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my old best friend(s)
ok so i have sort of a problem. im 15/f. i have, well had this best friend, lets call her w. ok well w and me were the closest friends you could possibly find. we were together 24/7. i loved her sooo much but at first she was kind of mean. at school she would always tell people all this bad stuff about me if we got into a fight. but we would act like everything was ok when it was just me and her. but she has always had this guy best friend and he is pretty mean to me and always makes fun of me with her. i just ignore it and act like everything is ok. then we started become really good friends with lets call her m. so me w and m became a group of friends, but then i was getting pushed aside. then they became friends and made this mean nick name about me and always talked about me, but pretended everything was all cool and they invited me places. but sometimes it just really hurts. but the other day i was pushed over the edge but im afraid to show them, because i dont have any other friends and its kind of hard to make new friends when everyone has their clicks already set and everything(im a sophomore by the way) and i want new friends, but m and w are so funny and i love being around them. but they are so different behind my back. i dont know what to do. i really need advice on how to deal with this.i've been friends with them like my whole freshman year, but i need a change because its making me feel bad and really crappy.
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ok, well lets start off with you and w
ok i had a friend just like that and we made another friend and they became best friends and dissed me and i was also a sophomore. and they were my only friends but it got to a pont where i could not take it. So here comes the advice i suggest YOu confront both of them about it and see what they have to say about it. once everything is on the table it can go from there but it turns out to argureing and yelling its w/e from there. Just slowly start leaving them and its not hard to make friends in school i bet you have some friends in class that you have partnered up before get to know them more tell them about your problems and sooner or later they will invite you to sit with them. Honey and its only highschool u still have all of college and older life to make friends. If u need anything more just let me Know.
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Well, it sounds like you have a problem similar to a personal experience of mine. I had a friend named, well, lets call her "h", and to my face she was really nice, but behind my back, well, lets just say u know the drill. so one day she was really mean to me, so i SAT WITH HER FRIEND AT LUNCH WHO SHE WAS IN A FIGHT WITH at the time, and she made this HUGE deal about it. It made me feel horible about something that was useless. But then she became a bit more of a backstabber, and i was getting sick of it. but i had to remember that we had been pretty good friends for a long time, and i didnt want to loose that. So what i did was i started hanging out with other people who liked the same things i did, or maybe even new people who i had said hi to once or twice, but never really got to know. We are still friends, jus not aas great friends. what i'm saying is lean on ur Other friends more and try to spend some time with other people. I hope that helps.
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you should not you are great just the way you are even if you fell bad and crappy
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okay well i definitely know how you're feeling right now because i am in a VERY similar situation. i know it's really hard because a part of you wants to keep them as friends, but another part of you doesn't. but honestly, i think you should just let go of them because you'll only end up getting hurt more. i didnt have a choice because they left me, but it's their loss. you don't deserve to be treated that way. and yes, i know about all the clicks and stuff too and i KNOWW how hard it is to fit in to a new one because i was close to my ex-best friends since freshman year also and then sophomore year came and everything changed. i had other friends but it just wasnt the same because they had their own group of people as well. but just keep your head up and don't let them stomp all over you. i'm telling you, IT'S NOT WORTH IT. ahh i know i keep repeating the same thingggg, but i know it's hardd. it's gonna be hard for a while if you really loved them as much as i loved my old best friends. but even though i'm still not totally over it, it's getting better everyday. just try to meet new people and talk to them. find a hobby that you like to do a lot that will help take your mind of off them. maybe, find a boyfriend? hehe, well that's your choice. but yeah. i hope this helps you. =)
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Sweetie, those are definitely not friends. You should stand up for yourself, and not let people treat you that way. Friends are people that you love being around face to face, but when you aren't around, they won't talk about you behind your back. Friends don't make you feel bad and "really crappy", friends uplift.
Making friends is always easier said than done.
In some classes, you should try branching out, joining a club or a sport that you like. That will make it easier to find people to be friends with, because you all have something in common already. You should also, try and be friendly to everyone. Smile a lot, and use body language that shows that you are open to making and meeting new people. It's not going to be an overnight process, and if it is, consider yourself not only lucky but blessed. Love yourself, so others can love you.
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Hello.
First of all- these girls aren't your friends. Friends don't talk about their friends behind their backs, they don't make fun of them, they aren't mean to them, and they don't call them names. If you think they are your friends- you're sadly mistaken. Sure, they are really nice to you when you're there- but they could care less about you when you're not.
Ditch them. They are scum. There are so many other people out there who aren't like this and will actually care about you. I'm sorry that these people have lead you on to think they are your friends.
Here is how to find new friends:
1.) Sit at a new lunch table. Just get to know everyone and maybe you'll end up having a great friendship.
2.) Ask someone you sit next to in a class for a pencil/pen [even if you already have one]. This will get a conversation started and honestly- this is how most of my friendships from last year started. It actually works.
3.) Join a club, sport or something that will show you new people. When you're given a task or something- laugh about how hard or whatever it is with someone near you. This also actually works.
Hope I helped- and I'm sorry about those bitchy [I don't use that word often] girls.
--Jack
(15/m)
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