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I am a 17 year old girl and a senior in high school. I've always been interested in guys and I don't think I'm a lesbian, but recently I started developing a sort of "crush" on a girl in one of my classes, named Maria. She's very quiet and pretty, and every time I look at her she smiles.. so I smile back. And every day we just smile at each other but I get embarrassed and look away because I really like her, and all I can think about is how badly I want to kiss her. I go to a very big school so I'm not worried about a bunch of people knowing, but within my group of friends it wouldn't be accepted. My friends are wonderful and they would still be my friend, but it's not something I want to tell people. I don't know how to tell Maria that I like her. I'm not even sure if she likes me but I get this vibe that she does. So how can I tell if she likes me in that way? And how could I let her know that I like her? (link)
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Wow, this is actually what happened to me and this girl, who is now my girlfriend of 2 years! Anyway, I think you should just start talking to Maria and get to know her more. If you notice that she kind of flirts with you, but kind of not to the point where it's too obvious (I guess it's hard to tell with girls because we tend to be more intimate with our girl friends anyway) But let's say she puts her head on your shoulder, or she says random stuff to compliment you, then maybe she likes you back. And if you're getting the vibes, then most likely your vibes aren't fooling you! You can also try flirting with her a bit, and see how she reacts to it. If you get closer to her and more comfortable with her, maybe you could start off with asking her what she thinks about gay people and what not. If she seems like a pretty open person about issues like that, then that's a good sign, of course (: If you feel REALLY comfortable after awhile, you can tell her you like her, which is what I did. My girlfriend, who was just my best friend at the time, told me she didn't feel the same way, but she kept talking to me anyway, so I felt like she was kind of in denial. To make a long story short, I got her anyway ;)
I wish you all the luck!
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does anyone think it would be cool if advicenators was an application on facebook? (link)
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facebook DOES have SOO many applications already. but still, if it does happen i would add it haha.
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okay at first my friend told me she was crying because her deep talks with her ex and send that convo to me and it was so sad and 2nd my friend boyfriend was sad and he was crying and he came to me for advice and stuff 3rd my friend and her boyfriend was joking around that they broke up and stuff i know it was a joke but then i cried because this happened all at once so i cried a lot because of this am i just too senstive or what? it all happened at once
sorry english is not my second language so its not good (link)
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aww don't worry. i don't think you're overly sensitive. it's understandable that you would act that way. but then again, i don't know if i'm saying this because of my own personal experience. one time a close friend told me she used cocaine. and then she told me it was a joke. so i started to cry because i was upset that she lied to me and it was pretty overwhelming because i was already so taken aback by her telling me she used cocaine, when she really didn't. so don't worry. i think your reaction to the situation just shows how much you care about your friends. =)
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hey, I'm eighteen and I'm like the shyiest person ever and sometimes it is hard for me to make friends and all that i do have some friends but not alot. and i'm going to be a senior and i'm scared about being senior. because i think senior's are all about fun and all. but like i'm not like that i just want to be like that. i never really actually had a best friend. i just want to have a bestfriend during my senior year but i'm just so shy so very shy to meet people and i dont know what to do. i mean i'm short and all but doesn't matter about that. how do u make really good friends with out being shy and having people hating you or just being embrassed. and i just dont know what to do. and i'm looking foward to this year when it becomes of making new friends.
plus i'm so shy about that i'm really shy about going up in front of the class when it comes to "presentation and all that'" and i'm afraid that this year i would make fun of because of it. what should i do. and how should i change that i'm too shy and hate it.
please help me!!!!!!!! (link)
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hey, well i used to be a shy person, but after i began to talk to different people i got over that shyness. now i lovee meeting new people and making new friends!
the thing that helped me make new friends is just to go up to people and say hi. or even just introduce yourself and ask them for their name. ask a simple question like, "so how was your summer?" and it could get into a longer conversation because it leads to another subject and so forth. ask people what they like to do or what their plans are for the year. find people that you have similar interests with and i'm sure you'll find a best friend. ask them for their phone numbers or screenames and talk to them when you're not at school.
i hope this helps! =)
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Me and my friend Megan are like BFF's but she critizizes me and everyone(points out random imperfections) and also say stuff like, "You are so fat! You look gross!(then a pause) Ha just kidding." She does this to everyone. And says like "no one wants you here!(then laughs) just kidding". I mean she just is really annoying. I want a friend who is actually serious about things and isn't always criti. everyone and then pretends she never said it. Sometimes what she says really hurts me, even if she says shes kidding. And people that don't know her as well as i do, well i am scared that she is lowering their confidence and making them kindda self consious.
Like an example of her doing that is this:
One day a girl that she doesn't know that well(an upper classmen in h.s) walks up to her and says "hey! whats up?" and she replied "your wieght oh my god, you got FAT over the summer!" then the upper classmen looks at herself then back up and stares at her. the megan says "Just kidding! ha ha" The next day the girl is wearing big clothes and the next day the same thing. A week later she stops eating. Now she's got anerexia. i don't know if megan caused this but it seems that way.
What do i do about her(megan) and her strange ways? (link)
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i think that you should talk to megan about this because maybe she doesnt realize that what she is doing is hurting other people. tell her that what she says hurts you even if she says she's kidding.
if she is willing to change her ways, then good. also, if she does, give her time because it takes a while for a person to change their ways if they've been doing it a lot. notice if she does it less often.
if she isnt willing to change and thinks that there is nothing wrong with what she is doing, then you should just not be friends with her and tell her why.
if she is a real friend, she would try and stop and learn from her mistakes.
hope this helps! =)
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ok so i have sort of a problem. im 15/f. i have, well had this best friend, lets call her w. ok well w and me were the closest friends you could possibly find. we were together 24/7. i loved her sooo much but at first she was kind of mean. at school she would always tell people all this bad stuff about me if we got into a fight. but we would act like everything was ok when it was just me and her. but she has always had this guy best friend and he is pretty mean to me and always makes fun of me with her. i just ignore it and act like everything is ok. then we started become really good friends with lets call her m. so me w and m became a group of friends, but then i was getting pushed aside. then they became friends and made this mean nick name about me and always talked about me, but pretended everything was all cool and they invited me places. but sometimes it just really hurts. but the other day i was pushed over the edge but im afraid to show them, because i dont have any other friends and its kind of hard to make new friends when everyone has their clicks already set and everything(im a sophomore by the way) and i want new friends, but m and w are so funny and i love being around them. but they are so different behind my back. i dont know what to do. i really need advice on how to deal with this.i've been friends with them like my whole freshman year, but i need a change because its making me feel bad and really crappy. (link)
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okay well i definitely know how you're feeling right now because i am in a VERY similar situation. i know it's really hard because a part of you wants to keep them as friends, but another part of you doesn't. but honestly, i think you should just let go of them because you'll only end up getting hurt more. i didnt have a choice because they left me, but it's their loss. you don't deserve to be treated that way. and yes, i know about all the clicks and stuff too and i KNOWW how hard it is to fit in to a new one because i was close to my ex-best friends since freshman year also and then sophomore year came and everything changed. i had other friends but it just wasnt the same because they had their own group of people as well. but just keep your head up and don't let them stomp all over you. i'm telling you, IT'S NOT WORTH IT. ahh i know i keep repeating the same thingggg, but i know it's hardd. it's gonna be hard for a while if you really loved them as much as i loved my old best friends. but even though i'm still not totally over it, it's getting better everyday. just try to meet new people and talk to them. find a hobby that you like to do a lot that will help take your mind of off them. maybe, find a boyfriend? hehe, well that's your choice. but yeah. i hope this helps you. =)
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