well had this best friend, lets call her w. ok well w and me were the closest friends you could possibly find. we were together 24/7. i loved her sooo much but at first she was kind of mean. at school she would always tell people all this bad stuff about me if we got into a fight. but we would act like everything was ok when it was just me and her. but she has always had this guy best friend and he is pretty mean to me and always makes fun of me with her. i just ignore it and act like everything is ok. then we started become really good friends with lets call her m. so me w and m became a group of friends, but then i was getting pushed aside. then they became friends and made this mean nick name about me and always talked about me, but pretended everything was all cool and they invited me places. but sometimes it just really hurts. but the other day i was pushed over the edge but im afraid to show them, because i dont have any other friends and its kind of hard to make new friends when everyone has their clicks already set and everything(im a sophomore by the way) and i want new friends, but m and w are so funny and i love being around them. but they are so different behind my back. i dont know what to do. i really need advice on how to deal with this.i've been friends with them like my whole freshman year, but i need a change because its making me feel bad and really crappy.

Hello.

First of all- these girls aren't your friends. Friends don't talk about their friends behind their backs, they don't make fun of them, they aren't mean to them, and they don't call them names. If you think they are your friends- you're sadly mistaken. Sure, they are really nice to you when you're there- but they could care less about you when you're not.
Ditch them. They are scum. There are so many other people out there who aren't like this and will actually care about you. I'm sorry that these people have lead you on to think they are your friends.

Here is how to find new friends:

1.) Sit at a new lunch table. Just get to know everyone and maybe you'll end up having a great friendship.

2.) Ask someone you sit next to in a class for a pencil/pen [even if you already have one]. This will get a conversation started and honestly- this is how most of my friendships from last year started. It actually works.

3.) Join a club, sport or something that will show you new people. When you're given a task or something- laugh about how hard or whatever it is with someone near you. This also actually works.

Hope I helped- and I'm sorry about those bitchy [I don't use that word often] girls.
--Jack
(15/m)

i want to know if im considered a racist. i can be friends with black people, i have 3 black friends but i can never picture myself dating or having sex/children/marrying a black guy. is this racism or just prefrences?

I don't think this is racism. You have friends that are black- how could that make you racist.

rac·ism /ˈreɪsɪzəm/
–noun
1. a belief or doctrine that inherent differences among the various human races determine cultural or individual achievement, usually involving the idea that one's own race is superior and has the right to rule others.

That is the definition from www.dictionary.reference.com/racist

You're not wanting to date/have sex/have children/marry a black guy- that doesn't mean you're thinking that white people are superior to black people.

I think it IS just a preference. I don't see myself dating, etc. a black girl- but that doesn't mean that I'm racist. Everyone has their preferences. You're fine.

--Jack
(15/m)

15/f So i have this friend who is the same age as me and he lives like 5 houses down... this summer we have been hanging out alot... and i mean like 5 hours every other day... i have a lot of friends and he like... never leaves his house.. hed rather play video games then hang out with ppl but lately ive been having feelings for him and its realli freaking me out.. like he is realli fun to be around and ive known him since like 7th grade... well a few weeks ago i was like "what would you say if i said i liekd you more then a friend" and he got realli like nervous and later he told me online that we were to good of friends... so i kinda dropped it but im realli starting to have feelings for him and i realli want to win him over it a very SUBTLE way...what do i do i mean ive never had like a real boyfriend and hes never had a real girlfriend.....please help...what do i do!??!

Thanks

Hey. I've been in your situation. Except I am a guy- and I liked my best friend as more than a friend, not once, but 4 times. I'm just going to give you a little story about the 4th time- and maybe help you to make a decision:

On the 4th time I liked my best friend- it was Valentine's Day 2006. I told her and it wasn't the best ending. She told me that I needed to "get over" her. It was horrible! We didn't talk for 3 months. Thankfully- we're still friends.. but I have no idea how we are.. haha.

Anyway- the way I see it.. you can do two things:

1.) Tell your friend you like him.

2.) Don't tell your friend you like him.

Option 1 is what I think you should do. Yeah- he may have seemed embarrassed and nervous- but maybe it was because he likes you the same way! You never know.. this could be your chance to have the best relationship of your life [at least at this point].

Option 2 is the safe way to go.. yeah.. you will stay friends- but you won't know what could have happened. You won't know if you could have had a great relationship with him.

Love takes risks. If you aren't willing to take the risk- you may never get into a relationship. Take the chance and tell him. I think its your best bet.

Good Luck!
--Jack
(15/m)

Any picture i try to put as my profile pic do not fit. I try to print screen it then cut it and save as a jpeg, but when i print screen it, nothing happens, and it is already a jpeg file. Once again, how can i make my picture fit the requirements?
Thank you

What the person said below is right.

I, too, have had this problem. It only lets you upload pictures 15K or less. This gets annoying- because you can only have REALLY small pictures.. and it gets to be pointless.

If you check out my column- you'll see that I have a large picture. I uploaded it in tinypic.com [or photobucket.com, tinyurl.com- whichever you prefer.. photobucket requires a login name..] and then got the URL of the picture- and put it into the "URL of a picture of you" on the "Profile Settings" page found here:
http://www.advicenators.com/settings.php

--Jack
(15/m)

yeah all this advice has helped.. But I can't meet up in the day with him because he is grounded. So Meeting at night is the only way I can see him and he is un grounded when i go on holiday and I want to see him before I go.. So What can I do?.

Hey-

I know you want to see him- but you shouldn't meet up with him at a dangerous time just because you won't be able to see him until after you get back from your holiday. I think that maybe you can talk on the phone if he is allowed to. You can maybe contact his mom and ask if you can hang out with him one day before you leave- because you want to see him. Maybe she'll be nice and let you. I don't think it's wise to sneak out at night just to see him. You'll get in trouble- and then you won't be able to see him even longer.

Just in case you didn't see it in the edit =].

--Jack
(15/m)

Is High School scary? What should I expect to happen to me? Should I stay away from Seniors? How should I make friends?

Hello.

I was a freshman two years ago- and I have to say.. it was one of the most scary things I've EVER experienced! I was thrown in the trash can on the first day and it was horrible. Some kid even had to go to the emergency room! It was the WORST first day of school of my entire life! I almost didn't go back!

Haha- so hopefully you didn't take that seriously- because it really wasn't like that at all. I always play that trick on people who ask this question. C'mon- I gotta have a little fun! High school is NOT scary. It actually is a lot more fun. You have more freedoms than middle school and you can take REALLY awesome classes. If you have to chance to take a Speech class- DO IT! You think it will be the dumbest class ever and you'll be really bored- but you get the chance to get really good at speeches- and you'll learn really awesome things! When you get to be a Junior/Senior- take AP and Honors classes- these will impress colleges and they will want you to go to their college if you do well enough on them.

People may tell you that Freshmen year doesn't count for anything- so slacking off won't matter until you're an upperclassmen. This is wrong. Colleges will look at your cumulative GPA- and that includes your freshmen year. Don't slack off; you'll regret it later.

Just to debunk the rumor- There is NOT a "Freshmen Friday". Sure, this used to exist back in the 60s and 70s, but it doesn't anymore. Any school that actually still does it will probably end up getting sued by a bunch of parents. So most don't do it. Chances are, your high school won't do it.

Here is my list of DOs and DON'Ts:

Do:
-Do all of your homework.
-Make new friends [some old ones will naturally just fade away] and do this by just starting up simple conversations with people- and it will eventually lead to a great friendship. Ask someone you may want to get to know for a pencil in class.. that's a classic. Sit with new people at lunch.
-Ask the teacher for help if you need it.

Don't:
-Don't talk to seniors.. they most likely DON'T like you. The won't give you any respect.
-Don't wear revealing clothing- seniors will automatically hate you.

All in all- if you just be yourself- you'll be fine. If you have upperclassmen in any classes- you'll get to know them over the course of the year- and you may end up meeting some really great people. I know that some of my best friends I met at school freshmen year- and most of them were 10th grade or older. Not all seniors hate you- some will be welcoming- but just assume the worst in them, at first. After awhile- you'll know who to avoid and who to warm up to. You'll be fine. Don't worry.

--Jack
(16/m/Junior)

I'm female and 14 years old. My Boyfriend is 15, nearly 16.
Okay, this is quite a weird question bt i need help as soon as possible. Basically, he wants me to sneak out tonight and meet up with him. The problem is there has recently been a pervert around who grabbed a girl in my school near to where i live. I am scared that he could grab me when i go tonight, coz it will be around 1 in the morning and dark. It will take about 5 - 10 minutes until I will meet my boyfriend. So i have a 5 minute walk or even a bit longer on my own in the dark along some roads to him. I don't like the dark much as it is and I am petrified about this pervert.. I can't get my boyfriend to come to my house, and this is the closest I can meet him but I hate walking on my own in the dark. I want to go.. But i am really scared about what could happen.. and then my parents may wake up and realize i have gone and i will be in lots of trouble.. so then i won't be able to see my boyfriend coz I will probably be grounded. So what would you do? Would you go? Or what could I tell my boyfriend why I can't? or should i talk to him about it? I want to go, but just my parents could find out and then there is the walking on my own for 5 minutes in the dark knowing a pervert could jump out.. I am scared stiff, but i do want to go.. Help? xx

My advice- don't go.
Think of what you'd be doing here:

1.) You're going behind your parents' backs. This is a BIG no-no. Like you said- if they catch you- you're in some deep punishment. My sister snuck out to see her boyfriend in the middle of the night- and he lives only a street away. My parents found out- and they were FURIOUS! She could have gotten hit by a car, gotten lost, or a number of other things. Don't EVER go against your parents. Chances are- they will find out.

2.) You're worried about this pervert at night. You're doubting it- and when you're ever doubting something- it means its probably NOT a good idea. There is a good chance that you could get kidnapped by him. Anyone that thinks "Oh, that won't happen to me!" are idiots. It very well could happen- and you never know. Most of the time- when people are kidnapped- they are raped and killed. It isn't like the movies anymore where they leave a ransom note and keep them alive. People are SICK.

Tell your boyfriend of your concern. Please don't do it. You don't have to meet at 1 in the morning.

**EDIT**
I know you probably DON'T want to hear this- but I'm going to say it- and I'll put this in the answer for the inbox you sent me, in case you don't see it here.
I know you want to see him- but you shouldn't meet up with him at a dangerous time just because you won't be able to see him until after you get back from your holiday. I think that maybe you can talk on the phone if he is allowed to. You can maybe contact his mom and ask if you can hang out with him one day before you leave- because you want to see him. Maybe she'll be nice and let you. I don't think it's wise to sneak out at night just to see him. You'll get in trouble- and then you won't be able to see him even longer.

Please carefully consider what you're about to do.

--Jack
(15/m)

Well this is kinda a weird question, but I have a little obsession with teeth. Whenever I meet someone I always stare at their teeth. If they have disgusting teeth I can't be around them. So, I was looking around this website and I noticed that you have wonderful pearly white teeth. How did you get them so nice? They have such a sleek and sexy shape and the perfect sheen. Have you had braces or veneers, or are they natural? I really need to know this. Thanks...

Honestly- my teeth AREN'T pearly white. I've never had braces or anything. My teeth are natural; I've never had braces, veneers, etc. Honestly- I had 9 cavities when I was younger. I haven't had any lately... However, two of my teeth actually broke into many pieces just two weeks apart.

My teeth aren't that great- to be honest. I brush them at least once a day [usually after breakfast]. I floss them occasionally- and even less frequently, I use mouth wash.

What do you mean by "they have such a sleek and sexy shape and the perfect sheen"?

Are you one of Erinn's friends?

--Jack
(15/m)

Okay i have just another question about D :)

Sometimes we can really hit if off and talk for hours then once in a while, we hardly even get anywhere. I feel that he doesnt want to talk to me and im getting to obessed. (Though im not trying to. It seems to happen with alot of guys that i talk to, we have like one or two great convos, then after its just like...." umm...hi"

Is there something wrong with the way i talk or is it just them?

Thank you, you give great advice and i totally trust you to guide me in the right direction. And by the way, your really goodlooking :)

14/f

Hey. The more you ask about D- the harder it gets! =].

Well- I think this is VERY normal. Heck- it happens to me. Sometimes I'll have really deep and meaningful conversations with my best friend Leah- and then the next time we talk- its like "What the hell happened to our great conversations?"

Anyway...
I'm sure that what is happening to you and D and what happens to me and my friend ALSO happens with the rest of the world.
No need to worry- just try to think of new topics to talk about. That's what I do with my friend Leah- and we always walk away from a conversation feeling like it actually got somewhere; even if we were joking about something random or talking about past relationships..

Good luck! If you need anything else, my inbox is open [as you should already know!].

--Jack
(15/m)

is there going to be another harry potter? he didnt even fight that mean guy, the old guy did .

Hey- I may not have much to add other than the approximate date of the release of the 6th movie- the one after the movie you're talking about.
The 6th movie, called Harry Potter and the Half-Blood Prince, will be released November 21, 2008 in the United States.

I only mention this because someone told you about it- and they didn't know the release date.
They ARE currently filming that movie.. and once they are done filming that movie- they will probably start filming the 7th one before the main characters get too old!

I found that info from www.mugglenet.com.
That is a great site for everything Harry Potter.

--Jack
(15/m)

is there anyway to wake up? your foot when it falls asleep. haha.

Walk on it. When your foot [or any part of your body] falls asleep, it means that you cut circulation off to that part of the body. So if you were laying on it oddly, staying in a certain spot for too long, etc.- you're just causing blood a hard time to get to that part of your body.

So just walk on it.

When you start to feel that "pins and needles" feeling- the blood is starting to return to your legs properly. It feels like a sort of tickling in your legs.

--Jack
(15/m)

I really like this girl in my class and I really would like her to like me. What can I do to get her to like me?

Well- you can't MAKE someone like you. It has to happen naturally. Sure- you can do nice things for them and hope that they like you more for them- but you shouldn't thrive to make a girl like you. There are plenty of girls out there that will like you for who you are. Here is a list of things you can do to make a girl smile, that I found:

-Tell her she is beautiful (not fine, or sexy)
-Hold her hand at any moment . . . even if its just for a second.
-Kiss her on the forehead.
-Leave her voice messages to wake up to.
-When she is upset, hold her tight and tell her how much she means to you.
-Recognize the small things . . . they usually mean the most.
-Pick her over all the other girls you hang out with.
-Write her notes. (she loves them)
-Introduce her to family and friends . . . as your girlfriend.
-Play with her hair.
-Pick her up, tickle her, and play-wrestle with her.
-Sit in the park and just talk to her.
-Tell her funny jokes, tell her stupid jokes, or just tell her jokes.
-Let her fall asleep in your arms.
-If she's mad at you, kiss her.
-Give her piggyback rides.
-Bring her flowers
-Treat her the same around your friends as you do when your alone.
-Look her in the eyes and smile.
-Let her take as many pictures of you as she wants.
-Kiss her in the rain.
-If your in love with her, tell her.

If you really want to win a girl over- you need to be confident and always smiling. A shy and timid guy, while somewhat attractive to some girls, will not attract the girls you're looking for. A girl also likes to see success in a guy. She probably won't be attracted to you if you're off smoking pot or drinking alcohol. She will like if you're clean and as successful as you can be at your age.

--Jack
(15/m)

i recently striked up a conversation with my crush. how do i know when we're friends? any signs, an "at least this many months / weeks / years... " ? thanks so much!

You're friends when you've gotten to a point where you can be open and honest with them about anything and everything. You don't lie about anything.
That's just my opinion- but since you seem to want t an amount of time- I would say at least a month.

Hopefully this isn't just an internet friendship. Meet up [that is if you go to the same school or live near by] and hang out.

--Jack
(15/m)

Well, there's this girl that I REALLY like, but like I can't talk to her because I'm too nervous. I kinda broke up with my girlfriend for this girl. I think she knows I like her, because my ex-girlfriend was friends with the girl that I like. So now, I don't know if I can talk to her. Me and her hung out before at the mall, we had a blast, but I can't stand for a girl to say she doesn't like me when I like her. Advice for talking to her?

Thanks in advance.

Hey.

I am like you in that I can't stand it when a girl says she doesn't like me when I like her. It hurts every time.. but somehow I learn to deal.

Just be confident with every second. Be confident with your words, with your actions, and with your expressions. A girl likes confidence.

A girl also likes a guy who isn't shy, but not too outgoing. You're probably in between anyway- so "Just Be Yourself!" would be fitting.

I'm sure you're a great guy- so just be kind- and your conversation will flow naturally!

Sorry this answer is a bit late.. my mom stole the computer from me while I was answering and I couldn't get on until now.

--Jack
(15/m)

14/f
Hey, since school has been out, ive been keeping in touch with all my friends. One of my friends,lets call him D, has been talking to me regualry since school was out. Ive been having some problems lately and i seem to always go to him to help me out. I dont know whether he really cares for me, or he is just passing his time. I havent had a good past with boys, becuase they always end turning their back on me or just plain out stop talking to me. I dont know whether i should continue on with talking to him or just stop wasting my time. I can give you an example of what he says:

D says
-aren't you wondering why im still on?
Me says:
-why dont you tell me
D says:
-ok i will
D says:
-i can't sleep knowing that one of my friends is in pain/sick
D says:
-all night
D says:
-with nothing but the computer no siblings or family members to comfort her
D says:
-or help
D says:
-this is all i can do for you
D says:
-juts stay on and make sure your not lonely and if you feel any better or if i can help in anyway

See, i dont know whether he really meant that or not. He did indeed spend the whole night with me, comforting me, but he spends the whole night on msn anyway. He did indeed leave, but came back on 2 hours later, then said that. He is really sweet, but ijust dont know. Does he really care for me or not? He told me he does, but then again, so did many guys. Just now, i had a problem and i was dissacussing it with him, and i logged off for about 5 min and when i came back, he was gone. Maybe he indeed had to go, or maybe i just cant trust any guys. I really want to know, coming from a guy, do you think he cares for me?

Thank you soo much!

Hey.

First- thanks for posting in my inbox [even though I knew this question was coming], I really appreciate it!

Well- I think that you've obviously had some bad experiences with guys and its making you doubt whether you can trust D or not. Honestly- all guys are different and its hard to be 100% positive on how D is. I don't know him- but from what you say- I think he does care.
I think you should give him a chance- no matter how much you're doubting whether or not he does care. Giving him a chance is the only way you'll know for sure. I mean- he stayed up with you and helped you when you were sick or whatever. Sure- he always stays up- but he didn't HAVE to.

Good Luck!
--Jack
(15/m)

For the Facebook timeline thing, do you need t put how you know each of your friends before it makes Å timeline?

i mean do you need to fill out all of them?

thanx so much

Nope. You only have to have one connection with one friend to start a time line.

The time line is more interesting if you have all of your friends on it.

--Jack
(15/m)

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