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Is this normal???
Me and my friend Megan are like BFF's but she critizizes me and everyone(points out random imperfections) and also say stuff like, "You are so fat! You look gross!(then a pause) Ha just kidding." She does this to everyone. And says like "no one wants you here!(then laughs) just kidding". I mean she just is really annoying. I want a friend who is actually serious about things and isn't always criti. everyone and then pretends she never said it. Sometimes what she says really hurts me, even if she says shes kidding. And people that don't know her as well as i do, well i am scared that she is lowering their confidence and making them kindda self consious.
Like an example of her doing that is this:
One day a girl that she doesn't know that well(an upper classmen in h.s) walks up to her and says "hey! whats up?" and she replied "your wieght oh my god, you got FAT over the summer!" then the upper classmen looks at herself then back up and stares at her. the megan says "Just kidding! ha ha" The next day the girl is wearing big clothes and the next day the same thing. A week later she stops eating. Now she's got anerexia. i don't know if megan caused this but it seems that way.
What do i do about her(megan) and her strange ways?
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i think that you should talk to megan about this because maybe she doesnt realize that what she is doing is hurting other people. tell her that what she says hurts you even if she says she's kidding.
if she is willing to change her ways, then good. also, if she does, give her time because it takes a while for a person to change their ways if they've been doing it a lot. notice if she does it less often.
if she isnt willing to change and thinks that there is nothing wrong with what she is doing, then you should just not be friends with her and tell her why.
if she is a real friend, she would try and stop and learn from her mistakes.
hope this helps! =)
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if she talk to you like that i means that shes either has been picked on by someone who has called her fat or shes not really a great friend after all
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what the other person said was true. Just stop being her friend. If she loses all of her friends, she will relize that something is wrong.
You can try to do the same thing back to her (but don't get out of control and end up like her) just do it enough times to show her how it feels.
so just be like "omg your fat, jk ha ha" to her enough times for her to feel bad. Then if she comes and talks to you about it, then tell her that is what she is doing to everyone else, and she should stop.
if all fails, just ignore her and tell everyone to do the same. The best thing you can do is be a friend and tell people that they are beautiful and not fat. They will look at her like dirt, and you as a leader and a good friend.
be there for the people who have gotten hurt, and you be the better person.
-volleyball2150
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Personally I would just stop hanging out with her. Some people feel the need to put people down to make themselves feel better. I don't understand it but maybe if she loses all her friends she will realize that she isn't acting like a nice person. You could also try sitting her down and talking to her about it if you think she will listen.
=] Good Luck!
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